Forums > Social Chat > Telling your current housemate you dont want to be with him next year

Posted: 30th Jan 2005
Is it the nutter with pictures stuck to his ceiling?

or the other nutter?

Meh

Posted: 30th Jan 2005
The nutter with the pictures on his ceiling.

Posted: 30th Jan 2005
Once you've found a place, or have decided who you'll definitely be sharing with, tell him the whoever has asked if you want to live with them, and you've said yes, rather than telling him you actively looked for options rather than him... A way of shifting blame by implication...

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Posted: 30th Jan 2005
very very clever.......i quite enjoyed the ideas on the pole hahahaha

hmmm you could lie and say someone in your family has an ilness and you have to go and stay with them and look after them next year

or maybe the same idea with one of your friends?....cheap and mean and i think polythene's idea was alot better but meh, what ya gunna do ay

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Posted: 30th Jan 2005
i say thou shouldst sort out where you are gonna go and then sneak away in the night ninja style, or i like the stripper idea, or you could be brutally honest, tell him why you don't like him no more and leave them with some new insight into social co habitation, or whack him in the head with a shovel and bury hin in the backyard seeing as your moving out anyway.
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Posted: 30th Jan 2005
Or you could be honest and tell him you can't handle the pent up sexual tension you feel between the two of you? Hence, the first option of flowers!
Good luck!

Posted: 31st Jan 2005
just tell them?
all the best things come out of being honest. don't beat around the bush. just come out with it.

Posted: 31st Jan 2005
I think you should start leaving little 'presents' around the flat.

No ones like living with a 'mucky puppy'

shave off your body hair and leave it all over the place. That just aint right. I mean, no-one likes to find an errand pube in their sandwichs. Or milk. Or anything sthey are about to put in their mouth.

Its just not natural

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Posted: 31st Jan 2005
just be honest with him if hes going to take it personally he will take it personally regardless of how u put it but most likely he will appriciate your honesty, although the stripper wouldnt hurt ...

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Posted: 31st Jan 2005
yeah, i agree - it doesn't have to come out like you don't like him, people don't get on as housemates for lots of reasons, but it doesn't mean you can't be friends.

just be honest and be nice about it.

i had the same problem last year and when i went to tell her it turned out she had found new flatmates and didn't know how to tell me either!

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Posted: 31st Jan 2005
Mate, i am in a similar boat, currently live with people i get on with but they are not my close friends, bar one.

The close mate is a modelmaker, this year she practically lives in the studio, works all weekend in town, and has a boyfriend i love her to bits but i just dont see her anymore, a load of my mates are model makers too so if i go with the plan of living with them next year, i wont see ANY of them. I figured if i live with my mate from my course who understands the work i am stressing about, and gives me moral support, and inspiration and will probably work at home a lot............i will stay sane, and i will be cunning and live in the next street instead of a silly place where no other students live!


Um yeah so back to the point, i havent had at chat with my friend about maybe not living with her, or her living with me, and other wierd illustrator types.

but when i tell her i know she will understand because she is a mate.

so do you consider this guy a mate a friend in any kind of way. If so, he will be a true friend if he doesn't get peed off if you tell him your reasons.

um yeah take him for a beer with a few people bring up the subject, so what are you thinking for where to live next year?......

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Posted: 31st Jan 2005
if you've sorted out plans with other people then just say, at least if you do it now he's got time to find other arangements. It happens at uni, not nessecarily because you hate the person but because you just want to live with other people that year because they are madder/quieter/more outgoing/non smokier or whatever. Your living wants change as you get older, i was just lucky enough at uni to find a house with pretty neutral people in it for 3 years who I didn't spend much time with, but didn't mind (for the most part) the time that I did. Now i've left I'm really happy to have my own place, not because i couldn't stand living with the other people anymore, but just because I'm old, sad and like my own space



Who knows, he may not want to live with you either anyway, look at konsti, he couldn't stand living in this country anymore after sharing student accomodation with you

Posted: 31st Jan 2005
I've been in a similar situation. I found it best to just tell the truth. And do it as soon as possible.

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Posted: 31st Jan 2005
Yep, get it out of the way as soon as possible. That way he has more time to find somewhere for himself next year.

If you leave it too late, he might end up having to live with a wandering tribe of hobos. Which, I suppose, may not be a bad thing, it'd certainly be interesting.

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Posted: 31st Jan 2005
yip.. tell the truth..

My flat mate is now moving out to allow me and my fella to live 'together' for the first time. it's really hard, but I just told him 3's a crowd and that he must ahve realised that he could not live with me forever..

he leaves this thursday!

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Posted: 31st Jan 2005
Is there any reason inparticular that u dont with to live with him? xxx

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Posted: 31st Jan 2005
dude
i think you should tell him that you have a spot in a different house next year and that you want to move in there. make it a friendly pointer that he should start looking for a place early.....
if hes as much a space-cadet as i remeber him he should be fine with that......

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