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Pooh-Bah
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Pooh-Bah
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I'm not an outwardly aggressive person, yet I do have quite a bad temper at times. I often feel angry or annoyed by very small, very insignificant things which seem like a big deal at the time.
I obviously don't like this at all and I wonder if any of you guys have tips for venting your anger, frustration or aggression in a non-harmful way? Or perhaps another way of dealing with things.
I think at my heart I'm quite a bad-tempered person so I know the aggression will keep coming - I'd rather be able to.. I don't know, do something to it than let it just sit inside of me until it either comes out (never good) or gets pushed down.
I'm not an outwardly aggressive person, yet I do have quite a bad temper at times. I often feel angry or annoyed by very small, very insignificant things which seem like a big deal at the time.
I obviously don't like this at all and I wonder if any of you guys have tips for venting your anger, frustration or aggression in a non-harmful way? Or perhaps another way of dealing with things.
I think at my heart I'm quite a bad-tempered person so I know the aggression will keep coming - I'd rather be able to.. I don't know, do something to it than let it just sit inside of me until it either comes out (never good) or gets pushed down.
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Pooh-Bah
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Pooh-Bah
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Posted:
Do you get annoyed at something another person does/says to you? If that's the case, maybe try looking at things from their perspective and think through how they may have meant what they did/said. It might not always be as bad as you think.
Do you get annoyed at something another person does/says to you? If that's the case, maybe try looking at things from their perspective and think through how they may have meant what they did/said. It might not always be as bad as you think.
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Pooh-Bah
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Pooh-Bah
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The thing is, that on reflection I can see that I'm getting annoyed about nothing important, and I wouldn't expect the other people to understand most of the time. I know this is irrational so I don't vent it, but at the same time I really want to learn how not to get so angry or annoyed in the first place, and unfortunately it's not something I have direct control over. So I was wondering if anyone else had any ideas, that's all.
The thing is, that on reflection I can see that I'm getting annoyed about nothing important, and I wouldn't expect the other people to understand most of the time. I know this is irrational so I don't vent it, but at the same time I really want to learn how not to get so angry or annoyed in the first place, and unfortunately it's not something I have direct control over. So I was wondering if anyone else had any ideas, that's all.
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grumpy poorly froggy
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grumpy poorly froggy
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Posted:
i have sever personal aggression, don't know why it just happens and for no reason, so i poi or go a round on the punch bag till i am knakered
i have sever personal aggression, don't know why it just happens and for no reason, so i poi or go a round on the punch bag till i am knakered
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Posted:
find someone who likes to be spanked.
trust me, it is very therapudic.
find someone who likes to be spanked.
trust me, it is very therapudic.
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grumpy poorly froggy
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grumpy poorly froggy
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hehehe i had forgot about that
hehehe i had forgot about that
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the henna lady
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the henna lady
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Pick me! Pick me!
Sorry...tangent.
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find someone who likes to be spanked.
trust me, it is very therapudic.
Pick me! Pick me!
Sorry...tangent.
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chemical attraction
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chemical attraction
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Posted:
go see the boyfriend/girlfriend and take all your frustration out on them..
im sure they wont complain.
go see the boyfriend/girlfriend and take all your frustration out on them..
im sure they wont complain.
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Pasta of Muppets
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Pasta of Muppets
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Posted:
Oh yeah i know what you mean dude...
I break things. A lot. And beat the [censored] out of inanimate objects. Poi helps but only in a small way, once i've lost it, i have to go away for a while...
I used to throw axes at a tree stump, but I dont any more...
Used to self harm too, but i'm over that.
Think of something else if its a little mental niggle, but if its in front of you. walk away.
Oh yeah i know what you mean dude...
I break things. A lot. And beat the [censored] out of inanimate objects. Poi helps but only in a small way, once i've lost it, i have to go away for a while...
I used to throw axes at a tree stump, but I dont any more...
Used to self harm too, but i'm over that.
Think of something else if its a little mental niggle, but if its in front of you. walk away.
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Playing OldSchool Poi
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Playing OldSchool Poi
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Posted:
no no no, don't feed your agression with more agression.
how ever funny it sounds in this thread: spanking is not the solution (or punching a bag or throwing an axe).
agression is just another form over overflowing emotion and energy. find other ways to loose that energy, but ways that you enjoy doing or else it doesn't work.
for me playing in a band and just letting go of everything there really helps a lot. but some sports will do the same. or maybe just put some headphones on with your absolute favourite music of the moment and spin some poi until you drop on the floor exhausted, but with a BIG SMILE
on your face. but do this when you are alone or with your eyes closed, so you don't feel like you're being watched, this is your outlet, not a performance.
no no no, don't feed your agression with more agression.
how ever funny it sounds in this thread: spanking is not the solution (or punching a bag or throwing an axe).
agression is just another form over overflowing emotion and energy. find other ways to loose that energy, but ways that you enjoy doing or else it doesn't work.
for me playing in a band and just letting go of everything there really helps a lot. but some sports will do the same. or maybe just put some headphones on with your absolute favourite music of the moment and spin some poi until you drop on the floor exhausted, but with a BIG SMILE
on your face. but do this when you are alone or with your eyes closed, so you don't feel like you're being watched, this is your outlet, not a performance. 
eRic.
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Posted:
I have to do the classic breathing and turning away.
My temper has never been tested as often as now that I have kids.
I have to do the classic breathing and turning away.
My temper has never been tested as often as now that I have kids.
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the henna lady
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Posted:
Good lords...you know it!
Most people take years to figure out what buttons to push on me...my son was born with the knowledge. It is insane!
It depends on the anger.
P.O.P., actually sometimes the act of releasing physically, such as boxing or whatever helps calm that nervous edge down enough for rational thought to creep back in. It can be a very positive thing.
Everyone is different, and every anger is different.
I have times when I am simply frustrated for not apparent reason. Times when I am seriously angry at a person or thing.
Times when I am angry at a situation. Etc... each one I have to deal with differently.
No help, I know, but that is me.
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I have to do the classic breathing and turning away.
My temper has never been tested as often as now that I have kids.
Good lords...you know it!
Most people take years to figure out what buttons to push on me...my son was born with the knowledge. It is insane!
It depends on the anger.
P.O.P., actually sometimes the act of releasing physically, such as boxing or whatever helps calm that nervous edge down enough for rational thought to creep back in. It can be a very positive thing.
Everyone is different, and every anger is different.
I have times when I am simply frustrated for not apparent reason. Times when I am seriously angry at a person or thing.
Times when I am angry at a situation. Etc... each one I have to deal with differently.
No help, I know, but that is me.
Pele
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Fight, do not keep it all in. A punching bag is a wonderful thing when you are just so irate that you can no longer keep it all in. Anger is one of those things that you have got to push out, keeping it in will only cause harm further down the road.
Fight, do not keep it all in. A punching bag is a wonderful thing when you are just so irate that you can no longer keep it all in. Anger is one of those things that you have got to push out, keeping it in will only cause harm further down the road.
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Posted:
Everyone has anger within them. Different people deal with it in very different ways.
Bogans as we call them in australia or chav's as they are known in britain land have a constant burning anger in them which they are allways letting out with bursts of Hatred, Violance and total disregard for fellow man.
They seem to have something driving them almost 24 hours a day,
I would go as far as to call it a form of Insanity.
I however try to remain pleasant at all times and treat every person with the respect they deserve and clear all bad thoughts and urges out of my head as soon as they might appear.
Yet for some reason i listen exclusively to Death Metal music.
it seems to calm me and cheer me up
The mind is a strange thing my friends
Everyone has anger within them. Different people deal with it in very different ways.
Bogans as we call them in australia or chav's as they are known in britain land have a constant burning anger in them which they are allways letting out with bursts of Hatred, Violance and total disregard for fellow man.
They seem to have something driving them almost 24 hours a day,
I would go as far as to call it a form of Insanity.
I however try to remain pleasant at all times and treat every person with the respect they deserve and clear all bad thoughts and urges out of my head as soon as they might appear.
Yet for some reason i listen exclusively to Death Metal music.
it seems to calm me and cheer me up
The mind is a strange thing my friends
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mischeivious pixie
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mischeivious pixie
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Location: Sydney, Australia
Posted:
i used to have a big temper problem when i was younger but i have learnt to control it as i have grown up.it hasnt been easy, and i feel for my family and friends for what i used to put them through. I used to be very destructive and used to work my self into a blind rage..so bad that i couldn't even remember what i was in a bad mood about...usually something silly.
I tried loads of different ways of dealing with it, shouting, screaming, hitting things throwing things, holding it all in....but none of that worked.in the end i decided that i needed to address the problem properly so went to my college councilor who i found really helpfull.
she helped me understand why i was angry, and deep down i relised it wasn't because of the silly things i was stressing about, it was a deep rooted problem.it wasnt easy, but once i had delt with that i found my temper slowly faded away. dont get me wrong....its still there, i havent found a miracal cure...but i have worked hard to sort it out.
i now have loads of different things i do to chill out, i go swimming, i poi....lots. i stick my stereo on full blast when everyone is out the house and dance round my room like a lunatic.
i also found the best thing was taking a deep breath and removing myself from the situation for a while to calm down and think about why i was angry. counting to 10 or whatever number you need to count to to calm down also helps.
trying to control your temper isnt easy and i had to work really hard to do it,having the love and support from family and friends helped loads.
i hope this has helped...if i can do it, anyone can, good luck .
i used to have a big temper problem when i was younger but i have learnt to control it as i have grown up.it hasnt been easy, and i feel for my family and friends for what i used to put them through. I used to be very destructive and used to work my self into a blind rage..so bad that i couldn't even remember what i was in a bad mood about...usually something silly.
I tried loads of different ways of dealing with it, shouting, screaming, hitting things throwing things, holding it all in....but none of that worked.in the end i decided that i needed to address the problem properly so went to my college councilor who i found really helpfull.
she helped me understand why i was angry, and deep down i relised it wasn't because of the silly things i was stressing about, it was a deep rooted problem.it wasnt easy, but once i had delt with that i found my temper slowly faded away. dont get me wrong....its still there, i havent found a miracal cure...but i have worked hard to sort it out.
i now have loads of different things i do to chill out, i go swimming, i poi....lots. i stick my stereo on full blast when everyone is out the house and dance round my room like a lunatic.
i also found the best thing was taking a deep breath and removing myself from the situation for a while to calm down and think about why i was angry. counting to 10 or whatever number you need to count to to calm down also helps.
trying to control your temper isnt easy and i had to work really hard to do it,having the love and support from family and friends helped loads.
i hope this has helped...if i can do it, anyone can, good luck .
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Pooh-Bah
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Pooh-Bah
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Posted:
i've got significant anger problems, in that i don't express anger to those who cause it, and it ends up being bottled up till it explodes, usually to the wrong person, and usually about something small ("how many times do i have to tell you to put the F#@%ing milk back in the fridge?!?!"), or if not the anger is turned inwards.
anyway, if i let people know they are pissing me off when they do it (not in an explosion, just in a 'i don't want you to say/do that to me' way) there is less build up and therefore less blowing up.
I've seen this in other people too, people that say, 'no that's fine, i don't mind', then they've suddenly smashed a windscreens or broken their fist against a wall.
so that's my 2c: deal with it before it becomes a problem, rather than trying to manage the problem.
i've got significant anger problems, in that i don't express anger to those who cause it, and it ends up being bottled up till it explodes, usually to the wrong person, and usually about something small ("how many times do i have to tell you to put the F#@%ing milk back in the fridge?!?!"), or if not the anger is turned inwards.
anyway, if i let people know they are pissing me off when they do it (not in an explosion, just in a 'i don't want you to say/do that to me' way) there is less build up and therefore less blowing up.
I've seen this in other people too, people that say, 'no that's fine, i don't mind', then they've suddenly smashed a windscreens or broken their fist against a wall.
so that's my 2c: deal with it before it becomes a problem, rather than trying to manage the problem.
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Pooh-Bah
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Pooh-Bah
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Posted:
Thanks for all the great tips everyone. Spacey - glad to hear councilling has worked so well for you
I'll consider it, definitely!
Thanks for all the great tips everyone. Spacey - glad to hear councilling has worked so well for you
I'll consider it, definitely! What a wonderful miracle if only we could look through each other's eyes for an instant.
Thoreau
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just lost .... evil init
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just lost .... evil init
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Location: Adelaide, Australia
Posted:
if you believe this to be true it will become a self fufilling prophecy. anger can often be a masking emotion, in that its a coping mechanisim to survive. so for example if someone cuts you off while you a driving and it makes you angry, it could be not so much that your angry (big deal you trip takes an extra 3 seconds) but that your sad that the person was inconsiderate and rude. so to cope with the initial sadness (a very powerless emotional state to be in) your subconscious masks the sadness with anger (a very power emotional state good for survival)
as spacey said its often a deep rooted problem that has no obvious link to the thinks that make you angry, i would suggest finding the cause of your anger and processing it
Written by: nearly_all_gone
I think at my heart I'm quite a bad-tempered person so I know the aggression will keep coming
if you believe this to be true it will become a self fufilling prophecy. anger can often be a masking emotion, in that its a coping mechanisim to survive. so for example if someone cuts you off while you a driving and it makes you angry, it could be not so much that your angry (big deal you trip takes an extra 3 seconds) but that your sad that the person was inconsiderate and rude. so to cope with the initial sadness (a very powerless emotional state to be in) your subconscious masks the sadness with anger (a very power emotional state good for survival)
as spacey said its often a deep rooted problem that has no obvious link to the thinks that make you angry, i would suggest finding the cause of your anger and processing it
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grumpy poorly froggy
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grumpy poorly froggy
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well i am glad that works for you but i feel alot better after going round with a punch bag, but i guess that could also be seen as something i enjoy becasue i pretend its some one i don't like while doing it. does that count?
Written by: Parliament Of Peace
no no no, don't feed your agression with more agression.
how ever funny it sounds in this thread: spanking is not the solution (or punching a bag or throwing an axe).
agression is just another form over overflowing emotion and energy. find other ways to loose that energy, but ways that you enjoy doing or else it doesn't work.
for me playing in a band and just letting go of everything there really helps a lot. but some sports will do the same. or maybe just put some headphones on with your absolute favourite music of the moment and spin some poi until you drop on the floor exhausted, but with a BIG SMILE
well i am glad that works for you but i feel alot better after going round with a punch bag, but i guess that could also be seen as something i enjoy becasue i pretend its some one i don't like while doing it. does that count?
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Listen to some really euphoric Happy Hardcore..if you dont get into a better mood..youll go into a siezure..so yeah..either way something interesting happens so u cant lose!
Listen to some really euphoric Happy Hardcore..if you dont get into a better mood..youll go into a siezure..so yeah..either way something interesting happens so u cant lose!
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grumpy poorly froggy
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euphoric Happy Hardcore. makes me wanna kill people
Written by: darkpoet
Listen to some really euphoric Happy Hardcore..if you dont get into a better mood..youll go into a siezure..so yeah..either way something interesting happens so u cant lose!
euphoric Happy Hardcore. makes me wanna kill people
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just lost .... evil init
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just lost .... evil init
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i think its unbottleing and venting aggression so it feels good rather than being aggressive
Written by: GothFrogette
well i am glad that works for you but i feel alot better after going round with a punch bag, but i guess that could also be seen as something i enjoy becasue i pretend its some one i don't like while doing it. does that count?
i think its unbottleing and venting aggression so it feels good rather than being aggressive
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Sometimes its good to just say whats making you angry or if its a person, tell them they made you angry. Punch a cushion (don't punch a wall like my flatmate and shatter your knuckle!). Write down what makes u angry and then go outside and burn it.
For me breathing helps. Take slow deep breaths and when you breathe in push your stomach out and when you breathe out, pull your stomach in. Try to make the breath out longer then the breath in too
Hope that helps (See I do come on here sometimes )
Written by: nearly_all_gone
I'm not an outwardly aggressive person, yet I do have quite a bad temper at times. I often feel angry or annoyed by very small, very insignificant things which seem like a big deal at the time.
I obviously don't like this at all and I wonder if any of you guys have tips for venting your anger, frustration or aggression in a non-harmful way? Or perhaps another way of dealing with things.
I think at my heart I'm quite a bad-tempered person so I know the aggression will keep coming - I'd rather be able to.. I don't know, do something to it than let it just sit inside of me until it either comes out (never good) or gets pushed down.
Sometimes its good to just say whats making you angry or if its a person, tell them they made you angry. Punch a cushion (don't punch a wall like my flatmate and shatter your knuckle!). Write down what makes u angry and then go outside and burn it.
For me breathing helps. Take slow deep breaths and when you breathe in push your stomach out and when you breathe out, pull your stomach in. Try to make the breath out longer then the breath in too
Hope that helps
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Irish
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Irish
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Posted:
mmmmm......population control..also VERY good stress relief
or just go for a walk....ill walk for miles sometimes to cool off...but whatever works for you
Written by: GothFrogette
euphoric Happy Hardcore. makes me wanna kill people
mmmmm......population control..also VERY good stress relief
or just go for a walk....ill walk for miles sometimes to cool off...but whatever works for you
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rofl, i'm on meds to help me calm down, they don't work though. according to the doc when i get into one of my grrrrrrr's i am not in full control over my actions. some times doctors shouldn't talk to me. lolololol
i'm not too bad though *Re thinks about stearing convo from me sounding nuts*
rofl, i'm on meds to help me calm down, they don't work though. according to the doc when i get into one of my grrrrrrr's i am not in full control over my actions. some times doctors shouldn't talk to me. lolololol
i'm not too bad though *Re thinks about stearing convo from me sounding nuts*
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Irish
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i stopped taking head meds a awhile ago....i just couldnt do it..they changed who i was...i firmly believe that you can control almost everything that goes on in your body......back on topic..
ive got a 100lb punching bag at home...i worked out on it almost daily...then i broke it =( but it was my stress relief...physical activity works wonders, AND is good for you
i stopped taking head meds a awhile ago....i just couldnt do it..they changed who i was...i firmly believe that you can control almost everything that goes on in your body......back on topic..
ive got a 100lb punching bag at home...i worked out on it almost daily...then i broke it =( but it was my stress relief...physical activity works wonders, AND is good for you
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eaxctly and well i like keeping fit it works for me at the time so aslong as it doesn't break i will be fine.lol.
i was recomened screaming into a pillow but that just feels stupid.
eaxctly and well i like keeping fit it works for me at the time so aslong as it doesn't break i will be fine.lol.
i was recomened screaming into a pillow but that just feels stupid.
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I wonder what proportion of those whose primary hobbies include skills like juggling , spinning etc have personal anger problems.
I ask because, having spent a lot of time practising skills that, by their nature, involve lots of failing when being learnt (eg, in juggling, all the drops; in spinning, hitting yourself when learning BTB etc); and having anger issues that tend to manifest during those times- it sometimes seems a strange/ironic combination.
I wonder what proportion of those whose primary hobbies include skills like juggling , spinning etc have personal anger problems.
I ask because, having spent a lot of time practising skills that, by their nature, involve lots of failing when being learnt (eg, in juggling, all the drops; in spinning, hitting yourself when learning BTB etc); and having anger issues that tend to manifest during those times- it sometimes seems a strange/ironic combination.
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Posted:
My 2 cents:
It is natural to get angry. Anger is a survival trait, as in fight or flight.
However, it is what we do with the anger that makes the difference.
Cheers
My 2 cents:
It is natural to get angry. Anger is a survival trait, as in fight or flight.
However, it is what we do with the anger that makes the difference.
Cheers
If we as members of the human race practice meditation, we can transcend our fear, despair, and forgetfulness. Meditation is not an escape. It is the courage to look at reality with mindfulness and concentration. Thich Nhat Hanh
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1,803 posts
Location: Wonderland igloo, Vic, Australia
Posted:
I agree with stone, anger = survival
Kill a punching bag
I agree with stone, anger = survival
Kill a punching bag
.:Pink Exocutioner:.
I am Jack's Raging Bile Duct...
Loving you from the deepest part of my loins.
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Location: in the interwebs..., United Kingdom
Pasta of Muppets
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Location: in the interwebs..., United Kingdom
Posted:
until your knuckles are blooded and raw...
Should I be using gloves?
until your knuckles are blooded and raw...
Should I be using gloves?
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