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grumpy poorly froggy
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grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
Posted:
as a parent i felt i should post this that came via peeps in LJ. i just think it should be read by lots of people
https://www.livejournal.com/users/catelin/179683.html
as a parent i felt i should post this that came via peeps in LJ. i just think it should be read by lots of people
https://www.livejournal.com/users/catelin/179683.html
Life's too short to worry about where you put your marshmallows
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Pooh-Bah
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Location: Southampton, United Kingdom
Pooh-Bah
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Location: Southampton, United Kingdom
Posted:
That's so beautiful and sad.
The world is a strange and unbalanced place.
That's so beautiful and sad.
The world is a strange and unbalanced place.
What a wonderful miracle if only we could look through each other's eyes for an instant.
Thoreau
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HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
Posted:
I hope he's straight. I'd never wish homosexuality on anyone other than those who condemn it. It's not an easy life.
But if he's gay...I'm glad he has that mom.
I hope he's straight. I'd never wish homosexuality on anyone other than those who condemn it. It's not an easy life.
But if he's gay...I'm glad he has that mom.
-Mike
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A buckuht n a hooze! -Valura
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grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
Posted:
no its not for some, for others its not too bad and its all about education,
no its not for some, for others its not too bad and its all about education,
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grasshopper in training
124 posts
Location: Australia
grasshopper in training
124 posts
Location: Australia
Posted:
Tis both lovely and sad. I love the links i find on HOP. Thanks for sharing it Frogette
Tis both lovely and sad. I love the links i find on HOP. Thanks for sharing it Frogette
There is a world made of air, one of earth and one of water.
And there is one made of fire, and all of them fight for supremacy. They are fighting now, in my head.
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Pooh-Bah
2,084 posts
Location: melbourne, victoria, australia
Pooh-Bah
2,084 posts
Location: melbourne, victoria, australia
Posted:
people can be so intolerant of difference. i always find it sad to see children being discriminatory. curiousity about people who are different (eg. different sexual preferences, races, practices, abilities, culture, etc) is natural, but judging these differences as wrong at such an early age saddens me. i think it's beautiful to see a mother so accepting of her son as a person, without pinning any expectations onto her acceptance of him (if that makes sense). thanks for showing us this, frogette.
people can be so intolerant of difference. i always find it sad to see children being discriminatory. curiousity about people who are different (eg. different sexual preferences, races, practices, abilities, culture, etc) is natural, but judging these differences as wrong at such an early age saddens me. i think it's beautiful to see a mother so accepting of her son as a person, without pinning any expectations onto her acceptance of him (if that makes sense). thanks for showing us this, frogette.
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Carpal \'Tunnel
5,814 posts
Location: Perth, Australia
Carpal \'Tunnel
5,814 posts
Location: Perth, Australia
Posted:
The word of choice to call boys here is gay. Same sort of thing and it upsets me as well. Ive talked to my boys about using language like that and hopefully they have taken it on board.
That lady has amazing inner strengths and souonds like she is raising children who will be able to make choices from their hearts. i hope they find their dreams.
The word of choice to call boys here is gay. Same sort of thing and it upsets me as well. Ive talked to my boys about using language like that and hopefully they have taken it on board.
That lady has amazing inner strengths and souonds like she is raising children who will be able to make choices from their hearts. i hope they find their dreams.
Is it the Truth?
Is it Fair to all concerned?
Will it build Goodwill and Better Friendships?
Will it be Beneficial to all concerned?
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veteran
1,328 posts
Location: Bendigo, Vic, Australia
1,328 posts
Location: Bendigo, Vic, Australia
Posted:
That kid has a great mother, thanks for showing us that GothFrogette.
This isnt what we are talking about, but it is very similar.
A guy I know at school realised he liked guys too a few years back now, when his mother found out she had a go at him and told him pretty much that he isnt allowed to be gay.
These days he is still bi, but apparently his mother doesnt know, in fear that she will kick him out of home.
Not really sure what else to say about this.. but I thought I might share a story from the other side of this
That kid has a great mother, thanks for showing us that GothFrogette.
This isnt what we are talking about, but it is very similar.
A guy I know at school realised he liked guys too a few years back now, when his mother found out she had a go at him and told him pretty much that he isnt allowed to be gay.
These days he is still bi, but apparently his mother doesnt know, in fear that she will kick him out of home.
Not really sure what else to say about this.. but I thought I might share a story from the other side of this
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grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
grumpy poorly froggy
3,999 posts
Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
Posted:
your welcome
Written by: Looper
Tis both lovely and sad. I love the links i find on HOP. Thanks for sharing it Frogette
your welcome
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grumpy poorly froggy
3,999 posts
Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
grumpy poorly froggy
3,999 posts
Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
Posted:
my oldest gets loads of
because he's different and most of all cause i don't look like all the other mums he will get kids calling me a tramp, saying how poor we must be because of the way we dress etc etc. infact it got that bad that he actually asked to have his mowhawk shaved off to stop people having a go at him and it was a good 6" high, it broke my heart to shave it off but its his choice. the teachers single him out as a trouble maker too cause he has low concentration and gets bored so easily. he fights so hard for every one to like him and it kills me to see him put his faith into so many kids that are obviousley just not worth the time of day. he's been called everything from fag to freak and its heart breaking to see my baby go through the stuff i did. all i can do is be there for him and try and explain thats its not really the kids fault for the way they think. (Although the mum in me makes me want to kill them esp when he comes home covered in mud where they have jupmed him on the way home from school)
just reciently though and with the help of poi some of the kids have started talking to him, esp after seeing him spin with fire, and i get groups of kids come to the house to ask me 101 questions from why i dress the way i do to how come i am a Witch if i am not green. so i tell them the truth with out being mean and trying to educate/open their minds a bit more. its hard esp when i get the same from their parents only i say thankyou when i get called a freak by a bunch of people who dress the same, act the same and get drunk every night.
being a parent is the hardest job in the world. but i wouldn't change it.
oh on a side note the school asked him to cut his mohwak off before offsted inspection last year, so we didn't. the chief of offstead singled him out and infront of the very teachers who told him to cut it said "Wow i love your hair son i had mine like that in my younger days"
my oldest gets loads of
because he's different and most of all cause i don't look like all the other mums he will get kids calling me a tramp, saying how poor we must be because of the way we dress etc etc. infact it got that bad that he actually asked to have his mowhawk shaved off to stop people having a go at him and it was a good 6" high, it broke my heart to shave it off but its his choice. the teachers single him out as a trouble maker too cause he has low concentration and gets bored so easily. he fights so hard for every one to like him and it kills me to see him put his faith into so many kids that are obviousley just not worth the time of day. he's been called everything from fag to freak and its heart breaking to see my baby go through the stuff i did. all i can do is be there for him and try and explain thats its not really the kids fault for the way they think. (Although the mum in me makes me want to kill them esp when he comes home covered in mud where they have jupmed him on the way home from school)just reciently though and with the help of poi some of the kids have started talking to him, esp after seeing him spin with fire, and i get groups of kids come to the house to ask me 101 questions from why i dress the way i do to how come i am a Witch if i am not green. so i tell them the truth with out being mean and trying to educate/open their minds a bit more. its hard esp when i get the same from their parents only i say thankyou when i get called a freak by a bunch of people who dress the same, act the same and get drunk every night.
being a parent is the hardest job in the world. but i wouldn't change it.
oh on a side note the school asked him to cut his mohwak off before offsted inspection last year, so we didn't. the chief of offstead singled him out and infront of the very teachers who told him to cut it said "Wow i love your hair son i had mine like that in my younger days"
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grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
grumpy poorly froggy
3,999 posts
Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
Posted:
yeah there are a few grils around here who's parents have said that they will call social services and have them put into care if they start dressing like the freak down the road...ie me. Some parents have a hell of allot to answer for
Written by: Hanz
That kid has a great mother, thanks for showing us that GothFrogette.
This isnt what we are talking about, but it is very similar.
A guy I know at school realised he liked guys too a few years back now, when his mother found out she had a go at him and told him pretty much that he isnt allowed to be gay.
These days he is still bi, but apparently his mother doesnt know, in fear that she will kick him out of home.
Not really sure what else to say about this.. but I thought I might share a story from the other side of this
yeah there are a few grils around here who's parents have said that they will call social services and have them put into care if they start dressing like the freak down the road...ie me. Some parents have a hell of allot to answer for
Life's too short to worry about where you put your marshmallows
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Carpal \'Tunnel
3,899 posts
Location: Austin, Texas, USA
Carpal \'Tunnel
3,899 posts
Location: Austin, Texas, USA
Posted:
awesome!
my youth was similar to your son's in a way, except that I had to fight my parents too (they were good parents, just conservative, and I could count on their backing for any real problems).
He'll have a good measure of independance, self assurance, and ability to make sound character judgements when he grows up.
Written by: GothFrogette
oh on a side note the school asked him to cut his mohwak off before offsted inspection last year, so we didn't. the chief of offstead singled him out and infront of the very teachers who told him to cut it said "Wow i love your hair son i had mine like that in my younger days"
awesome!
my youth was similar to your son's in a way, except that I had to fight my parents too (they were good parents, just conservative, and I could count on their backing for any real problems).
He'll have a good measure of independance, self assurance, and ability to make sound character judgements when he grows up.
-v-
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Pirate Ninja
3,882 posts
Location: Galway/Ireland
Pirate Ninja
3,882 posts
Location: Galway/Ireland
Posted:
he'l probably have loads of unsual hats too
cant think why though
he'l probably have loads of unsual hats too
cant think why though
Love is the law.
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grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
Posted:
he already does, lol
Written by: ado-p
he'l probably have loads of unsual hats too
cant think why though
he already does, lol
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Pirate Ninja
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Location: Galway/Ireland
Pirate Ninja
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Location: Galway/Ireland
Posted:
bet your a cool mum
bet your a cool mum
Love is the law.
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grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
Posted:
lol it all depends on who you ask
lol it all depends on who you ask
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old hand
768 posts
Location: San Francisco, California, USA
old hand
768 posts
Location: San Francisco, California, USA
Posted:
What a poignant story! Let me just add my thanks to the many already here.
A long time ago I was that boy -- my parents were not nearly so cool though, as their response was that I had to toughen up. Which I did, but not in the superficial, surface ways my parents meant. I had to toughen up on the inside, and it was that experience of toughening that helped me realize that when you get right down to it, the opinions of others don't really mean squat, even (especially?) when those others think that you should adjust yourself to meet their expectations. A hard place for a kid to be in though.
But Ms. Frogette, what a great example you're setting for your boy, of how to be strong in the face of group-think & mindless conformity. Cheers to you!!
What a poignant story! Let me just add my thanks to the many already here.
A long time ago I was that boy -- my parents were not nearly so cool though, as their response was that I had to toughen up. Which I did, but not in the superficial, surface ways my parents meant. I had to toughen up on the inside, and it was that experience of toughening that helped me realize that when you get right down to it, the opinions of others don't really mean squat, even (especially?) when those others think that you should adjust yourself to meet their expectations. A hard place for a kid to be in though.
But Ms. Frogette, what a great example you're setting for your boy, of how to be strong in the face of group-think & mindless conformity. Cheers to you!!
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~ ani di franco
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grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
Posted:
thank you but its all in a mums job. lol
the world is going to be a very horrid place if people do not start to educate the younger people that its ok to be different, unfortunatly for most of the kids their parents tell the children so called facts 'he's a freak becuase yada yada yada' instead of 'if they are happy dressing like that then that is all that matters' and the same goes with anything, and that is what i teach my kids and any one elses. children shouldn't have to toughen up and yet so many have to. mine are no exception, all i can do is let them know that i am there for them when they need me, and when they don't. lol you still have to do the embarrasing mum thing too
thank you but its all in a mums job. lol
the world is going to be a very horrid place if people do not start to educate the younger people that its ok to be different, unfortunatly for most of the kids their parents tell the children so called facts 'he's a freak becuase yada yada yada' instead of 'if they are happy dressing like that then that is all that matters' and the same goes with anything, and that is what i teach my kids and any one elses. children shouldn't have to toughen up and yet so many have to. mine are no exception, all i can do is let them know that i am there for them when they need me, and when they don't. lol you still have to do the embarrasing mum thing too
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[psylocibin fingerbobe].
479 posts
Location: London, United Kingdom
[psylocibin fingerbobe].
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Location: London, United Kingdom
Posted:
Aww!
I like the story and I know the score as a parent too - I get asked all kinds of things by my son.
The key is too keep everything as open as possible with kids. Don't be afraid to ask them stuff, and encourage them to do the same with you. And when it comes to sexuality and other playground taboos, demystify it!! That way, anyone who winds kids up over the way they act, look, or think will have no power - infact, the issues become THEIR problem
Aww!
I like the story and I know the score as a parent too - I get asked all kinds of things by my son.
The key is too keep everything as open as possible with kids. Don't be afraid to ask them stuff, and encourage them to do the same with you. And when it comes to sexuality and other playground taboos, demystify it!! That way, anyone who winds kids up over the way they act, look, or think will have no power - infact, the issues become THEIR problem
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Location: Hampshire College, MA, USA
Carpal \'Tunnel
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Location: Hampshire College, MA, USA
Posted:
.:weeps long and openly:. it's a terrible thing to loose an expression of indeviduality. i personally loved having a mohawk, i just felt it was time for somthing new when i got rid of it.
great story frogette, thanks for the link
Written by: GothFrogette
infact it got that bad that he actually asked to have his mowhawk shaved off to stop people having a go at him and it was a good 6" high, it broke my heart to shave it off but its his choice.
.:weeps long and openly:. it's a terrible thing to loose an expression of indeviduality. i personally loved having a mohawk, i just felt it was time for somthing new when i got rid of it.
great story frogette, thanks for the link
-James
"How do you know if you're happy or sad without a mask? Or angry? Or ready for dessert?"
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grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
Posted:
you welcome, my son has decided to grow his hair so he can have dreads well thats his idea at the mo, he's just so cool and i love him to death
you welcome, my son has decided to grow his hair so he can have dreads well thats his idea at the mo, he's just so cool and i love him to death
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HoP's Barman. Trapped aged 6 months
4,437 posts
Location: Staines, United Kingdom
HoP's Barman. Trapped aged 6 months
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Location: Staines, United Kingdom
Posted:
Ive decided to grow my hair, which will mean i wont be able to do my trademark spikes for falmouth
but i want me hair to look like Hwaoarang from Tekken, for those of you who dont know what he looks like here we go
Non-Https Image Link
well i thought it looked cool
Ive decided to grow my hair, which will mean i wont be able to do my trademark spikes for falmouth
but i want me hair to look like Hwaoarang from Tekken, for those of you who dont know what he looks like here we goNon-Https Image Link
well i thought it looked cool
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grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
Posted:
at the thought of people who didn't know who you were onabout before the link
at the thought of people who didn't know who you were onabout before the link Life's too short to worry about where you put your marshmallows
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HoP's Barman. Trapped aged 6 months
4,437 posts
Location: Staines, United Kingdom
HoP's Barman. Trapped aged 6 months
4,437 posts
Location: Staines, United Kingdom
Posted:
lol what?
lol what?
An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind
Give a man a fish and he'll eat 4 a day hit a man with a brick and you can have all his fish and his wife
"Will's to pretty for prison" - Simian
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HoP's Barman. Trapped aged 6 months
4,437 posts
Location: Staines, United Kingdom
HoP's Barman. Trapped aged 6 months
4,437 posts
Location: Staines, United Kingdom
Posted:
meh ok the link doeswnt work but u guys know what i mean, or maybe you dont, except goth frogette cos she rocks
meh ok the link doeswnt work but u guys know what i mean, or maybe you dont, except goth frogette cos she rocks
An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind
Give a man a fish and he'll eat 4 a day hit a man with a brick and you can have all his fish and his wife
"Will's to pretty for prison" - Simian
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1 + 1 = 3
3,540 posts
Location: Bristol UK
1 + 1 = 3
3,540 posts
Location: Bristol UK
Posted:
NO!!!
Long, Ginger hair is a mortal sin! (not that I know anything about sinning!!)
NO!!!
Long, Ginger hair is a mortal sin! (not that I know anything about sinning!!)
Empty your mind. Be formless, Shapeless, like Water.
Put Water into a cup, it becomes the cup, put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, put water into a teapot, it becomes the teapot.
Water can flow, or it can Crash.
Be Water My Friend.
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grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
grumpy poorly froggy
3,999 posts
Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
Posted:
uhhu its lllllluuuuuuuuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrrrrrrvvvvvvvvllllllllllllleeeeeeeeeeeyyyyyyyy
Written by: loves the circus
NO!!!
Long, Ginger hair is a mortal sin! (not that I know anything about sinning!!)
uhhu its lllllluuuuuuuuuuuuuuuurrrrrrrrrrrrrvvvvvvvvllllllllllllleeeeeeeeeeeyyyyyyyy
Life's too short to worry about where you put your marshmallows
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HoP's Barman. Trapped aged 6 months
4,437 posts
Location: Staines, United Kingdom
HoP's Barman. Trapped aged 6 months
4,437 posts
Location: Staines, United Kingdom
Posted:
Mind what you say Ed, there are plenty of lovely ladies on this forum that love my ginger hair so soon you will feel their wrath!
Mind what you say Ed, there are plenty of lovely ladies on this forum that love my ginger hair so soon you will feel their wrath!
An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind
Give a man a fish and he'll eat 4 a day hit a man with a brick and you can have all his fish and his wife
"Will's to pretty for prison" - Simian
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grumpy poorly froggy
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Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
grumpy poorly froggy
3,999 posts
Location: Nuneaton, United Kingdom
Posted:
*waits to bash people*
*waits to bash people* Life's too short to worry about where you put your marshmallows
enthusiast
456 posts
Location: Hoboken, New Jersey, USA
456 posts
Location: Hoboken, New Jersey, USA
Posted:
This is great. I've posted it to my LJ so my Friends will see it.
This is great. I've posted it to my LJ so my Friends will see it.
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