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Cheryl
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Location: Portland, OR USA
Member Since: 25th Nov 2001
Total posts: 29
Posted:I was talking about this with a friend the other night, so thought I would use it as my very first start of a thread on HOP! Here's the topic:

If you could only ask three questions to a potential significant other to determine if she/he is "the one" for you, what would those questions be?

Mine are:
1. Do you like to dance?
2. Do you like to read?
3. Would you be willing to go to Burning Man?

I haven't met anyone lately who I would want to ask these questions to, but now I have them ready!

-Cheryl


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Rozi
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Location: Sydney, NSW, Australia
Member Since: 11th Jan 2002
Total posts: 2996
Posted:My questions would be:

1. What is the funniest joke you know? (So I can be prepared for the joke I am going to be sick of in 3 weeks time)
2. What is the quality you value most in yourself?
3. What is the one thing I shouldn't ask you?


It was a day for screaming at inanimate objects.

What this calls for is a special mix of psychology and extreme violence...

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Malcolm
Malcolm

HOP admin
Location: HOP
Member Since: 18th Nov 2003
Total posts: 996
Posted:I am married now but years a ago I would have asked..

1. Tell me everything about you
2. Do you like pussy cats
3. Do you like Star Trek

Normally question number 1 sorts them out quite quickly. Open ended questions are best. Questions with a yes /no answer are for those that could not answer question number 1.
But that's me


"May your balls always burn"

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Pele'sWhippingBoy
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Location: Rochester, NY, USA
Member Since: 19th Jun 2001
Total posts: 442
Posted:Do you spin fire?
Do you belly dance?
Are those real?


FYI: I am not Pele. If you wish to reply to me and use a short version of my name, use: PWB.

English? Who needs that? I'm never going to England. - Homer Jay Simpson

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BEZERKER
BEZERKER

enthusiast

Member Since: 29th Apr 2001
Total posts: 237
Posted:Do you wash and iron?
Can you open beers and mix drinks?
Do you like sports?



Just jokes.....

Can I touch those?
Do you want to watch me play PS2?
How does pizza sound?



Hmmmm, I'm not doing much better there....

On a serious note, I'd ask:
Do you prefer live music or seeing bands?

What are your thoughts on children and how to raise them (or do you even WANT to have them)?

Are you independant (ie able to survive without constant attention/time together - still being able to spend time apart pursuing personal interest/goals)?



[ 05. March 2003, 22:18: Message edited by: BEZERKER ]


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tadpole
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Location: Harare, Zimbabwe
Member Since: 19th Nov 2002
Total posts: 200
Posted:1) Whats in your fridge at this very moment?

2) How long has it been there?

3) Why can I only ask three qustions?


Don't worry, be happy...

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twirlywhirlyfiregirlie (nancy)
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Location: Matlock,derbyshire uk
Member Since: 28th Nov 2002
Total posts: 78
Posted:lmao at bezerker
my questions would be.....
1) what question would u hate me to ask you?
2) in what ways can u tell someone you love them without actually saying it? (if he says flowers and chocolates i know i'll be doin a runner)
3) can u do a 8 beat weave over your head with two waist wraps and maybe a cheeky fire breathe in between (of course he couldnt but i would love him to death if he offered to try)


Who are you? Who slips into my robot body and whispers to my ghost?

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Pink...?
Pink...?

Mistress of Pink...Multicoloured
Location: Over There
Member Since: 6th Apr 2002
Total posts: 6140
Posted:Um my three questions would be:

1) Do you like the colour pink? (i couldn't go out with someone who didn't!)

2) What are your hobbies/passions in life?

3) Are you rich? (JOKE) no i'd ask.. Do you like reading? (I am a bookworm, always have my head stuck in a book at home)

Alice


Never pick up a duck in a dungeon...

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simian
simian

110% MONKEY EVERY TIME ALL THE TIME JUST CANT STOP THE MONKEY
Location: London
Member Since: 11th Oct 2002
Total posts: 3149
Posted:1. Do you like Emperor Tamarind Monkeys?

2. Do you like Mandrills?

3. Do you like Spidermonkeys?

Maybe they'd be a bit too intimate for a first meeting though


"Switching between different kinds of chuu chuu sometimes gives this "urgh wtf?" effect because it's giving people the phi phenomenon."

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Woo!
Woo!

HCH No 2
Location: Chester, Cheshire.
Member Since: 18th Sep 2002
Total posts: 216
Posted:1) Do you hold a grudge?
2) Do you like food?
3) Does my random questioning annoy you?

This way I can tell if they are easy going, enjoy what I do (FOOOD.. I couldn't ever have a "Small salad and mineral water" type of girl) and if me being silly annoys them or if they find it strangely endeering (sp?)

[ 06. March 2003, 02:15: Message edited by: The Scientist ]


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Pele
Pele

the henna lady
Location: WNY, USA
Member Since: 15th Dec 2000
Total posts: 6193
Posted:PWB..Yes, Yes and welllll...sure.

I think I asked you the weekend we met, PWB...
Why me?
You really want my number? How about my email instead.
And What the hell do you think you are doing?!?!!?


Berzerker, you crack me up!

Ummmm....

1) What are you passionate about?

2) What is your greatest accomplishment as it applies to your goals in life?

3) In relation to other people, what is the greatest lesson you have learned in life thusfar?

Although the urge to ask "What do you look like in the morning?" was a really close runner up!


1 tells me that they have something else to focus on and a conviction to bring to a togetherness. It also lets me know if their interests are compatible with mine.

2 tells me if they are focussed and driven, or a layabout.

3 tells me about how they relate to others and whether or not they are optimistic or pessimistic overall.

Sneaky, aye?

[ 06. March 2003, 04:24: Message edited by: Pele ]


Pele
Higher, higher burning fire...making music like a choir
"Oooh look! A pub!" -exclaimed after recovering from a stupid fall
"And for the decadence of art, nothing beats a roaring fire." -TMK

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simian
simian

110% MONKEY EVERY TIME ALL THE TIME JUST CANT STOP THE MONKEY
Location: London
Member Since: 11th Oct 2002
Total posts: 3149
Posted:And whats wrong with being an unfocused, pessimistic layabout?

"Switching between different kinds of chuu chuu sometimes gives this "urgh wtf?" effect because it's giving people the phi phenomenon."

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PK_
PK_

Lambretta Fanatic

Member Since: 20th Dec 2001
Total posts: 4991
Posted:if this situation ever had to arise again which it won't [looks at nancy ] i'd ask.

1: do i really have to go through all this again? cant we just start off where the others left.
2: do you like performance?
3: i hope you like a man with big ear lobes and other strange things in places . winks at nancy

sorry too much detail.


PK.

"To be an angel, one need not have wings.
In giving love there is an equal grace.
Nor need one seek the aura in the face,
As love unveils the beauty of all things."

*Francois Couperin.

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Dom
Dom

Carpal \'Tunnel
Location: Bristol, UK
Member Since: 19th Dec 2001
Total posts: 3009
Posted:I only need one:
1) F**k me if I'm wrong, but isn't your name Ariadne?

Seriously, this is a tough one, but interesting. I'll think about it.


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Pele
Pele

the henna lady
Location: WNY, USA
Member Since: 15th Dec 2000
Total posts: 6193
Posted:Well Dom, really with that one, how do you lose?
If the answer is yes, you will be in the presence of a goddess.
If the answer is no then you get f*@ked!
You can't lose!



Pele
Higher, higher burning fire...making music like a choir
"Oooh look! A pub!" -exclaimed after recovering from a stupid fall
"And for the decadence of art, nothing beats a roaring fire." -TMK

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FirePoi-boy
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Location: Bantry, Ireland
Member Since: 22nd Sep 2001
Total posts: 71
Posted:mine would be
1 Do you like me?
2 Mind if I put my hand here?
3 can i borrow a fiver? i will pay you back.


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musashii
musashii

starring Skippy the green llama
Location: Seattle, WA
Member Since: 14th Dec 2002
Total posts: 1148
Posted:Hmm, will have to answer this seriously, since it's been on my mind as of late


1. Do you mind world travel, not being stuck in one location, and maybe not settling down until we're just too old to move around?

2. What is your greatest passion/ambition in life?

3. Can you support the person you're with no matter what?


First intention, then enlightenment..
Ars Pyronomica

" Life is programmed. Whether death is programmed or not is yet to be determined."

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Phuhzzzie Wuhzzzie the Pumpkin King
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Location: Melbourne, the new Land of Nod
Member Since: 10th Jan 2002
Total posts: 141
Posted:1. Are you really the founder of the Kwick-E-Mart?
2. Really?
3. Really?


A wise man once said to me, Hey! You! Get out of my wardrobe! and in a way, I guess he was right.

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Phuhzzzie Wuhzzzie the Pumpkin King
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Location: Melbourne, the new Land of Nod
Member Since: 10th Jan 2002
Total posts: 141
Posted:But on a slighty more serious note:

1. What do kind of music do you like?
2. What do you see as your strongest feature?
3.
a. Where are my pants?
b. Could you do my a favour and not file a restraining order against me?
c. Would you like fries with that?


A wise man once said to me, Hey! You! Get out of my wardrobe! and in a way, I guess he was right.

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Dom
Dom

Carpal \'Tunnel
Location: Bristol, UK
Member Since: 19th Dec 2001
Total posts: 3009
Posted:Ok, had a little more of a think about this one and thought of 3 potential questions:

1) What does your soul feel?
2) What gives you joy?
3) What's your attitude to ice cream?

Surprised nobody asked about ice cream before, as I see ice cream as a very important part of a relationship.

However I think the answers alone wouldn't be enough. I fall for how people 'are' and the energy they give off. It has to be just right, and that's rare. Personal differences can be worked around, but the energies have to complement each other.


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NYC
NYC

NYC
Location: NYC, NY, USA
Member Since: 26th Aug 2001
Total posts: 9232
Posted:Well, my "3 minute dating" has been postponed til next month but I think in 3 minutes I'll only get about three questions in so this is a very real predicament!

1) What do you do for fun?
(This one's the most important. Anyone that has "Watches TV" or "go to the gym" loses a point. Anyone that smiles while answering or shows a love for fun in general gains one.)

2) What do you do for a living?
(I hate to say it but I find that important. HOW they answer is far more important than the answer itself. I've got a job that I love that requires a large amount of my energy, which certainly impacts my social calendar!)

3) How far away from me do you live?
(Kidding... sort of... No more long distance relationships for me! [Famous last words] If I can't get a hug on at least a weekly basis, you're out! )

3) [Real answer] Do you want kids?
(Deal breaker for me! I'm nowhere near wanting kids right now. I love children. I work in a school and adore all of my students. And then I go home. I'm not sure if I'll ever want kids. As one starts to get older, it becomes a bigger issue to prospective dates...)


Well, shall we go?
Yes, let's go.
[They do not move.]

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NYC
NYC

NYC
Location: NYC, NY, USA
Member Since: 26th Aug 2001
Total posts: 9232
Posted:On the drive home I was thinking about this one.

I think the three questions you'd pick would actually say quite a bit about yourself. If you were asked those three questions, your answers would be pretty expessive of who YOU were.


Well, shall we go?
Yes, let's go.
[They do not move.]

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Cheryl
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Location: Portland, OR USA
Member Since: 25th Nov 2001
Total posts: 29
Posted:NYC-

I hadn't thought about using this idea in a 3 minute dating situation. Hopefully this got you thinking so that you will be prepared next month!

I just thought of a 4th question for myself... What makes you laugh?

Sense of humor is super important to me. Hmmm but now I will have to erase one of my other questions!

-Cheryl


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jenster
jenster

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Location: where butterflies fly
Member Since: 3rd Oct 2002
Total posts: 57
Posted:do you have any weed?

do you have any rizla?

can i skin up?


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jenster
jenster

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Location: where butterflies fly
Member Since: 3rd Oct 2002
Total posts: 57
Posted:do you have any weed?

do you have any rizla?

can i skin up?


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Dio
Dio

HoP Mechanical Engineer
Location: OK, USA
Member Since: 11th Jul 2002
Total posts: 729
Posted:1.) Are you happy with yourself? (nobody can be hapy with you unless you are first)

2.) Can you put the smack down when you need to? (i need to be kept in line at times, and none of this "keep it inside for a month and then turn into a vengeful fang-beast on me)

3.) Do you respect my fire arts?


What hits the fan is not evenly distributed.

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Shibaki
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Location: Tampa, Fl
Member Since: 28th Mar 2001
Total posts: 309
Posted:here are my three:

1) In what ways do you act on the most important values in your life? It is fine to intellectualize about beautiful and important values, but how do you integrate this into your life.

2) What do you need in your life to be in a balanced state of happiness?

3) What qualities will you bring to the relationship, both positive and negative (subjective yes), and do you believe that you can live the dream of your relationship?


if i had but three q's... my my my of course they would have to be intense questions!!!

'the one' yayai! but i do not believe the answer to any 3 questions will show for sure, but it can definitely show similar core values, and as NYC said, how the question is answered shows just as much as the answer itself.


Wow

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NYC
NYC

NYC
Location: NYC, NY, USA
Member Since: 26th Aug 2001
Total posts: 9232
Posted:I agree with Dio's "Happy with yourself" comment. It took me a while to realize how important it is for someone to be happy with themselves first. I don't want to ever be the only good thing in someone's life.

Well, shall we go?
Yes, let's go.
[They do not move.]

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