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Pooh-Bah
1,762 posts
Location: York University, United Kingdom
Pooh-Bah
1,762 posts
Location: York University, United Kingdom
Posted:
So this thought just randomly popped into my head...
How do people think they come across on HoP? I *really* don't want to talk about what you think of other people, just yourself.
Personally, I think I come across as more blunt than I usually am, and often seem to rant. I think I may possibly seem un-empathic or overly sarcastic as well. I'm worried that if I ever meet people from HoP in person, then they'll have a somewhat inaccurate picture of me in their head. (I'm really quite nice and understanding!
)
Does anyone have thoughts on why people behave differently online to how they behave elsewhere?
Anyone want to comment on how they think they are perceived?
So this thought just randomly popped into my head...
How do people think they come across on HoP? I *really* don't want to talk about what you think of other people, just yourself.
Personally, I think I come across as more blunt than I usually am, and often seem to rant. I think I may possibly seem un-empathic or overly sarcastic as well. I'm worried that if I ever meet people from HoP in person, then they'll have a somewhat inaccurate picture of me in their head. (I'm really quite nice and understanding!
)Does anyone have thoughts on why people behave differently online to how they behave elsewhere?
Anyone want to comment on how they think they are perceived?
After much consideration, I find that the view is worth the asphyxiation.
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Carpal \'Tunnel
7,193 posts
Location: in the trees
7,193 posts
Location: in the trees
Posted:
er.........i think people online find me crazy, random, bizarre and a little bit odd. it dosen't really bother me what people think of me because it's their choice.
in the real world i'm kind, caring, understanding and very shy.
take me as you find me, if i offend anyone that is the last thing on my mind and i apologise in advance
er.........i think people online find me crazy, random, bizarre and a little bit odd. it dosen't really bother me what people think of me because it's their choice.
in the real world i'm kind, caring, understanding and very shy.
take me as you find me, if i offend anyone that is the last thing on my mind and i apologise in advance
Stalking amidst the desert, carrying an oversized scalpel...
1,019 posts
Location: Huddersfield + Hull Uni... UK.
1,019 posts
Location: Huddersfield + Hull Uni... UK.
Posted:
I think that people think that I'm an idiot.
Meet me, and you'd agree. ;p
I think that people think that I'm an idiot.
Meet me, and you'd agree. ;p
Willy - is bad for your health...
Internet Hate Machine
10,530 posts
Location: They seek him here, they seek him there...
10,530 posts
Location: They seek him here, they seek him there...
Posted:
The existance of flamethrowers says that someone, somewhere, at sometime said "I need to set that thing on fire, but it's too far away."
Scientist of Fortune
1,189 posts
Location: Edinburgh
1,189 posts
Location: Edinburgh
Posted:
Excellent thread Sethis!
I think my old posting style was excessively confrontational and people were beginning to percieve me as being needlessly insulting. At the time my code of honour was to only insult someone's beliefs, not the person themselves, and only when they were plainly and demonstatably wrong. What I was trying to convey as passion I think more often than not was interprated as arrogance or vicousness, likewise some of my more pointed 'wit'.
My hope is that my new method of presentation will see me and my positions better understood and seem less like an insult and more of a disagreement. Personally I care about the people on HOP even though I've never met most of you and I'd be quite hurt if folks believed that I was being malicious.
All that aside, I think I'm coming across as a cantackerous, emotionless fusspot at times.
In real life I've just recieved a text from my girlfriend that there is a moonbow in the sky at the moment. They are about as rare as they are beautiful so I think I'll go watch it for a while.
Excellent thread Sethis!
I think my old posting style was excessively confrontational and people were beginning to percieve me as being needlessly insulting. At the time my code of honour was to only insult someone's beliefs, not the person themselves, and only when they were plainly and demonstatably wrong. What I was trying to convey as passion I think more often than not was interprated as arrogance or vicousness, likewise some of my more pointed 'wit'.
My hope is that my new method of presentation will see me and my positions better understood and seem less like an insult and more of a disagreement. Personally I care about the people on HOP even though I've never met most of you and I'd be quite hurt if folks believed that I was being malicious.
All that aside, I think I'm coming across as a cantackerous, emotionless fusspot at times.
In real life I've just recieved a text from my girlfriend that there is a moonbow in the sky at the moment. They are about as rare as they are beautiful so I think I'll go watch it for a while. According to Heisenberg's Uncertainty Principle of Quantum Dynamics, we may already be making love right now...
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Pooh-Bah
1,762 posts
Location: York University, United Kingdom
Pooh-Bah
1,762 posts
Location: York University, United Kingdom
Posted:
I remember the old jeff (barely) and I'm glad to see the new style... it's much preferred (at least by me).
FRD: I've MET you, and you're still bloody ace. So there.
ravehead: I think you're pretty nice, and I can watch your avatar for hours... it freaking ROCKS!!
Jeff raises a good point. Has anyone thought that their behaviour was in need of changing, and made a conscious effort to do so?
I remember the old jeff (barely) and I'm glad to see the new style... it's much preferred (at least by me).
FRD: I've MET you, and you're still bloody ace. So there.
ravehead: I think you're pretty nice, and I can watch your avatar for hours... it freaking ROCKS!!
Jeff raises a good point. Has anyone thought that their behaviour was in need of changing, and made a conscious effort to do so?
After much consideration, I find that the view is worth the asphyxiation.
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Dreamer
4,308 posts
Location: York, England
4,308 posts
Location: York, England
Posted:
sethis, i think you come across as more confused here than in real life :P
myself, i come accross as more able to talk... caus ei don't have to, my fingers can talk for me. in real life i cannot utter sentences like "can i have a hug" and "can i have help" and "i'm feelingg insecure..."
sethis, i think you come across as more confused here than in real life :P
myself, i come accross as more able to talk... caus ei don't have to, my fingers can talk for me. in real life i cannot utter sentences like "can i have a hug" and "can i have help" and "i'm feelingg insecure..."
Keep your dream alive
Dreamin is still how the strong survive
Shalom VeAhavah
New Hampshire has a point....
GOLD Member
still can't believe it's not butter
6,978 posts
Location: Melbourne, Australia
still can't believe it's not butter
6,978 posts
Location: Melbourne, Australia
Posted:
I feel that i come across as a bored housewife that enjoys the odd game of backgammon and quiet nights constructing fission reactors out of coathangers and dental floss.
I feel that i come across as a bored housewife that enjoys the odd game of backgammon and quiet nights constructing fission reactors out of coathangers and dental floss.
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Liquid Cow
2,629 posts
Location: High Wycombe, England
Liquid Cow
2,629 posts
Location: High Wycombe, England
Posted:
Having met bender on more than a few occasions, I hereby testify that this is exactly right for real life too 
Written by: bender
I feel that i come across as a bored housewife that enjoys the odd game of backgammon and quiet nights constructing fission reactors out of coathangers and dental floss.
Having met bender on more than a few occasions, I hereby testify that this is exactly right for real life too
But there's no sense crying over every mistake. You just keep on trying till you run out of cake.
SILVER Member
comfortably numb
2,676 posts
Location: The countryside, Australia
comfortably numb
2,676 posts
Location: The countryside, Australia
Posted:
I'm really not sure how I come across here. I do feel as though I can reach out to people easier and show more appreciation towards people.
In real life, I can be on the shyer side of life and a little insecure sometimes. But generally I'm a reasonably confident, friendly, happy and open person
I'm really not sure how I come across here. I do feel as though I can reach out to people easier and show more appreciation towards people.
In real life, I can be on the shyer side of life and a little insecure sometimes. But generally I'm a reasonably confident, friendly, happy and open person
.All things are beautiful if we take the time to look.
BRONZE Member
old hand
1,107 posts
Location: In a test pit, Mackay, Australia
old hand
1,107 posts
Location: In a test pit, Mackay, Australia
Posted:
I can come across as an argumentative know-all, so I tend to restrict myself a little bit in the amount of posts I drop and not nit-pick as much as I really want to. I don't like to offend but at the same time love a good argument with people who know what they're talking about.
I was having a think about how I perceive other people. Whether it's fair or not, I generally don't take people seriously if they don't make an effort to spell and punctuate properly.
It's that nit-pick thing. dammit!
I can come across as an argumentative know-all, so I tend to restrict myself a little bit in the amount of posts I drop and not nit-pick as much as I really want to. I don't like to offend but at the same time love a good argument with people who know what they're talking about.
I was having a think about how I perceive other people. Whether it's fair or not, I generally don't take people seriously if they don't make an effort to spell and punctuate properly.
It's that nit-pick thing. dammit!
There is a slight possibility that I am not actually right all of the time.
BRONZE Member
Insert Champagne Here
13,215 posts
Location: without class distinction, Australia
Insert Champagne Here
13,215 posts
Location: without class distinction, Australia
Posted:
Well, I guess I come across nicely enough on here for people to let me stay with them!
I think I come across as quite immature and possibly even vain. Which, guess what - I AM!
But also maybe a tad nutty, which before my year away might have been a facade, but now I think it's more true than ever!
Well, I guess I come across nicely enough on here for people to let me stay with them!
I think I come across as quite immature and possibly even vain. Which, guess what - I AM!
But also maybe a tad nutty, which before my year away might have been a facade, but now I think it's more true than ever!
i would have changed ***** to phallus, and claire to petey Petey
Rougie: but that's what I'm doing here
Arnwyn: what letting me adjust myself in your room?..don't you dare quote that on HoP...
SILVER Member
water based
5,125 posts
Location: melbourne, Australia
water based
5,125 posts
Location: melbourne, Australia
Posted:
*thinks back to some of the things bender said at CG*
*giggles*
i have no idea how i come accross.
Written by: TheBovrilMonkeyWritten by: bender
I feel that i come across as a bored housewife that enjoys the odd game of backgammon and quiet nights constructing fission reactors out of coathangers and dental floss.
Having met bender on more than a few occasions, I hereby testify that this is exactly right for real life too
*thinks back to some of the things bender said at CG*
*giggles*
i have no idea how i come accross.
"you know there are no trophys for doing silly things in real life yeah pete?" said ant "you wont get a 'listened to ride of the valkyries all the way to vietnam' trophy"
*proud owner of the very cute fire_spinning_angel, birgit and neon shaolin*
GOLD Member
Basu gasu bakuhatsu - because sometimes buses explode
1,584 posts
Location: Angels Landing, USA
Basu gasu bakuhatsu - because sometimes buses explode
1,584 posts
Location: Angels Landing, USA
Posted:
<- dork
Bender, we must meet. You have been forewarned.
<- dork
Bender, we must meet. You have been forewarned.
To do: More Firedrums 08 video?
Wildfire/US East coast fire footage
LA/EDC glow/fire footage
Fresno fire
GOLD Member
still can't believe it's not butter
6,978 posts
Location: Melbourne, Australia
still can't believe it's not butter
6,978 posts
Location: Melbourne, Australia
Posted:
but not this thursday, that's washing day.
on a non-laundry note, it is worthwhile to note that this thread underpins reailty that each of us is a multiplicity of selves.
ironic that each individual is made up by so many, eh?
recognising how the tide of mood affects each of our personae better prepares us to to be in control.
It is helpful to separately identify each face we have, like how we separate the whites clothing and the dark clothing at the laundromat.
mmm washing powder...
but not this thursday, that's washing day.
on a non-laundry note, it is worthwhile to note that this thread underpins reailty that each of us is a multiplicity of selves.
ironic that each individual is made up by so many, eh?
recognising how the tide of mood affects each of our personae better prepares us to to be in control.
It is helpful to separately identify each face we have, like how we separate the whites clothing and the dark clothing at the laundromat.
mmm washing powder...
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SILVER Member
....of doom!
585 posts
Location: Hastings, UK
....of doom!
585 posts
Location: Hastings, UK
Posted:
i ramble..which i do in real life, only then it makes more sense and people laugh. plus i talk about myself a lot.
i (hope i) don't come across as conceited as i can do in real life. the joke element of it doesn't translate well to the internet.
also a total nerd who has nothing else to do with her life..
(true)
i ramble..which i do in real life, only then it makes more sense and people laugh. plus i talk about myself a lot.
i (hope i) don't come across as conceited as i can do in real life. the joke element of it doesn't translate well to the internet.
also a total nerd who has nothing else to do with her life..
(true)
BRONZE Member
had her carpal tunnel surgery already thanks v much
4,145 posts
Location: Edinburgh, Scotland (UK)
had her carpal tunnel surgery already thanks v much
4,145 posts
Location: Edinburgh, Scotland (UK)
Posted:
I like Bender. I don't know Bender, but Bender comes across as someone I'd get along with. Maybe that's because Bender is associated with Futurama in my head.
I think I come across as someone who always wants to be right and who's not all that easy to get along with, though there just might be a nice person lurking somewhere among the surface. I wouldn't get along with myself if I met me, but if that's because two of me would have to clash, or because that's a normal reaction to me I can't say.
I like Bender. I don't know Bender, but Bender comes across as someone I'd get along with. Maybe that's because Bender is associated with Futurama in my head.
I think I come across as someone who always wants to be right and who's not all that easy to get along with, though there just might be a nice person lurking somewhere among the surface. I wouldn't get along with myself if I met me, but if that's because two of me would have to clash, or because that's a normal reaction to me I can't say.
"vices are like genitals - most are ugly to behold, and yet we find that our own are dear to us."
(G.W. Dahlquist)
Owner of Dragosani's left half
SILVER Member
15,417 posts
Location: South Wales
15,417 posts
Location: South Wales
Posted:
I was never sure of how I was perceived by people who dont know me in real life. Iwas so unsure that what I was typing was being read in the way I intended, and as well as making sure that everyone didnt think I was just a tosser who should P*ss off, I created [Old link] thread. Unfortunatly (or maybe not unfortunatly ) , no one seemed to slag me off and tell me what I did that people found annoying.
The way I see it, if you dont point out someone's bad points, then the person doesnt know about them, so if they dont know about them, they cant do anything to sort them out.
I find it impossible to believe I dont annoy, irritate, or p*ss people off on here. I already know of one, and if they dont do an intro soon, it wont stop ( (just for you..) ). I was such an annoying little 
as a child, due entirely to my ADHD. 
The problem with internet is that you cant tell what tone of voice people are using. This is why smilies are good. Not being able to hear their voice can lead people to incorrectly reading the tone, and thus getting unneccesarily angry due to a mis understanding.
hmm.. I seem to have digressed from my original point somewhat.
Edit: After having now re-read that thread I did, and having now remembered some of the PMs I got, Im furious that some people thought I wrote it soley for an ego boost. You F***ers.
I wrote that at a time shortly after I was almost banned from here. I wanted to find out if people on HOP would have been over happier without me, or whether people actually enjoyed my posts. I wanted to know how to make HOP a better place for the majority, even if it meant having to withdraw from one of the greatest websites I have ever found, which has totally changed my life for the better.
Im annoyed that people who I thought were my friends, and who, if they told me about what I did that annoyed them, I would have listened to, didnt post. It was a thread for people who have never met me, but who react to my posts.
I need people to tell me when I over step a line. I cannot work that out for myself (to some extent) if I dont know the person, and often what I (and those I know) would laugh at, others I havent met would not laugh at.
Sorry.. im rambling now. Im needing a tea.
EDITED_BY: UnbeatenChampionOfFighting (1132139722)
I was never sure of how I was perceived by people who dont know me in real life. Iwas so unsure that what I was typing was being read in the way I intended, and as well as making sure that everyone didnt think I was just a tosser who should P*ss off, I created [Old link] thread. Unfortunatly (or maybe not unfortunatly
) , no one seemed to slag me off and tell me what I did that people found annoying.The way I see it, if you dont point out someone's bad points, then the person doesnt know about them, so if they dont know about them, they cant do anything to sort them out.
I find it impossible to believe I dont annoy, irritate, or p*ss people off on here. I already know of one, and if they dont do an intro soon, it wont stop (
(just for you..) ). I was such an annoying little as a child, due entirely to my ADHD. The problem with internet is that you cant tell what tone of voice people are using. This is why smilies are good. Not being able to hear their voice can lead people to incorrectly reading the tone, and thus getting unneccesarily angry due to a mis understanding.
hmm.. I seem to have digressed from my original point somewhat.
Edit: After having now re-read that thread I did, and having now remembered some of the PMs I got, Im furious that some people thought I wrote it soley for an ego boost. You F***ers.
I wrote that at a time shortly after I was almost banned from here. I wanted to find out if people on HOP would have been over happier without me, or whether people actually enjoyed my posts. I wanted to know how to make HOP a better place for the majority, even if it meant having to withdraw from one of the greatest websites I have ever found, which has totally changed my life for the better.
Im annoyed that people who I thought were my friends, and who, if they told me about what I did that annoyed them, I would have listened to, didnt post. It was a thread for people who have never met me, but who react to my posts.
I need people to tell me when I over step a line. I cannot work that out for myself (to some extent) if I dont know the person, and often what I (and those I know) would laugh at, others I havent met would not laugh at.
Sorry.. im rambling now. Im needing a tea.
EDITED_BY: UnbeatenChampionOfFighting (1132139722)
GOLD Member
still can't believe it's not butter
6,978 posts
Location: Melbourne, Australia
still can't believe it's not butter
6,978 posts
Location: Melbourne, Australia
Posted:
forums are an awesome sandbox environment where ya can socialise without the constriction of physicality, your appearance - what time zone you live in or even whether it is not your laundry day won't skew how you would otherwise behave and interact with others.
It is a blessed bonus that how we are perceived in the virtual world often propogates into friendships and experiences in the physical.
I believe e-communities are a wonderful direction forward for our evolution as social animals. Now it won't just be migratory African-European swallows that will socialise across continents.
Ni!
forums are an awesome sandbox environment where ya can socialise without the constriction of physicality, your appearance - what time zone you live in or even whether it is not your laundry day won't skew how you would otherwise behave and interact with others.
It is a blessed bonus that how we are perceived in the virtual world often propogates into friendships and experiences in the physical.
I believe e-communities are a wonderful direction forward for our evolution as social animals. Now it won't just be migratory African-European swallows that will socialise across continents.
Ni!
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BRONZE Member
Pooh-Bah
1,762 posts
Location: York University, United Kingdom
Pooh-Bah
1,762 posts
Location: York University, United Kingdom
Posted:
UCOF: Because I've never had an extended conversation with you, either on HoP or at Fal4 (the only other place I had a chance to talk to you) then I can only comment that you've got a great sense of humour. That's just from running into your posts on various threads. No idea whether you're that funny in real life.
And what pete just said reminded me of a joke...
What do you do if you come across a tiger in the jungle?
Wipe it off and say sorry...
UCOF: Because I've never had an extended conversation with you, either on HoP or at Fal4 (the only other place I had a chance to talk to you) then I can only comment that you've got a great sense of humour. That's just from running into your posts on various threads. No idea whether you're that funny in real life.
And what pete just said reminded me of a joke...
What do you do if you come across a tiger in the jungle?
Wipe it off and say sorry...
After much consideration, I find that the view is worth the asphyxiation.
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I may disagree with what you have to say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.
SILVER Member
comfortably numb
2,676 posts
Location: The countryside, Australia
comfortably numb
2,676 posts
Location: The countryside, Australia
Posted:
That is the worst joke ever!
*runs away crying*
That is the worst joke ever!
*runs away crying*
.All things are beautiful if we take the time to look.
SILVER Member
coming to a country near you
4,696 posts
Location: home of the tiney toothy bear, Australia
coming to a country near you
4,696 posts
Location: home of the tiney toothy bear, Australia
Posted:
i think everyone percieves me differently to how they would percieve me if the met me on the street without reading what i say on here
i think everyone percieves me differently to how they would percieve me if the met me on the street without reading what i say on here
"but have you considered there is more to life than your eyelids?"
jointly owned by Fire_Spinning_Angel and Blu_Valley
SILVER Member
water based
5,125 posts
Location: melbourne, Australia
water based
5,125 posts
Location: melbourne, Australia
Posted:
bender: african swallows are non-migratory, thus, how can they socialize accross continents
cheers, pete
bender: african swallows are non-migratory, thus, how can they socialize accross continents
cheers, pete
"you know there are no trophys for doing silly things in real life yeah pete?" said ant "you wont get a 'listened to ride of the valkyries all the way to vietnam' trophy"
*proud owner of the very cute fire_spinning_angel, birgit and neon shaolin*
SILVER Member
Carpal \'Tunnel
4,172 posts
Location: Hastings, United Kingdom
Carpal \'Tunnel
4,172 posts
Location: Hastings, United Kingdom
Posted:
I'm just annoying
I'm just annoying
SILVER Member
Geek
1,261 posts
Location: Manchester, UK
Geek
1,261 posts
Location: Manchester, UK
Posted:
I imagine that I probably come across as being a bit cocky and arrogant.
I dont think that I am really.
Its extremely hard to have complicated conversations purely in text though. Especially when you have such a varied group wishing to air their (quite often wildly diferent) views.
I'm sure we would all come across diferently in person and, once you have met someone, the way that you view their posts will be entirely different.
I imagine that I probably come across as being a bit cocky and arrogant.
I dont think that I am really.
Its extremely hard to have complicated conversations purely in text though. Especially when you have such a varied group wishing to air their (quite often wildly diferent) views.
I'm sure we would all come across diferently in person and, once you have met someone, the way that you view their posts will be entirely different.
SILVER Member
I make my own people.
607 posts
Location: Nashville, Tennessee, USA
I make my own people.
607 posts
Location: Nashville, Tennessee, USA
Posted:
Confrontational, with too much time on my hands.
Confrontational, with too much time on my hands.
MIA
147 posts
Location: Cardiff
147 posts
Location: Cardiff
Posted:
I feel like the newcomer, thats bcause I am the newcomer. not really sure what people are gonna make of me!
I feel like the newcomer, thats bcause I am the newcomer. not really sure what people are gonna make of me!
All that is solid melts into air
BRONZE Member
Pooh-Bah
1,762 posts
Location: York University, United Kingdom
Pooh-Bah
1,762 posts
Location: York University, United Kingdom
Posted:
xorba... you're 3000 odd members before me, and *I* don't feel like a newbie any more... even if I am one...
If in doubt, put forward stupidly controversial opinions on the discussions thread... works for me...
(By the way, unless I say "IMO" or some variation thereof, it is *not* my opinion, just another point of view)
xorba... you're 3000 odd members before me, and *I* don't feel like a newbie any more... even if I am one...
If in doubt, put forward stupidly controversial opinions on the discussions thread... works for me...
(By the way, unless I say "IMO" or some variation thereof, it is *not* my opinion, just another point of view)
After much consideration, I find that the view is worth the asphyxiation.
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I may disagree with what you have to say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.
MIA
147 posts
Location: Cardiff
147 posts
Location: Cardiff
Posted:
yeah, I've been hangin around HoP for a while but never really got involved. never had time before uni!
yeah, I've been hangin around HoP for a while but never really got involved. never had time before uni!
All that is solid melts into air
Woman! Not gay Man!
332 posts
Location: Hull...ish
332 posts
Location: Hull...ish
Posted:
does anyone even notice that Im here?
does anyone even notice that Im here?
I AM NOT A GAY MAN!
GOLD Member
still can't believe it's not butter
6,978 posts
Location: Melbourne, Australia
still can't believe it's not butter
6,978 posts
Location: Melbourne, Australia
Posted:
Hey everyone, come make some noise at the Intro thread for [Old link]!
i like yoo.
Hey everyone, come make some noise at the Intro thread for [Old link]!
i like yoo.
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