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Momma Bear
4,525 posts
Location: Telford, Shrops, United Kingdom
Momma Bear
4,525 posts
Location: Telford, Shrops, United Kingdom
Posted:
Hey all
Today I had my first cervical smear, after putting it off for years because I was frightened
As you all know cervical smear tests are important to make sure our women's bits are ticking over nicely and to make sure we're all in tip top shape.
It's estimated that screening for cervical cancer using the smear test saves up to 6,000 lives a year in the UK!
So I have been really frightened about having my smear test and thinking "oh no!! they're going to be poking about in my lady's place!"
But I was worrying over nothing, the nurse was lovely, explained what the procedure was like, told me what she was going to do etc.
I went behind the curtain, took my trousers and knickers off and got onto the bed. She then put a sheet over me from my tummy to my thighs, and got me to rest one leg against the wall and the other against her.
I didn't feel rude or embarrassed. She told me to take some deep breaths and said that if I relaxed my muscles then it'd be much easier.
So I just took some deep breaths and relaxed, I was quite comfy actually!
Then she talked me through what she was doing, said she was putting the speculum in- "whoooop, it's in!" hooray then said she was gonna open it up "oooh, it's open!" hooray, then that she was gonna take a sample of cells, and that was it!
Phew! No problem!
I wish I'd been brave enough to have it done ages ago, but now I know that it's nothing to worry about.
So ladies, if you haven't already, get yourself down the docs, get your knickers off and get checked! it only takes a minute or two!
xxx
Hey all
Today I had my first cervical smear, after putting it off for years because I was frightened
As you all know cervical smear tests are important to make sure our women's bits are ticking over nicely and to make sure we're all in tip top shape.
It's estimated that screening for cervical cancer using the smear test saves up to 6,000 lives a year in the UK!
So I have been really frightened about having my smear test and thinking "oh no!! they're going to be poking about in my lady's place!"
But I was worrying over nothing, the nurse was lovely, explained what the procedure was like, told me what she was going to do etc.
I went behind the curtain, took my trousers and knickers off and got onto the bed. She then put a sheet over me from my tummy to my thighs, and got me to rest one leg against the wall and the other against her.
I didn't feel rude or embarrassed.
She told me to take some deep breaths and said that if I relaxed my muscles then it'd be much easier.So I just took some deep breaths and relaxed, I was quite comfy actually!
Then she talked me through what she was doing, said she was putting the speculum in- "whoooop, it's in!" hooray then said she was gonna open it up "oooh, it's open!" hooray, then that she was gonna take a sample of cells, and that was it!
Phew! No problem!
I wish I'd been brave enough to have it done ages ago, but now I know that it's nothing to worry about.
So ladies, if you haven't already, get yourself down the docs, get your knickers off and get checked! it only takes a minute or two!
xxx Hoppers are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.
Pancake Maker
151 posts
Location: south wales
151 posts
Location: south wales
Posted:
I often have to have my male doc do mine, I don't really mind because you get to the point where you just don't care that much anymore.
Maybe it's better after having kids you kind of just lose the embarassment of having people poking about down there.
I have to have them every 3 months at the moment because of problems, which were fortunately spotted early enough for treatment and monitoring.
So YAY for smear tests.
Well done Jo I'm very proud of you.
I often have to have my male doc do mine, I don't really mind because you get to the point where you just don't care that much anymore.
Maybe it's better after having kids you kind of just lose the embarassment of having people poking about down there.
I have to have them every 3 months at the moment because of problems, which were fortunately spotted early enough for treatment and monitoring.
So YAY for smear tests.
Well done Jo I'm very proud of you.
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Momma Bear
4,525 posts
Location: Telford, Shrops, United Kingdom
Momma Bear
4,525 posts
Location: Telford, Shrops, United Kingdom
Posted:
thanks Miss Becci 
thanks Miss Becci Hoppers are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.
Pooh-Bah
1,662 posts
Location: Bristol
1,662 posts
Location: Bristol
Posted:
i know this is a bit mushy...but thanks everyone for talking so openly about this. i don't have that many female friends so i don't get to chat this stuff over very often except with my mum!
i've picked up some good stuff from this thread so ta!
i know this is a bit mushy...but thanks everyone for talking so openly about this. i don't have that many female friends so i don't get to chat this stuff over very often except with my mum!
i've picked up some good stuff from this thread so ta!
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Momma Bear
4,525 posts
Location: Telford, Shrops, United Kingdom
Momma Bear
4,525 posts
Location: Telford, Shrops, United Kingdom
Posted:
hooray!
I'm glad about that! 
You know when you're really worried about something, it happens, and then you're like "oh? was that it?!!"
thats what the smear test is like. it's easy peasy
hooray!
I'm glad about that!
You know when you're really worried about something, it happens, and then you're like "oh? was that it?!!"
thats what the smear test is like. it's easy peasy
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old hand
1,107 posts
Location: In a test pit, Mackay, Australia
old hand
1,107 posts
Location: In a test pit, Mackay, Australia
Posted:
I had one done a couple of months ago, basically because my doctor wouldn't prescribe my pills unless I did (I was a few years out of date).
Mine was uncomfortable because I was tense, whatever you do, don't lift your hips off the table as that makes your muscles clamp down. It's not pleasent, but it's a necessity, every two years is recommended here.
And ask them to warm the speculum, it makes a difference.
I had one done a couple of months ago, basically because my doctor wouldn't prescribe my pills unless I did (I was a few years out of date).
Mine was uncomfortable because I was tense, whatever you do, don't lift your hips off the table as that makes your muscles clamp down. It's not pleasent, but it's a necessity, every two years is recommended here.
And ask them to warm the speculum, it makes a difference.
There is a slight possibility that I am not actually right all of the time.
Pancake Maker
151 posts
Location: south wales
151 posts
Location: south wales
Posted:
They tend to use the plastic disposable ones here now, which aren't as cold as the metal ones used to be.
They tend to use the plastic disposable ones here now, which aren't as cold as the metal ones used to be.
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grumpy poorly froggy
3,999 posts
Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
Posted:
i agree with becci having kids sure makes it so you realy don't care who is poking around as long as you know its for the right reasons
in the UK if your on the pill i am sure the recomend you do it every 3 years
i agree with becci having kids sure makes it so you realy don't care who is poking around as long as you know its for the right reasons
in the UK if your on the pill i am sure the recomend you do it every 3 years
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Location: Hastings, United Kingdom
Carpal \'Tunnel
4,172 posts
Location: Hastings, United Kingdom
Posted:
What age do laydees normally start having them?
What age do laydees normally start having them?
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13,215 posts
Location: without class distinction, Australia
Posted:
in australia it's ever 2 years after you turn 18 or after you become sexully active.
and i find it interesting that you cna request nurses to do it if you want a female, because my family doctor in my hometown is a male, but he said that i'd need to book in with one of the other doctors to get it done because he couldn't do it. And all the other doctors at ate surgery are male, so i think it's a qualification thing.
and i wouldnt mind if i had a male doctor doing it. id be quite happy with my male family doctor doing it, the only reason it will probably end up being a female one is because she's my doctor in melb.
in australia it's ever 2 years after you turn 18 or after you become sexully active.
and i find it interesting that you cna request nurses to do it if you want a female, because my family doctor in my hometown is a male, but he said that i'd need to book in with one of the other doctors to get it done because he couldn't do it. And all the other doctors at ate surgery are male, so i think it's a qualification thing.
and i wouldnt mind if i had a male doctor doing it. id be quite happy with my male family doctor doing it, the only reason it will probably end up being a female one is because she's my doctor in melb.
i would have changed ***** to phallus, and claire to petey Petey
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Location: Hastings, United Kingdom
Carpal \'Tunnel
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Location: Hastings, United Kingdom
Posted:
I should have one done really then..
But chances are I'm going to get that stupid nurse that I've got at the minute.
I'm having to go to her twice a week at the momant for something else in that general area, and I just feel so degraded and am usually in tears coming out of the sugery.
She shows no compasion, and makes me feel like its my fault that theres something wrong.
I don't think I could handle her giving me a smear
I should have one done really then..
But chances are I'm going to get that stupid nurse that I've got at the minute.
I'm having to go to her twice a week at the momant for something else in that general area, and I just feel so degraded and am usually in tears coming out of the sugery.
She shows no compasion, and makes me feel like its my fault that theres something wrong.
I don't think I could handle her giving me a smear
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Location: Wales
Pirate Pixie Crew Captain
8,428 posts
Location: Wales
Posted:
Aimée you can request that she doesn't do it if that's how she makes you feel. No one should be scared off having a check up because they don't like the staff. Talk to your doctor, tell her/him how you feel and request that someone else does it.
As for the question of haing a man or a woman perform the test... I say it's irrelevant. You wouldn't be bothered if it was a man taking a throat swab, This is no different. They are trained professionals. There is nothing strange or sexual about this test. Like I told Jo when she was nervous about going, it's just like saying ahhhhhhh, only you don't say it with your mouth. If you just think of it that way you'll have no problems, be it a male or female nurse/doctor. Just get it booked and done. You'll come out wondering why you ever worried about it.
Aimée you can request that she doesn't do it if that's how she makes you feel. No one should be scared off having a check up because they don't like the staff. Talk to your doctor, tell her/him how you feel and request that someone else does it.
As for the question of haing a man or a woman perform the test... I say it's irrelevant. You wouldn't be bothered if it was a man taking a throat swab, This is no different. They are trained professionals. There is nothing strange or sexual about this test. Like I told Jo when she was nervous about going, it's just like saying ahhhhhhh, only you don't say it with your mouth. If you just think of it that way you'll have no problems, be it a male or female nurse/doctor. Just get it booked and done. You'll come out wondering why you ever worried about it.
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Location: Sihanoukville, cambodia
Carpal \'Tunnel
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Location: Sihanoukville, cambodia
Posted:
Ah memories!
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Ah memories! Stargazer
6,650 posts
6,650 posts
Posted:
heyas that was some catching up to do...
I knew 50% of the procedures involved haven't heard of blood and digital tests so far, but will inform myself... as for doctors, or nurses poking and digging in my rectum - nope it's none of my fancy. It has nothing to do with pleasure and is not intended as such. I am certain that men can enjoy the... errm... procedure itself (maybe not in this context), otherwise there would not be so many of them, let's say 'rehearsing' in the subject...
(I hope you mod's notice how I am circumnavigating with the "PG thingy" in mind - after having one of my threads censored?)
Speaking of "enjoyment": I heard that maybe most gynaecologists are male... I reckon that's somehow funny as I thought women would feel more comfy if that's done by one of their own gender... how come?
But maybe it's like with me(n) who would rather prefer to have a doc of the other gender... Had to visit a uro...ist one day and he was the sleeziest gay man I have ever met between the Alps and the Himalayas... Fortunately enough the examination was brief and a one time session... *phew*
As to "better safe than sorry": Know that I may have a different outlook on life and know that when it's time to go, it's time to go. I'm trying to live my life in such a way that I'd not feel sorry if it'd end 2morrow.....
heyas that was some catching up to do...
I knew 50% of the procedures involved
haven't heard of blood and digital tests so far, but will inform myself... as for doctors, or nurses poking and digging in my rectum - nope it's none of my fancy. It has nothing to do with pleasure and is not intended as such. I am certain that men can enjoy the... errm... procedure itself (maybe not in this context), otherwise there would not be so many of them, let's say 'rehearsing' in the subject... (I hope you mod's notice how I am circumnavigating with the "PG thingy" in mind - after having one of my threads censored?)
Speaking of "enjoyment": I heard that maybe most gynaecologists are male... I reckon that's somehow funny as I thought women would feel more comfy if that's done by one of their own gender... how come?
But maybe it's like with me(n) who would rather prefer to have a doc of the other gender... Had to visit a uro...ist one day and he was the sleeziest gay man I have ever met between the Alps and the Himalayas... Fortunately enough the examination was brief and a one time session... *phew*
As to "better safe than sorry": Know that I may have a different outlook on life and know that when it's time to go, it's time to go. I'm trying to live my life in such a way that I'd not feel sorry if it'd end 2morrow.....
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grumpy poorly froggy
3,999 posts
Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
grumpy poorly froggy
3,999 posts
Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
Posted:
For those of you that are a bit worried about checks for other things couple of years ago i had to go for a series of checks one involving a rectal endoscopy, embarrasing as hell however like with all of these things once its out of the way you can not remember why you were worried about it in the first place. turns out i was all ok. as Skullys mentioned there is nothing sexual about any of the checks and i love the "open up and say ahhhhhhhhhh" its so true.
at the end of the day,not matter how you live your life i feel there are things you just have to do, these types of checks being one of them.
i have lost a friend.. younger than me to cervical cancer, a friend to skin cancer, my mother has been lucky enough to of caught not only breast cancer but also cervial cancer in time for it to be treated.
My grandfather has prostate cancer, if it was caught early enough then he would of stood a chance, but he was just like many men and didn't go for checks and left it until the last minute.
there are no excuses not to check.
For those of you that are a bit worried about checks for other things couple of years ago i had to go for a series of checks one involving a rectal endoscopy, embarrasing as hell however like with all of these things once its out of the way you can not remember why you were worried about it in the first place. turns out i was all ok. as Skullys mentioned there is nothing sexual about any of the checks and i love the "open up and say ahhhhhhhhhh" its so true.
at the end of the day,not matter how you live your life i feel there are things you just have to do, these types of checks being one of them.
i have lost a friend.. younger than me to cervical cancer, a friend to skin cancer, my mother has been lucky enough to of caught not only breast cancer but also cervial cancer in time for it to be treated.
My grandfather has prostate cancer, if it was caught early enough then he would of stood a chance, but he was just like many men and didn't go for checks and left it until the last minute.
there are no excuses not to check.
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Momma Bear
4,525 posts
Location: Telford, Shrops, United Kingdom
Momma Bear
4,525 posts
Location: Telford, Shrops, United Kingdom
Posted:
Aimee, they will send you a letter when you need to get one done, probably when you are 18
and yep, it's the wonderful disposable plastic speculums.
I was quite tempted to ask if I could take mine home with me as a souvenir!
Aimee, they will send you a letter when you need to get one done, probably when you are 18
and yep, it's the wonderful disposable plastic speculums.
I was quite tempted to ask if I could take mine home with me
as a souvenir! Hoppers are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.
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enthusiast
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Location: Bradford *rolls eyes*, United Kingdom
enthusiast
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Location: Bradford *rolls eyes*, United Kingdom
Posted:
see, i am worried now, because - yes i probably do need to go for one (and admitedly feel much better about it after reading this) but i am nearly 20 and i've never had a letter letting me know i need to go for one... i've thought about it randomly but never done anything about it. i was going to ask my mum, but our family is not very open about that kind of thing AT ALL.
Thank you, i shall try to make an appointment soon!
see, i am worried now, because - yes i probably do need to go for one (and admitedly feel much better about it after reading this) but i am nearly 20 and i've never had a letter letting me know i need to go for one... i've thought about it randomly but never done anything about it. i was going to ask my mum, but our family is not very open about that kind of thing AT ALL.
Thank you, i shall try to make an appointment soon!
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Momma Bear
4,525 posts
Location: Telford, Shrops, United Kingdom
Momma Bear
4,525 posts
Location: Telford, Shrops, United Kingdom
Posted:
toobie, some docs surgeries are better than others.
I suggest, get an appointment and get it out the way, that way you dont have to worry about it for another 3 years
toobie, some docs surgeries are better than others.
I suggest, get an appointment and get it out the way, that way you dont have to worry about it for another 3 years
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NYC
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Location: NYC, NY, USA
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Location: NYC, NY, USA
Posted:
I think finding a doctor you trust and feel comfortable with is really important. It's even more important to do that when you're heathy so that if things take a turn for the worse you've got somebody you like.
I think it's sad (but totally understandable) that people put up with doctors that they don't really like becuase that's the first one that would see them. I did it for a bit but now I've got a guy I like and it makes a huge difference.
Actually, I think it's more finding a doctor that goes with your personality. I tend to under react so if I actually make it to the doctor it means that there's something wrong. The doctor that I've got now totally overreacts which is perfect. He'll have me running 20 tests and gives me samples of stuff to try the second I walk in the door. Someone who overreacts (like some of my family members) just need a guy who says "you're not going to die, come back if it gets worse."
I think finding a doctor you trust and feel comfortable with is really important. It's even more important to do that when you're heathy so that if things take a turn for the worse you've got somebody you like.
I think it's sad (but totally understandable) that people put up with doctors that they don't really like becuase that's the first one that would see them. I did it for a bit but now I've got a guy I like and it makes a huge difference.
Actually, I think it's more finding a doctor that goes with your personality. I tend to under react so if I actually make it to the doctor it means that there's something wrong. The doctor that I've got now totally overreacts which is perfect. He'll have me running 20 tests and gives me samples of stuff to try the second I walk in the door. Someone who overreacts (like some of my family members) just need a guy who says "you're not going to die, come back if it gets worse."
Well, shall we go?
Yes, let's go.
[They do not move.]
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old hand
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Posted:
I don't want to put anyone off because they are really important and I still go and get them done every 3 years, but my first experience of a smear test was rather unpleasant, mainly because I had no clue what a speculum was supposed to look like and was expecting it to be like some kind of extra-long cotton bud rather than a large metal contraption
I'd asked for a female nurse to do it for me instead of my regular doctor, but unfortunately it looked like it was the first time she'd done one, so my usual male doctor had to come supervise her and I had both of them poking about down there with him giving her verbal instructions! And the speculum was cold, and of the old-fashioned metal variety!
But as I said, smear tests are really important and shouldn't be put off!
I don't want to put anyone off because they are really important and I still go and get them done every 3 years, but my first experience of a smear test was rather unpleasant, mainly because I had no clue what a speculum was supposed to look like and was expecting it to be like some kind of extra-long cotton bud rather than a large metal contraption
I'd asked for a female nurse to do it for me instead of my regular doctor, but unfortunately it looked like it was the first time she'd done one, so my usual male doctor had to come supervise her and I had both of them poking about down there with him giving her verbal instructions! And the speculum was cold, and of the old-fashioned metal variety!
But as I said, smear tests are really important and shouldn't be put off!
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Miss Whippy
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Location: Cornwall & Oxford
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Location: Cornwall & Oxford
Posted:
I've also never had a letter letting me know i need one done and i'm 20. Oh well, i'll book myself in at some point.
For some reason, i don't know why, but i always prefer having a male doctor do anything. I've had breast exams and requested a male doctor because it makes me feel more comfortable. It's all personal preference, if you don't like a doctor or nurse it's easy to change.
I've also never had a letter letting me know i need one done and i'm 20. Oh well, i'll book myself in at some point.
For some reason, i don't know why, but i always prefer having a male doctor do anything. I've had breast exams and requested a male doctor because it makes me feel more comfortable. It's all personal preference, if you don't like a doctor or nurse it's easy to change.
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Posted:
You're 20!!!!
I always thought you were much older than me!
You're 20!!!!
I always thought you were much older than me!
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Pooh-Bah
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Location: london, United Kingdom
Pooh-Bah
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Posted:
Im 22 and havent had a letter yet, I will put it on my to do list
I suppose women tend to prefer women doctors or nurses simply because they have experienced girly problems themselves and havent just read it in a book, I'm sure its not different for a lot of men wanting to be seen by the same sex, am I right ?
Im 22 and havent had a letter yet, I will put it on my to do list
I suppose women tend to prefer women doctors or nurses simply because they have experienced girly problems themselves and havent just read it in a book, I'm sure its not different for a lot of men wanting to be seen by the same sex, am I right ?
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Location: Wales
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*poke* *poke* *poke* Mr CoF.... Go get a check up!
*poke* *poke* *poke* Mr CoF.... Go get a check up!
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I'm not quite sure whether I got ya point, Jem - but nope... the majority of urologists I heard of are gay and even though I do not mind much - I would have a problem with the attitude they put on me... It was with the guy I told ya about - since then I had not visited any other and would even prefer a female doctor over one of my own gender.
Please spare me the usual "latent homosexual"-theory, okay? Lived in a gay community for about 1.5 years - great guys, good fun, very sophisticated, best parties ever - but not my cup of tea when it comes to jump the sheets
Sort of wonder how girls reflect on the subject (other/ own gender doctors)? Wouldn"t it be horrible to meet the cutest doc ever, have him between your legs and he sees nothing but a patient in you?
I'm not quite sure whether I got ya point, Jem - but nope... the majority of urologists I heard of are gay and even though I do not mind much - I would have a problem with the attitude they put on me... It was with the guy I told ya about - since then I had not visited any other and would even prefer a female doctor over one of my own gender.Please spare me the usual "latent homosexual"-theory, okay? Lived in a gay community for about 1.5 years - great guys, good fun, very sophisticated, best parties ever - but not my cup of tea when it comes to jump the sheets
Sort of wonder how girls reflect on the subject (other/ own gender doctors)? Wouldn"t it be horrible to meet the cutest doc ever, have him between your legs and he sees nothing but a patient in you?
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Location: South Wales
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Skully: Its a bit hard to seeing as im in Australia.
Take me when I return! 
Skully: Its a bit hard to seeing as im in Australia.
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had her carpal tunnel surgery already thanks v much
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Location: Edinburgh, Scotland (UK)
Posted:
I'm really not bothered about whether it's a man, woman, hot, pig-ugly or whatever. But then I can separate between sex and a check-up. I mean, it's the same as having a really cute waiter, he probably sees nothing but a customer in me, and whether someone brings me a drink or takes a blood sample or does a smear test or analyses my urine sample, it's their job.
I'm really not bothered about whether it's a man, woman, hot, pig-ugly or whatever. But then I can separate between sex and a check-up. I mean, it's the same as having a really cute waiter, he probably sees nothing but a customer in me, and whether someone brings me a drink or takes a blood sample or does a smear test or analyses my urine sample, it's their job.
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Pooh-Bah
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Pooh-Bah
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Posted:
Wow, it's usually recommended in the states that you have a pap smear every year. I got my first one when I was 16. My mother decided it was time I started to see a gyno, so she brought me to hers for my very first visit. Seeing a man wasn't a problem for me at all - it's who my mother saw, so I just thought it was normal. He knew it was my very first one, so he made sure to explain every step of the process, and also made sure there was a female nurse in the room with him so I didn't feel uncomfortable (I think it's a law now that a female has to be present in the room if the person doing the pap is a male).
I've since had many, many paps over the years. Some by males, some by females. It doesn't bother me at all which actually does it.
Also of note is that you need to get them done more frequently if you have an abnormal one. That's just to make sure that nothing cancerous is occuring, and if you have 2 abnormals in a row, you may need further inspection.
Wow, it's usually recommended in the states that you have a pap smear every year. I got my first one when I was 16. My mother decided it was time I started to see a gyno, so she brought me to hers for my very first visit. Seeing a man wasn't a problem for me at all - it's who my mother saw, so I just thought it was normal. He knew it was my very first one, so he made sure to explain every step of the process, and also made sure there was a female nurse in the room with him so I didn't feel uncomfortable (I think it's a law now that a female has to be present in the room if the person doing the pap is a male).
I've since had many, many paps over the years. Some by males, some by females. It doesn't bother me at all which actually does it.
Also of note is that you need to get them done more frequently if you have an abnormal one. That's just to make sure that nothing cancerous is occuring, and if you have 2 abnormals in a row, you may need further inspection.
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I generally find the women are a bit more thoughtful in the details of how they approach my gynecological examination. Remembering to warm the speculum, describing what they intend to do, cautioning if they think they think it might be momentarily painful, easing fears and addressing concerns, whatever... Communicative, probably cause they have felt the sensations themselves and know how to describe the procedeure from both sides.
But a pap smear is so straight forward a procedure that I would not care man or woman. There is nothing to it, over and done in a minute. I too have had it done every three months for a few years, and mostly, the only bothersome bit is the trip to the doctors office and the wait to get in!
If I found my gynecologist attractive, I would immediately get a new doctor.I would want to keep those expereinces separate, even in my mind; medical and sexual.
I generally find the women are a bit more thoughtful in the details of how they approach my gynecological examination. Remembering to warm the speculum, describing what they intend to do, cautioning if they think they think it might be momentarily painful, easing fears and addressing concerns, whatever... Communicative, probably cause they have felt the sensations themselves and know how to describe the procedeure from both sides.
But a pap smear is so straight forward a procedure that I would not care man or woman. There is nothing to it, over and done in a minute. I too have had it done every three months for a few years, and mostly, the only bothersome bit is the trip to the doctors office and the wait to get in!
If I found my gynecologist attractive, I would immediately get a new doctor.I would want to keep those expereinces separate, even in my mind; medical and sexual.
"God *was* my co-pilot, but then we crashed, and I had to eat him..."
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I can only assure you all that we enjoy doing them about as much as you enjoy getting them. I've obviously never had one, but I've heard it compared to a trip to the dentist in how unpleasant it is. Not so bad. You owe it to yourselves to come in once a year once you are sexually active.
Like I say, nobody I know gets the least bit of pleasure or enjoyment out of doing them other than the simple pleasure of having successfully completed a medical procedure.
I don't particularly enjoy doing GU exams on male patients, either...
I can only assure you all that we enjoy doing them about as much as you enjoy getting them. I've obviously never had one, but I've heard it compared to a trip to the dentist in how unpleasant it is. Not so bad. You owe it to yourselves to come in once a year once you are sexually active.
Like I say, nobody I know gets the least bit of pleasure or enjoyment out of doing them other than the simple pleasure of having successfully completed a medical procedure.
I don't particularly enjoy doing GU exams on male patients, either...
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Yeah, I always have had some sympathy for the poor doctors and nurses out there! I can't imagine getting up some day when I feel a bit pissy or under the weather, and oh joy, having to go do that... My doctor and I share a slightly twisted humour, so we usually make sarcastic comments at each other and laugh to lighten the experience.
Ah well, it serves us well in the end! There is nothing to be shy about. It is odd that so manyof us are!
One time a friend went in for her first pelvic exam, when she was in her mid- twenties. She was very very shy and nervous about the whole thing. Had never even looked at her genitals, and never had anyone touch her there... I had convinced her how important it was ( she was getting some problems with severe cramping) so she bravely went.
Later she told me she was lying on the table,eyes shut, just breathing through it, but thinking, man, this is taking too long. What is that guy up to down there? Am I being molested?! But no, there is a nurse here, it must be normal.
So she opens her eyes, and can see he has a rather perturbed look on his face, and is poking sort of here, then there, on her lower abdomen. She asks what he is looking for.?! He kind of blurts out: "Not anything to worry about I am sure, but, er, uhmn... well, you don't seem to have your uterus in the usual place, I am having a hard time finding it! "
After a moment of shock, she quickly quips: "That old thing? Well, no one told me I would be needing it today, so I left it at home..." and they all totally cracked up.
Apparently her uterus is tipped the other way within the pelvis- so the doctor could not feel it where he expected it to be!He was a new doctor, just out of school, so had not seen anyone with that placement yet...
Yeah, I always have had some sympathy for the poor doctors and nurses out there!
I can't imagine getting up some day when I feel a bit pissy or under the weather, and oh joy, having to go do that... My doctor and I share a slightly twisted humour, so we usually make sarcastic comments at each other and laugh to lighten the experience.Ah well, it serves us well in the end! There is nothing to be shy about. It is odd that so manyof us are!
One time a friend went in for her first pelvic exam, when she was in her mid- twenties. She was very very shy and nervous about the whole thing. Had never even looked at her genitals, and never had anyone touch her there... I had convinced her how important it was ( she was getting some problems with severe cramping) so she bravely went.
Later she told me she was lying on the table,eyes shut, just breathing through it, but thinking, man, this is taking too long. What is that guy up to down there? Am I being molested?! But no, there is a nurse here, it must be normal.
So she opens her eyes, and can see he has a rather perturbed look on his face, and is poking sort of here, then there, on her lower abdomen. She asks what he is looking for.?! He kind of blurts out: "Not anything to worry about I am sure, but, er, uhmn... well, you don't seem to have your uterus in the usual place, I am having a hard time finding it! "
After a moment of shock, she quickly quips: "That old thing? Well, no one told me I would be needing it today, so I left it at home..." and they all totally cracked up.
Apparently her uterus is tipped the other way within the pelvis- so the doctor could not feel it where he expected it to be!He was a new doctor, just out of school, so had not seen anyone with that placement yet...
"God *was* my co-pilot, but then we crashed, and I had to eat him..."
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