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Puk
SILVER Member since Aug 2002

Puk

Sweet talented nutter
Location: Brisbane Oz

Total posts: 2615
Posted:I got one of my RAh Rah RAh talks at work today and i was told why do you have to think your special ?.

I thought we're all special in our own way ? [/color:blue]

How can i handel people whan they make negative statments at me that make myself feel drained .


that shrewd and knavish sprite

Called Robin Good Fellow ; are you not he that is frighten of the maidens of the villagery - fairy

I am the merry wander of the night -puk

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Gnor
BRONZE Member since Mar 2003

Gnor

Carpal \'Tunnel
Location: Perth

Total posts: 5814
Posted:My head hurts even thinking about ppl like that and the negativity involved.
Part of my job description as a parent is to make my kids feel special.
One of the things I really like about HoP and most of my friends is the positivty we generate towards each other and the way that flows around. I had a very specail spin with friends recently that was so beautiful because of how positive we all were.

I will add ..Puk today you made me feel good with a simple PM....so for me you are special.


Is it the Truth?
Is it Fair to all concerned?
Will it build Goodwill and Better Friendships?
Will it be Beneficial to all concerned?

Im in a lonely battle with the world with a fish to match the chip on my shoulder. Gnu in Binnu in a cnu

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Astar


member
Location: Nova Scotia, Canada.

Total posts: 1591
Posted:You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake you are the same decaying organic matter as everything else. We are all part of the same compost heap, we are the all seeing all dancing crap of the world.


Sorry couldn't resist.


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Valura
SILVER Member since Apr 2002

Valura

Mumma Hen
Location: Brisbane, Australia

Total posts: 6391
Posted:Quote:
You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake you are the same decaying organic matter as everything else. We are all part of the same compost heap, we are the all seeing all dancing crap of the world.



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I dont think thats very caring after puk is obviously upset about what happened today. Compassion goes a long way. umm



Puko, you make me smile. You are spontaneious, daring, humourous, smiley and one of my very best buddies.
I care for you and I hate to see you hurt. ubbcrying
Im sending you healing and I want to remind you of something,
you are a sensitive. It is hard to allow other peoples negitive energy to roll off your back, but important to remember that you need to protect your self energetically and not allow them to dampen your spirit. You have far too much to offer others in a positive frame of mind...
smile sweetheart. hug


TAJ "boat mummy." VALURA "yes sweetie you went on a boat, was daddy there with you?" TAJ "no, but monkey on boat" VALURA "well then sweetie, Daddy WAS there with you"

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audax
BRONZE Member since Sep 2001

audax

freelance bum
Location: Upstairs

Total posts: 286
Posted:Families F*** you up. Q. How do you make racist bigot? A: Raise someone with racist parents. Religion crap. Class crap. Manners. Values. Ethics. All formed by parents who had the same ill treatment, that is untill you're about 10-13 yo when your parents are forgotten and your peers take over f***ing you up.

The most horrible mental abuse story I've ever heard is of a young couple who where telling their 4 year old son that he had ruined their life. Now that he was here they couldn't have fun and they never had money any more and he was the cause of it all. If that kid survives, it'll be a bloody miracle and he's likely to be a mess.
Negativity begins in the home. It's stunts emotional and mental growth and creates dysfunctional members of the community.


UYI wink OLDSKOOL

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DeepSoulSheep
GOLD Member since Sep 2002

DeepSoulSheep

Carpal \'Tunnel
Location: Berlin

Total posts: 2617
Posted:Quote:
How can i handel people whan they make negative statments at me that make myself feel drained





I think negativity just bounces off us sometimes when we're able for it. Sometimes it takes alot out of us if we're not able for it. At least you know we're all special and well my advice is use this *hands puk negativity resistant invisible shield*

This is for when your not able for it. hug



I live in a world of infinite possibilities.

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Astar


member
Location: Nova Scotia, Canada.

Total posts: 1591
Posted:BTW I didn't mean any harm with my fight club quote.

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Azrelle


Azrelle

member
Location: Glasgow, Scotland

Total posts: 34
Posted:stark fact of modern life - nobody cares what you are/feel if you work for them.

My personal approach to people who like to put others down is the good ole pretend i have cotton buds in my ears and hum a little tune to myself.

What YOU think of yourself is what matters, feck everyone else


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bubblishis


False Eyelash
Location: New York City

Total posts: 346
Posted:Quote:

*hands puk negativity resistant invisible shield*
This is for when your not able for it. hug





That's the nicest thing ever.



All the freaky people make the beauty of the world.

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ben-ja-men
GOLD Member since Jun 2003

ben-ja-men

just lost .... evil init
Location: Adelaide

Total posts: 2474
Posted:dude u must have forgot to turn on ur small minded person translator today, see if you had had it on instead of hearing

why do you have to think your special ?.

you would have heard
i feel unhappy about myself and my life, u dont appear to feel the same way and now i feel inadequate, rather than trying to improve myself and my circumstances so i can feel better about myself instead ill drag u down to my level
otherwise known as the tall poppie syndrome
*note* the translation usually has a few more words in there but with the pg 13 rating n all that they had to be omitted

i guess u have a few options
1 - put ur filter on translator on
2 - next time u see ur boss grab his or her hand and place it on ur ass then sue for sexual harrassment
3 - reply with i dont have to think im special i am special if u keep giving me negative vibes karma will sort u out ......... hes 7ft and 2 axels wide


Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourself, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous and talented? Who are you NOT to be?

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Mistress Aurora


Mistress Aurora

Hot Schtuff
Location: Stillwater,OK/Wichita Falls,TX

Total posts: 1032
Posted:Puk I care for you hug

I have been in your shoes before. I have had friends stab me in the back and lie about it. I know what you are saying.

I will admit that I am a dweller. Yes I am and I need to not dwell so much on what others say or do to me.

What I usually do is just ignore them and realize that if they said something like that to me, I would just say they were jealous of your personality and your compassion for life.

Thank you for the PM also. At least I know somebody read my entry and cares ubbcrying ubblove hug

Holds out a staff and a set of poi
Which shall you choose as your weapon? umm hug



RISK: Do not follow the common path; Go where there is no path and leave a trail.

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Raymund Phule (Fireproof)


Raymund Phule (Fireproof)

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Location: San Diego California

Total posts: 2905
Posted:Well... Puk I am sure you really don't want my info, but hear me out...

When someone asks a really friggin dumb question like that, instead of letting it effect you answer their question.

Okay, pretend you're at work at McDonalds and the same question gets asked by a manager.

"Because I am here 15 minutes early and stay past my time to get off, I never chuck sickies and I perform my job above and beyond the required level."

Say something like that and they will shut up and never ask you again. Turn a negative situation into a positive one.

Van Wilder: "Don't take life too seriously, you'll never get out alive."


Some Jarhead last night: "this dumb a$$ thinks hes fireproof"

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bender
GOLD Member since Nov 2001

still can't believe it's not butter
Location: Melbourne, Australia

Total posts: 6979
Posted:you may sometimes feel that to the world you aren't someone special,
but ima sure that to someone you are the world.
tongueeace:


Laugh Often, Smile Much, Post lolcats Always

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Puk
SILVER Member since Aug 2002

Puk

Sweet talented nutter
Location: Brisbane Oz

Total posts: 2615
Posted:Thanks guys.

I just find events in my life really draining Work ,

Been a third wheel everywhere i go .

Putting up with people with closed minds .

Beening missunderstood .

If it wasn't for some of my firey friends at the moment i go nut's

Astar you couldn't help with your twisted sense of humor .

Bender you rock im dying to come down to melbourne .

Mistress A ubblove hugyour such a sweetie im sure people will notice you soon

Gnorc : i've got a fake gold rock for you

Benjamin thanks

Ray thanks as well I love Van wilder he rock and the Quote is cool

Audex umm

Valura ubbangelTalk to you guys later

Bubbleishes and Deep soul sheep Thanks for the sheild .

Oh i know maybe i could Buzz like a bee (cause he told me we're all Drone's)





that shrewd and knavish sprite

Called Robin Good Fellow ; are you not he that is frighten of the maidens of the villagery - fairy

I am the merry wander of the night -puk

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Valura
SILVER Member since Apr 2002

Valura

Mumma Hen
Location: Brisbane, Australia

Total posts: 6391
Posted:Quote:
At least I know somebody read my entry and cares


I care sweetie... hug


TAJ "boat mummy." VALURA "yes sweetie you went on a boat, was daddy there with you?" TAJ "no, but monkey on boat" VALURA "well then sweetie, Daddy WAS there with you"

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audax
BRONZE Member since Sep 2001

audax

freelance bum
Location: Upstairs

Total posts: 286
Posted:I'm sorry Im a very cynical old bastard sometimes. I'm 29 next week and have had about 30 something jobs and about 40 addresses, I've seen some stuff, hey! I answered a story about negativiy with another confused

Here's a better thought: Radical Forgiveness Therapy.
On pondering forgiveness, a uni professor realised that when most people forgive someone, they meerly brush over or hold back their negative emotion toward a percieved wrong-doing. they don't genuinely let go of the negativity they have been given. When somebody does a bad deed, they are invariably a person with a problem passing it on as their own (bad) way of dealing with their own issues. These people need sympathy and help to get over their problems, but they are constantly pushing away help as a reaction to being told they have a problem and because that's how they deal. When you realise this it's far easier to see the real issue which is not yourself, but something within the other. Holding a grudge, even if it doesn't manifest itself, is a great burden that holds you down and prevents any progress towards feeling better. Realising that the wrong-doer is merely reacting to their own problem helps you changing your outlook and feeling towards them. That way, real forgiveness becomes a great gift to yourself.

the exercise he gave his students to illustrate this was to get them to write the name of someone they had not forgiven on a potato and carry them in plastic bag for the week until next lecture. In that time the students had to explain why they were out with a bag of potatos and hide from those people who's names were on them. Some even stayed indoors for the whole time. When the week was up, the spuds were are stinky and nasty, and not all students even managed to complete the exercise. The professor pointed out that it would only get worse as time went on, but could eventually become adjusted to out of habit. Like a grudge. Nasty smelly slimy obtrusive embarressing annoying constant grudge.
Please people, throw away those potatos! wave


UYI wink OLDSKOOL

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GottaLoveIt


GottaLoveIt

Sponge
Location: Stevenage

Total posts: 883
Posted:Everybody's special, I was thinking today about posting another thread saying something like "Everyone on home of poi is spongey" Not spongey in a sponge cake with treacle sticky kind of way (Yummo I'm hungry now) but spongey as in lovely even though sponge scares some people
Feel better soon!


Monkeys monkeys and bananas

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Charles
BRONZE Member since Jun 2001

Charles

Corporate Circus Arts Entertainer
Location: Auckland

Total posts: 3989
Posted:The easiest way to be certain you are special is not to dwell on those who ask you negative questions but just go out and make another person feel special, for no apparent reason.

It's the same way i cheer myself up if I'm down, I try to do something nice for someone who isn't expecting it, and then catch their smile afterwards.

It's easier than you think... smile


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* Is it Fair to all concerned?
* Will it build Goodwill and Better Friendships?
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sunbeam
SILVER Member since Nov 2001

sunbeam

old hand
Location: Madrid

Total posts: 1032
Posted:to quote a signature i saw once and liked (from a different board) - "Just remember, you're unique, just like everyone else, innit".

(I would give credit to whoever's sig it was but I don't remember)

hug


"I don't take drugs. I am drugs" - Salvador Dali

sunny

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Gnor
BRONZE Member since Mar 2003

Gnor

Carpal \'Tunnel
Location: Perth

Total posts: 5814
Posted:Thats great Charles and it really works. For everyone.

Is it the Truth?
Is it Fair to all concerned?
Will it build Goodwill and Better Friendships?
Will it be Beneficial to all concerned?

Im in a lonely battle with the world with a fish to match the chip on my shoulder. Gnu in Binnu in a cnu

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bubblishis


False Eyelash
Location: New York City

Total posts: 346
Posted:Yeah that's great advice. It does work too.


All the freaky people make the beauty of the world.

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bender
GOLD Member since Nov 2001

still can't believe it's not butter
Location: Melbourne, Australia

Total posts: 6979
Posted:u da man charles
'You only get as much as you give'


Laugh Often, Smile Much, Post lolcats Always

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Puk
SILVER Member since Aug 2002

Puk

Sweet talented nutter
Location: Brisbane Oz

Total posts: 2615
Posted:Your right charles thanks for reminding me .

that shrewd and knavish sprite

Called Robin Good Fellow ; are you not he that is frighten of the maidens of the villagery - fairy

I am the merry wander of the night -puk

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i8beefy2
GOLD Member since Mar 2003

i8beefy2

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Location: Ohio, USA

Total posts: 674
Posted:Do you know any slow or special people? Yay, yay! biggrin

What exactly is supposed to be special? A special PERSON? Uniqueness is a wonderfull thing... it gives you the ability to say "I am the infinitly perfect (insert name here)" Always cheers me up telling myself that I am the Ultimate Mike Hallock as no one else can be. I like Charles' idea too though... have to try that one next time I'm feeling low. Making others feel good is always a great exercise regardless of your reasons...

Although my Ethics teacher gave this example for that view... You can give food to charity, and that is good, yes? Well not if your doing it for the sole purpose of extending a suffering persons misery for another day because you dislike the underprivledged... Ha, sorry I just had to share that... he comes up with the weirdest examples.

See, this is why I really don't like economics... cold and heartless numbers are. As for your boss, I would have asked him right back "What makes you think I'm not?" How presumptuous and pompous. I hope he finds something to give his life meaning one day so he doesn't have to go around dragging others down to that dispicable place... mad

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Charles
BRONZE Member since Jun 2001

Charles

Corporate Circus Arts Entertainer
Location: Auckland

Total posts: 3989
Posted:Quote:
You can give food to charity, and that is good, yes? Well not if your doing it for the sole purpose of extending a suffering persons misery for another day because you dislike the underprivledged



It's not whether you intended tp good or not that matters...its whether it is percieved by the recipient to be beneficial or not.

If the reciever knew why you were giving them the food, but were grateful anyway, then you have done a good thing, regardless...


In my opinion, anyway.


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