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Hello everyone...
Oks, well, I've had some bad news and thought I would post on here for advice on alternative therapies.
I've had a look through the existing threads (nice search system Malcolm!!) but didn't find what I was looking for, so I hope this is ok.
So then...
Just over a month ago my mother turned yellow.
It was two days before my parents were due to go on holiday, and instead she ended up in hospital.
They discovered it was a blockage near her bile duct, and after sticking a camera down her throat, found out she had a tumour on her pancreas.
She was eventually sent home for a few weeks to recuperate, then brought back in for an operation last Friday.
We discovered then that the tumour on her pancreas is too big - 6 cms - to operate on, and parts of it have spread to nearby glands.
The prognosis isn't good. They've told her between 6 months and a year, but any reseach I've done shows people with pancreatic cancer lasting between 4 - 6 months.
Our family is coping well, considering, so far.
(Personally, I feel like I'm constantly going to cry.
I try not to think about her leaving us as much as possible. My mother is the strongest person in the world... She is kind and lovely and despite having pissed me off often, has done a splendid job and has had a splendid life (she's travelled all over the place - took a boat to Australia from Ireland 40 years ago to work as a nanny on a cattle ranch!! She came home, by boat, via NZ, Fiji and the Panama Canal - in a time when tourism wasn't Lonely Planet travel-by-numbers).
At the minute, I'm coping. I'm finding myself running about my parent's house 'doing stuff' for them while also trying to keep a performance business afloat. That's been a barrel of laughs in itself... anyone setting up a business in the arts - prepare yourself now for the bitchiness, competition, jealousy and lack of support.
My deepest apologies to m'lovely friends on here if I haven't responded to your PMs or calls recently - thanks BamBam and Fluff x).
Jesus... that was a bitter and twisted rant... humblest apologies for that...
Anyways... I have posted this for a reason
The doctors are still deciding whether mum should have chemo.
None of us are very happy with that idea... don't want her last few months to be spent throwing up.
She's got a very strong Christian faith, which keeps her bouncing through each day (lol, and she keeps emotionally blackmailing me to convert!!! Lol... I've told her it won't happen, but thanks anyway )
But I want info on alternative therapies... things that might reduce it, or just prolong her life for a bit. Does anyone here have any advice on where I could look?
I know not to accept intershnet advice as gospel, but it's good to get a guideline - or a point in the right direction.
Electro-magnetic therapy? Acupuncture? Organic foods and no tap water?!!
Does anyone here have any helpful hints?
Thanks so much for your time... and go home tonight and give your parents a hug... they could be gone much sooner than you think.
Love and hugs to you alll
Clare xx
Hello everyone...
Oks, well, I've had some bad news and thought I would post on here for advice on alternative therapies.
I've had a look through the existing threads (nice search system Malcolm!!) but didn't find what I was looking for, so I hope this is ok.
So then...
Just over a month ago my mother turned yellow.
It was two days before my parents were due to go on holiday, and instead she ended up in hospital.
They discovered it was a blockage near her bile duct, and after sticking a camera down her throat, found out she had a tumour on her pancreas.
She was eventually sent home for a few weeks to recuperate, then brought back in for an operation last Friday.
We discovered then that the tumour on her pancreas is too big - 6 cms - to operate on, and parts of it have spread to nearby glands.
The prognosis isn't good. They've told her between 6 months and a year, but any reseach I've done shows people with pancreatic cancer lasting between 4 - 6 months.
Our family is coping well, considering, so far.
(Personally, I feel like I'm constantly going to cry.
I try not to think about her leaving us as much as possible. My mother is the strongest person in the world... She is kind and lovely and despite having pissed me off often, has done a splendid job and has had a splendid life (she's travelled all over the place - took a boat to Australia from Ireland 40 years ago to work as a nanny on a cattle ranch!! She came home, by boat, via NZ, Fiji and the Panama Canal - in a time when tourism wasn't Lonely Planet travel-by-numbers).
At the minute, I'm coping. I'm finding myself running about my parent's house 'doing stuff' for them while also trying to keep a performance business afloat. That's been a barrel of laughs in itself... anyone setting up a business in the arts - prepare yourself now for the bitchiness, competition, jealousy and lack of support.
My deepest apologies to m'lovely friends on here if I haven't responded to your PMs or calls recently - thanks BamBam and Fluff x).
Jesus... that was a bitter and twisted rant... humblest apologies for that...
Anyways... I have posted this for a reason
The doctors are still deciding whether mum should have chemo.
None of us are very happy with that idea... don't want her last few months to be spent throwing up.
She's got a very strong Christian faith, which keeps her bouncing through each day (lol, and she keeps emotionally blackmailing me to convert!!! Lol... I've told her it won't happen, but thanks anyway
)But I want info on alternative therapies... things that might reduce it, or just prolong her life for a bit. Does anyone here have any advice on where I could look?
I know not to accept intershnet advice as gospel, but it's good to get a guideline - or a point in the right direction.
Electro-magnetic therapy? Acupuncture? Organic foods and no tap water?!!
Does anyone here have any helpful hints?
Thanks so much for your time... and go home tonight and give your parents a hug... they could be gone much sooner than you think.
Love and hugs to you alll
Clare xx
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Oop... Unfortunately, I can't link to the pic... but if you have a look in my gallery, I've just uploaded a pic of her taken last year
Oop... Unfortunately, I can't link to the pic... but if you have a look in my gallery, I've just uploaded a pic of her taken last year
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Posted:
Clare
I'm so so so sorry about hearing your mum is so ill, 
Just reading what you've said has made my eyes well up.
My suggestions are lots of organic fruit and vege, lots of happy music, watching comedy films, anything your mum finds funny. It's true that laughter is the best medicine.
You could try reiki healing, massage, reflexology. As long as your mum is comfortable.
Please remember to look after yourself too. Be strong hun. I think your mum's faith in God can only be a good thing, he works miracles you know
Lots of love and light to you xxx
Clare
I'm so so so sorry about hearing your mum is so ill, Just reading what you've said has made my eyes well up.My suggestions are lots of organic fruit and vege, lots of happy music, watching comedy films, anything your mum finds funny. It's true that laughter is the best medicine.
You could try reiki healing, massage, reflexology. As long as your mum is comfortable.
Please remember to look after yourself too.
Be strong hun. I think your mum's faith in God can only be a good thing, he works miracles you know Lots of love and light to you xxx
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all i can say is positive thoughts are so important. I think that it is mentally that people pull through these things.
*many hugs and snuggles*
all i can say is positive thoughts are so important. I think that it is mentally that people pull through these things.
*many hugs and snuggles*
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hey lady
sorry to hear your mum is unwell. I think Jo has given the best advice possible really: I seem to remember hearing that something like tomatoes had beneficial properties for cancer sufferers.
There's an article here: https://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3703396.stm
Just try to make her as comfortable as possible, and make the most of every last minute (not like you need me to tell you that). Most of all take care of yourself!
s and good thoughts to you and your mum
hey lady
sorry to hear your mum is unwell. I think Jo has given the best advice possible really: I seem to remember hearing that something like tomatoes had beneficial properties for cancer sufferers.
There's an article here: https://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/3703396.stm
Just try to make her as comfortable as possible, and make the most of every last minute (not like you need me to tell you that). Most of all take care of yourself!
s and good thoughts to you and your mum Because ActiveAngel sounds like a feminine deodorant
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Sorry to hear that Furry Purple. No one to have to go through this. It is a sad fact that we are in the middle of a cancer epidemic - a sign that modern life and humanity isn't as mutually beneficial as we like to think.
It is a case of 'hope for the best but prepare for the worst'. In both cases just be there for for you mum like she has done for you in raising a fine daughter. Be there for her if she has to go through chemo and in the worst case be there for her if there really is nothing you can do. That's all you can do really.
In terms of alternative therapies my friend's dad found that drinking green tea managed to lower his *something (I can't remember what)* count that I think he's making a full recovery. I don't want this to give you false hope but it may be worth trying. I've also read that certain nuts have good cancer fighting properties. The benefits of macrobotic diets and organic vegetables have also been brought up.
I fully agree with Jo about 'Laughter being the best medince' and we know that mood can psychosomatically affect the body. That in the same way that a pessimistic mood can damage the body, a more optimistic mood could have the potential to affect the body in a positive manner.
In the end, just be there for you mum. If its terminal, make her life worth living, if there's a chance she can recover, make her life one worth fighting for.
Sorry to hear that Furry Purple. No one to have to go through this. It is a sad fact that we are in the middle of a cancer epidemic - a sign that modern life and humanity isn't as mutually beneficial as we like to think.
It is a case of 'hope for the best but prepare for the worst'. In both cases just be there for for you mum like she has done for you in raising a fine daughter. Be there for her if she has to go through chemo and in the worst case be there for her if there really is nothing you can do. That's all you can do really.
In terms of alternative therapies my friend's dad found that drinking green tea managed to lower his *something (I can't remember what)* count that I think he's making a full recovery. I don't want this to give you false hope but it may be worth trying. I've also read that certain nuts have good cancer fighting properties. The benefits of macrobotic diets and organic vegetables have also been brought up.
I fully agree with Jo about 'Laughter being the best medince' and we know that mood can psychosomatically affect the body. That in the same way that a pessimistic mood can damage the body, a more optimistic mood could have the potential to affect the body in a positive manner.
In the end, just be there for you mum. If its terminal, make her life worth living, if there's a chance she can recover, make her life one worth fighting for.
"I used to want to change the world, now I just wanna leave the room with a little dignity..." - Lotus Weinstock
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Clare hun
I have no advice except to eat as much fresh organic fruit and veg as possible. Raw if possible. The healthier in general your mum keeps the better. The more positive an out look your mum can keep also the better.
My Uncle has almost the same thing, blocked bile duct but his is liver cancer. I can tell you that 2 weeks ago he was given days to live. He pretty much had given up. Cath and I went to see him and basically refused to let him be negative whilst we were there. We kept on telling him all we were planning to do and asking him what he wanted to do next week if they let him home, that kind of stuff. He has been let home and has improved enormously. He has become more positive and now they say he might last until Christmas as long as he doesn't get any other infections etc on top of all the other stuff. He has made a list of things he wants to do... including travelling to see us, Something a couple of weeks ago he was telling us he would never do again.
I believe frame of mind and determination to live are huge factors in how fast cancer progresses.
Wish your mum love and light and tell her from me that she has raised a beautiful, talented daughter that she should be very proud of.
Call me if you ever need to rant. You know my number.
Clare hun
I have no advice except to eat as much fresh organic fruit and veg as possible. Raw if possible. The healthier in general your mum keeps the better. The more positive an out look your mum can keep also the better.
My Uncle has almost the same thing, blocked bile duct but his is liver cancer. I can tell you that 2 weeks ago he was given days to live. He pretty much had given up. Cath and I went to see him and basically refused to let him be negative whilst we were there. We kept on telling him all we were planning to do and asking him what he wanted to do next week if they let him home, that kind of stuff. He has been let home and has improved enormously. He has become more positive and now they say he might last until Christmas as long as he doesn't get any other infections etc on top of all the other stuff. He has made a list of things he wants to do... including travelling to see us, Something a couple of weeks ago he was telling us he would never do again.
I believe frame of mind and determination to live are huge factors in how fast cancer progresses.
Wish your mum love and light and tell her from me that she has raised a beautiful, talented daughter that she should be very proud of.
Call me if you ever need to rant. You know my number.
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wow. Clare. What a diffuclt time for you and your family. My thoughts are with you. Stay strong.
I don't know a lot about alternative medicines and threapies i'm afraid, but it sounds like you're doing the right things. I'm pleased your mum has strong Christian faith which hopefully will help her through as well. Don't forget about yourself in it all as well, i know that at the moment it may feel selfish but you're not going to be able to give your all to your mum if you're not well either.
wow. Clare. What a diffuclt time for you and your family. My thoughts are with you. Stay strong.
I don't know a lot about alternative medicines and threapies i'm afraid, but it sounds like you're doing the right things. I'm pleased your mum has strong Christian faith which hopefully will help her through as well. Don't forget about yourself in it all as well, i know that at the moment it may feel selfish but you're not going to be able to give your all to your mum if you're not well either.
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Hey Clare!
I can't give much advice on alternative therapies I'm afraid... just what I've heard from my mum's friends.
One of them "starved the cancer out" - the theory behind that being that because cancer cells are growing cells, if the body doesn't get enough food some growth problems are switched off. He beat it back for a few years with that, but who am I to tell if his cancer behaved the same as pancreatic cancer, if it would work for someone else, or if it was coincidence. I'm probably just too sciency
Her other friend had terminal breast cancer - it was thought to have been defeated but suddenly came back with a vengeance. A few weeks before she died she went to Lourdes to pray, which helped her a lot to cope with the situation and find peace within herself. Since you say your mum is very Christian, maybe something like that would help her to ease her mind a bit and get some strength for whatever therapy she chooses?
I'm sorry I can't offer more advice All the best to you and your family!
Hey Clare!
I can't give much advice on alternative therapies I'm afraid... just what I've heard from my mum's friends.
One of them "starved the cancer out" - the theory behind that being that because cancer cells are growing cells, if the body doesn't get enough food some growth problems are switched off. He beat it back for a few years with that, but who am I to tell if his cancer behaved the same as pancreatic cancer, if it would work for someone else, or if it was coincidence. I'm probably just too sciency
Her other friend had terminal breast cancer - it was thought to have been defeated but suddenly came back with a vengeance. A few weeks before she died she went to Lourdes to pray, which helped her a lot to cope with the situation and find peace within herself. Since you say your mum is very Christian, maybe something like that would help her to ease her mind a bit and get some strength for whatever therapy she chooses?
I'm sorry I can't offer more advice
All the best to you and your family! "vices are like genitals - most are ugly to behold, and yet we find that our own are dear to us."
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Hi Clare,
so sorry to hear your very sad news, one of my very good friends is in a similar position to you at the moment, and his mum has been experimenting with various different holistic therapies.
reiki
heat shock protein therapy
light therapy
Revici Therapy
Issels whole body therapy
Wheatgrass therapy
Kelleys Nutritional Metabolic Therapy
Oxygen Therapy
DMSO Therapy
Ayurvedic medicines
Hope thats of some help to you.
Big
and to you and your family.
Smile when you can, cry when you need to.
Hi Clare,
so sorry to hear your very sad news, one of my very good friends is in a similar position to you at the moment, and his mum has been experimenting with various different holistic therapies.
reiki
heat shock protein therapy
light therapy
Revici Therapy
Issels whole body therapy
Wheatgrass therapy
Kelleys Nutritional Metabolic Therapy
Oxygen Therapy
DMSO Therapy
Ayurvedic medicines
Hope thats of some help to you.
Big
and to you and your family.Smile when you can, cry when you need to.
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I'll second everybody elses sayings of keeping her happy, relaxed and comfortable.
My dad had cancer a few years back, and went through a year of chemotherapy. He concentrated on thinking positive and keeping himself happy. He didn't loose much of his hair, it just went patchy, and swore this was down to positive thinking! He is now 5 years in remission and if he didn't have that attitude he had when he was suffering from cancer, I don't think he would be here today.
I'm so sorry you have to go through this.
It must incredibly hard to be 'doing stuff' for your mum and running a bussiness as well. Be sure you don't overload yourself and get ill as well.
Just ensure that her, and yourself are happy, and if it is her time to go, you can be pleased that she has lived what sounds like a very exciting life!
Think well, eat well, be well.
My thoughts are with you
I'll second everybody elses sayings of keeping her happy, relaxed and comfortable.
My dad had cancer a few years back, and went through a year of chemotherapy. He concentrated on thinking positive and keeping himself happy. He didn't loose much of his hair, it just went patchy, and swore this was down to positive thinking! He is now 5 years in remission and if he didn't have that attitude he had when he was suffering from cancer, I don't think he would be here today.
I'm so sorry you have to go through this.
It must incredibly hard to be 'doing stuff' for your mum and running a bussiness as well. Be sure you don't overload yourself and get ill as well.
Just ensure that her, and yourself are happy, and if it is her time to go, you can be pleased that she has lived what sounds like a very exciting life!
Think well, eat well, be well.
My thoughts are with you
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Thanks so much everyone (wow Maus, that's great, thanks!) ... and thanks also to Doc L for his PM... hard, but true
I know alternative therapies probably won't do any good for my mum's type of cancer... but it would be good to have her remaining time filled with happy, calming things.
Also, we're going to put a book together... a little book of family memories, nursery rhymes etc - also the family history, cos my mother knows it all!!
My memory is appalling, ahem, so it will be good to get it all written down...
(Btw, it might be a good idea to do that with your own parents... even if they're not sick yet)
Yeep... another person at the door... must run... I swear, my mother knows everyone in Bangor, and they're all coming to visit!!!
(Lol, I'm running a strict timetable though... not too many visitors at once!
)
Thanks so much everyone (wow Maus, that's great, thanks!) ... and thanks also to Doc L for his PM... hard, but true
I know alternative therapies probably won't do any good for my mum's type of cancer... but it would be good to have her remaining time filled with happy, calming things.
Also, we're going to put a book together... a little book of family memories, nursery rhymes etc - also the family history, cos my mother knows it all!!
My memory is appalling, ahem, so it will be good to get it all written down...
(Btw, it might be a good idea to do that with your own parents... even if they're not sick yet)
Yeep... another person at the door... must run... I swear, my mother knows everyone in Bangor, and they're all coming to visit!!!
(Lol, I'm running a strict timetable though... not too many visitors at once!
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Clar, sory i havnt been in touch with you much over this difficult period. i dont want to pry into your life too much.. i think the best thing you can do for your mum now is be with her. like you say yourself enjoy the time you have together. however short it may be, let her know how you feel about her. anything youve wanted to say to her/talk with her about. do it now. trust me if you dont you will regret it.
i noticed you said you feel like your going to cry. dont wait to cry, your body is just getting you ready to cry.. 'hey clare, this is what its gonna feel like soon' your body is saying 'but for now you need to be strong for your mum and the rest of your family'
i'm looking forward to seeing you in person clare. it feels so indifferent to leave messages on the board like this. and im sure your ear is worn off with your phone.
any time you need to talk you have my number, you know where i am, its just a phone call away.
*hug* for now
*hug* for the future
*hug* for your mum
*hug* for all your family
*hug* (one more for luck
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Clar, sory i havnt been in touch with you much over this difficult period. i dont want to pry into your life too much.. i think the best thing you can do for your mum now is be with her. like you say yourself enjoy the time you have together. however short it may be, let her know how you feel about her. anything youve wanted to say to her/talk with her about. do it now. trust me if you dont you will regret it.
i noticed you said you feel like your going to cry. dont wait to cry, your body is just getting you ready to cry.. 'hey clare, this is what its gonna feel like soon' your body is saying 'but for now you need to be strong for your mum and the rest of your family'
i'm looking forward to seeing you in person clare. it feels so indifferent to leave messages on the board like this. and im sure your ear is worn off with your phone.
any time you need to talk you have my number, you know where i am, its just a phone call away.
*hug* for now
*hug* for the future
*hug* for your mum
*hug* for all your family
*hug* (one more for luck
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all i can offer is my advice from experience, my family dies of cancer, period. we usually have a few boughts but it gets us in the end...digressing
chemo is not what it used to be. there are different types. there have also been advances in medicine to counteract the affects.
Perhaps, look around on the internet and see which foods are good and which are bad for the pancreas.
I have heard good things about kale and other seaweeds fighting cancer.
This is one of the things you need to remember and it hurts like hell. When the time is getting close, you have to let them know you will be okay and they will too. When the patriarch of our family was sick he held on over and over again. One night my aunts and uncle let him know they loved him and that he did a good job. Any time he was ready to go...
He died within two hours.
Sometimes they hang on for us, but would you want to keep her from the heaven she believes in
Enjoy the time you have, but take care of yourself. Make sure YOU eat and such. Those memory books are wonderful. My grandmother died with hers next to her bed. The best thing you can do is keep a real, not forcedly so, happy environment where she knows she is loved and that she did good in this life.
all i can offer is my advice from experience, my family dies of cancer, period. we usually have a few boughts but it gets us in the end...digressing
chemo is not what it used to be. there are different types. there have also been advances in medicine to counteract the affects.
Perhaps, look around on the internet and see which foods are good and which are bad for the pancreas.
I have heard good things about kale and other seaweeds fighting cancer.
This is one of the things you need to remember and it hurts like hell. When the time is getting close, you have to let them know you will be okay and they will too. When the patriarch of our family was sick he held on over and over again. One night my aunts and uncle let him know they loved him and that he did a good job. Any time he was ready to go...
He died within two hours.
Sometimes they hang on for us, but would you want to keep her from the heaven she believes in
Enjoy the time you have, but take care of yourself. Make sure YOU eat and such. Those memory books are wonderful. My grandmother died with hers next to her bed. The best thing you can do is keep a real, not forcedly so, happy environment where she knows she is loved and that she did good in this life.
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I am so sorry to hear about your mum, I'm dealing with cancer too, my boyfriend's 9 year old daughter has lueakemia, she's going through chemo at the moment and it is hard but she has her good days, I don't know much about alternative threatments but acupunture is supposed to be good for pain management. The only advise I can give you is to cry when you need to, don't store it all up, I wish I could give you a real hug.
All my love,
Mairead.
I am so sorry to hear about your mum, I'm dealing with cancer too, my boyfriend's 9 year old daughter has lueakemia, she's going through chemo at the moment and it is hard but she has her good days, I don't know much about alternative threatments but acupunture is supposed to be good for pain management. The only advise I can give you is to cry when you need to, don't store it all up, I wish I could give you a real hug. All my love,
Mairead.
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im sorry to here this news, i dont have any useful advice, but will think positivly for you, all the best
im sorry to here this news
, i dont have any useful advice, but will think positivly for you, all the best Me train running low on soul coal
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Clare hon, i'm so sorry to hear that.
You may be aware that i lost my mum two and a half years ago following a fifteen year battle against cancer.
She was recommended to give up dairy products, switching instead to soya milk etc. This was supposed to lessen the side effects of chemo, radiotherapy and aridia. Also drinking green tea rather than regular tea for its antioxidant effects. Antioxidants in general were suggested - oily fish and nuts and seeds.
She also used to get aromatherapy massages which really helped her relax. I think when facing any serious illness, have the battle is keeping your own stress levels down, and ensuring you get enough sleep. If your mum is anything like mine, she'll be more worried about the rest of you than about herself, so it's important (but difficult) to stay positive, and make sure to have lots of things you enjoy, and good people in your life. If you're as happy as you can be, she will be happier in turn.
I'll give you a call soon for a proper chat. Take care hon,
Clare hon, i'm so sorry to hear that.
You may be aware that i lost my mum two and a half years ago following a fifteen year battle against cancer.
She was recommended to give up dairy products, switching instead to soya milk etc. This was supposed to lessen the side effects of chemo, radiotherapy and aridia. Also drinking green tea rather than regular tea for its antioxidant effects. Antioxidants in general were suggested - oily fish and nuts and seeds.
She also used to get aromatherapy massages which really helped her relax. I think when facing any serious illness, have the battle is keeping your own stress levels down, and ensuring you get enough sleep. If your mum is anything like mine, she'll be more worried about the rest of you than about herself, so it's important (but difficult) to stay positive, and make sure to have lots of things you enjoy, and good people in your life. If you're as happy as you can be, she will be happier in turn.
I'll give you a call soon for a proper chat. Take care hon,
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Clare- I don't have much useful to say other than to say you and your family are in my thoughts, and were I a praying man, my prayers also.
Clare- I don't have much useful to say other than to say you and your family are in my thoughts, and were I a praying man, my prayers also.
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so sorry, sent a pm since what I had to say was long, but a hug is here for you too-
so sorry, sent a pm since what I had to say was long, but a hug is here for you too-
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The oral history of your mother is an amazing record to have of her.
Writing it as she talks can be hard but if you can maybe get some family members together and get them talking and have a recording device there it might flow better. Going through photo albums and recalling memories is a good jog as well.
When I say down with Dad to write what he wrote it always got stagnant.
Then you also have a audio contact with your mum if you want a good cry.
There is so much out there and everyone swears by what worked for them. Reiki and reflexolgy helped a friend of ours through breast cancer. Whether it was the modalities them selves or the sitting in a calm environment talking with a healing friend its hard to know.
I feel for you babe on this hard road. Cancer is one of those bizarro body gone wrong things thats hard to fathom.
to you and yours.
The oral history of your mother is an amazing record to have of her.
Writing it as she talks can be hard but if you can maybe get some family members together and get them talking and have a recording device there it might flow better. Going through photo albums and recalling memories is a good jog as well.
When I say down with Dad to write what he wrote it always got stagnant.
Then you also have a audio contact with your mum if you want a good cry.
There is so much out there and everyone swears by what worked for them. Reiki and reflexolgy helped a friend of ours through breast cancer. Whether it was the modalities them selves or the sitting in a calm environment talking with a healing friend its hard to know.
I feel for you babe on this hard road. Cancer is one of those bizarro body gone wrong things thats hard to fathom.
to you and yours. Is it the Truth?
Is it Fair to all concerned?
Will it build Goodwill and Better Friendships?
Will it be Beneficial to all concerned?
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Good advice, Gnor!
Natural conversation is easier, and recording history, lets them say it in their own voice.Good for the heart to hear... We have been resaving my dads voice on the flipping answering machine for ages because we did not think to record anything til too late.Some days the sound of his warm voice is so comforting, still.
I would suggest that if you are looking through albums of pictures together, to take a minute after, and write down the names and details on the backs of the pictures. It is so hard to keep track of those details! But somehow, all the history of a family helps keep your sense of place in the world during trying times; surrounded by the stories , the lessons, and the love .
Good advice, Gnor!
Natural conversation is easier, and recording history, lets them say it in their own voice.Good for the heart to hear... We have been resaving my dads voice on the flipping answering machine for ages because we did not think to record anything til too late.Some days the sound of his warm voice is so comforting, still.
I would suggest that if you are looking through albums of pictures together, to take a minute after, and write down the names and details on the backs of the pictures. It is so hard to keep track of those details! But somehow, all the history of a family helps keep your sense of place in the world during trying times; surrounded by the stories , the lessons, and the love .
"God *was* my co-pilot, but then we crashed, and I had to eat him..."
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take whatever time you need to do what you feel you need to.. don't leave any space for regret.. for both you and your mum. natural conversation recorded sounds like a wonderful memory to have
s and best wishes to you and your family
take whatever time you need to do what you feel you need to.. don't leave any space for regret.. for both you and your mum. natural conversation recorded sounds like a wonderful memory to have
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(From a distant but feels-closer friend)
Stay strong
(From a distant but feels-closer friend)Stay strong
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My father died of cancer, and it was a real support to him when friends and family were around. I don’t have any alternative medical suggestions, except to say that anything that someone feel is positive seems to dramatically increases the chances of recovery.
My father died of cancer, and it was a real support to him when friends and family were around. I don’t have any alternative medical suggestions, except to say that anything that someone feel is positive seems to dramatically increases the chances of recovery.
If we as members of the human race practice meditation, we can transcend our fear, despair, and forgetfulness. Meditation is not an escape. It is the courage to look at reality with mindfulness and concentration. Thich Nhat Hanh
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Thanks so much everyone,
Thanks for the thoughts, advice and PMs.
It's absolutely fantastic to be able to get support and points in the right direction, and I really appreciate you guys taking the time.
I very much like the dictaphone idea, a beautiful friend suggested that yesterday too, and the more I think about it, the more I like it... it will be hard not to listen to the tapes all the time when she's gone though.
So then... I'm going to make a big long letter of all the advice and best wishes here and then show it to my mum.
Tee hee... she'll be so impressed with the friendliness and kindness on this site...
Take care
X
Thanks so much everyone,
Thanks for the thoughts, advice and PMs.
It's absolutely fantastic to be able to get support and points in the right direction, and I really appreciate you guys taking the time.
I very much like the dictaphone idea, a beautiful friend suggested that yesterday too, and the more I think about it, the more I like it... it will be hard not to listen to the tapes all the time when she's gone though.
So then... I'm going to make a big long letter of all the advice and best wishes here and then show it to my mum.
Tee hee... she'll be so impressed with the friendliness and kindness on this site...
Take care
X
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I'm sorry to hear of your familys troubles.
I have a friend in England who has cancer, and he was using a Kombucha culture to help ease the symptoms at least.
anyways- here is a link with some further informaiton if you get a chance to take a look.
https://www.kombuchatea.co.uk/why-drink-kombucha.asp
I hope you are taking care of yourself as well though. This will be a hard time for you all.
Take Care,
Jen
I'm sorry to hear of your familys troubles.
I have a friend in England who has cancer, and he was using a Kombucha culture to help ease the symptoms at least.
anyways- here is a link with some further informaiton if you get a chance to take a look.
https://www.kombuchatea.co.uk/why-drink-kombucha.asp
I hope you are taking care of yourself as well though. This will be a hard time for you all.
Take Care,
Jen
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i know exactly how you feel my mum died of cancer a few years ago (5) i was 13 when it happened. she had cancer for 6 years and i saw the highs ans lows i have been to hell and back but im still here if you ever need a chat im here just say the word
i know exactly how you feel my mum died of cancer a few years ago (5) i was 13 when it happened. she had cancer for 6 years and i saw the highs ans lows i have been to hell and back but im still here if you ever need a chat im here just say the word
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cancer is just an awful thing
breast cancer has claimed 5 generations of my family but my nan has just gone into remission with hers
feel for you deeply
i have no advice but to just stay strong and enjoy all the time you have with your mum
hugs to you
cancer is just an awful thing
breast cancer has claimed 5 generations of my family but my nan has just gone into remission with hers
feel for you deeply
i have no advice but to just stay strong and enjoy all the time you have with your mum
hugs to you
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A friend and her cat both have cancer, and both have been diagnosed very very recently (the woman, in fact, in the e.r. after having been ignored in another e.r. with respiratory distress). Suddenly I'm in the middle of a whole malestorm of confusion, learning, stories, problems, solutions, and everything else... its crazy. I can't even imagine if it was someone I was closer too. But its a crazy learning expirience for everyone... there's always things to learn, always, and enjoy things when you can, while you can, in case you can't later
A friend and her cat both have cancer, and both have been diagnosed very very recently (the woman, in fact, in the e.r. after having been ignored in another e.r. with respiratory distress). Suddenly I'm in the middle of a whole malestorm of confusion, learning, stories, problems, solutions, and everything else... its crazy. I can't even imagine if it was someone I was closer too. But its a crazy learning expirience for everyone... there's always things to learn, always, and enjoy things when you can, while you can, in case you can't later
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thats so harsh, and I'm so sorry to hear that. It sounds like your doing the ebst thing you can in the circumstances, which is to stay strong for your mum, but remember tog et out and about with friends sometimes, have a good bawl if you need one.
Erk, hope times get easier love *squishings*
thats so harsh, and I'm so sorry to hear that. It sounds like your doing the ebst thing you can in the circumstances, which is to stay strong for your mum, but remember tog et out and about with friends sometimes, have a good bawl if you need one.
Erk, hope times get easier love *squishings*
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