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Sweet talented nutter
2,615 posts
Location: Brisbane Oz, Australia
Sweet talented nutter
2,615 posts
Location: Brisbane Oz, Australia
Posted:
Well as you can read i've got a friend that's delevolped feelings for me .
She just came out of the blue and said "Ivan I want to have a serious realtionship with you " .
It's just really odd we have never really flirted and always just had fun (' in the good old days').
I always thought of her as a little sister i guess . We've been friends for 10 years. And i've just been there when times have been tuff for her.
Things change with time i guess .
Im at a bit of a loss on how to handel this whole situation?.
Any advice would be appreciated
Well as you can read i've got a friend that's delevolped feelings for me .
She just came out of the blue and said "Ivan I want to have a serious realtionship with you " .
It's just really odd we have never really flirted and always just had fun (' in the good old days').
I always thought of her as a little sister i guess . We've been friends for 10 years. And i've just been there when times have been tuff for her.
Things change with time i guess .
Im at a bit of a loss on how to handel this whole situation?.
Any advice would be appreciated
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Stargazer
6,650 posts
6,650 posts
Posted:
Listen to your heart...
Listen to your heart...
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Pooh-Bah
1,848 posts
Location: Adelaide, SA, Australia
Pooh-Bah
1,848 posts
Location: Adelaide, SA, Australia
Posted:
*shrugs* if you feel the same, go for it... if not, be straight with her, tell her you think of her more of a little sister, and hope to hell things don't go weird.
*shrugs* if you feel the same, go for it... if not, be straight with her, tell her you think of her more of a little sister, and hope to hell things don't go weird.
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addict
489 posts
Location: Perth
489 posts
Location: Perth
Posted:
eekk.. a familiar situation...
Ok, if you have secretly had a crush on her for however long, go for it.. but take it slow because she may be ready to throw your clothes off, but you might not be ready for this...
If you can see a successful relationship but have never really thought of it before now, hang out with her a bit more with just the idea in mind. Because you might decide that the IDEA is great, but the reality wouldn't work.
If you've already decided no... *sigh* turning down a friend is the hardest thing.
If all you feel is platonic love then say so. Don't say you think of her as a sister. bad line...
"I've never thought of you like that before, so I've been thinking about it since you asked me. I realised that I love what we have now and don't think that anything more can come out of it. I don't want to throw this away on a whim. I'll always love you and be here for you, but I can't be with you."
and then she can return the classic line "I have friends, what I need is sex!"
Good luck!
eekk.. a familiar situation...
Ok, if you have secretly had a crush on her for however long, go for it.. but take it slow because she may be ready to throw your clothes off, but you might not be ready for this...
If you can see a successful relationship but have never really thought of it before now, hang out with her a bit more with just the idea in mind. Because you might decide that the IDEA is great, but the reality wouldn't work.
If you've already decided no... *sigh* turning down a friend is the hardest thing.
If all you feel is platonic love then say so. Don't say you think of her as a sister. bad line...
"I've never thought of you like that before, so I've been thinking about it since you asked me. I realised that I love what we have now and don't think that anything more can come out of it. I don't want to throw this away on a whim. I'll always love you and be here for you, but I can't be with you."
and then she can return the classic line "I have friends, what I need is sex!"
Good luck!
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Momma Bear
4,525 posts
Location: Telford, Shrops, United Kingdom
Momma Bear
4,525 posts
Location: Telford, Shrops, United Kingdom
Posted:
Just be honest and tactful.
Whatever you do, you don't want to break her heart. Just make it clear that you don't feel the same. Perhaps mention that you wish you did feel the same because you know she'd make a fantastic girlfriend....(someone said this to me when I confessed I felt more than just friendship, and it made me feel a lot easier with it).
It's not rejection, it's just not mutual.
Just be honest and tactful.
Whatever you do, you don't want to break her heart. Just make it clear that you don't feel the same. Perhaps mention that you wish you did feel the same because you know she'd make a fantastic girlfriend....(someone said this to me when I confessed I felt more than just friendship, and it made me feel a lot easier with it).
It's not rejection, it's just not mutual.
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The super duper uber looper
119 posts
Location: Auckland, New Zealand
The super duper uber looper
119 posts
Location: Auckland, New Zealand
Posted:
Hey man! I know exactly where you stand and feel right now.
I've been chatting to this girl I met in a chatroom on a local chat site for just over a year now and we've become extremely good friends with one another.
She origionally stayed quite far away so we knew the chances of us meeting were slim. Now her and her family are moving 6 streets away from where I stay. Besides all that, now she wants to have a reltionship but i see her as a friend and not a lover.
I can't offer you much advice as I'm not sure if what I'm doing is the best for your situation and I don't want to be the cause of a good friendship being lost.
The best thing you can do is talk about it, the possibility of it working, how you feel for her as a sister more than a partner and most importantly, talk about keeping the friendship open.
The best of luck for your situation.
Hey man! I know exactly where you stand and feel right now.
I've been chatting to this girl I met in a chatroom on a local chat site for just over a year now and we've become extremely good friends with one another.
She origionally stayed quite far away so we knew the chances of us meeting were slim. Now her and her family are moving 6 streets away from where I stay. Besides all that, now she wants to have a reltionship but i see her as a friend and not a lover.
I can't offer you much advice as I'm not sure if what I'm doing is the best for your situation and I don't want to be the cause of a good friendship being lost.
The best thing you can do is talk about it, the possibility of it working, how you feel for her as a sister more than a partner and most importantly, talk about keeping the friendship open.
The best of luck for your situation.
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Carpal \'Tunnel
3,380 posts
Location: At the bottom of the garden with the fairies...
3,380 posts
Location: At the bottom of the garden with the fairies...
Posted:
I am in a simalar situation right now, only i'm the friend with emotions. lol!
Take some time to work out how you are feeling and when you know just tell her the truth, and don't make her wait forever, there is nothing worse than bearing your heart and soul to be egnored. Knowing that you don't feel the same as her will be 100 times better for both of you than if she knows nothing at all.
I hope this works out well and if nothing else you keep an amazing friend xxx
I am in a simalar situation right now, only i'm the friend with emotions. lol!
Take some time to work out how you are feeling and when you know just tell her the truth, and don't make her wait forever, there is nothing worse than bearing your heart and soul to be egnored. Knowing that you don't feel the same as her will be 100 times better for both of you than if she knows nothing at all.
I hope this works out well and if nothing else you keep an amazing friend xxx
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Pooh-Bah
2,303 posts
Location: Brisbane
2,303 posts
Location: Brisbane
Posted:
Giddey Up!!! Go for it i say. You know you want to..... hehehe see you this weekend!! You can bring her round with you if you like.
Giddey Up!!! Go for it i say. You know you want to..... hehehe see you this weekend!! You can bring her round with you if you like.
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