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Posted:
erm... hello
ok I have a 'friend' ahem.. who is having a bit of an issue at work... there is a person there that started to work there at the beginning of the year - they get on really well, and have been trying for weeks not to do anything about it.. but the pair of them just lost control last week after a chance meeting in the stock room.. nothing serious has happened - but that barrier has been broken.. now both them want more..
BUT as one of them is a senior manager and the other still new to the company it really isn't a good idea.. but it's making it worse becuase it's naughty and all the more exciting becuase no one can find out about it... neither of them condisder the other as long term relationship material.. but there is a connnection there..
I know that work things are never a good idea...
any advise for my 'friend'??
(apart from a cold shower - coz they already tried that!!)
erm... hello
ok I have a 'friend' ahem.. who is having a bit of an issue at work... there is a person there that started to work there at the beginning of the year - they get on really well, and have been trying for weeks not to do anything about it.. but the pair of them just lost control last week after a chance meeting in the stock room.. nothing serious has happened - but that barrier has been broken.. now both them want more..
BUT as one of them is a senior manager and the other still new to the company it really isn't a good idea.. but it's making it worse becuase it's naughty and all the more exciting becuase no one can find out about it... neither of them condisder the other as long term relationship material.. but there is a connnection there..
I know that work things are never a good idea...
any advise for my 'friend'??
(apart from a cold shower - coz they already tried that!!)I honour you as an aspect of myself..
You are never to old to storm a bouncey castle..
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Posted:
As long as they aren't hurting anyone, I don't see what the problem is?
As long as they aren't hurting anyone, I don't see what the problem is?
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Posted:
YOU found out about it didn't you...?
Written by: MisStix
but it's making it worse becuase it's naughty and all the more exciting becuase no one can find out about it...
YOU found out about it didn't you...?
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Pooh-Bah
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Posted:
There is another person indirectly involved, who might get hurt..
that is what makes it worse..
EDITED_BY: MisStix (1175518161)
There is another person indirectly involved, who might get hurt..
that is what makes it worse..
EDITED_BY: MisStix (1175518161)
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You are never to old to storm a bouncey castle..
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Posted:
ok - the anti stuff,
you know its not right, you should really but a cork on it, and stop it early, there is implications for the structure of the company, and while its not serious to you, it may be to other senior members of staff.
It may be seen that he is giving your favour over others, and this would harbour feelings of hostility in others, and could harm your standing in teh company, so that you are not fully accepted, or gain a "persona" in the company, if people found out that you had slept with one of the bosses, it may be assumed that you are sleeping your way up the ladder (i know thats harsh to say, but i dont think its true)
It also looks bad on a cv or reference for being fired for sexual conduct.
i think it would be sensible for you to know that its a one off, and that you should not take it any further, men have an inability to keep their mouth shut about such things, and it will come out eventually, even if its not by the two of you, but rumors can be created as a joke and then create real ones.
I would be hugely carefully fo sleeping with a higher member of staff. i have never know it end well.
on the other side -
well done to yoru friend
as long as you are clear about what the pair of you want, and that you know what it is, check the work regs about relationships in the office, and make sure you are not breaking company rules, then you can say you have checked, and are ok to carry on.
i aint trying to brow bash you or anything, its a situation i have yet to be in, and hopefully i wont for some time, but its something i have been through with other guys from uni, one of which was fired from her gap year for this reason.
just be careful, and i dont mean just wearing wellies
laterdays
ok - the anti stuff,
you know its not right, you should really but a cork on it, and stop it early, there is implications for the structure of the company, and while its not serious to you, it may be to other senior members of staff.
It may be seen that he is giving your favour over others, and this would harbour feelings of hostility in others, and could harm your standing in teh company, so that you are not fully accepted, or gain a "persona" in the company, if people found out that you had slept with one of the bosses, it may be assumed that you are sleeping your way up the ladder (i know thats harsh to say, but i dont think its true)
It also looks bad on a cv or reference for being fired for sexual conduct.
i think it would be sensible for you to know that its a one off, and that you should not take it any further, men have an inability to keep their mouth shut about such things, and it will come out eventually, even if its not by the two of you, but rumors can be created as a joke and then create real ones.
I would be hugely carefully fo sleeping with a higher member of staff. i have never know it end well.
on the other side -
well done to yoru friend
as long as you are clear about what the pair of you want, and that you know what it is, check the work regs about relationships in the office, and make sure you are not breaking company rules, then you can say you have checked, and are ok to carry on.
i aint trying to brow bash you or anything, its a situation i have yet to be in, and hopefully i wont for some time, but its something i have been through with other guys from uni, one of which was fired from her gap year for this reason.
just be careful, and i dont mean just wearing wellies
laterdays
Step (el-nombrie)
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Posted:
you assume incorrectly that she's not the boss.. - you sexist piiiiiiiiggg you..
said female boss actually wrote the regs and there is nothing in the books about it.. lol
you assume incorrectly that she's not the boss..
- you sexist piiiiiiiiggg you.. said female boss actually wrote the regs and there is nothing in the books about it.. lol
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Posted:
IM A MAN! OF COURSE I AM!
in that case its fine
Written by: MisStix
you assume incorrectly that she's not the boss..
IM A MAN! OF COURSE I AM!
in that case its fine
Step (el-nombrie)
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Posted:
oh well then.. I'll tell my freind that Step says it's ok! lol
oh well then.. I'll tell my freind that Step says it's ok! lol
I honour you as an aspect of myself..
You are never to old to storm a bouncey castle..
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Posted:
yes of course,
its fine
if any one in the company says anything, just send them to me, ill sort it all out for you.....i mean her
yes of course,
its fine
if any one in the company says anything, just send them to me, ill sort it all out for you.....i mean her
Step (el-nombrie)
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Posted:
Right, well without reading everyone else's posts:
I'm fine with work relationships. As my parents say, you "work" when you're married because you communicate and negotiate etc.
HOWEVER!
If someone is in a position of authority then i'm against it. No, this is not "taking advantage blah blah" this is that the lower person gets special privelages.
I've worked with the girlfriend of a manager before. Lovely girl. But damn she pissed me off with how lazy she would be. Million and one things needed to be done? Other staff resembling headless chickens? Where's she? Having a smoke.
Trust me, it kills morale. Especially if the lower person is new.
Right, well without reading everyone else's posts:
I'm fine with work relationships. As my parents say, you "work" when you're married because you communicate and negotiate etc.
HOWEVER!
If someone is in a position of authority then i'm against it. No, this is not "taking advantage blah blah" this is that the lower person gets special privelages.
I've worked with the girlfriend of a manager before. Lovely girl. But damn she pissed me off with how lazy she would be. Million and one things needed to be done? Other staff resembling headless chickens? Where's she? Having a smoke.
Trust me, it kills morale. Especially if the lower person is new.
i would have changed ***** to phallus, and claire to petey Petey
Rougie: but that's what I'm doing here
Arnwyn: what letting me adjust myself in your room?..don't you dare quote that on HoP...
Pooh-Bah
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Posted:
unfortunatly the other person will not be getting an easy ride.. (oo-er!) the boss rules with a fist of iron and treats everyone the same..
unfortunatly the other person will not be getting an easy ride.. (oo-er!) the boss rules with a fist of iron and treats everyone the same..
I honour you as an aspect of myself..
You are never to old to storm a bouncey castle..
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Posted:
Written by: MisStix
easy ride.. fist of iron
Written by: MisStix
fist of iron[/Quote]Written by: MisStix
and treats everyone the same.. [/Quote]
thats a wicked office to work in, do they all have intimate runin's wit the boss
sorry....Step (el-nombrie)
Pooh-Bah
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Posted:
only the sexy ones ;p
only the sexy ones ;p
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You are never to old to storm a bouncey castle..
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Posted:
tee heee. at mech and stix.
And tee hee at Mech for desperately trying to maintain his image as a sexist pig, when actually he's quite nice
I can only suggest:
Don't do it on the photocopier - you might break the glass.
Other than that, I'd suggest don't take advice form me, I don't know anything.
tee heee. at mech and stix.
And tee hee at Mech for desperately trying to maintain his image as a sexist pig, when actually he's quite nice
I can only suggest:
Don't do it on the photocopier - you might break the glass.
Other than that, I'd suggest don't take advice form me, I don't know anything.
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Posted:
Written by: Glåss
Don't do it on the photocopier - you might break the glass.[/Quote]
i would love teh chance to break you drewWritten by: Glåss
And tee hee at Mech for desperately trying to maintain his image as a sexist pig, when actually he's quite nice
drew ill hurt you, ill hurt you good if you keep it up son, ill hurt you like having pegs on your nipples, and not the good kind of pegs, the bad BADDDDD KIND!Step (el-nombrie)
Pooh-Bah
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Posted:
we don't have a photocopier.. but we do have a rabbit hutch in the store room which contains lots of bits that my freind needs to give the engineer - she holds the key.. hmmm a stock take might be in order..
Spanner - different jobs in different departments, not very much critisism or praise needed, just a lot of 'please can you configure this server for me?'
we don't have a photocopier.. but we do have a rabbit hutch in the store room which contains lots of bits that my freind needs to give the engineer - she holds the key.. hmmm a stock take might be in order..
Spanner - different jobs in different departments, not very much critisism or praise needed, just a lot of 'please can you configure this server for me?'
I honour you as an aspect of myself..
You are never to old to storm a bouncey castle..
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Posted:
as a techie, is it wrong that i can see a sexual induendo in that?
Written by: MisStix
'please can you configure this server for me?'
as a techie, is it wrong that i can see a sexual induendo in that?
Step (el-nombrie)
Pooh-Bah
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Posted:
no not at all.. lol
wait till I start on confuguration of tunnels and upstreams ..
(fellow geek)
PS hello Mr DrewGlass 
not seen you in years! How the devil are you??
EDITED_BY: MisStix (1175522773)
no not at all.. lol
wait till I start on confuguration of tunnels and upstreams ..
(fellow geek)
PS
hello Mr DrewGlass not seen you in years! How the devil are you??EDITED_BY: MisStix (1175522773)
I honour you as an aspect of myself..
You are never to old to storm a bouncey castle..
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Posted:
from taht comment i think that you either work for an ISP, or for a hosting compnay, am i close?
EDITED_BY: mech (1175588570)
Written by: MisStix
wait till I start on confuguration of tunnels and upstreams ..
(fellow geek)
from taht comment i think that you either work for an ISP, or for a hosting compnay, am i close?
EDITED_BY: mech (1175588570)
Step (el-nombrie)
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Posted:
So basically you are looking for approval?
I'd reckon you, errm your friend made the decision already... now she is trying to justify and incorporate it into her world of morals...
No bashing, nothing, but is that suffering (created by hurting that other person) really necessary? Is that mobbing - that will follow as certain as there will be a tomorrow - really your fancy?
If your friend and her boss (find me kind of confused who is playing which part - sexes set aside) decide it's a good way to release stress and enjoy the kicks of a pathetic "forbidden... (*scrolls up*) lust" (at least the correct term used) - just be it then.
But trying to outsmart your, errm her own mind ain't gonna work. In the end one will feel guilty, one will feel hurt and another might even have regrets...
just go for it! 
sounds like perfect fun to me honest!
So basically you are looking for approval?
I'd reckon you, errm your friend made the decision already... now she
is trying to justify and incorporate it into her world of morals...No bashing, nothing, but is that suffering (created by hurting that other person) really necessary? Is that mobbing - that will follow as certain as there will be a tomorrow - really your fancy?
If your friend and her boss (find me kind of confused who is playing which part - sexes set aside) decide it's a good way to release stress and enjoy the kicks of a pathetic "forbidden... (*scrolls up*) lust" (at least the correct term used) - just be it then.
But trying to outsmart your, errm her own mind ain't gonna work. In the end one will feel guilty, one will feel hurt and another might even have regrets...
just go for it!
sounds like perfect fun to me honest! the best smiles are the ones you lead to 
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Posted:
Probably the relationship is not a problem...
Probably its location (ie storeroom) is (or would be to any senior management - unless your friend owns the company)
But i understand that adds to the enjoyment in this case.
Think you might need to meet outside of work and discuss boundaries... even if it does take away some of the spontaneity
Good luck, enjoy, be careful
xox
Probably the relationship is not a problem...
Probably its location (ie storeroom) is (or would be to any senior management - unless your friend owns the company)
But i understand that adds to the enjoyment in this case.
Think you might need to meet outside of work and discuss boundaries... even if it does take away some of the spontaneity
Good luck, enjoy, be careful
xox
... simplify ...
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Posted:
ohhh... and keep us up to date. If it turns out he is actually your long lost brother it will be better then Days of Our Lives
ohhh... and keep us up to date. If it turns out he is actually your long lost brother it will be better then Days of Our Lives
... simplify ...
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Posted:
Icarus... not sure whether "he" is actually a "she"
but I'm kind-a uncertain about this myself... but updates, like "Forbidden Lust - the storeroom" or "Forbidden Lust - the front desk after 9pm"...
remember... PG.
To get stuff like this you have to click Here! WARNING... highly disturbing content, click only if you're 25 +
Icarus... not sure whether "he" is actually a "she"
but I'm kind-a uncertain about this myself... but updates, like "Forbidden Lust - the storeroom" or "Forbidden Lust - the front desk after 9pm"...
remember... PG.To get stuff like this you have to click Here! WARNING... highly disturbing content, click only if you're 25 +
the best smiles are the ones you lead to
Pooh-Bah
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Posted:
Ok - let me sort this out for you.. lol
I'm senior management - he's a very sexy IT help desk engineer.. and we are having a good time - he makes me laugh a lot and we're just gonna see how it goes.. been spending far too much time in the pub after work this week, laughing till our sides hurt - friday pub club has so far turned in to monday and Wednesday pub club
I think we are going to turn into great mates once the lusty stuff has been worked out .. yey
Ok - let me sort this out for you.. lol
I'm senior management - he's a very sexy IT help desk engineer.. and we are having a good time - he makes me laugh a lot and we're just gonna see how it goes.. been spending far too much time in the pub after work this week, laughing till our sides hurt - friday pub club has so far turned in to monday and Wednesday pub club
I think we are going to turn into great mates once the lusty stuff has been worked out .. yey
I honour you as an aspect of myself..
You are never to old to storm a bouncey castle..
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Posted:
I KNEW IT!
*stands on soap box*
"HARLET!"
its all good if you like him, and there is no complications over work, ie sexual conduct codes, and you are not going to be able to directly give him favours, then you have nothing to worry about, as long as you are not seen to be abusing yoru position, it should be ok.
now the more interesting thought is why is my senior management how a hottie like yourself
(and i really hope none of my 6 bosses ever read this, as one of them is a woman :S)
I KNEW IT!
*stands on soap box*
"HARLET!"
its all good if you like him, and there is no complications over work, ie sexual conduct codes, and you are not going to be able to directly give him favours, then you have nothing to worry about, as long as you are not seen to be abusing yoru position, it should be ok.
now the more interesting thought is why is my senior management how a hottie like yourself
(and i really hope none of my 6 bosses ever read this, as one of them is a woman :S)
Step (el-nombrie)
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Posted:
mech... trying, but I don't get the meaning of your "more interesting thought"
Maybe it's because english is my second, but this one gives me chuckles
mech... trying, but I don't get the meaning of your "more interesting thought"
Written by: mech
now the more interesting thought is why is my senior management how a hottie like yourself
Maybe it's because english is my second, but this one gives me chuckles
the best smiles are the ones you lead to
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Posted:
English is Mech's third Language.
His first and second are 'Knob' and 'What-are-you-on-about-Step' respectively.
English is Mech's third Language.
His first and second are 'Knob' and 'What-are-you-on-about-Step' respectively.
Empty your mind. Be formless, Shapeless, like Water.
Put Water into a cup, it becomes the cup, put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, put water into a teapot, it becomes the teapot.
Water can flow, or it can Crash.
Be Water My Friend.
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Posted:
thats supposed...
"now the more interesting thought is why is my senior management NOT a hottie like yourself "
thats supposed...
"now the more interesting thought is why is my senior management NOT a hottie like yourself "
Step (el-nombrie)
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Posted:
makes sense now
maybe it's because you're working for the wrong corp.?
makes sense now maybe it's because you're working for the wrong corp.?
the best smiles are the ones you lead to
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