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1,803 posts
Location: Wonderland igloo, Vic, Australia
Posted:
Just recently, a month ago to be exact, i love the love of my life, he told me he didnt love me anymore. I love this person, i would die for him. And now hes gone. A few days after he broke up with me, i found out he had cheated on me, in the snow with a fmaily friend the weekend before we broke up. I went back to him and told him i love him still and i forgave him for cheating on me and i asked him to come back to me. He didnt. A while later i tried slitting my wrists, it didnt work, and this was befor ei found out he had started dating this girl he had cheated on me with.
I saw her for the first time the toher day and i swear to god she is one of the prettiest girls i ahve ever seen in my life - she has long brown hair, perfect figure, weighs about 3 kilos lol. She older than him to, she turns 18 the day befor i turn 16 and he just turned 16 in June. In a way i hope she hurts him and he realises what hes done. But i just want him to be happy, but i want him back so badly.
Hes in new Zealand now so i cant talk to him. Myf riends are bailing out on me and someone told me the only reason the group was being nice to me was because i was going out with Dean (the love of my life) and now they dont have to because weve broken up. Ive lost 15 kilos snce we broke up and ive developed Bulimia, my martial arts which i love and adore had diminished, i'm too weak to do it now and even my poi have turned against me (they almost broke my nose)
I'm not doing this for attention, my friends think i am, but really i just need to know tif someone else has gone through the same thing as me, so if you have anything nasty to say, please keep it to yourself because i dont need it right now. So if you have been through something similar please reply and tell me, its good to know i'm not alone.
Luv Liv
Just recently, a month ago to be exact, i love the love of my life, he told me he didnt love me anymore. I love this person, i would die for him. And now hes gone. A few days after he broke up with me, i found out he had cheated on me, in the snow with a fmaily friend the weekend before we broke up. I went back to him and told him i love him still and i forgave him for cheating on me and i asked him to come back to me. He didnt. A while later i tried slitting my wrists, it didnt work, and this was befor ei found out he had started dating this girl he had cheated on me with.
I saw her for the first time the toher day and i swear to god she is one of the prettiest girls i ahve ever seen in my life - she has long brown hair, perfect figure, weighs about 3 kilos lol. She older than him to, she turns 18 the day befor i turn 16 and he just turned 16 in June. In a way i hope she hurts him and he realises what hes done. But i just want him to be happy, but i want him back so badly.
Hes in new Zealand now so i cant talk to him. Myf riends are bailing out on me and someone told me the only reason the group was being nice to me was because i was going out with Dean (the love of my life) and now they dont have to because weve broken up. Ive lost 15 kilos snce we broke up and ive developed Bulimia, my martial arts which i love and adore had diminished, i'm too weak to do it now and even my poi have turned against me (they almost broke my nose)
I'm not doing this for attention, my friends think i am, but really i just need to know tif someone else has gone through the same thing as me, so if you have anything nasty to say, please keep it to yourself because i dont need it right now. So if you have been through something similar please reply and tell me, its good to know i'm not alone.
Luv Liv
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always here for you
xxx
always here for you xxx
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Hop's Kitten Jester.
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Location: Wonderland igloo, Vic, Australia
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Location: Wonderland igloo, Vic, Australia
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Ta i like the nut throwing cartoon heheheh
Ta
i like the nut throwing cartoon heheheh .:Pink Exocutioner:.
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Location: Manchester, United Kingdom
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Location: Manchester, United Kingdom
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We are the music makers, We are the dreamers of dreams,
Wandering by lone sea-breakers, And sitting by desolate streams;
World-losers and world-forsakers, On whom the pale moon gleams;
We are the movers and shakers of the world for ever, it seems.
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Location: VIC, MELB, Australia
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Hey Sakura moon,
My heart goes out to you mate, i have also been left in a really crappy way (see thread from pg5 or so from social discussion 5 months pregnant and no where to go), it has been almost a year ago now that my ex left me and I i thought he loved me too, i thought it so definetly that when i fell pregnant that we were in love enough to stay together - the bastard left me five months preg, so as you can imagine i was devastated. I know it hurts, the one thing i found necessary for me to move on was recreating my life, although im well aware that thats not easy - especially if your anxious or suffer panic attacks as i myself do. Dont think at all that your an attention seeker thats not true - you sound just really hurt a, and it sounds like he is still trying to hurt by giving you statements like that. You are a beautiful person who has a lot to give and if you were the chicky who was in cammo outfit on sunday *i love your poi and you are really good!!. It does hurt and moving on isnt always as easy as we would like because if it was that easy to do we would do it. I mean why would we conciously put ourselves through pain? But I do understand that soemtimes it feels safer to hold on than to let go. A wise man once told me that how can we see whats in front of us if we are looking at whats behind us. Many happy thoughts are being beamed your way sweety. I also found alot of writing in my journal helped. I have also made a deliberate decision to stay single for awhile but hey maybe a quick fling might help get your mind off it LOL. Just do what makes you happy matey distraction can help so you dont have to feel awful all of the time. My deepest sympathy to your granddad i hope he is doing better. Anyways matey will check here again soon or may even get o meet you one sunday
hope your well. pm anytime mate. cheers
EDITED_BY: Flame (1111063622)
Hey Sakura moon,
My heart goes out to you mate, i have also been left in a really crappy way (see thread from pg5 or so from social discussion 5 months pregnant and no where to go), it has been almost a year ago now that my ex left me and I i thought he loved me too, i thought it so definetly that when i fell pregnant that we were in love enough to stay together - the bastard left me five months preg, so as you can imagine i was devastated. I know it hurts, the one thing i found necessary for me to move on was recreating my life, although im well aware that thats not easy - especially if your anxious or suffer panic attacks as i myself do. Dont think at all that your an attention seeker thats not true - you sound just really hurt a, and it sounds like he is still trying to hurt by giving you statements like that. You are a beautiful person who has a lot to give and if you were the chicky who was in cammo outfit on sunday *i love your poi and you are really good!!. It does hurt and moving on isnt always as easy as we would like because if it was that easy to do we would do it. I mean why would we conciously put ourselves through pain? But I do understand that soemtimes it feels safer to hold on than to let go. A wise man once told me that how can we see whats in front of us if we are looking at whats behind us. Many happy thoughts are being beamed your way sweety. I also found alot of writing in my journal helped. I have also made a deliberate decision to stay single for awhile but hey maybe a quick fling might help get your mind off it LOL. Just do what makes you happy matey distraction can help so you dont have to feel awful all of the time. My deepest sympathy to your granddad i hope he is doing better. Anyways matey will check here again soon or may even get o meet you one sunday
hope your well. pm anytime mate. cheersEDITED_BY: Flame (1111063622)
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Tristan aged 4 : "Mum is this Pink?"
Flame:"Yes mate this is Pink?"
Tristan:"Are you going to Pink?"
Flame:"Yes i am"
Tristan:"Cool well I'm going to BLUE" 
Hop's Kitten Jester.
1,803 posts
Location: Wonderland igloo, Vic, Australia
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Location: Wonderland igloo, Vic, Australia
Posted:
Thanks heaps will pm you - yeah that was me in the camo *embarrassed shuffle* will meet you this weekend or the next! for sure... Your bf was an a** amd he didnt deserve you! Sorry, its blunt but true!
Thanks heaps
will pm you - yeah that was me in the camo *embarrassed shuffle* will meet you this weekend or the next! for sure... Your bf was an a** amd he didnt deserve you! Sorry, its blunt but true! .:Pink Exocutioner:.
I am Jack's Raging Bile Duct...
Loving you from the deepest part of my loins.
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Location: VIC, MELB, Australia
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hey mate, i thought that was you You dont need to apolgise matey i found it out all by myself that he didnt deserve me, i didnt deserve the crap he brought to my life. You will eventually feel ok about not being with him so while your waiting for that matey enjoy what you can. Wont be there this sunday but will be there next sunday - me and myco will probably be sitting together and so look forwards to meeting you!
tc Laura and bubba Tristan
hey mate, i thought that was you
You dont need to apolgise matey i found it out all by myself that he didnt deserve me, i didnt deserve the crap he brought to my life. You will eventually feel ok about not being with him so while your waiting for that matey enjoy what you can. Wont be there this sunday but will be there next sunday - me and myco will probably be sitting together and so look forwards to meeting you! tc Laura and bubba Tristan
*In the car while Pink is playing on the radio*
Tristan aged 4 : "Mum is this Pink?"
Flame:"Yes mate this is Pink?"
Tristan:"Are you going to Pink?"
Flame:"Yes i am"
Tristan:"Cool well I'm going to BLUE"
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247 posts
Location: Cork, Ireland at present
247 posts
Location: Cork, Ireland at present
Posted:
That is such a great quote.
As you can tell, quite a few people go through similar experiences, myself included, when my first girlfriend left me after 3 1/2 yrs when I was just 19, she broke my heart, I'd cry anywhere (or is that everywhere), in front of mates who were stunned into silence, and then you get some know it all say "don't worry, there's plenty more fish in the sea!" I never understood why people say them kind of things, I think its done to not knowing what to say. And knowing that most people have their hearts broken (which I've also done
) also doesn't help. Anway, I met a another girl about 2 months later, went out for 2 yrs, and she dumped me for someone else aswell...... but this is my point, my mum looked at me after I told her, and she said in a matter of fact way that I still hadn't gotten over my first 
, that broke me there and then, but I think she was right. I'm now truely over it and with a girl that I once thought I could never meet.
I still occasionally think of my first gf, but now its with kind of warm smile. I'm glad I met and loved her, I look back with fond memories on photo's or when I read the love letters she'd written, seeing how innocent our relationship was, I'm also glad she met some-one else and finished with me as I wouldn't be who I am today, nor would I have what I have today.
I hope you take this message in the way that I've written it (with love), basically I agree with what has been said before such as time is the only healer (which you cannot command I feel)
Be patient, you've your whole life ahead, the ups, the downs, it's all in this package we call life - experience everything you can. and in the words of Alanis......
I, recommend getting your heart trampled on to anyone, yeah
I, recommend walking around naked in your living room, yeah
Swallow it down (what a jagged little pill)
It feels so good (swimming in your stomach)
Wait until the dust settles
1-You live you learn, you love you learn
You cry you learn, you lose you learn
You bleed you learn, you scream you learn
I, recommend biting off more than you can chew to anyone
I certainly do
I, recommend sticking your foot in your mouth at any time
Feel free
Throw it down (the caution blocks you from the wind)
Hold it up (to the rays)
You wait and see when the smoke clears
Wear it out (the way a three-year-old would do)
Melt it down (you're gonna have to eventually, anyway)
The fire trucks are coming up around the bend
You grieve you learn, you choke you learn
You laugh you learn, you choose you learn
You pray you learn, you ask you learn
You live you learn
Written by: Havokist
no guy is worth your tears, and the one that is won't make you cry
That is such a great quote.
As you can tell, quite a few people go through similar experiences, myself included, when my first girlfriend left me after 3 1/2 yrs when I was just 19, she broke my heart, I'd cry anywhere (or is that everywhere), in front of mates who were stunned into silence, and then you get some know it all say "don't worry, there's plenty more fish in the sea!" I never understood why people say them kind of things, I think its done to not knowing what to say. And knowing that most people have their hearts broken (which I've also done
) also doesn't help. Anway, I met a another girl about 2 months later, went out for 2 yrs, and she dumped me for someone else aswell...... but this is my point, my mum looked at me after I told her, and she said in a matter of fact way that I still hadn't gotten over my first , that broke me there and then, but I think she was right. I'm now truely over it and with a girl that I once thought I could never meet.I still occasionally think of my first gf, but now its with kind of warm smile. I'm glad I met and loved her, I look back with fond memories on photo's or when I read the love letters she'd written, seeing how innocent our relationship was, I'm also glad she met some-one else and finished with me as I wouldn't be who I am today, nor would I have what I have today.
I hope you take this message in the way that I've written it (with love), basically I agree with what has been said before such as time is the only healer (which you cannot command I feel)
Be patient, you've your whole life ahead, the ups, the downs, it's all in this package we call life - experience everything you can. and in the words of Alanis......
I, recommend getting your heart trampled on to anyone, yeah
I, recommend walking around naked in your living room, yeah
Swallow it down (what a jagged little pill)
It feels so good (swimming in your stomach)
Wait until the dust settles
1-You live you learn, you love you learn
You cry you learn, you lose you learn
You bleed you learn, you scream you learn
I, recommend biting off more than you can chew to anyone
I certainly do
I, recommend sticking your foot in your mouth at any time
Feel free
Throw it down (the caution blocks you from the wind)
Hold it up (to the rays)
You wait and see when the smoke clears
Wear it out (the way a three-year-old would do)
Melt it down (you're gonna have to eventually, anyway)
The fire trucks are coming up around the bend
You grieve you learn, you choke you learn
You laugh you learn, you choose you learn
You pray you learn, you ask you learn
You live you learn
I used to be indecisive, but I'm not so sure now.....
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Location: cornwall
12 posts
Location: cornwall
Posted:
...its probably a good thing they didnt burn...i disroyed alot of memories about an ex once then a year or so later, when id got over him i really regreted distoyin all the memories...
...the best thing you can do is put it all in a box and stash it somewhere...dont open it for a long time till you feel that you are over it...hard i know...but you will move on!
big hugs...
love borg xxx
...its probably a good thing they didnt burn...i disroyed alot of memories about an ex once then a year or so later, when id got over him i really regreted distoyin all the memories...
...the best thing you can do is put it all in a box and stash it somewhere...dont open it for a long time till you feel that you are over it...hard i know...but you will move on!
big hugs...
love borg xxx
Hop's Kitten Jester.
1,803 posts
Location: Wonderland igloo, Vic, Australia
1,803 posts
Location: Wonderland igloo, Vic, Australia
Posted:
Have just burnt the letter he gave me on our 6 month....feel very good.
Some people cant help but be stupid, useless, pathetic, cheating morons.
I'm glad i can notice who they are now.
Have just burnt the letter he gave me on our 6 month....feel very good.
Some people cant help but be stupid, useless, pathetic, cheating morons.
I'm glad i can notice who they are now.
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I am Jack's Raging Bile Duct...
Loving you from the deepest part of my loins.
Hop's Kitten Jester.
1,803 posts
Location: Wonderland igloo, Vic, Australia
1,803 posts
Location: Wonderland igloo, Vic, Australia
Posted:
So its been a year now huh?
WHY AM I STILL CRYING?!?!?!
For some reason, the rotten week of break upness is repeating itself exactly a year later.
Ren and i havent broken up...god no.
But im just having a terrible week.
Not sleeping either because the nightmares have come back
Not eating because i cant bring myself to.
I really dont know what to do with myself right now.
Theres no outlet for me, i dont do my martila arts class anymore.
I'm lashing out at my family and sitting alone at school, i feel...isolated and crabby
So its been a year now huh?
WHY AM I STILL CRYING?!?!?!
For some reason, the rotten week of break upness is repeating itself exactly a year later.
Ren and i havent broken up...god no.
But im just having a terrible week.
Not sleeping either because the nightmares have come back
Not eating because i cant bring myself to.
I really dont know what to do with myself right now.
Theres no outlet for me, i dont do my martila arts class anymore.
I'm lashing out at my family and sitting alone at school, i feel...isolated and crabby
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I am Jack's Raging Bile Duct...
Loving you from the deepest part of my loins.
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Pooh-Bah
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Location: Adelaide, SA, Australia
Pooh-Bah
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Location: Adelaide, SA, Australia
Posted:
oh my dear, much love and cold milo to you. don't worry too much, a year's not such a very long time, it's ok to still feel bad sometimes... you have a new boy, yes? snuggle him, and you'll feel better i'm sure...
oh my dear, much love and cold milo to you. don't worry too much, a year's not such a very long time, it's ok to still feel bad sometimes... you have a new boy, yes? snuggle him, and you'll feel better i'm sure...
"i am exotic, and must keep my arms down" - Rougie
"i don't understand what penises have to do with getting married" - Foxie
Hop's Kitten Jester.
1,803 posts
Location: Wonderland igloo, Vic, Australia
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Location: Wonderland igloo, Vic, Australia
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^.^
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I am Jack's Raging Bile Duct...
Loving you from the deepest part of my loins.
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Location: Check behind you.
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Location: Check behind you.
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Many many hugs and teddies...I reccomend deciding to be happy cos not being isn't fun. If you're happy with _anyting_ about the world that's a good excuse. A good romance and love is a very good reason to be pleased, too.
Many many hugs and teddies...I reccomend deciding to be happy cos not being isn't fun. If you're happy with _anyting_ about the world that's a good excuse. A good romance and love is a very good reason to be pleased, too.
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Hop's Kitten Jester.
1,803 posts
Location: Wonderland igloo, Vic, Australia
1,803 posts
Location: Wonderland igloo, Vic, Australia
Posted:
a year ago today...
a year ago today...
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I am Jack's Raging Bile Duct...
Loving you from the deepest part of my loins.
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