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My brother came back from the pub (drunk as a skunk) while I was outside having a practice with my fire poi unlit, im much better with them when there not on fire, for some reason as soon as there lit I forget nearly everything I can do with them I have to concentrate really hard to remember to do much.
Anyway I was having a practice one night just outside our house in the driveway, when he came by and stoped to look at my spinning, and he asked me if I was gay. So I said what makes you ask that? He told me he had looked through my phone and saw my messages to chris (who actually upset me abit, chris found a boyfriend 4 days after I had a little 'date' with him, 4 days and he calls this new lad a boyfriend?! What the hell was I chopped liver, why did you kiss me goodbye like that then you bugger? I never asked him though)
Anywhoo after chris' betrayal (
lol I laugh about it now) we havnt talked much since then but I kept his text messages because I forgot too empty my inbox. I think roberts seen my phone more than he let on so' hes probably known for longer but that night he said something. Anyway I knew he knew that I knew that he knew, so I said I am yeah, I would have never have told him though if he hadnt asked, me and robert dont get along we'ere not so much brothers as housemates basicly ( well before he moved out), which is actually pretty much the same story with my parents.
Im abit annoyed at him because im sure I heard my brother through the walls of my room tell mum 'yeah your right he is gay I asked, but if you say anything I never told you'. Ide told my brother not to tell mum and dad that night when he asked because I dont want someone else outing me.
Guess I have to wait and see, I'll know when mum says something. If I find out she did ask robert to ask im gonna be really pissed off.
My brother came back from the pub (drunk as a skunk) while I was outside having a practice with my fire poi unlit, im much better with them when there not on fire, for some reason as soon as there lit I forget nearly everything I can do with them I have to concentrate really hard to remember to do much.
Anyway I was having a practice one night just outside our house in the driveway, when he came by and stoped to look at my spinning, and he asked me if I was gay. So I said what makes you ask that? He told me he had looked through my phone and saw my messages to chris (who actually upset me abit, chris found a boyfriend 4 days after I had a little 'date' with him, 4 days and he calls this new lad a boyfriend?! What the hell was I chopped liver, why did you kiss me goodbye like that then you bugger? I never asked him though)
Anywhoo after chris' betrayal (
lol I laugh about it now) we havnt talked much since then but I kept his text messages because I forgot too empty my inbox. I think roberts seen my phone more than he let on so' hes probably known for longer but that night he said something. Anyway I knew he knew that I knew that he knew, so I said I am yeah, I would have never have told him though if he hadnt asked, me and robert dont get along we'ere not so much brothers as housemates basicly ( well before he moved out), which is actually pretty much the same story with my parents.Im abit annoyed at him because im sure I heard my brother through the walls of my room tell mum 'yeah your right he is gay I asked, but if you say anything I never told you'. Ide told my brother not to tell mum and dad that night when he asked because I dont want someone else outing me.
Guess I have to wait and see, I'll know when mum says something. If I find out she did ask robert to ask im gonna be really pissed off.
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*hugs* comeing out it hard but you feel good afterwards atleast. Meassage me on myspace and or here if you need ot talk/get stuff off yer chest.
*hugs* comeing out it hard but you feel good afterwards atleast. Meassage me on myspace and or here if you need ot talk/get stuff off yer chest.
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Good luck!!!! I'm Bi and have come out to everyone but my family and I know its hard. I personally dont know if I ever can, because of fear of being shunned from the family. I hope it goes well for you .....If you think they already know maybe its time to come out because it may go over better if they hear it from you instead of them hunting out information and them feeling you've lied to them. I wish you the best!!! 
Good luck!!!! I'm Bi and have come out to everyone but my family and I know its hard. I personally dont know if I ever can, because of fear of being shunned from the family. I hope it goes well for you .....If you think they already know maybe its time to come out because it may go over better if they hear it from you instead of them hunting out information and them feeling you've lied to them. I wish you the best!!! My ADD makes it so that.....Ooooo SHINY.....wanna go ride bikes....wait....where am I.....
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Posted:
It's funny how family can react. My cousins father is a priest, but when he (the cousin, not the father) came out of the closet the family was sort of cool about it. A lot a prayer started flying around everwhere but they didn't shun him or anything.
Personally I would rather have my child (if I had any) tell me than hearing through the grape vine.
It's funny how family can react. My cousins father is a priest, but when he (the cousin, not the father) came out of the closet the family was sort of cool about it. A lot a prayer started flying around everwhere but they didn't shun him or anything.
Personally I would rather have my child (if I had any) tell me than hearing through the grape vine.
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Posted:
I came out as bi-sexual to pretty much everybody apart from my family.
About a week after I did this my little sister came up to me and asked if she could have a talk. She started crying said "I'm bi-sexual".
She then went on to tell how she told one of her 'friends' in confidance and now the whole school is running around calling her a dirty fat lesbian
I told her that I was too, and so was our cousin Katrina, and we made a joke about it running in the family
We're going to tell mum together, when we're a bit older. I would have told her sooner, but now that lulu has come out as well, I don't want it to seem like lucy is 'copying' me - which mum will think she is doing.
As for dad? When he slows down in the car to look at a hot woman I look too
All families act different, although you should talk to them. Ask your mum specifically if she asked your brother to do her dirty work for her, and say if she has a question for you, she can ask it to your face!
The way you flounce around on here I'm sure you will have no problem having the confidance to say 'I am gay'.
All the best
I came out as bi-sexual to pretty much everybody apart from my family.
About a week after I did this my little sister came up to me and asked if she could have a talk. She started crying said "I'm bi-sexual".
She then went on to tell how she told one of her 'friends' in confidance and now the whole school is running around calling her a dirty fat lesbian
I told her that I was too, and so was our cousin Katrina, and we made a joke about it running in the family
We're going to tell mum together, when we're a bit older. I would have told her sooner, but now that lulu has come out as well, I don't want it to seem like lucy is 'copying' me - which mum will think she is doing.
As for dad? When he slows down in the car to look at a hot woman I look too
All families act different, although you should talk to them. Ask your mum specifically if she asked your brother to do her dirty work for her, and say if she has a question for you, she can ask it to your face!
The way you flounce around on here I'm sure you will have no problem having the confidance to say 'I am gay'.
All the best
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lol aw thanks guys for the kind words and advice and everything, I'll have to think about what im going to do next but I will come back here and write how things turn out.
lol aw thanks guys for the kind words and advice and everything, I'll have to think about what im going to do next but I will come back here and write how things turn out.
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Posted:
It took me a long time to come out to my friends that I am bi. When I did they just said OK, and nothing else has really been mentioned.
Sometimes the reaction can be alot better then you are expecting. My mates certainly surprised me.
Have to admit though I haven't told my parents. I always said I would if I was ever started to feel serious about a woman. But it was a man that I ended up falling in love with so never got to cross that bridge.
I think it is slightly different for bi, but I still wish you all the best, good luck sweety
It took me a long time to come out to my friends that I am bi. When I did they just said OK, and nothing else has really been mentioned.
Sometimes the reaction can be alot better then you are expecting. My mates certainly surprised me.
Have to admit though I haven't told my parents. I always said I would if I was ever started to feel serious about a woman. But it was a man that I ended up falling in love with so never got to cross that bridge.
I think it is slightly different for bi, but I still wish you all the best, good luck sweety
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Ooooooh look, an elephant!
*pets the elephant*
good luck brit joe! families are weird anyway. you never can tell what upsets them most and what doesn't.
Ooooooh look, an elephant!
*pets the elephant*
good luck brit joe! families are weird anyway. you never can tell what upsets them most and what doesn't.
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Put a closet in your living room, then half way through the evening when you parents are watching tv, come out.
Put a closet in your living room, then half way through the evening when you parents are watching tv, come out.
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My parents kinda guessed mainly due to:
- Me being a weirdo (in their eyes)
- not having a girlfriend.
And it came out during arguments with each of them aged 22 and 24 respectively. Still don't really get on with my dad but it was like that before the coming out. Mum saves she still loves me and, god bless her, tries her best but I try not to refer to it as I know she still holds out hope that I will 'turn back'. That and my love life is such a mess that I don't want to burden them with that. (Actually it's to avoid more comments in the vein of 'I told you so')
I can attribute it to more of a culture clash so I hope your coming out will prove more positive. You coming out at 18 will probably be better in the long run as the earlier they accept it, the more you don't have to live a lie with them.
My parents kinda guessed mainly due to:
- Me being a weirdo (in their eyes)
- not having a girlfriend.
And it came out during arguments with each of them aged 22 and 24 respectively. Still don't really get on with my dad but it was like that before the coming out. Mum saves she still loves me and, god bless her, tries her best but I try not to refer to it as I know she still holds out hope that I will 'turn back'. That and my love life is such a mess that I don't want to burden them with that. (Actually it's to avoid more comments in the vein of 'I told you so')
I can attribute it to more of a culture clash so I hope your coming out will prove more positive. You coming out at 18 will probably be better in the long run as the earlier they accept it, the more you don't have to live a lie with them.
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Hi Sweetie. Sorry you're having a tough time. Have another hug
Well done for telling your brother, that was brave.
PM/instant message (drboo@hotmail.co.uk) me if you want to chat or rant.
Hi Sweetie. Sorry you're having a tough time. Have another hug
Well done for telling your brother, that was brave.
PM/instant message (drboo@hotmail.co.uk) me if you want to chat or rant.
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You should make it fun. Tomorrow dress as gay as possible. Walk into the room and be fabulously flamboyant. Kiss your parents on both cheeks and say "Good bye everyone, Im off to dance class!" then leave the room with a skip.
You should make it fun. Tomorrow dress as gay as possible. Walk into the room and be fabulously flamboyant. Kiss your parents on both cheeks and say "Good bye everyone, Im off to dance class!" then leave the room with a skip.
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I did have a plan when I was younger and didn't get on at all with my parents was to wait until I was rich, successful and living with a long term partner, invite them round and spring it upon them, lay the blame on them as they didn't let me have a girlfriend when I was younger and plus their predeliction for rude penis-jokes.
Obviously I've changed my tune as they sprung it on me (well, not as if I can play the same trick twice!)
Plus the last thing you wanna do is make them feel guilty if you want them to be understanding of the fact it wasn't their fault.
I did have a plan when I was younger and didn't get on at all with my parents was to wait until I was rich, successful and living with a long term partner, invite them round and spring it upon them, lay the blame on them as they didn't let me have a girlfriend when I was younger and plus their predeliction for rude penis-jokes.
Obviously I've changed my tune as they sprung it on me (well, not as if I can play the same trick twice!)
Plus the last thing you wanna do is make them feel guilty if you want them to be understanding of the fact it wasn't their fault.
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hard stuff.
gonna happen somehow.
be strong.
T
hard stuff.
gonna happen somehow.
be strong.
T
This is a post by tom, all spelling is deleberate
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Good luck with everything with your family. I came out to my parents when I was 18 or 19 and it was one of the hardest things that I have done. I told my mom first and she took it well (though there were some tears) and then I told my dad. He surprised the hell out of me by handling it even better than my mom did. It was such a huge relief to have it out in the open. Only then did I realize just how freaking exhausting it was to hide it. My relationship with my parents was 200% closer & stronger from that point on.
So, even though things might be tough for a while, hopefully they'll get a lot better afterwards. As otheres have said, feel free to PM me if you wanna chat about anything.
Good luck with everything with your family. I came out to my parents when I was 18 or 19 and it was one of the hardest things that I have done. I told my mom first and she took it well (though there were some tears) and then I told my dad. He surprised the hell out of me by handling it even better than my mom did. It was such a huge relief to have it out in the open. Only then did I realize just how freaking exhausting it was to hide it. My relationship with my parents was 200% closer & stronger from that point on.
So, even though things might be tough for a while, hopefully they'll get a lot better afterwards. As otheres have said, feel free to PM me if you wanna chat about anything.
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aww Joe, sorry to hear this.
my friend's older brother is gay, when his parents found out his mum was fine but his dad went mental.
He's the only son in the family and his dad was like "who's going to carry on our surname?" !!
He and his dad were really close, but his dad started ignoring him and even said "i have no son" he was really ashamed.
After about a month of acting like a total psycho, his dad finally came round, and has even let his son's boyfriend move in.
It's now been over a year, and Alex and his boyfriend Graeme still live with Alex's folks and they're happy as anything.
what i'm saying is, expect your folks to react badly, it might be a shock, but remember that you're their son and they love you.
good luck fella
aww Joe, sorry to hear this.
my friend's older brother is gay, when his parents found out his mum was fine but his dad went mental.
He's the only son in the family and his dad was like "who's going to carry on our surname?" !!
He and his dad were really close, but his dad started ignoring him and even said "i have no son" he was really ashamed.
After about a month of acting like a total psycho, his dad finally came round, and has even let his son's boyfriend move in.
It's now been over a year, and Alex and his boyfriend Graeme still live with Alex's folks and they're happy as anything.
what i'm saying is, expect your folks to react badly, it might be a shock, but remember that you're their son and they love you.
good luck fella
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I thought you had already come out to them joe?
Coming out is always hard, I guess, but its hardest for the family since they are the ones that when you grow up imagine your future, they imagine your wedding day, they imagine having grandchildren etc, they are often less understanding than friends.
P.S. Dave if I didnt know you were gay I certainly wouldnt have guessed it from hanging out with out you
I thought you had already come out to them joe?
Coming out is always hard, I guess, but its hardest for the family since they are the ones that when you grow up imagine your future, they imagine your wedding day, they imagine having grandchildren etc, they are often less understanding than friends.
P.S. Dave if I didnt know you were gay I certainly wouldnt have guessed it from hanging out with out you
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Well, the good news is now you don't have to fret over how you're going to do it...
Well, the good news is now you don't have to fret over how you're going to do it...
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That sucks Joe, I can really imagine this is something you want to tell your family when YOU are ready..... but on the brighter side, neither your brother nor your mother have freaked out - maybe you should just have 'the talk' with your parents now?
On a related but different issue... what is your brother doing snooping around your phone anyway!?
Neon, I had to read that sentence about three times before I decided you weren't saying your parents were 22 and 24 when you came out
That sucks Joe, I can really imagine this is something you want to tell your family when YOU are ready..... but on the brighter side, neither your brother nor your mother have freaked out - maybe you should just have 'the talk' with your parents now?On a related but different issue... what is your brother doing snooping around your phone anyway!?
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And it came out during arguments with each of them aged 22 and 24 respectively
Neon, I had to read that sentence about three times before I decided you weren't saying your parents were 22 and 24 when you came out
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no Nephtys, I meant that I came out to them at different times, to my mum when I was 22 and to my dad at 24. She thought it unwise to tell him.
Actually I'm not sure if they know that the other knows...
(we don't talk that much)
no Nephtys, I meant that I came out to them at different times, to my mum when I was 22 and to my dad at 24. She thought it unwise to tell him.
Actually I'm not sure if they know that the other knows...
(we don't talk that much)
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yep, i figureed that out after read three in my defense, its been a very, very, very long day!
yep, i figureed that out after read three in my defense, its been a very, very, very long day! everyone's unique except me
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hmmm, i haven't told my dad yet...i'm not sure that i ever will. as it is i have a boyfirend atm so he's not gonna notice anything. i don't think he'd be angry, i just think it doesn't really fit in with his world view. i think he'd be more confused than anything, he just wouldn't understand me. plus he's catholic although very accepting - i guess i just don't know what he'd say!
the rest of my family all know though, and i feel a bit guilty that he's the only one having something kept from him.
it's so tricky, but like someone else said up there - if your mum was angry or realy worried then wouldn't she have said something by now? i know it's traumatic, but it's really worth getting it out in the open i think - it'll take a big weight off your mind.
hmmm, i haven't told my dad yet...i'm not sure that i ever will. as it is i have a boyfirend atm so he's not gonna notice anything. i don't think he'd be angry, i just think it doesn't really fit in with his world view. i think he'd be more confused than anything, he just wouldn't understand me. plus he's catholic although very accepting - i guess i just don't know what he'd say!
the rest of my family all know though, and i feel a bit guilty that he's the only one having something kept from him.
it's so tricky, but like someone else said up there - if your mum was angry or realy worried then wouldn't she have said something by now? i know it's traumatic, but it's really worth getting it out in the open i think - it'll take a big weight off your mind.
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Written by: PyroWillThus spake the voice of experience....
Coming out is always hard,
Meh
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Tao
Surely if you come out while you're still with him, he'll take it as a compliment that with your WIDE tastes, you chose HIM...
I know its very easy for me to say something like that but when it comes down to it - its a matter of trust. Do you love him enough to tell him everything about yourself? And does he love you enough to have that not matter to him in the position you're both in together now?
As I say its not for me to dictate what to do as everyone has differing circumstances but that's just my thought on the matter.
P.S. From experience all my male friends with bisexual girlfriends have been happy about it!
Tao
Surely if you come out while you're still with him, he'll take it as a compliment that with your WIDE tastes, you chose HIM...
I know its very easy for me to say something like that but when it comes down to it - its a matter of trust. Do you love him enough to tell him everything about yourself? And does he love you enough to have that not matter to him in the position you're both in together now?
As I say its not for me to dictate what to do as everyone has differing circumstances but that's just my thought on the matter.
P.S. From experience all my male friends with bisexual girlfriends have been happy about it!
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lol
Oh he has absoulutly no respect for his own or anyone elses things. One of the many reasons we dont get along.
Hmm I know I need to ust be out with it, I know my mum knows I mean come on I am 19 ive never ad a gf and ive been really sneaky recently (seeing boyfriends and all). I tend to put things off for too long so Im still thinking on how/when to do it
, I will post it up once Ive done it with how it went.
lol
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On a related but different issue... what is your brother doing snooping around your phone anyway!?
Oh he has absoulutly no respect for his own or anyone elses things. One of the many reasons we dont get along.
Hmm I know I need to ust be out with it, I know my mum knows I mean come on I am 19 ive never ad a gf and ive been really sneaky recently (seeing boyfriends and all). I tend to put things off for too long so Im still thinking on how/when to do it
, I will post it up once Ive done it with how it went. Chief adviser to the Pharaoh, in one very snazzy mutli-coloured coat
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no my boyfriend knows! he thinks it's great
i's my dad that doesn't....lol
no my boyfriend knows! he thinks it's great
i's my dad that doesn't....lol
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Hmmm sorry!
Misreading posts seems to be quite contagious on this thread! Apologises Tao!
What's that? That's the sound of my soap box falling to pieces under my feet!
And Joe, don't assume anything. For all you know, your mum might think you're out doing drugs with your drug-dealing Chav girlfriend/mistress (in which case you coming out would be a sigh of relief).
If all else fails, if you REALLY want her to know but can't bring yourself to tell her, leave a REALLY gay CD out somewhere 'by mistake' (say, Barbara Streisand) and let her come to you!
Hmmm sorry!
Misreading posts seems to be quite contagious on this thread! Apologises Tao!
What's that? That's the sound of my soap box falling to pieces under my feet!
And Joe, don't assume anything. For all you know, your mum might think you're out doing drugs with your drug-dealing Chav girlfriend/mistress (in which case you coming out would be a sigh of relief).
If all else fails, if you REALLY want her to know but can't bring yourself to tell her, leave a REALLY gay CD out somewhere 'by mistake' (say, Barbara Streisand) and let her come to you!
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Location: without class distinction, Australia
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13,215 posts
Location: without class distinction, Australia
Posted:
Drop hints so they get the idea, and then let them figure it out for themselves?
Drop hints so they get the idea, and then let them figure it out for themselves?
i would have changed ***** to phallus, and claire to petey Petey
Rougie: but that's what I'm doing here
Arnwyn: what letting me adjust myself in your room?..don't you dare quote that on HoP...
GOLD Member
What a Bummer
3,224 posts
Location: Shatfield, Hertfordshire, United Kingdom
What a Bummer
3,224 posts
Location: Shatfield, Hertfordshire, United Kingdom
Posted:
Ah Joe, thats
...
I was kinda forced out the closet with my parents, cos of stuff, but my sister kept my secret for ages. Well I hope all goes well when you finally tell em, and I say now, altho they've been told by someone else, it always hits home when it comes from you.
But good luck, my dad was wikid it was my psycohtic mother that did my head in
Ooooh, and as suggestions on how to do it... walk into the front room (dressed in a ballet suit, preferably leotard and tutu) with a ghetto blaster ready to play Amerie - I'm coming out....
[Lyrics incase you dont know the song]
Then dance flashdance styleeeee and they might get the Idea
Ah Joe, thats
...I was kinda forced out the closet with my parents, cos of stuff, but my sister kept my secret for ages. Well I hope all goes well when you finally tell em, and I say now, altho they've been told by someone else, it always hits home when it comes from you.
But good luck, my dad was wikid
it was my psycohtic mother that did my head in Ooooh, and as suggestions on how to do it... walk into the front room (dressed in a ballet suit, preferably leotard and tutu) with a ghetto blaster ready to play Amerie - I'm coming out....
[Lyrics incase you dont know the song]
Then dance flashdance styleeeee and they might get the Idea
SILVER Member
old hand
768 posts
Location: San Francisco, California, USA
old hand
768 posts
Location: San Francisco, California, USA
Posted:
oh big hugs to you puppy!!
sending you strength!
**wiggles figures in the general direction of England**
I am from San Francisco, land of the fairy godmothers, so my magic works ya know.
As far as coming out outfits, I'd suggest chaps. Leather chaps, no shirt, and a boa. That'll telegraph the punch alright. (you could perhaps replace the chaps with Asena's tutu idea, but skip the leotard and still go topless. keep the boa.)
Seriously though, better to tell them directly and intentionally, and on your terms. My coming out was blurted out in the middle of an argument, on Christmas Day. Definitely not optimal.
Be brave!!
oh big hugs to you puppy!!
sending you strength!
**wiggles figures in the general direction of England**
I am from San Francisco, land of the fairy godmothers, so my magic works ya know.
As far as coming out outfits, I'd suggest chaps. Leather chaps, no shirt, and a boa. That'll telegraph the punch alright. (you could perhaps replace the chaps with Asena's tutu idea, but skip the leotard and still go topless. keep the boa.)
Seriously though, better to tell them directly and intentionally, and on your terms. My coming out was blurted out in the middle of an argument, on Christmas Day. Definitely not optimal.
Be brave!!
taken out of context i must seem so strange
~ ani di franco
Dreamer
4,308 posts
Location: York, England
4,308 posts
Location: York, England
Posted:
You know I may be the only person in the world who doesn't want to come out to my (mother) because she's a lesbian and she'll think she's *won* or something? Well, half-won, but it'll look like a win to her. (And not too terribly much different to myself, in my estimation...)
Surely since she knows, tho, joe, no more point in stressing about her knowing?
You know I may be the only person in the world who doesn't want to come out to my (mother) because she's a lesbian and she'll think she's *won* or something? Well, half-won, but it'll look like a win to her. (And not too terribly much different to myself, in my estimation...)
Surely since she knows, tho, joe, no more point in stressing about her knowing?
Keep your dream alive
Dreamin is still how the strong survive
Shalom VeAhavah
New Hampshire has a point....
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