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Location: Melbourne - home of pirates
255 posts
Location: Melbourne - home of pirates
Posted:
I've just moved into a beautiful new apartment, right next to a big park and a creek. Its a lovely position, I'm absolutely wrapt with the building, and the area, and I'm really looking forward to living there.
Unfortunately, after only 1 1/2 weeks of living there, the neighbours seem to have taken a dislike to me. Well.. I say seem...
On Sunday, I was lucky enough to overhear a conversation of a few of the people in my apartment block discussing the new gay neighbour (me). My next door neighbour didn't sound at all happy about the fact that I am gay because "I've never lived next to a gay person before." There was some speculation about me, with one person chiming in, saying that I just seemed like a nice person trying to live her life.
Now my girlfriend helped me move in, and I introduced her to some of the neighbours as such. I have nothing to hide. I'm in love with her and I won't be told to pretend otherwise. I forsaw that being an issue, but I never saw it escalating like this.
I'm now hearing speculation about my sex life. They are gossiping that I'm cheating on my girlfriend with a friend of mine (now known as R). I've had one of my best mates over for a few nights (she works late and sometimes can't get home on public transport) and she's stayed in my bed. Apparenlty this means I'm a slut and am having a torrid affair.
My girlfriend doesn't have a problem with R sleeping over, she knows I love my R, but not in the same way as I love her, and I can't say I'm attracted to R in the slightest. She likes knowing someone's with me sometimes during the week, as I only see my partner on the weekends.
I've heard them talking in horror about my life, and discussing how they should behave towards me, as I'm obviously some kind of axe murderer. They were looking through my window to see if the lights are on.
The problem is, I think that I would really like these people and would get along really well with them if they could only bring themselves to get to know me. I don't want to get them offside, but they won't talk to me and I'm just feeling like I am not welcome in my own home.
Has anyone had anything similar occur to them? What do you think should I do?
Sorry if this doesn't make much sense..
I've just moved into a beautiful new apartment, right next to a big park and a creek. Its a lovely position, I'm absolutely wrapt with the building, and the area, and I'm really looking forward to living there.
Unfortunately, after only 1 1/2 weeks of living there, the neighbours seem to have taken a dislike to me. Well.. I say seem...
On Sunday, I was lucky enough to overhear a conversation of a few of the people in my apartment block discussing the new gay neighbour (me). My next door neighbour didn't sound at all happy about the fact that I am gay because "I've never lived next to a gay person before." There was some speculation about me, with one person chiming in, saying that I just seemed like a nice person trying to live her life.
Now my girlfriend helped me move in, and I introduced her to some of the neighbours as such. I have nothing to hide. I'm in love with her and I won't be told to pretend otherwise. I forsaw that being an issue, but I never saw it escalating like this.
I'm now hearing speculation about my sex life. They are gossiping that I'm cheating on my girlfriend with a friend of mine (now known as R). I've had one of my best mates over for a few nights (she works late and sometimes can't get home on public transport) and she's stayed in my bed. Apparenlty this means I'm a slut and am having a torrid affair.
My girlfriend doesn't have a problem with R sleeping over, she knows I love my R, but not in the same way as I love her, and I can't say I'm attracted to R in the slightest. She likes knowing someone's with me sometimes during the week, as I only see my partner on the weekends.
I've heard them talking in horror about my life, and discussing how they should behave towards me, as I'm obviously some kind of axe murderer. They were looking through my window to see if the lights are on.
The problem is, I think that I would really like these people and would get along really well with them if they could only bring themselves to get to know me. I don't want to get them offside, but they won't talk to me and I'm just feeling like I am not welcome in my own home.
Has anyone had anything similar occur to them? What do you think should I do?
Sorry if this doesn't make much sense..
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Pirate Pixie Crew Captain
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Location: Wales
Posted:
My advice to you is to just stay smiling and friendly to these people and ignore the back stabbing for a while. See if they get bored and give up. You are the newest thing to happen in their lives and they obviously have little else to do other than fabricate scenarios about strangers to spice up their dull lives. They'll get bored of it sooner or later, and as they get to know you more it will be harder and harder for them to fabricate rubbish about you.
We've all done it... speculated about the new person on the block or the newest employee at work. Try not to take it to heart. I'm sure with time most of it will pass and for those that don't bother to get to know you and still back stab and gossip... well they aren't worth knowing anyway.
As long as the people you love know the truth of what's going on, let the bored gossip mongers have their short lived fun, because truth will out in the end.
My advice to you is to just stay smiling and friendly to these people and ignore the back stabbing for a while. See if they get bored and give up. You are the newest thing to happen in their lives and they obviously have little else to do other than fabricate scenarios about strangers to spice up their dull lives. They'll get bored of it sooner or later, and as they get to know you more it will be harder and harder for them to fabricate rubbish about you.
We've all done it... speculated about the new person on the block or the newest employee at work. Try not to take it to heart. I'm sure with time most of it will pass and for those that don't bother to get to know you and still back stab and gossip... well they aren't worth knowing anyway.
As long as the people you love know the truth of what's going on, let the bored gossip mongers have their short lived fun, because truth will out in the end.
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Pirate Ninja
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Pirate Ninja
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Posted:
And if that fails. Start inviting over your friend and your lover at the same time and have a pillow fight...
That'l learn em...
And if that fails. Start inviting over your friend and your lover at the same time and have a pillow fight...
That'l learn em...
Love is the law.
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grumpy poorly froggy
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grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
Posted:
always be polite, nice and smile. tis how i do it, even though my neighbours on one side hate me, the way i dress the fact that their kids are getting into the circus thing cause all they see are me and the kids... not just mine but loads from the neighbourhood doing it. They can think what they want and sure i wind them up every now and again by making little comments that make them do the whole "did she just say that?! what did she mean" double take look. hell i have to have my fun too. although i am not too sure what gets them the most, the fact that i am a 'freak' 
do circus skills in the street or am Pagan. But i am always very nice to every one, run neighbourhood watch and other community things. the main thing i get now off most people is shock at the fact that they had put me into a sterio type that has bad connotationsand i have proved them wrong.
i would go for the pillow fight too
always be polite, nice and smile. tis how i do it, even though my neighbours on one side hate me, the way i dress the fact that their kids are getting into the circus thing cause all they see are me and the kids... not just mine but loads from the neighbourhood doing it. They can think what they want and sure i wind them up every now and again by making little comments that make them do the whole "did she just say that?! what did she mean" double take look. hell i have to have my fun too. although i am not too sure what gets them the most, the fact that i am a 'freak' do circus skills in the street or am Pagan. But i am always very nice to every one, run neighbourhood watch and other community things. the main thing i get now off most people is shock at the fact that they had put me into a sterio type that has bad connotationsand i have proved them wrong. i would go for the pillow fight too
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Pooh-Bah
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Pooh-Bah
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Posted:
yup, pillow fight.
yup, pillow fight.
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hehe, 'Member' huhuh
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Posted:
Or have a different couple combination come in and out of your house on different nights...
You and GF
You and R
R and GF
Then on the forth night come in arms round each other singing songs and giggling inanely... And perhaps kiss each other, not full-on tongues and spit-trails but enough to be construded as 'overly familiar'...
That might do more harm than good but at least it'll stop the 'she's cheating on her girlfriend' rumours. The likelyhood they'll be replaced by 'she's running a lesbian commune!!!' is mostly irrelevant...
Or have a different couple combination come in and out of your house on different nights...
You and GF
You and R
R and GF
Then on the forth night come in arms round each other singing songs and giggling inanely... And perhaps kiss each other, not full-on tongues and spit-trails but enough to be construded as 'overly familiar'...
That might do more harm than good but at least it'll stop the 'she's cheating on her girlfriend' rumours. The likelyhood they'll be replaced by 'she's running a lesbian commune!!!' is mostly irrelevant...
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Flying Water Muppet
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Posted:
Sounds like you have a cool life. And that you need cooler neighbours.
Invite more of your friends over, ignore your neighbours with politeness.
People talking about you, makes you more interesting than them. It's not like you've been gossiping about their sex lives have you?
Sounds like you have a cool life. And that you need cooler neighbours.
Invite more of your friends over, ignore your neighbours with politeness.
People talking about you, makes you more interesting than them. It's not like you've been gossiping about their sex lives have you?
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old hand
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old hand
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Posted:
Personally I'd wander around with fake blood on your hands and say "morning" like it's completely normal. Next time dress in PVC and have a whip, the time after be gothed up, you get the idea. If they want to talk, give 'em something to talk about.
(I used to tell mine I was prospecting for uranium down the beach).
Personally I'd wander around with fake blood on your hands and say "morning" like it's completely normal. Next time dress in PVC and have a whip, the time after be gothed up, you get the idea. If they want to talk, give 'em something to talk about.
(I used to tell mine I was prospecting for uranium down the beach).
There is a slight possibility that I am not actually right all of the time.
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Pooh-Bah
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Pooh-Bah
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bahahaha! prospecting for uranium... teehee, that's execellent
bahahaha! prospecting for uranium... teehee, that's execellent
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Posted:
How often do you see them? And how long do you plan to stay there? I mean you'll probably hardly ever see them anyway, the only time you'll see them is when you're coming and going. I guess its more of a problem if you bought the apartment and plan to live there for ages.
How often do you see them? And how long do you plan to stay there? I mean you'll probably hardly ever see them anyway, the only time you'll see them is when you're coming and going. I guess its more of a problem if you bought the apartment and plan to live there for ages.
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Mumma Hen
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Mumma Hen
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Location: Brisbane, Australia
Posted:
I would personally confront it front on.
perhaps to neighbour X who stood up for you " thank you for sticking up for me the other day when people were discussing my personal business. It meant a lot to me."
Then neighbour X will be stoked that you have acknowledged their support. I would then say to the other neighbours nice and gently and quietly,
" I overheard you discussing me the other day when you thought I wasnt around. What you said has upset me a little. It would be really beneficial to our friendship that if you had any questions you wanted to ask that you could ask me and I will tell you. Just out of respect for my privacy. "
Then watch them squirm. The thing is if you point out behaviour that people know is nasty or wrong they get embrassed and tend not to repeat the behaviour. They will also apologise. (usually) Plus your letting them know that gossip isnt cool with you....
If all else fails.... go the pillowfight.
Hang in there and if you need to talk just PM hun, I know how unfounded gossip can hurt, its happened to me plenty of times.
I would personally confront it front on.
perhaps to neighbour X who stood up for you " thank you for sticking up for me the other day when people were discussing my personal business. It meant a lot to me."
Then neighbour X will be stoked that you have acknowledged their support. I would then say to the other neighbours nice and gently and quietly,
" I overheard you discussing me the other day when you thought I wasnt around. What you said has upset me a little. It would be really beneficial to our friendship that if you had any questions you wanted to ask that you could ask me and I will tell you. Just out of respect for my privacy. "
Then watch them squirm. The thing is if you point out behaviour that people know is nasty or wrong they get embrassed and tend not to repeat the behaviour. They will also apologise. (usually) Plus your letting them know that gossip isnt cool with you....
If all else fails.... go the pillowfight.
Hang in there and if you need to talk just PM hun, I know how unfounded gossip can hurt, its happened to me plenty of times.
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enthusiast
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Location: Melbourne - home of pirates
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Location: Melbourne - home of pirates
Posted:
I'm going to be living there for at least 12 months, its a block of one bedroom apartments so most of the people talk to each other quite a bit.
All in pillow brawl! AWESOME!
Its actually really odd, because my nextdoor neighbour is really friendly, and also fits into the "freak" category (does fire performance, multicoloured dreads, etc.) and they all like her just fine..
Thanks guys, I'm feeling heaps better about it all.. Its such a stupid thing to do.. The only thing I can do is be my normal cheery self, and if they can look past their prejudices they'll get to know me.
I'm going to be living there for at least 12 months, its a block of one bedroom apartments so most of the people talk to each other quite a bit.
All in pillow brawl! AWESOME!
Its actually really odd, because my nextdoor neighbour is really friendly, and also fits into the "freak" category (does fire performance, multicoloured dreads, etc.) and they all like her just fine..
Thanks guys, I'm feeling heaps better about it all.. Its such a stupid thing to do.. The only thing I can do is be my normal cheery self, and if they can look past their prejudices they'll get to know me.
"You've gone from Loey the Wonder Lesbian to everyone wondering if you are a lesbian." - Shadowman
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Location: Oxfordshire, United Kingdom
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Posted:
sounds rather nasty :-/
much as neon made me chuckle I think valura's got the answer, you need to talk to them, mix the two though
my first thought on "I think that I would really like these people and would get along really well with them if they could only bring themselves to get to know me. " was you don't need those bigots, but I guess they're just reacting the only way they know how to something a bit different to their norm, and sounds like they're doing it out of concern for your girlfriend from what you've said, and that's actually a nice thing.
let them see you all together, as really good friends, and they'll either figure it out or maybe think you're a 3some, so you should just need to do a little correcting
sounds rather nasty :-/
much as neon made me chuckle I think valura's got the answer, you need to talk to them, mix the two though
my first thought on "I think that I would really like these people and would get along really well with them if they could only bring themselves to get to know me. " was you don't need those bigots, but I guess they're just reacting the only way they know how to something a bit different to their norm, and sounds like they're doing it out of concern for your girlfriend from what you've said, and that's actually a nice thing.
let them see you all together, as really good friends, and they'll either figure it out or maybe think you're a 3some, so you should just need to do a little correcting
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Posted:
petrol bomb the other tennants.......................failing that lay on a nice sized party and invite them all along to it so everyone can get to know each other and so they can see you won't infect them with your gay-ness
some people can be really weird about gay people, personally i've never had a problem with them and some are even the most comical people i've met.
to me it just sounds like small town nerves
(ooooh next doors gay *gasp shock horror* they might rape me in my bed etc)
petrol bomb the other tennants.......................failing that lay on a nice sized party and invite them all along to it so everyone can get to know each other and so they can see you won't infect them with your gay-ness
some people can be really weird about gay people, personally i've never had a problem with them and some are even the most comical people i've met.
to me it just sounds like small town nerves
(ooooh next doors gay *gasp shock horror* they might rape me in my bed etc)
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grumpy poorly froggy
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grumpy poorly froggy
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Posted:
you could do the sound system, lol that should get some attention
you could do the sound system, lol that should get some attention
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Pooh-Bah
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Pooh-Bah
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Posted:
mildly off topic... but... why is it that people have to qualify with "some gay people are some of the (insert positive descriptor here) people i know"?
being gay has just as much to do with being smart, funny, generous or whatever as does being black or female or blonde or a lawyer...
mildly off topic... but... why is it that people have to qualify with "some gay people are some of the (insert positive descriptor here) people i know"?
being gay has just as much to do with being smart, funny, generous or whatever as does being black or female or blonde or a lawyer...
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I would suppose that rather than refuting a generality with a specific instance, its seems to be more effective to refute a generality with another generality, without realizing that they do the same things.
I would suppose that rather than refuting a generality with a specific instance, its seems to be more effective to refute a generality with another generality, without realizing that they do the same things.
Carpal \'Tunnel
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simmer down ye violence............... i mean well..... but cant always structure my statements in a PC way 100% of the time. i mean nothing by my statement about the gay people i know etc. please don't get all pollicicaly correct on me, i hate that [censored]
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mildly off topic... but... why is it that people have to qualify with "some gay people are some of the (insert positive descriptor here) people i know"?
being gay has just as much to do with being smart, funny, generous or whatever as does being black or female or blonde or a lawyer...
simmer down ye violence............... i mean well..... but cant always structure my statements in a PC way 100% of the time. i mean nothing by my statement about the gay people i know etc. please don't get all pollicicaly correct on me, i hate that [censored]
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Pooh-Bah
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Pooh-Bah
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Posted:
wasn't directed specifically at you rave, i just notice heaps of people do it and i wondered why.
i'm anti all that PC crap aswell, i avoid qualifying anything i say. I know lots of gay guys and some lesbians too. some of them are bitches, some of them are complete arrogant assholes and some of them are just nice normal people, and i just don't think being gay as anything to do with that, so why say it?
wasn't directed specifically at you rave, i just notice heaps of people do it and i wondered why.
i'm anti all that PC crap aswell, i avoid qualifying anything i say. I know lots of gay guys and some lesbians too. some of them are bitches, some of them are complete arrogant assholes and some of them are just nice normal people, and i just don't think being gay as anything to do with that, so why say it?
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journeyman
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journeyman
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Posted:
Ugh, sorry you are in the situation you are in, especially close-minded people who cant accept gays for whatever reason or another. Mad props to you for not hiding anything
Id act as nice as can be, just like my mom said to me growing up.... kill them with kindness! Hopefully they can realize they are being jackasses and move onto other things that actually matter.
Ugh, sorry you are in the situation you are in, especially close-minded people who cant accept gays for whatever reason or another. Mad props to you for not hiding anything
Id act as nice as can be, just like my mom said to me growing up.... kill them with kindness! Hopefully they can realize they are being jackasses and move onto other things that actually matter.
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enthusiast
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enthusiast
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My bet is its because your neighbours lead relitively boring lives and as a result the highlight of there day has become talking about the goings on with you. mainly because you and your girlfirend are the most unusaly hence most intresting thats goes on in there daily lives. for them its like a soap opera and like a soap opera they want it to be as intresting as posable so when they dont know whats happening they fill in the gaps with the wildist storys posable (and if you ever watched soap opera you know the sort of things people find intresting).
i recon the best bet would be contiue to be nice and make an effort to approach and talk to them if they dont try and bridge the gap you do it for them. where ever posable fill in the gaps talk to them about R etc, rather than leting them speculate widly about whats going on. invite them round for a drink one nite maby even while R is there, ask them about there lives and the sort of things they do if you get to know them better they will likely ask you about your life as well the more they get to know you the less room for speculation there will be. also you dont need to get to know all of them ether as anything you tell one of them will likely be spread to the others. maby start with the one you heard defend you as you get to know them start to talk to others and so on.
of course theres always the spinners trump card have a spin fire is preferable someware near the flats when your neabors will see and use it to brake the ice talk to them about it ask them if they wanta learn offer to teach them to do it them selfs etc.
good luck with it i hope it all works out for you
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My bet is its because your neighbours lead relitively boring lives and as a result the highlight of there day has become talking about the goings on with you. mainly because you and your girlfirend are the most unusaly hence most intresting thats goes on in there daily lives. for them its like a soap opera and like a soap opera they want it to be as intresting as posable so when they dont know whats happening they fill in the gaps with the wildist storys posable (and if you ever watched soap opera you know the sort of things people find intresting).
i recon the best bet would be contiue to be nice and make an effort to approach and talk to them if they dont try and bridge the gap you do it for them. where ever posable fill in the gaps talk to them about R etc, rather than leting them speculate widly about whats going on. invite them round for a drink one nite maby even while R is there, ask them about there lives and the sort of things they do if you get to know them better they will likely ask you about your life as well the more they get to know you the less room for speculation there will be. also you dont need to get to know all of them ether as anything you tell one of them will likely be spread to the others. maby start with the one you heard defend you as you get to know them start to talk to others and so on.
of course theres always the spinners trump card have a spin fire is preferable someware near the flats when your neabors will see and use it to brake the ice talk to them about it ask them if they wanta learn offer to teach them to do it them selfs etc.
good luck with it i hope it all works out for you
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Posted:
seems to me like most "normal" people lead such dull sheltered lives they feel the need to gossip and come to conclusions made rumours and conjecture.
even i get "the look" from "normal" people simply because i have dreads, i'm a bit of a hippie and i'm not ashamed to admit i smoke marijuana but i do enjoy the shock they get when they find out i'm well spoken and not a drugged out zombie even thought i may seem it sometimes
it dosent really bother me if someones more aurther than martha or is greedy and likes to go both ways...............their actions dont affect me so it's not something that i waste my time worrying about. i've even been chatted up[ by a few gay blokes (although flattered i was so mashed up it didn't register until the morning what they where on about)
it seems to me your new neighbours are just being typical "norms" and finding anything they can chat Shi-t about
seems to me like most "normal" people lead such dull sheltered lives they feel the need to gossip and come to conclusions made rumours and conjecture.
even i get "the look" from "normal" people simply because i have dreads, i'm a bit of a hippie and i'm not ashamed to admit i smoke marijuana but i do enjoy the shock they get when they find out i'm well spoken and not a drugged out zombie
even thought i may seem it sometimes it dosent really bother me if someones more aurther than martha or is greedy and likes to go both ways
...............their actions dont affect me so it's not something that i waste my time worrying about. i've even been chatted up[ by a few gay blokes (although flattered i was so mashed up it didn't register until the morning what they where on about)it seems to me your new neighbours are just being typical "norms" and finding anything they can chat Shi-t about
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Pooh-Bah
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Pooh-Bah
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i still think you should go the pillow fight
i still think you should go the pillow fight
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wandering thru the woods of WI
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wandering thru the woods of WI
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you know after the past year, all i want is to be one of those normal people
and how is this thread any better than what the neighbors are doing...y'all are gossiping about the normals
you know after the past year, all i want is to be one of those normal people
and how is this thread any better than what the neighbors are doing...y'all are gossiping about the normals
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Pooh-Bah
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Pooh-Bah
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gossip's what i do best, why do you think i spend so much time on HoP?
gossip's what i do best, why do you think i spend so much time on HoP?
"i am exotic, and must keep my arms down" - Rougie
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Location: Melbourne - home of pirates
255 posts
Location: Melbourne - home of pirates
Posted:
I can't say I've gossiped about the people in my flats..
All I've done is gone about my business in my normal manner. I haven't looked in their windows. I haven't watched who comes and goes, and i certainly haven't speculated about their lives.
All I ask is the same from them.
Petrol bombing is looking like a good idea atm, apparently now having friends come to visit (and even I'll admit I've had waay too many people through my place in the past week - its been that kind of week) is now pi$$ing them off. Mind you, i've been very concerned about noise levels, including relocating people to the park over the road so we don't disturb my neighbours.
I've come to the honest conclusion that I'm not going to change a thing. These people seem to believe I'm some kind of freak (over my whole life, not just the gay thing, although that probably started this stupid "us vs them" vibe) and I don't believe that I have any chance of changing their minds. I'd love to think that they'd come in for a drink, but somehow I just don't think they'd be able to overlook their prejudice at this point. I'm not going to spend my time trying to make people like me.
Written by: faithinfire
you know after the past year, all i want is to be one of those normal people
and how is this thread any better than what the neighbors are doing...y'all are gossiping about the normals
I can't say I've gossiped about the people in my flats..
All I've done is gone about my business in my normal manner. I haven't looked in their windows. I haven't watched who comes and goes, and i certainly haven't speculated about their lives.
All I ask is the same from them.
Petrol bombing is looking like a good idea atm, apparently now having friends come to visit (and even I'll admit I've had waay too many people through my place in the past week - its been that kind of week) is now pi$$ing them off. Mind you, i've been very concerned about noise levels, including relocating people to the park over the road so we don't disturb my neighbours.
I've come to the honest conclusion that I'm not going to change a thing. These people seem to believe I'm some kind of freak (over my whole life, not just the gay thing, although that probably started this stupid "us vs them" vibe) and I don't believe that I have any chance of changing their minds. I'd love to think that they'd come in for a drink, but somehow I just don't think they'd be able to overlook their prejudice at this point. I'm not going to spend my time trying to make people like me.
"You've gone from Loey the Wonder Lesbian to everyone wondering if you are a lesbian." - Shadowman
Yesterday is yesterday. If we try to recapture it, we will only lose tomorrow.
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