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Location: South Wales
Posted:
Firstly, I do not have the capacity for suicide. I love someone (she knows...) far to much for that. I have tired before (may come as a shock to some of you), but literally one person is keeping me alive.
I dont know what has happened.
The last time I was at home my mum stormed out. we were talking with my dad about how I had lied to them both, and the rest of the family about my first year Uni exams.
I
up big style. I smoked too much. I didnt go to enough lectures, didnt do enough work and didnt revise much for my exams. So naturally I failed the first time round and needed to retake 4 of them to get into the second year.
I gave up. I didnt know enough to pass them the second time round , but had 3 months to revise for them. I didnt at all. There wasnt even any point in me taking the exmas the first time round seeing as I knew I hadnt handed in enough work, and gone to enough seminars to pass even the baseline of what I needed to. So when the resits came round, i told my parents i was taking them...which i was goign to...until the mornign of the ifirst one, when I knew I wasnt going to pass.
I lied to my parents that i had done them for two weeks. THey kept on asking about the results and I kept on lying.
Then I went back home and had to tell my mum. She said she wasnt too happy about me lying to them for so long. She considered my first year at uni as my Gap year. The money (£1000) that my parents had putten towards my gap year, with which i wanted to go to Australia with and meet so many of the closest firends I have ever had from this site. Now that money is being used to pay for my tuition for my first year again.
Which leads me onto money. Ive lost so much weight over the summer due to me not eating properly. I cant afford it. My dad has been paying my rent (£260 a month for my student house) out of his own pocket. I was told to get a job in Canterbury as soon as possible, and if I coundt find one, then return to London and get one there. I still dont have a job and this is almost a year later.
Im a lazy fucker. I hate having to work but i know that i cant live if i dont have money (im eating 4 small potatoes with some butter for my main meal today). Added on top of this is the cost of Weed. and by jesus christ, did we smoke A LOT of gear last year. I swear we must have smoked our bodywieght over the course of the year.
then tongith i get into a text message conversation with my sister (who is curently stuck in france working until she has paid off her student loan). She ends up by saying:
I feel that im ....i dont knwo what im feelign right now..
probably pissed off with myself for being such a fuckign wanker and not sorting my life out. Upset that my mum has said this. Pissed off that she didnt tell me herself.
HOw the can i sort this out?
I want to stay at uni. I want a degree. that is why i have chosen to resit the year instead of pull out. but i really am such a lazy cunt with the worst motivation.
Being stuck on my own in canterbury, with no one around, to talk to is making things worse. Im getting so depressed but i dont want to be at home. I want to be in canterbury. I love it here. I love being on my own and doing my own thing. This is probably why im not doing anything....every day im sitting on my computer instead of...well..getting a job?
Ive been round to ALL of the agencies in Canterbury and signed up with all of them. I still have no job. I have haded my CV to all the computer and camping shops here and still, all has turned up. There is only one more place i want to work at. I dont want ot do a job that I dont like....is this my problem? i knwo loads of you hate your jobs but are forced to do them to pay bills and to pay for food, and a house.
Im scared that i will become homeless with no job...and become one of those bums you see on the streets. I dont want to be liek that. i want to be happy. Im really not at the moment
This coming year is going to be such a financial struggle for me. My parents will only pay for 1X first year, 1Xsecond year, 1Xthird year and 1X final year.
I iwll have to get a job doing something, working as many hours as possible, whilst doing my studies and having a social life.
Oh..and Im seriously over my overdraft limit with the bank right now. Im waiting for that next student loan cheque to come through.
I have been having to pay all the bills for the gas, water, electricty and internet connection all on my own as no one else has been living here. I hope to get this money back from teh other housemates as it is all service charges and line rentals etc.
I had to lie outright ot the gas company so they didnt cut the supply off last week. I had said that we had moved in a teh start of july (lie) and that we hadnt been there all summber to send back the money (total bullshit)...ive been here all sumer and using their gas...
WHAT THE AM I TALKING ABOUT.
I love my family so mcuh and want to make them pround. My sister achived straight A's through her GCSEs, her A-levels and graduated from Cambridge last year witha 2.1. My cousin got stright A's at GCSE, straight A's at A level and will be going into his second year at cambridge later this month. I cant do that. i did well in my GCSEs then my A levels and just my first year at uni.
How am i supposed ot make things better?
My sister has told me to ring my mum to sort this out...but i cant face her. I hate upsetting her due to me. My mum has helped me out of so much and it looks as if i dont appreciate her. I love her. My mum, and dad have split up...i dont know if that is releavant but i want to say it. My dad is currently on Holiday in France and is staying with her for a few weeks.
Im going to sit down to my studies this year. I am goign to sit down to my studies this year. I ma going to sit down to my studeies this year. I am going to get into the second year....which makes me even more worried as it is harder than the first by lotsd..and the 3rd than the 2nd and so on.. If i my first year how am i supposed to do the second year?
From a UCOF currently crying his eyes out..
and thanks for the animated hugs...they dont do...i dont feel any better seeing them and your only wasting your energy clicking the mouse. Sorry... 
Firstly, I do not have the capacity for suicide. I love someone (she knows...) far to much for that. I have tired before (may come as a shock to some of you), but literally one person is keeping me alive.
I dont know what has happened.
The last time I was at home my mum stormed out. we were talking with my dad about how I had lied to them both, and the rest of the family about my first year Uni exams.
I
up big style. I smoked too much. I didnt go to enough lectures, didnt do enough work and didnt revise much for my exams. So naturally I failed the first time round and needed to retake 4 of them to get into the second year.I gave up. I didnt know enough to pass them the second time round , but had 3 months to revise for them. I didnt at all. There wasnt even any point in me taking the exmas the first time round seeing as I knew I hadnt handed in enough work, and gone to enough seminars to pass even the baseline of what I needed to. So when the resits came round, i told my parents i was taking them...which i was goign to...until the mornign of the ifirst one, when I knew I wasnt going to pass.
I lied to my parents that i had done them for two weeks. THey kept on asking about the results and I kept on lying.
Then I went back home and had to tell my mum. She said she wasnt too happy about me lying to them for so long. She considered my first year at uni as my Gap year. The money (£1000) that my parents had putten towards my gap year, with which i wanted to go to Australia with and meet so many of the closest firends I have ever had from this site. Now that money is being used to pay for my tuition for my first year again.
Which leads me onto money. Ive lost so much weight over the summer due to me not eating properly. I cant afford it. My dad has been paying my rent (£260 a month for my student house) out of his own pocket. I was told to get a job in Canterbury as soon as possible, and if I coundt find one, then return to London and get one there. I still dont have a job and this is almost a year later.
Im a lazy fucker. I hate having to work but i know that i cant live if i dont have money (im eating 4 small potatoes with some butter for my main meal today). Added on top of this is the cost of Weed. and by jesus christ, did we smoke A LOT of gear last year. I swear we must have smoked our bodywieght over the course of the year.
then tongith i get into a text message conversation with my sister (who is curently stuck in france working until she has paid off her student loan). She ends up by saying:
Written by: My sister
She's saying she wants nothign more to do with you- her words, nto mine, Sorry to tell you this but you need to pull your finger out of your arse, and quickly....
I feel that im ....i dont knwo what im feelign right now..
probably pissed off with myself for being such a fuckign wanker and not sorting my life out. Upset that my mum has said this. Pissed off that she didnt tell me herself.
HOw the
can i sort this out?I want to stay at uni. I want a degree. that is why i have chosen to resit the year instead of pull out. but i really am such a lazy cunt with the worst motivation.
Being stuck on my own in canterbury, with no one around, to talk to is making things worse. Im getting so depressed but i dont want to be at home. I want to be in canterbury. I love it here. I love being on my own and doing my own thing. This is probably why im not doing anything....every day im sitting on my computer instead of...well..getting a job?
Ive been round to ALL of the agencies in Canterbury and signed up with all of them. I still have no job. I have haded my CV to all the computer and camping shops here and still,
all has turned up. There is only one more place i want to work at. I dont want ot do a job that I dont like....is this my problem? i knwo loads of you hate your jobs but are forced to do them to pay bills and to pay for food, and a house.Im scared that i will become homeless with no job...and become one of those bums you see on the streets. I dont want to be liek that. i want to be happy. Im really not at the moment
This coming year is going to be such a financial struggle for me. My parents will only pay for 1X first year, 1Xsecond year, 1Xthird year and 1X final year.
I iwll have to get a job doing something, working as many hours as possible, whilst doing my studies and having a social life.
Oh..and Im seriously over my overdraft limit with the bank right now. Im waiting for that next student loan cheque to come through.
I have been having to pay all the bills for the gas, water, electricty and internet connection all on my own as no one else has been living here. I hope to get this money back from teh other housemates as it is all service charges and line rentals etc.
I had to lie outright ot the gas company so they didnt cut the supply off last week. I had said that we had moved in a teh start of july (lie) and that we hadnt been there all summber to send back the money (total bullshit)...ive been here all sumer and using their gas...
WHAT THE
AM I TALKING ABOUT.I love my family so mcuh and want to make them pround. My sister achived straight A's through her GCSEs, her A-levels and graduated from Cambridge last year witha 2.1. My cousin got stright A's at GCSE, straight A's at A level and will be going into his second year at cambridge later this month. I cant do that. i did well in my GCSEs then
my A levels and just my first year at uni.How am i supposed ot make things better?
My sister has told me to ring my mum to sort this out...but i cant face her. I hate upsetting her due to me. My mum has helped me out of so much and it looks as if i dont appreciate her. I love her. My mum, and dad have split up...i dont know if that is releavant but i want to say it. My dad is currently on Holiday in France and is staying with her for a few weeks.
Im going to sit down to my studies this year. I am goign to sit down to my studies this year. I ma going to sit down to my studeies this year. I am going to get into the second year....which makes me even more worried as it is harder than the first by lotsd..and the 3rd than the 2nd and so on.. If i
my first year how am i supposed to do the second year?From a UCOF currently crying his eyes out..
and thanks for the animated hugs...they dont do
...i dont feel any better seeing them and your only wasting your energy clicking the mouse. Sorry... BRONZE Member
Still wiggling
5,967 posts
Location: Belfast, Northern Ireland (UK)
Still wiggling
5,967 posts
Location: Belfast, Northern Ireland (UK)
Posted:
UCOF, take a breath!
Things are going really badly for you right now and you're panicking. Just take a deep breath and try to clear your mind of everything for a couple of minutes.
Ok, now, you're parents are probably disappointed in you because you lied, but that doesn't mean they're going to turn their backs on you or love you any less.
You HAVE to stop smoking... I know it probably feels like the only thing to make you feel better right now... but smoking is costing you money you can't afford and is making you feel more depressed and unable to deal with things than if you weren't smoking.
You can start again when you're in a better place.
And you will get a job. You need to. At this stage you can't cherry-pick. Get a job in a call-centre, or as a waiter or anything (go to the local job market) - it'll get you out of the house and away from the computer, you'll meet people and you'll get money. You'll also prove to your parents that you can do it.
University work is crap... but it's only a few years which will eventually be worth it. Ok, you may have 'wasted' a year (or maybe you just needed to take a break from the pressure), but you're motivated now, otherwise you wouldn't be sitting there in the state that you are.
try to concentrate on getting yourself a job and doing the work you have to... your parents will support you when they see you're working... and maybe you might even have to calm the social life down a bit
Take care darlin... and things will get better... you just have to get through this unplesant bit now.
love and hugs
Clare xo
UCOF, take a breath!
Things are going really badly for you right now and you're panicking. Just take a deep breath and try to clear your mind of everything for a couple of minutes.
Ok, now, you're parents are probably disappointed in you because you lied, but that doesn't mean they're going to turn their backs on you or love you any less.
You HAVE to stop smoking... I know it probably feels like the only thing to make you feel better right now... but smoking is costing you money you can't afford and is making you feel more depressed and unable to deal with things than if you weren't smoking.
You can start again when you're in a better place.
And you will get a job. You need to. At this stage you can't cherry-pick. Get a job in a call-centre, or as a waiter or anything (go to the local job market) - it'll get you out of the house and away from the computer, you'll meet people and you'll get money. You'll also prove to your parents that you can do it.
University work is crap... but it's only a few years which will eventually be worth it. Ok, you may have 'wasted' a year (or maybe you just needed to take a break from the pressure), but you're motivated now, otherwise you wouldn't be sitting there in the state that you are.
try to concentrate on getting yourself a job and doing the work you have to... your parents will support you when they see you're working... and maybe you might even have to calm the social life down a bit
Take care darlin... and things will get better... you just have to get through this unplesant bit now.
love and hugs
Clare xo
Getting to the other side 
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Pooh-Bah
2,014 posts
Location: Galveston, TX, USA
Pooh-Bah
2,014 posts
Location: Galveston, TX, USA
Posted:
I think you have the know-how to kick yourself into gear.
First off, figure out which is more important to you - eating or smoking? I'd wager a guess and say eating to survive. So, I'd concentrate on doing without the smokey treats for a while - it's not the end of the world, and will probably help to clear your head anyway.
About the job thing - maybe there is something in the wording of your resume/cv that places aren't liking? the way you interact with others in your interview? I know in the states all Uni's have a career center. This career center will provide you with free advice on to how to have a better interview and how to prepare a better cv/resume. I'd suggest contacting yours for some advice in that area.
Maybe taking a job that you don't quite like for a time to use as good experience and acquire useful skills for something better in several months? Kinda use it like a stepping stone opportunity?
Hang in there. Life will get better.
I think you have the know-how to kick yourself into gear.
First off, figure out which is more important to you - eating or smoking? I'd wager a guess and say eating to survive. So, I'd concentrate on doing without the smokey treats for a while - it's not the end of the world, and will probably help to clear your head anyway.
About the job thing - maybe there is something in the wording of your resume/cv that places aren't liking? the way you interact with others in your interview? I know in the states all Uni's have a career center. This career center will provide you with free advice on to how to have a better interview and how to prepare a better cv/resume. I'd suggest contacting yours for some advice in that area.
Maybe taking a job that you don't quite like for a time to use as good experience and acquire useful skills for something better in several months? Kinda use it like a stepping stone opportunity?
Hang in there. Life will get better.
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Pirate Ninja
3,882 posts
Location: Galway/Ireland
Pirate Ninja
3,882 posts
Location: Galway/Ireland
Posted:
Hi UCOF
I think you did very well to get all that out. Firepoise is right, take a breath.
Your in a tough place but there is alot you can do about it. Defo get off the weed for a while, its probably not helping your motivation.
Put down your shame and guilt and be good to yourself. Things will get better but it starts with you buddy.
take care
a
Hi UCOF
I think you did very well to get all that out. Firepoise is right, take a breath.
Your in a tough place but there is alot you can do about it. Defo get off the weed for a while, its probably not helping your motivation.
Put down your shame and guilt and be good to yourself. Things will get better but it starts with you buddy.
take care
a
Love is the law.
feminine tiddly pom
505 posts
Location: cambs england
505 posts
Location: cambs england
Posted:
someone close to me got really paranoid and lazy, but he stoped smoking and now he's really happy. he got arrested, performed Below his potential for his as', and ended up basically hating everyone and turning inwards, but he stopped, which was Amazingly brave and i respect him immensely for it, and he's having a ball now, really getting into art.
so i'll echo,and say stop the smoking.
and if you need the money then get a job-its temporary; you're not looking for a career, so having to put up with it will have to happen.
but you're not losable, you can still turn it all around for yourself
so good luck i guess, and i hope people are looking after you
someone close to me got really paranoid and lazy, but he stoped smoking and now he's really happy. he got arrested, performed Below his potential for his as', and ended up basically hating everyone and turning inwards, but he stopped, which was Amazingly brave and i respect him immensely for it, and he's having a ball now, really getting into art.
so i'll echo,and say stop the smoking.
and if you need the money then get a job-its temporary; you're not looking for a career, so having to put up with it will have to happen.
but you're not losable, you can still turn it all around for yourself
so good luck i guess, and i hope people are looking after you
in state of metamorphosis
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15,417 posts
Location: South Wales
15,417 posts
Location: South Wales
Posted:
Right.. after some well timed words of wisdom from close friends. Im all good now.
I havent had a smoke for 2 days now (agreeably this is because ive run out but....)
I will get up nice and early in the morning and ring my mum. Then im going to print of some CVs and drop them in everywhere. I will then return home and get dressed. Then email my personal tutor at uni asking him for lots of help and support next year. I want him to email my subject tutors and ask them to shout at me if i (for some reason) dont hand in a peice or work, similarly for missing seminars and lectures.
Thanks for what you have already said. More words of wisdom and advice will be greatly appreciated though.
You can start the hugs again now
Right.. after some well timed words of wisdom from close friends. Im all good now.
I havent had a smoke for 2 days now (agreeably this is because ive run out but....)
I will get up nice and early in the morning and ring my mum. Then im going to print of some CVs and drop them in everywhere. I will then return home and get dressed. Then email my personal tutor at uni asking him for lots of help and support next year. I want him to email my subject tutors and ask them to shout at me if i (for some reason) dont hand in a peice or work, similarly for missing seminars and lectures.
Thanks for what you have already said. More words of wisdom and advice will be greatly appreciated though.
You can start the hugs again now
Pooh-Bah
2,354 posts
Location: Away from home
2,354 posts
Location: Away from home
Posted:
good
good
Heaven doesn't want me, and Hell is afraid I'll take over
192 posts
Location: Wolverhampton
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Location: Wolverhampton
Posted:
Your Uni should also have some kind of student counselling and welfare section - you should seriously consider going to see them. I work in a Uni and I've seen plenty of students who have stories just like yours - just having the chance to sit down with someone and unload all their problems can be a big help, and the counselling service can give you loads of help with the practicalities of life at Uni.
Giving up smoking and getting a job (whatever kind of job, just keep reminding yourself it's not forever!) can also be good for lifting your morale and giving your self-esteem a boost.
And once your family see you're making an effort, they won't be so hard on you either.
The lack of motivation is a bit more difficult, your tutor should be willing to give you support and guidance, and maybe you could find out if they have some kind of mentoring scheme that you could join. It all helps!
Congrats on giving up smoking, a few less smokes a day means more potatoes for you!!
mups
Your Uni should also have some kind of student counselling and welfare section - you should seriously consider going to see them. I work in a Uni and I've seen plenty of students who have stories just like yours - just having the chance to sit down with someone and unload all their problems can be a big help, and the counselling service can give you loads of help with the practicalities of life at Uni.
Giving up smoking and getting a job (whatever kind of job, just keep reminding yourself it's not forever!) can also be good for lifting your morale and giving your self-esteem a boost.
And once your family see you're making an effort, they won't be so hard on you either.
The lack of motivation is a bit more difficult, your tutor should be willing to give you support and guidance, and maybe you could find out if they have some kind of mentoring scheme that you could join. It all helps!
Congrats on giving up smoking, a few less smokes a day means more potatoes for you!!
mups
"Abashed, the Devil stood and saw how awful Goodness is"
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Pooh-Bah
1,750 posts
Location: london, United Kingdom
Pooh-Bah
1,750 posts
Location: london, United Kingdom
Posted:
I know it isnt the same but at least i got to hug you for real on sunday
I dont have any thing to add to what has already been said
Look after yourself, figure out what your goals are yet do the things you desperatly need to do to look after you !
There for you hun
I know it isnt the same but at least i got to hug you for real on sunday
I dont have any thing to add to what has already been said
Look after yourself, figure out what your goals are yet do the things you desperatly need to do to look after you !
There for you hun
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Mistress of Pink...Multicoloured
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Location: Over There, United Kingdom
Mistress of Pink...Multicoloured
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Location: Over There, United Kingdom
Posted:
Maybe you should print off what you just wrote and send it to your mum? I know that writing things are sometimes better than saying things to people, as they can't butt in and such? Maybe if she knows how you feel, how you really feel, then she will take a different attitude.
Maybe you should print off what you just wrote and send it to your mum? I know that writing things are sometimes better than saying things to people, as they can't butt in and such? Maybe if she knows how you feel, how you really feel, then she will take a different attitude.
Never pick up a duck in a dungeon...
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Carpal \'Tunnel
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Location: Austin, Texas, USA
Carpal \'Tunnel
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Location: Austin, Texas, USA
Posted:
OMG UCOF!
rought times...
your family will get over it - eventually. Let them be pissed off for now, and they will eventually cool down. You are such a warm accepting soul and I am willing to bet that comes from somewhere.
I think you should be more concerned about what you think about yourself. when things are down, it is hard to beleive in yourself and it takes so much effort to accomplish things because you put so many mental barriers in your own way. Once things get that way, it takes a lot of mental fortitude to pull yourself back up.
But I know you can, even if you have doubts right now. It sounds like you are already on your way, because (even though it sounds cliche) admitting you have a problem is half the battle - or at least the first step.
Don't know if I should share this story, but my brother hit a low, much lower than your current one, about 10 years ago. He was taking so much speed that he was shooting at imaginary aliens and/or CIA agents with automatic weapons inside of his own house! I won't get into the details of me having to come bail him out of the most messed up situation I have ever seen, thinking that at any moment he would put a gun to my head and pull the trigger. What I will tell you is how he is doing today - He has the love of an amazing woman who he married a few years ago, has a career that is doing extremely well, and has a financial worth of over $1,000,000 - Although he still moans about life sometimes (
)
As of 10 years ago, I never liked my brother much. didn't really know him very well since he moved out of the house when I was like 3 years old and I always thought he was a self centered boob. I've only just recently made friends with him. But he was my brother, and, when push came to shove, it was clear that I had to do everything in my power to help him. In the long run, it was my sisters who did the most work sobering him up, getting him a job, helping him get his mind and act together, but I did the quick, dirty and dangerous work in the beginning. I'm not even sure why. Had it been anyone else, anyone outside my family, I would have said "to hell with this" and got out of there ASAP the first time he pointed a gun at me while he was snuffed to the gills with meth. Probably wouldn't have stayed that long. But despite the fact that I didn't particularly like him at the time, I stayed, I spent a lot of time, energy, money, and personal risk to get him out of immediate danger - from himself and others, all the while under survelance by the police too. I think they were hoping for a really big bust, but they waited too long - or maybe they were just looking for a minimum resistance way to resolve the situation and let me have my run at it.
Anyway, the point is, your family will be there when you really need them. they will probably give you endless crap for f**king up, but they will be there and will do their best to get you back on your feet as long as you don't act to proud to take their help. You are too valuable to all them for this to not be true. They may not acknowledge that consciously, but they know it instinctively.
Your story isn't nearly what my brother's was, and the important thing is that you know you messed up, you are sorry for it, and you are learning from your mistakes. That is part of growing up. Lots of people have learned these sorts of things the hard way, and I am absolutely sure you'll get everything sorted soon since that seems to be what you really want now.
And you know how to get a hold of me if you ever need anything - anything at all. I know I'm probably pretty far down your list of people to contact for such things, but don't be afraid to if you need to.
OMG UCOF!
rought times...
your family will get over it - eventually. Let them be pissed off for now, and they will eventually cool down. You are such a warm accepting soul and I am willing to bet that comes from somewhere.
I think you should be more concerned about what you think about yourself. when things are down, it is hard to beleive in yourself and it takes so much effort to accomplish things because you put so many mental barriers in your own way. Once things get that way, it takes a lot of mental fortitude to pull yourself back up.
But I know you can, even if you have doubts right now. It sounds like you are already on your way, because (even though it sounds cliche) admitting you have a problem is half the battle - or at least the first step.
Don't know if I should share this story, but my brother hit a low, much lower than your current one, about 10 years ago. He was taking so much speed that he was shooting at imaginary aliens and/or CIA agents with automatic weapons inside of his own house! I won't get into the details of me having to come bail him out of the most messed up situation I have ever seen, thinking that at any moment he would put a gun to my head and pull the trigger. What I will tell you is how he is doing today - He has the love of an amazing woman who he married a few years ago, has a career that is doing extremely well, and has a financial worth of over $1,000,000 - Although he still moans about life sometimes (
)As of 10 years ago, I never liked my brother much. didn't really know him very well since he moved out of the house when I was like 3 years old and I always thought he was a self centered boob. I've only just recently made friends with him. But he was my brother, and, when push came to shove, it was clear that I had to do everything in my power to help him. In the long run, it was my sisters who did the most work sobering him up, getting him a job, helping him get his mind and act together, but I did the quick, dirty and dangerous work in the beginning. I'm not even sure why. Had it been anyone else, anyone outside my family, I would have said "to hell with this" and got out of there ASAP the first time he pointed a gun at me while he was snuffed to the gills with meth. Probably wouldn't have stayed that long. But despite the fact that I didn't particularly like him at the time, I stayed, I spent a lot of time, energy, money, and personal risk to get him out of immediate danger - from himself and others, all the while under survelance by the police too. I think they were hoping for a really big bust, but they waited too long - or maybe they were just looking for a minimum resistance way to resolve the situation and let me have my run at it.
Anyway, the point is, your family will be there when you really need them. they will probably give you endless crap for f**king up, but they will be there and will do their best to get you back on your feet as long as you don't act to proud to take their help. You are too valuable to all them for this to not be true. They may not acknowledge that consciously, but they know it instinctively.
Your story isn't nearly what my brother's was, and the important thing is that you know you messed up, you are sorry for it, and you are learning from your mistakes. That is part of growing up. Lots of people have learned these sorts of things the hard way, and I am absolutely sure you'll get everything sorted soon since that seems to be what you really want now.
And you know how to get a hold of me if you ever need anything - anything at all. I know I'm probably pretty far down your list of people to contact for such things, but don't be afraid to if you need to.
-v-
Wiederstand ist Zwecklos!
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.:*distracted by shiny things*:.
3,777 posts
Location: brizvegas, Australia
.:*distracted by shiny things*:.
3,777 posts
Location: brizvegas, Australia
Posted:
i don't know what to say. i know (like u said) this won't help but i don't know what else to do. right now, if i was there with you i'd probably hug you and cry along with you!
i don't know what to say.
i know (like u said) this won't help but i don't know what else to do. right now, if i was there with you i'd probably hug you and cry along with you! do not meddle in the affairs of dragons, for you are crunchy and good to eat!
if at first you do succeed, try not to look too astonished!
smile! :grin: it confuses people!
NYC
9,232 posts
Location: NYC, NY, USA
9,232 posts
Location: NYC, NY, USA
Posted:
Aaight homie... only cuz I know you I'm gonna give it to you straight.
Shut up and buck up.
Most of the 'problems' you're currently facing are SOLELY responsible for. And guess what, that's really good news. Because it means you have the abilty to fix it.
1) Get organized and make goals. Sit down. Make a list of how to fix your life. It may seem tough, and you may not be able to fix everything, but you can certainly start.
2) Find resources to get it done. If you want to get a job, get one. Don't just drop of CVs at a few places and then watch TV while the don't call you. If you want to stay in school, then do whatever you need to do to make that happen.
3) Do it. Do it now. Today. Right now. Don't stop until it's done.
One of the New York City crew put it nicely when discussing projects...
The ONLY thing between you and what you want to do is your own lazy ass.
You're actually, honestly lucky... most of the problems that you've got are solely solvable by you. You're not a victim of any of this.
You've got more opportunities and resources than 99% of the people on this planet do.
Shut up and buck up. I'd rather you hate me and get off your lazy ass than love me and be miserable.
And don't check back here until you've made serious progress.
I'd wish you luck but luck is for suckers. Go do it.
Aaight homie... only cuz I know you I'm gonna give it to you straight.
Shut up and buck up.
Most of the 'problems' you're currently facing are SOLELY responsible for. And guess what, that's really good news. Because it means you have the abilty to fix it.
1) Get organized and make goals. Sit down. Make a list of how to fix your life. It may seem tough, and you may not be able to fix everything, but you can certainly start.
2) Find resources to get it done. If you want to get a job, get one. Don't just drop of CVs at a few places and then watch TV while the don't call you. If you want to stay in school, then do whatever you need to do to make that happen.
3) Do it. Do it now. Today. Right now. Don't stop until it's done.
One of the New York City crew put it nicely when discussing projects...
The ONLY thing between you and what you want to do is your own lazy ass.
You're actually, honestly lucky... most of the problems that you've got are solely solvable by you. You're not a victim of any of this.
You've got more opportunities and resources than 99% of the people on this planet do.
Shut up and buck up. I'd rather you hate me and get off your lazy ass than love me and be miserable.
And don't check back here until you've made serious progress.
I'd wish you luck but luck is for suckers. Go do it.
Well, shall we go?
Yes, let's go.
[They do not move.]
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Posted:
SILVER Member
spiny norman
314 posts
Location: Cincinnati,damn it, USA
spiny norman
314 posts
Location: Cincinnati,damn it, USA
Posted:
everyone has already given really good advice
you will pull through because you know you have to
stop smokeing, monitor yourself, be aware of where you are in your life, like NYC said, these are your problems, which means you and only you have to power and responsibility to fix them
good luck and much luv
peace/fire
lyra
everyone has already given really good advice
you will pull through because you know you have to
stop smokeing, monitor yourself, be aware of where you are in your life, like NYC said, these are your problems, which means you and only you have to power and responsibility to fix them
good luck and much luv
peace/fire
lyra
if you think that our kiss was all in the lips, come on you got it all wrong man, and if you think that our dance was all in the hips then, oh well, do the twist -The White Stripes
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Pasta of Muppets
2,722 posts
Location: in the interwebs..., United Kingdom
Pasta of Muppets
2,722 posts
Location: in the interwebs..., United Kingdom
Posted:
Let me give you a personal point of view. Been there, done that. Same situation, but I failed, dropped out, came back home and worked a supermarket for 3 years after the nervous breakdown. You know the kind of thing that makes you have an almost constant day long panic attack. I spent a whole day with my head under the covers. Im cool now, but I have no future except Im going to try Drama school nextv year. Im now 26, and earning half of the avarage of people my age.
Take a tip... Suicide is not an option. I self harm, less so lately, but I cannot kill myself because I would have no chance of an afterlife... Personal beliefs aside, beware.
Never Quit.
Give up the smoking though, as it does have side effects, being a brain chemical enhancer, it *WILL* burn you out. I went to Uni, was quite a light smoker, but I went in with 156 IQ points, and came out with 147. Go figure...
Otherwise LISTEN TO THESE GUYS
Thats all.
Ps... I lost my mum 4 weeks ago. Never let anything get between you, cos you never know when it will become permanent.
Love to you man, keep the world turning and your chin up, tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life...
Let me give you a personal point of view. Been there, done that. Same situation, but I failed, dropped out, came back home and worked a supermarket for 3 years after the nervous breakdown. You know the kind of thing that makes you have an almost constant day long panic attack. I spent a whole day with my head under the covers. Im cool now, but I have no future except Im going to try Drama school nextv year. Im now 26, and earning half of the avarage of people my age.
Take a tip... Suicide is not an option. I self harm, less so lately, but I cannot kill myself because I would have no chance of an afterlife... Personal beliefs aside, beware.
Never Quit.
Give up the smoking though, as it does have side effects, being a brain chemical enhancer, it *WILL* burn you out. I went to Uni, was quite a light smoker, but I went in with 156 IQ points, and came out with 147. Go figure...
Otherwise LISTEN TO THESE GUYS
Thats all.
Ps... I lost my mum 4 weeks ago. Never let anything get between you, cos you never know when it will become permanent.
Love to you man, keep the world turning and your chin up, tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life...
ohmygodlaserbeamspewpewpew!
SILVER Member
Tantamount to fatuity
15,967 posts
Location: Down the road, United Kingdom
Tantamount to fatuity
15,967 posts
Location: Down the road, United Kingdom
Posted:
I know what'll depress you even more - I'm coming to stay next week
I know what'll depress you even more - I'm coming to stay next week
Meh
GOLD Member
HoP's Barman. Trapped aged 6 months
4,437 posts
Location: Staines, United Kingdom
HoP's Barman. Trapped aged 6 months
4,437 posts
Location: Staines, United Kingdom
Posted:
hey UCOF
i dont know you apart from the posts on here but i do recgnise your plight slightly, i got a broken fmily too which isnt totally relevant and always seem to be the underdog compared to the brother n sister, constant probelm with not working my arse off i know what i have to do but always seem to much of a lazy its so stupid knowig the things that can fix it all yet not being able to for whatever reason sucks doesnt it
and im not gonna do the whole hug thing and give you some advice cos 1) im crap at it and 2) we both know that you wont take heed of it, but what the hell i'll try some words of wisdom
maybe theres some way you could subtely direct your mum to see this post you have left, it was a very honest thing what you said and i definetly think it could help, either way man you seem like a really nice guy n i hope one day i can meet you, your going through a rough patch, a really rough patch, and all i can say is keep your chin up and trudge through the day and i hope a solution pans oput, good things happen to good people, take care UCOF and stay with us
hey UCOF
i dont know you apart from the posts on here but i do recgnise your plight slightly, i got a broken fmily too which isnt totally relevant and always seem to be the underdog compared to the brother n sister, constant probelm with not working my arse off i know what i have to do but always seem to much of a lazy
its so stupid knowig the things that can fix it all yet not being able to for whatever reason sucks doesnt itand im not gonna do the whole hug thing and give you some advice cos 1) im crap at it and 2) we both know that you wont take heed of it, but what the hell i'll try some words of wisdom
maybe theres some way you could subtely direct your mum to see this post you have left, it was a very honest thing what you said and i definetly think it could help, either way man you seem like a really nice guy n i hope one day i can meet you, your going through a rough patch, a really rough patch, and all i can say is keep your chin up and trudge through the day and i hope a solution pans oput, good things happen to good people, take care UCOF and stay with us
An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind
Give a man a fish and he'll eat 4 a day hit a man with a brick and you can have all his fish and his wife
"Will's to pretty for prison" - Simian
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2 posts
Location: zone D
2 posts
Location: zone D
Posted:
As a rule, I do not post. Only this once, and for you I will post. I have nothing to say that I want everybody to see, but I do want everybody to see that I have something to say. See you thursday my skinny little man.
As a rule, I do not post. Only this once, and for you I will post. I have nothing to say that I want everybody to see, but I do want everybody to see that I have something to say. See you thursday my skinny little man.
GOLD Member
HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
Posted:
Check your PM's, mate.
Check your PM's, mate.
-Mike
Certified Mad Doctor and HoP High Priest of Nutella
A buckuht n a hooze! -Valura
NYC
9,232 posts
Location: NYC, NY, USA
9,232 posts
Location: NYC, NY, USA
Posted:
Judging by the number of posts you're posting a day Mr. UCOF.. I was wondering what steps you'd taken to alleviate the situation above.
Or is HoP your current addiction to keep you from reality?
Your self determined splash of cold water and tough love advocate,
NYC
Judging by the number of posts you're posting a day Mr. UCOF.. I was wondering what steps you'd taken to alleviate the situation above.
Or is HoP your current addiction to keep you from reality?
Your self determined splash of cold water and tough love advocate,
NYC
Well, shall we go?
Yes, let's go.
[They do not move.]
SILVER Member
15,417 posts
Location: South Wales
15,417 posts
Location: South Wales
Posted:
Ive been meaning to post a follow up for a few days now so here goes:
All is good with my mum now. Everythign is back to the way it should be. I emailed her saying:
"I [censored] up. Im sorry. I lied. Im sorry. I decieved you, dad, kathryn as well as the rest of the family. Im sorry. I tried to do an ostrich and buryied my head in the sand and forget about my problems. Im sorry. Im not fit to be your son. Im sorry. I am lazy ass twat who expects others to do everything for me. Im sorry.
I want you to read this:
[Old link]
I wrote that all last night after getting a message from Kathryn saying that you wanted nothing more to do with me. If that is the case, then dont reply to this message.If i dont hear from you by monday evening (you wont be at work over the weekend i presume), then I will delete you from my mobile phone, throw away my key to chesham (if you havent changed the locks already) and never try to contact you.
I hope you dont mean it.
I love you mum. You have always been there for me with boundless support and love. Thank you. Thank you for giving birth to me goddamit. I love my life (when im not screwing it up) and enjoy it.
I wasnt taking any calls from anyone last night... that was why i picked up the phone and hung up again..i didnt even raise it to my ear. I did 1471 afterwards so i know it was you.
So far today, I have handed out loads of CVs including to Safeways (and you know how much i dont want to work there), the computer store (they might be interested in me) and Dixons. I had a wander through canterbury looking for ANY job positions...but it is like getting blood out of a stone.....there isnt anything.
I have also emailed my personal tutor requesting his help, support and for him to work closely with me next year.
I am determined to get a degree from the university of Kent in Computing and German. I am determined to finally make you proud of me.
Im sorry for being a total jerk and for never getting my arse into gear, for spitting back all the support you have shown me...and basically for being a total and utter jerk.
I love you mum.
Hoping I hear from you,
Jon.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"
I emailed my personal tutor with this:
"hello Dr Preece, I hope you had a better summer than I did, lets face it, Saddam Hussain probably had a better summer than me.
I will be redoing my first year, and, as to not blass it up like last year I would like you to work closely with me. I need people shouting at me if I miss lectures or seminars, I need reminders about peices of work. I might even need extra peices of work to help keep me motivated.
I want to get a degree. I want to go through university and come out at the end. I wnat ot make my parents proud of me (which they are not at the moment).
As I didnt really see much of you last year, and you dont really know the real Jon, would it be possible for you to speak to the head of Sixth from at my previous school, and ask for his advice about the best way to deal with me. This man knows a lot about me and was always very supportive of me.
The telephone number is 01494 787500.
The school is Dr Challoners Grammar School.
If it is not your place to do this, or if i am being out of line, then please tell me. I dont know how Universities work and who is supposed to do what.
I think my main problem is organisation.
Is there anywhere i can get a huge diary wall planner thing?
Thanks for all of your help and I look forward to getting back to studying.
See you soon,
Jon Kneller"
and helpfully he replied with this:
"Dear Jonathan
I am sorry if I mislead you about your chances of returning
to repeat the year. Unfortunately the Exam Board saw no
alternative but to recommend you withdraw. Perhaps on
reflection this is the best option for you.
If you are still set on studying German then you could get
yourself a job over there and really learn some before
trying again, with us or at another institution.
I wish you all good fortune.
Julian Preece"
I refrained from calling him an unhelpful twat, seeing as I have already spoken to the Head of German (who is also on teh board of examiners) and the HEad of Humanities at uni and they both siad it was ok to repeat the year before I had recieved that email.
However, Im still waiting for official confirmation that they will let me redo the year....they said they would be ready to tell me today...and they havent...and term starts on Monday.
I replied to him with:
"OK.
so whats happening? am i not allowed to return to the uni to do
anything?
or not allowed to return to the uni to do german?
or just not allowed to do the same course?
I know what I did wrong last year and why i screwed up so badly and i am
determined to not repeat that.
I have spoken to Osman Durrani about this when i decided I was not going
to do the resits. I went up the uni and spoke to him on the phone, he said
he was happy for me to retake the year, but i only if i put in 100%
commitment, which i am going to do.
You say I should get a job over there (In Germany) and really learn some
before trying again. Really learn some what? German? or just stuff in
general? I know a fair bit of German, that was not the problem. The
problem was that I was a complete moron and didnt read what we were supposed
to.
I have spoken also to Margret Anderson who said she would be sending me
the information and forms to fill out, so that i could retake the year.
I am goign to be in Canterbury for definate, until next june, and it is
my intention to sit down, do this year and pass it.
From Jon."
He replied:
"This matter is unfortunately out of my hands. In the opinion of my other
colleagues your lack of sufficient German was a problem and your failure to do
any work for the re-sits was also an issue. Professor Durrani happens also to
be the Chief Examiner Part 1 for the whole Faculty and it is in that capacity
that he took the decision that he has taken.
Julian Preece"
On the job front...I have a pre-interview test for Safeways (Satan is sucking out my soul) on Saturday, and if I pass that, I have an interview. I cant see it as too challenging...but i will prepare for it.
All of the housemates who are returning are now back and the fridge, freezer and cupboards are stocked full, and even better, we now have over 500 tea bags
We spent about £70 on food so we will be fine for a good while. They are also helping out with the bills as well now which is great.
So overall...life is much better now.
Im all well and happy and amusing myself on HOP, thus the postingness NYC.
Ive been meaning to post a follow up for a few days now so here goes:
All is good with my mum now. Everythign is back to the way it should be. I emailed her saying:
"I [censored] up. Im sorry. I lied. Im sorry. I decieved you, dad, kathryn as well as the rest of the family. Im sorry. I tried to do an ostrich and buryied my head in the sand and forget about my problems. Im sorry. Im not fit to be your son. Im sorry. I am lazy ass twat who expects others to do everything for me. Im sorry.
I want you to read this:
[Old link]
I wrote that all last night after getting a message from Kathryn saying that you wanted nothing more to do with me. If that is the case, then dont reply to this message.If i dont hear from you by monday evening (you wont be at work over the weekend i presume), then I will delete you from my mobile phone, throw away my key to chesham (if you havent changed the locks already) and never try to contact you.
I hope you dont mean it.
I love you mum. You have always been there for me with boundless support and love. Thank you. Thank you for giving birth to me goddamit. I love my life (when im not screwing it up) and enjoy it.
I wasnt taking any calls from anyone last night... that was why i picked up the phone and hung up again..i didnt even raise it to my ear. I did 1471 afterwards so i know it was you.
So far today, I have handed out loads of CVs including to Safeways (and you know how much i dont want to work there), the computer store (they might be interested in me) and Dixons. I had a wander through canterbury looking for ANY job positions...but it is like getting blood out of a stone.....there isnt anything.
I have also emailed my personal tutor requesting his help, support and for him to work closely with me next year.
I am determined to get a degree from the university of Kent in Computing and German. I am determined to finally make you proud of me.
Im sorry for being a total jerk and for never getting my arse into gear, for spitting back all the support you have shown me...and basically for being a total and utter jerk.
I love you mum.
Hoping I hear from you,
Jon.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"
I emailed my personal tutor with this:
"hello Dr Preece, I hope you had a better summer than I did, lets face it, Saddam Hussain probably had a better summer than me.
I will be redoing my first year, and, as to not blass it up like last year I would like you to work closely with me. I need people shouting at me if I miss lectures or seminars, I need reminders about peices of work. I might even need extra peices of work to help keep me motivated.
I want to get a degree. I want to go through university and come out at the end. I wnat ot make my parents proud of me (which they are not at the moment).
As I didnt really see much of you last year, and you dont really know the real Jon, would it be possible for you to speak to the head of Sixth from at my previous school, and ask for his advice about the best way to deal with me. This man knows a lot about me and was always very supportive of me.
The telephone number is 01494 787500.
The school is Dr Challoners Grammar School.
If it is not your place to do this, or if i am being out of line, then please tell me. I dont know how Universities work and who is supposed to do what.
I think my main problem is organisation.
Is there anywhere i can get a huge diary wall planner thing?
Thanks for all of your help and I look forward to getting back to studying.
See you soon,
Jon Kneller"
and helpfully he replied with this:
"Dear Jonathan
I am sorry if I mislead you about your chances of returning
to repeat the year. Unfortunately the Exam Board saw no
alternative but to recommend you withdraw. Perhaps on
reflection this is the best option for you.
If you are still set on studying German then you could get
yourself a job over there and really learn some before
trying again, with us or at another institution.
I wish you all good fortune.
Julian Preece"
I refrained from calling him an unhelpful twat, seeing as I have already spoken to the Head of German (who is also on teh board of examiners) and the HEad of Humanities at uni and they both siad it was ok to repeat the year before I had recieved that email.
However, Im still waiting for official confirmation that they will let me redo the year....they said they would be ready to tell me today...and they havent...and term starts on Monday.
I replied to him with:
"OK.
so whats happening? am i not allowed to return to the uni to do
anything?
or not allowed to return to the uni to do german?
or just not allowed to do the same course?
I know what I did wrong last year and why i screwed up so badly and i am
determined to not repeat that.
I have spoken to Osman Durrani about this when i decided I was not going
to do the resits. I went up the uni and spoke to him on the phone, he said
he was happy for me to retake the year, but i only if i put in 100%
commitment, which i am going to do.
You say I should get a job over there (In Germany) and really learn some
before trying again. Really learn some what? German? or just stuff in
general? I know a fair bit of German, that was not the problem. The
problem was that I was a complete moron and didnt read what we were supposed
to.
I have spoken also to Margret Anderson who said she would be sending me
the information and forms to fill out, so that i could retake the year.
I am goign to be in Canterbury for definate, until next june, and it is
my intention to sit down, do this year and pass it.
From Jon."
He replied:
"This matter is unfortunately out of my hands. In the opinion of my other
colleagues your lack of sufficient German was a problem and your failure to do
any work for the re-sits was also an issue. Professor Durrani happens also to
be the Chief Examiner Part 1 for the whole Faculty and it is in that capacity
that he took the decision that he has taken.
Julian Preece"
On the job front...I have a pre-interview test for Safeways (Satan is sucking out my soul) on Saturday, and if I pass that, I have an interview. I cant see it as too challenging...but i will prepare for it.
All of the housemates who are returning are now back and the fridge, freezer and cupboards are stocked full, and even better, we now have over 500 tea bags
We spent about £70 on food so we will be fine for a good while. They are also helping out with the bills as well now which is great.
So overall...life is much better now.
Im all well and happy and amusing myself on HOP, thus the postingness NYC.
SILVER Member
veteran
1,389 posts
Location: Guelph, ON, Canada
veteran
1,389 posts
Location: Guelph, ON, Canada
Posted:
Been lurking about this post since it started, haven't said anything... But now, congrats for doing something about it! Figure out the uni bit, and you'll be on your way, with HoP behind you, ready with cattle prod if need be.
~ Bobo
Been lurking about this post since it started, haven't said anything... But now, congrats for doing something about it! Figure out the uni bit, and you'll be on your way, with HoP behind you, ready with cattle prod if need be.
~ Bobo
wie weit, wie weit noch?
fragst mich, wo wir gewesen sind...
du fehlst hier
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Self-Flagellation Expert
3,414 posts
Location: Bogged at CG, Australia
Self-Flagellation Expert
3,414 posts
Location: Bogged at CG, Australia
Posted:
Very big congratulations on getting back on your feet. It's hard, and it sucks, i know. i'm taking the easy way out - joining the army and getting them to straighten me out for me.
You being able to get it done yourself has boosted my respect for you, for what it's worth. Best of luck with re-doing uni. I cant really offer any help there, i didnt even finish first year.
Someone needs to make a bottle of motivation. you can drink it, and be fully revved up to go out and make stuff happen.
Very big congratulations on getting back on your feet. It's hard, and it sucks, i know. i'm taking the easy way out - joining the army and getting them to straighten me out for me.
You being able to get it done yourself has boosted my respect for you, for what it's worth. Best of luck with re-doing uni. I cant really offer any help there, i didnt even finish first year.
Someone needs to make a bottle of motivation. you can drink it, and be fully revved up to go out and make stuff happen.
"beg beg grovel beg grovel"
"master"
--FSA
"There was an arse there, i couldn't help myself"
--Rougie
SILVER Member
All the neurotic makings of America's lesser known sweetheart
9,831 posts
Location: body in Las Vegas, heart all around the world, USA
All the neurotic makings of America's lesser known sweetheart
9,831 posts
Location: body in Las Vegas, heart all around the world, USA
Posted:
congratulations on getting yourself motivated. i hope everything works out for you
congratulations on getting yourself motivated. i hope everything works out for you
I was always scared with my mother's obsession with the good scissors. It made me wonder if there were evil scissors lurking in the house somewhere.
Do not meddle in the affairs of dragons for you are crunchy and good with ketchup.
**giggles**
SILVER Member
Pasta of Muppets
2,722 posts
Location: in the interwebs..., United Kingdom
Pasta of Muppets
2,722 posts
Location: in the interwebs..., United Kingdom
Posted:
I know this wont help, but go in and punch the twat Julian in the face and tell him he's got a gay name...
Stress Relief!!!
J/K, there's enough crap in the world right now. Just have faith, things get better... Honest, Ive got your t shirt, but like I said I dropped out, and I want to go do a drama degree next year, thats my dream...
See you peeps, stay frosty when playing with fire....
I know this wont help, but go in and punch the twat Julian in the face and tell him he's got a gay name...
Stress Relief!!!
J/K, there's enough crap in the world right now. Just have faith, things get better... Honest, Ive got your t shirt, but like I said I dropped out, and I want to go do a drama degree next year, thats my dream...
See you peeps, stay frosty when playing with fire....
ohmygodlaserbeamspewpewpew!
SILVER Member
15,417 posts
Location: South Wales
15,417 posts
Location: South Wales
Posted:
Which one?
I havent noticed any missing...
have you been raiding my washing line again?
Written by: =FL@5hPoin+=
Honest, Ive got your t shirt,
Which one?
I havent noticed any missing...
have you been raiding my washing line again?
SILVER Member
Running hippy spinning lemming
15 posts
Location: Scotland
Running hippy spinning lemming
15 posts
Location: Scotland
Posted:
well done with everything you have done already - its really impressive,
good luck,
take care of yourself
thinking of you xxx
well done with everything you have done already - its really impressive,
good luck,
take care of yourself
thinking of you xxx
Fear leads to anger; anger leads to hate; hate leads to suffering...
SILVER Member
veteran
1,260 posts
Location: Now in the land of Oz, Australia
veteran
1,260 posts
Location: Now in the land of Oz, Australia
Posted:
hay hun it is grate to here that your geting things sorted! i hope it all works out. sorry i cant write much iv got to get of the net
luv and tissues
bunny
hay hun it is grate to here that your geting things sorted!
i hope it all works out. sorry i cant write much iv got to get of the netluv and tissues
bunny
What if we think the jokes on them,
But really - the jokes on us....
and also... i wuv Rougie *snuz*
BRONZE Member
member
44 posts
Location: southampton, United Kingdom
member
44 posts
Location: southampton, United Kingdom
Posted:
I also to well know the perils of canterbury+weed . I spent two years there at KIAD. Well done on everything so far. Dont be disheartened by any knock backs from the Uni, your obvious attitude change will pull you through. You just have too keep trying as you have to make them realise how much you want this, and be prepared to give you another chance. Even if this means doing some kind of access course or voluntary studies over the next year to make them see your serious.
GOOD LUCK!
I also to well know the perils of canterbury+weed . I spent two years there at KIAD. Well done on everything so far. Dont be disheartened by any knock backs from the Uni, your obvious attitude change will pull you through. You just have too keep trying as you have to make them realise how much you want this, and be prepared to give you another chance. Even if this means doing some kind of access course or voluntary studies over the next year to make them see your serious.
GOOD LUCK!
SILVER Member
Pasta of Muppets
2,722 posts
Location: in the interwebs..., United Kingdom
Pasta of Muppets
2,722 posts
Location: in the interwebs..., United Kingdom
Posted:
Not for t-shirts, old bean, just for you stained and sweaty shredded pants, to put in my "gallery of stained and sweaty shredded pants of the UK" exhibition.
You probably think im mad, but its just the golden syrup talking...
Written by: Unborn Children on FireWritten by: =FL@5hPoin+=
Honest, Ive got your t shirt,
Which one?
I havent noticed any missing...
have you been raiding my washing line again?
Not for t-shirts, old bean, just for you stained and sweaty shredded pants, to put in my "gallery of stained and sweaty shredded pants of the UK" exhibition.
You probably think im mad, but its just the golden syrup talking...
ohmygodlaserbeamspewpewpew!
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