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Im just wondering who here has been homeless or had homeless family members. I am currently homeless and make money busking. I use the computer at a youth drop in center. Found this website and wondered if anyone else was like me.
Im just wondering who here has been homeless or had homeless family members. I am currently homeless and make money busking. I use the computer at a youth drop in center. Found this website and wondered if anyone else was like me.
Pooh-Bah
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Location: la-la land
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Location: la-la land
Posted:
I used to be hun.. although my homelessness was a choice I made.. I had a loving family at home, but I didn't want to live with them for various reasons.. so I bought (read traded as I had no money) myself a little camper van and lived in the bottom of a farmers field in Oxford for a bit. I busked and did a little 'running' (which is always a BAD idea).. it lasted about a year and then winter kicked in really badly and I couldn't cope- got really sick.. I had to swallow my pride and go home.. I was lucky tho.. I hope you have the same luck...
If you are *really really* homeless, please find a shelter and some support.. no matter how bad stuff may be at home, there is always help - remember - YOU ARE NOT ALONE
which country you in hun?
I used to be hun.. although my homelessness was a choice I made.. I had a loving family at home, but I didn't want to live with them for various reasons.. so I bought (read traded as I had no money) myself a little camper van and lived in the bottom of a farmers field in Oxford for a bit. I busked and did a little 'running' (which is always a BAD idea).. it lasted about a year and then winter kicked in really badly and I couldn't cope- got really sick.. I had to swallow my pride and go home.. I was lucky tho.. I hope you have the same luck...
If you are *really really* homeless, please find a shelter and some support.. no matter how bad stuff may be at home, there is always help - remember - YOU ARE NOT ALONE
which country you in hun?
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Location: Edinburgh, Scotland (UK)
had her carpal tunnel surgery already thanks v much
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Location: Edinburgh, Scotland (UK)
Posted:
Hi Hefalump,
I can only tell you my experience from having had a homeless family member: not knowing where they are and what they get up to or if they're hungry, or freezing, or sick, or get raped or whatever was one of the worst things I've experienced! But since you ask for opinions even from my point of view: *If* you have any friends or family that care about you, just let them know you're well from time to time, if you don't want to go back home... and, if you choose not to or if you can't, like Stix says, find some support please.
Hi Hefalump,
I can only tell you my experience from having had a homeless family member: not knowing where they are and what they get up to or if they're hungry, or freezing, or sick, or get raped or whatever was one of the worst things I've experienced! But since you ask for opinions even from my point of view: *If* you have any friends or family that care about you, just let them know you're well from time to time, if you don't want to go back home... and, if you choose not to or if you can't, like Stix says, find some support please.
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Posted:
I did the whole urban-nomad thing for a while sleeping where I could but luckily I had some really supportive mates that let me crash ofn sofa and the likes,
I hope that you can find the suport you will need and that get aroof of your own soon.
I did the whole urban-nomad thing for a while sleeping where I could but luckily I had some really supportive mates that let me crash ofn sofa and the likes,
I hope that you can find the suport you will need and that get aroof of your own soon.
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Momma Bear
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Location: Telford, Shrops, United Kingdom
Momma Bear
4,525 posts
Location: Telford, Shrops, United Kingdom
Posted:
Spanner, I've been watching it, and it's so upsetting.
What angers me most is that some of the families who were made homeless, were made homeless by their local councils not paying their housing benefit on time.
And then, when they are homeless, the councils are saying "well you made yourselves homeless, get on with it."
ARGH!
Spanner, I've been watching it, and it's so upsetting.
What angers me most is that some of the families who were made homeless, were made homeless by their local councils not paying their housing benefit on time.
And then, when they are homeless, the councils are saying "well you made yourselves homeless, get on with it."
ARGH!
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the henna lady
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Location: WNY, USA
the henna lady
6,193 posts
Location: WNY, USA
Posted:
It's one of the hardest things for a family to come back from. I find the situation is so different when it is a choice vs. circumstances that just remove home from you.
I went from having a home, to not, to swallowing pride and living with friends of friends (strangers) to living with another friend trying to take care of my son, keep my head up, trying not to get discouraged and make money to get on my feet.
All the while child protective was watching me, accusing me, investigating me.
It was hard to find a job.
It was hard to not let depression swallow me whole.
And all of the county/state offices that are supposed to help refused me on various grounds and were no help at all.
Most of the area shelters were out because I was not a battered woman looking for help getting away.
However, I also know that if I can swallow my tremendous amount of pride (and not choke on it) and pull us out of that hole, anyone can.
It's one of the hardest things for a family to come back from. I find the situation is so different when it is a choice vs. circumstances that just remove home from you.
I went from having a home, to not, to swallowing pride and living with friends of friends (strangers) to living with another friend trying to take care of my son, keep my head up, trying not to get discouraged and make money to get on my feet.
All the while child protective was watching me, accusing me, investigating me.
It was hard to find a job.
It was hard to not let depression swallow me whole.
And all of the county/state offices that are supposed to help refused me on various grounds and were no help at all.
Most of the area shelters were out because I was not a battered woman looking for help getting away.
However, I also know that if I can swallow my tremendous amount of pride (and not choke on it) and pull us out of that hole, anyone can.
Pele
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Momma Bear
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Location: Telford, Shrops, United Kingdom
Momma Bear
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Location: Telford, Shrops, United Kingdom
Posted:
It all comes down to money though, not pride.
It all comes down to money though, not pride.
Hoppers are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.
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the henna lady
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Location: WNY, USA
the henna lady
6,193 posts
Location: WNY, USA
Posted:
Money is an easier (not easy) obstacle to overcome.
Pride not so very.
That is one of the harder lessons I learned during that period in my life.
Money is an easier (not easy) obstacle to overcome.
Pride not so very.
That is one of the harder lessons I learned during that period in my life.
Pele
Higher, higher burning fire...making music like a choir
"Oooh look! A pub!" -exclaimed after recovering from a stupid fall
"And for the decadence of art, nothing beats a roaring fire." -TMK
Carpal \'Tunnel
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Location: in the trees
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Location: in the trees
Posted:
i've not been homeless but i did once have to spend the night on the streets of london, i met all kinds of people, from true drop outs to smak heads to jamacan yardies. ok so i had a bus to catch at 7am but having to sit in a tube station door way from 12am was a bit of an eye opener.
it was also quite frightening as i could imagine people not so fortunate as myself.
the only advice i can give you is no matter WHAT or WHY taking heroin is not an escape, it's a trap into a lifestyle you have no controll over
i've not been homeless but i did once have to spend the night on the streets of london, i met all kinds of people, from true drop outs to smak heads to jamacan yardies. ok so i had a bus to catch at 7am but having to sit in a tube station door way from 12am was a bit of an eye opener.
it was also quite frightening as i could imagine people not so fortunate as myself.
the only advice i can give you is no matter WHAT or WHY taking heroin is not an escape, it's a trap into a lifestyle you have no controll over
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wandering thru the woods of WI
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Location: Wisconsin, USA
wandering thru the woods of WI
3,556 posts
Location: Wisconsin, USA
Posted:
pride is definitely the bigger obstacle, but also habits and the people around you, that went along the path with you and getting them to support you and a lifestyle change...
pride is definitely the bigger obstacle, but also habits and the people around you, that went along the path with you and getting them to support you and a lifestyle change...
Faith
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Good Ol' Yarn For Hair
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Location: Atlanta, GA, USA
422 posts
Location: Atlanta, GA, USA
Posted:
While I've never been homeless, I have sad memories of a good friend who went homeless after irreconciliable differences with his mum. He'd travel to Florida in the winter and come back in the spring. We'd spend the first few weeks of spring on pins and needles waiting to make sure he made it through the winter alright, that the cold, the travel, the cops, or some other terrible event hadn't befallen him for the five months out of the year when we didn't see him. He always come back home with great stories about the "winter snow bunnies" who'd take him in and party with him in Florida.
Hef, I hope you find whatever you might be looking for on your travels, and I truly hope you have as good of luck as he did. Nothing bad ever happened to him, and he just kind of wandered about for four years.
While I've never been homeless, I have sad memories of a good friend who went homeless after irreconciliable differences with his mum. He'd travel to Florida in the winter and come back in the spring. We'd spend the first few weeks of spring on pins and needles waiting to make sure he made it through the winter alright, that the cold, the travel, the cops, or some other terrible event hadn't befallen him for the five months out of the year when we didn't see him. He always come back home with great stories about the "winter snow bunnies" who'd take him in and party with him in Florida.
Hef, I hope you find whatever you might be looking for on your travels, and I truly hope you have as good of luck as he did. Nothing bad ever happened to him, and he just kind of wandered about for four years.
"So long and thanks for all the fish."
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wandering thru the woods of WI
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Location: Wisconsin, USA
wandering thru the woods of WI
3,556 posts
Location: Wisconsin, USA
Posted:
then your friend was lucky, perhaps it was straight luck or locations or whatever...
there is also a difference b/n travelling through and homelessness
my friends who had no place to go have been rolled, shot, stabbed, beaten, spit at,raped and/or assualted, been involved with running and prostitution...and it's not just regular people either, but the cops too, i had a freind who was tasered 5 times because he was "resisting arrest"
then your friend was lucky, perhaps it was straight luck or locations or whatever...
there is also a difference b/n travelling through and homelessness
my friends who had no place to go have been rolled, shot, stabbed, beaten, spit at,raped and/or assualted, been involved with running and prostitution...and it's not just regular people either, but the cops too, i had a freind who was tasered 5 times because he was "resisting arrest"
Faith
Nay, whatever comes one hour was sunlit and the most high gods may not make boast of any better thing than to have watched that hour as it passed
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fluffy mess
197 posts
Location: Brighton, United Kingdom
fluffy mess
197 posts
Location: Brighton, United Kingdom
Posted:
I was made homeless by circumstance for a month. I had a job and planned to move into a place on a specified day, only to find that I had been scammed and had nowhere to live. I wa sin a strange city in a strange country. I relyed on the kindness of an aquaintance from work. Having lost all my deposit money it took me a month to find somewhere to move into. My relationship with the person I was staying with turned sour, I was kicked out a few times so would just wonder around the city until my workplace opened and I could go to work and wash in the bathroom.
I got through it though, my pride is the thing that suffered most, but also my self respect and my faith in people. It was probably one of the hardest things I had to deal with, but I learnt a few lessons and I came out ok in the end.
I was made homeless by circumstance for a month. I had a job and planned to move into a place on a specified day, only to find that I had been scammed and had nowhere to live. I wa sin a strange city in a strange country. I relyed on the kindness of an aquaintance from work. Having lost all my deposit money it took me a month to find somewhere to move into. My relationship with the person I was staying with turned sour, I was kicked out a few times so would just wonder around the city until my workplace opened and I could go to work and wash in the bathroom.
I got through it though, my pride is the thing that suffered most, but also my self respect and my faith in people. It was probably one of the hardest things I had to deal with, but I learnt a few lessons and I came out ok in the end.
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