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Tantamount to fatuity
15,967 posts
Location: Down the road, United Kingdom
Tantamount to fatuity
15,967 posts
Location: Down the road, United Kingdom
Posted:
Today I have mostly been considering whether or not I want to keep visiting this site.
I used to love coming here and would spent great lengths of time trawling through the pages looking for interesting things to do and people that looked lost that I could try to help out. I liked the fact that people seemed to genuinely like me and paid attention to things that I said. I loved the fact that people seemed to actually enjoy my sense of humour and general style of aimless banter.
Plus I liked to try and help out the site by looking out for potential troublemakers and/or HoPpers who were in need of help from senior members of the HoP team. And pointing people in the right direction.
I was always under the impression that Malcolm and the mods were happy about me doing this (as they often sent me encouraging emails to that end).
But it seems I was misguided in this belief as a senior member of the admin team chastised me the other night for doing just that.
This makes me reluctant to try and help now. I don’t want to upset any one obviously. I just always thought I was helping…
And it’s little things like that that started me thinking that I maybe don’t want to post on here anymore.
There’s a lot more reasons than that but I don’t want to upset individual people (why should anyone but me be p!ssed off – wouldn’t be very fair now would it)
Suffice to say that it’s a whole load of little things that, I guess, shouldn’t bother me. But just lately they do.
The really annoying thing is that I know who’s going to reply to this thread and what they’re going to say. [I]And I also know who’s going to refrain from posting because I of what I’ve just written in this paragraph.[/I]
I think I’m just tired/lonely/grumpy/etc
Feel free to ignore me. I would if it were you posting this
Cantus J Fraggle
Today I have mostly been considering whether or not I want to keep visiting this site.
I used to love coming here and would spent great lengths of time trawling through the pages looking for interesting things to do and people that looked lost that I could try to help out. I liked the fact that people seemed to genuinely like me and paid attention to things that I said. I loved the fact that people seemed to actually enjoy my sense of humour and general style of aimless banter.
Plus I liked to try and help out the site by looking out for potential troublemakers and/or HoPpers who were in need of help from senior members of the HoP team. And pointing people in the right direction.
I was always under the impression that Malcolm and the mods were happy about me doing this (as they often sent me encouraging emails to that end).
But it seems I was misguided in this belief as a senior member of the admin team chastised me the other night for doing just that.
This makes me reluctant to try and help now. I don’t want to upset any one obviously. I just always thought I was helping…
And it’s little things like that that started me thinking that I maybe don’t want to post on here anymore.
There’s a lot more reasons than that but I don’t want to upset individual people (why should anyone but me be p!ssed off – wouldn’t be very fair now would it)
Suffice to say that it’s a whole load of little things that, I guess, shouldn’t bother me. But just lately they do.
The really annoying thing is that I know who’s going to reply to this thread and what they’re going to say. [I]And I also know who’s going to refrain from posting because I of what I’ve just written in this paragraph.[/I]
I think I’m just tired/lonely/grumpy/etc
Feel free to ignore me. I would if it were you posting this
Cantus J Fraggle
Meh
SILVER Member
15,417 posts
Location: South Wales
15,417 posts
Location: South Wales
Posted:
i dissagree with this statement.. there are 4 other mods and 1 other Admin.
I do agree with this one....when i had my recent problems.. Dom was the first person to PM me with a reply. And it was as blunt as a snooker/ pool/ billards ball. It was exaclt what i needed to hear.
Written by: Dom
so I replied in public as it was obvious who he was refering to.
i dissagree with this statement.. there are 4 other mods and 1 other Admin.
Written by: Dom
If I asked a friend for an opinion I'd want them to be blunt and honest and not be nice because that's what they think I want to hear.
I do agree with this one....when i had my recent problems.. Dom was the first person to PM me with a reply. And it was as blunt as a snooker/ pool/ billards ball. It was exaclt what i needed to hear.
addict
508 posts
Location: manchester, uk
508 posts
Location: manchester, uk
Posted:
alas....turns out you aint gonna be that lucky
Written by: NYC
Perhaps you've offended Andy so much that I'll be fortunate enough to be reading his farewell thread soon enough.
alas....turns out you aint gonna be that lucky
It's smashing to be back x
BRONZE Member
Sporadically Prodigal
2,758 posts
Location: Sydney, NSW, Australia
Sporadically Prodigal
2,758 posts
Location: Sydney, NSW, Australia
Posted:
UCOF - it was obvious that Cantus was speaking about Dom. He said the person in question was a senior member of the admin team - the admin team being Malcolm and Dom... doesn't take a genius to figure out who he was referring to.
Anyway, enough babble. Cantus - what's happening? Staying or going? Taking a break or what?
There is no need to continue along these lines of de-construction, so let's come to a resolve already.
UCOF - it was obvious that Cantus was speaking about Dom. He said the person in question was a senior member of the admin team - the admin team being Malcolm and Dom... doesn't take a genius to figure out who he was referring to.
Anyway, enough babble. Cantus - what's happening? Staying or going? Taking a break or what?
There is no need to continue along these lines of de-construction, so let's come to a resolve already.
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NYC
9,232 posts
Location: NYC, NY, USA
9,232 posts
Location: NYC, NY, USA
Posted:
Did I mention I love Flash too?
I loved her first. Before I even met Dom.
Homecoming dance is in two weeks... keeping my fingers crossed ...
Did I mention I love Flash too?
I loved her first. Before I even met Dom.
Homecoming dance is in two weeks... keeping my fingers crossed ...
Well, shall we go?
Yes, let's go.
[They do not move.]
SILVER Member
15,417 posts
Location: South Wales
15,417 posts
Location: South Wales
Posted:
I agree..it does say seniour memeber of the admin team?
I consider all the mods and admins to be on the Admin team, as im surea lot of other HOPpers do too.
and I think Malcolm is a much more senior member than Dom
I agree..it does say seniour memeber of the admin team?
I consider all the mods and admins to be on the Admin team, as im surea lot of other HOPpers do too.
and I think Malcolm is a much more senior member than Dom
NYC
9,232 posts
Location: NYC, NY, USA
9,232 posts
Location: NYC, NY, USA
Posted:
Yes! Yes! Let's debate the most insignificant point of this entire thread!
Let's spend the next three pages debating the subtleties of the word "team"... and then redefine "Senior" to meet our own personal wants and desires!!!
Because surely by argueing over such miniscule facts we can 'win' if we just try hard enough!!!
GO TEAM!
Yes! Yes! Let's debate the most insignificant point of this entire thread!
Let's spend the next three pages debating the subtleties of the word "team"... and then redefine "Senior" to meet our own personal wants and desires!!!
Because surely by argueing over such miniscule facts we can 'win' if we just try hard enough!!!
GO TEAM!
Well, shall we go?
Yes, let's go.
[They do not move.]
GOLD Member
ZORT!
3,045 posts
Location: Brisbane, Australia
ZORT!
3,045 posts
Location: Brisbane, Australia
Posted:
NYC is sooo cute when he's sarcastic
anyway, im not really sure continuing this conversation is going to do anything constructive. why not take a deep breath, walk away from the computer, make a cup of tea, and go and sit in the sun for a few hours with a good book.
NYC is sooo cute when he's sarcastic
anyway, im not really sure continuing this conversation is going to do anything constructive. why not take a deep breath, walk away from the computer, make a cup of tea, and go and sit in the sun for a few hours with a good book.
"Here kitty kitty...." - Schroedinger.
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Pirate Ninja
3,882 posts
Location: Galway/Ireland
Pirate Ninja
3,882 posts
Location: Galway/Ireland
Posted:
I agree with everyone.
I honestly think that everyone has had something to add here.
C@ntus, it seems the the peeps do love you, admin team included.
Its nice to see the voices turning positive rather than pedantic and provoking.
Time for a cup of tea eh..?
I agree with everyone.
I honestly think that everyone has had something to add here.
C@ntus, it seems the the peeps do love you, admin team included.
Its nice to see the voices turning positive rather than pedantic and provoking.
Time for a cup of tea eh..?
Love is the law.
BRONZE Member
Classically British
5,689 posts
Location: Epsom, Surrey, England
Classically British
5,689 posts
Location: Epsom, Surrey, England
Posted:
Oh someone say tea?
*wanders off to put the kettle on*
Let's just have a thumb war and sort this out mano-a-mano
Oh someone say tea?
*wanders off to put the kettle on*
Let's just have a thumb war and sort this out mano-a-mano
Burner of Toast
Spinner of poi
Slacker of enormous magnitude
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Running hippy spinning lemming
15 posts
Location: Scotland
Running hippy spinning lemming
15 posts
Location: Scotland
Posted:
Fear leads to anger; anger leads to hate; hate leads to suffering...
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Mumma Hen
6,391 posts
Location: Brisbane, Australia
Mumma Hen
6,391 posts
Location: Brisbane, Australia
Posted:
oh god. We went away for the weekend and I just got the shock of my life reading this.
Cantus I love you to bits. Spend as much time on here as you want. You came to my house and taught me doubles stuff, you painted me a breathtaking picture, you said weird british stuff about coffee and sweeties and you made a friend of me for LIFE. Whether you are on here or not.
Dom you too I have met (i dont actually know if you remember *grins*) and your light shone very brightly for me that night. You taught me the around the world move which I cant stand cause it smashes me in the face all the time (smirk)
I know your heart is in the right place. I know C@ntus will know that too, cause I know you guys are mates.
C@ntus go if you need to mate, but let it be known I dont want you to, and Im sure noone else does either. Dom your honesty and straight to the point tough love will help c@ntus, even if it was said at two in the morning when you were tired and he was sleepy/grumpy/lonely...
prehaps a misunderstanding? or a communication that was taken to heart... as Dom said, it can be hard to realise the tone of things that are said without face to face interaction...
NYC, I honestly came close to pissing myself reading your post. You are the only guy on the net i know, who can pull off dripping sarcasm... nice
oh god. We went away for the weekend and I just got the shock of my life reading this.
Cantus I love you to bits. Spend as much time on here as you want. You came to my house and taught me doubles stuff, you painted me a breathtaking picture, you said weird british stuff about coffee and sweeties and you made a friend of me for LIFE. Whether you are on here or not.
Dom you too I have met (i dont actually know if you remember *grins*) and your light shone very brightly for me that night. You taught me the around the world move which I cant stand cause it smashes me in the face all the time (smirk)
I know your heart is in the right place. I know C@ntus will know that too, cause I know you guys are mates.
C@ntus go if you need to mate, but let it be known I dont want you to, and Im sure noone else does either. Dom your honesty and straight to the point tough love will help c@ntus, even if it was said at two in the morning when you were tired and he was sleepy/grumpy/lonely...
prehaps a misunderstanding? or a communication that was taken to heart... as Dom said, it can be hard to realise the tone of things that are said without face to face interaction...
NYC, I honestly came close to pissing myself reading your post. You are the only guy on the net i know, who can pull off dripping sarcasm... nice
TAJ "boat mummy." VALURA "yes sweetie you went on a boat, was daddy there with you?" TAJ "no, but monkey on boat" VALURA "well then sweetie, Daddy WAS there with you"
SILVER Member
Tantamount to fatuity
15,967 posts
Location: Down the road, United Kingdom
Tantamount to fatuity
15,967 posts
Location: Down the road, United Kingdom
Posted:
Right, well maybe I'll stay then....
thanks to everyone that wrote nice things and to those that aimed supportive PMs in my direction. Plus a HU-UGE thank you to mr malcolm of poi for the wonderfully funny email he sent me (i expect you to come by later and pick up all the popcorn you left in my inbox though).
Also a big bucket of soapy frogs to a certain "seniour memeber" of the admin team for the confused surrealism that i found lurking in my PM collection when i came online this evening.
OK everyone go back to waiting for my next sulk, coming eventually to a public forum near you.
Right, well maybe I'll stay then....
thanks to everyone that wrote nice things and to those that aimed supportive PMs in my direction. Plus a HU-UGE thank you to mr malcolm of poi for the wonderfully funny email he sent me (i expect you to come by later and pick up all the popcorn you left in my inbox though).
Also a big bucket of soapy frogs to a certain "seniour memeber" of the admin team for the confused surrealism that i found lurking in my PM collection when i came online this evening.
OK everyone go back to waiting for my next sulk, coming eventually to a public forum near you.
Meh
BRONZE Member
Returning to a unique state of Equilibrium
3,289 posts
Location: Adelaide, South Australia
Returning to a unique state of Equilibrium
3,289 posts
Location: Adelaide, South Australia
Posted:
to be sure your randomness is appreciated cantus. however as usual I seem to have missed the fray.
oh well.
Josh
to be sure your randomness is appreciated cantus. however as usual I seem to have missed the fray.
oh well.
Josh
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NYC
9,232 posts
Location: NYC, NY, USA
9,232 posts
Location: NYC, NY, USA
Posted:
I do it all for you.
Written by: Valura
NYC, I honestly came close to pissing myself reading your post. You are the only guy on the net i know, who can pull off dripping sarcasm... nice
I do it all for you.
Well, shall we go?
Yes, let's go.
[They do not move.]
Carpal \'Tunnel
2,737 posts
Location: London
2,737 posts
Location: London
Posted:
(*Holds head in hands at being made to post in social discussions on HOP after 2 years*)
Right, as 2 of the people I hold in high esteem (as people I've met, not as people I've met hiding behind a wall of web-site).....
SORT YOUR FUC KING LIVES OUT.
Everyone needs a bitchslapping in a way that only Smallz seems to know how to do......
(RAAAAHHHHHHHHHH)
If either of you stop talking to me, I'll find you and smother you with ksses till you can't live with your decisions......
C@ntus I'm truly ashamed that you felt the need to make a dispute public in this way - get a life.......you don't need to e-mail/post to everyone on the planet the details of your emotions.
Dom's right - computers aren't substitutes for hours in your day.
(Bitch you better take this the right way, if you get offended and stop talking to me, (I repeat) I'll find you and slap sense into you)
Dom - don't rise to it, no-one knew it was you and it didn't matter to anyone. It looks to the world that you saw him getting sympathy and got arsey with it. I've never held any spinners advice or outlook on life above yours.....don't disappoint me in this way.
I expect punches and ice-creams of both of you.
You've both got a spliff in the ashtray - use it
Love you both
(*Holds head in hands at being made to post in social discussions on HOP after 2 years*)
Right, as 2 of the people I hold in high esteem (as people I've met, not as people I've met hiding behind a wall of web-site).....
SORT YOUR FUC KING LIVES OUT.
Everyone needs a bitchslapping in a way that only Smallz seems to know how to do......
(RAAAAHHHHHHHHHH)
If either of you stop talking to me, I'll find you and smother you with ksses till you can't live with your decisions......
C@ntus I'm truly ashamed that you felt the need to make a dispute public in this way - get a life.......you don't need to e-mail/post to everyone on the planet the details of your emotions.
Dom's right - computers aren't substitutes for hours in your day.
(Bitch you better take this the right way, if you get offended and stop talking to me, (I repeat) I'll find you and slap sense into you)
Dom - don't rise to it, no-one knew it was you and it didn't matter to anyone. It looks to the world that you saw him getting sympathy and got arsey with it. I've never held any spinners advice or outlook on life above yours.....don't disappoint me in this way.
I expect punches and ice-creams of both of you.
You've both got a spliff in the ashtray - use it
Love you both
Small Lardy Person In Disguise
SILVER Member
Tantamount to fatuity
15,967 posts
Location: Down the road, United Kingdom
Tantamount to fatuity
15,967 posts
Location: Down the road, United Kingdom
Posted:
You still owe me a beer stumpy!
You still owe me a beer stumpy!
Meh
BRONZE Member
sumthin sumin smmnm....
372 posts
Location: home sweet home, USA
sumthin sumin smmnm....
372 posts
Location: home sweet home, USA
Posted:
to that!!
to that!! GOLD Member
HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
Posted:
Ok, C@ntus. While you were out, I pissed off a mod (or three, and at least one admin [a very senior one, who I also consider to be a very good friend]).
I apologized. I felt awful. I did everything I could to fix the situation (and incidentally, for the record, if there's something else I can do, please feel free to PM me!) and moved on.
Please don't go. We need you, boy. This wouldn't be HoP without C@ntus!
Whaddya say?
Ok, C@ntus. While you were out, I pissed off a mod (or three, and at least one admin [a very senior one, who I also consider to be a very good friend]).
I apologized. I felt awful. I did everything I could to fix the situation (and incidentally, for the record, if there's something else I can do, please feel free to PM me!) and moved on.
Please don't go. We need you, boy. This wouldn't be HoP without C@ntus!
Whaddya say?
-Mike
Certified Mad Doctor and HoP High Priest of Nutella
A buckuht n a hooze! -Valura
BRONZE Member
Sporadically Prodigal
2,758 posts
Location: Sydney, NSW, Australia
Sporadically Prodigal
2,758 posts
Location: Sydney, NSW, Australia
Posted:
This is such old news. Can we just move on now please.
Cantus is gonna stay.
The End.
This is such old news. Can we just move on now please.
Cantus is gonna stay.
The End.
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BRONZE Member
Sporadically Prodigal
2,758 posts
Location: Sydney, NSW, Australia
Sporadically Prodigal
2,758 posts
Location: Sydney, NSW, Australia
Posted:
See?
Written by: Cantus
Right, well maybe I'll stay then....
thanks to everyone that wrote nice things and to those that aimed supportive PMs in my direction. Plus a HU-UGE thank you to mr malcolm of poi for the wonderfully funny email he sent me (i expect you to come by later and pick up all the popcorn you left in my inbox though).
Also a big bucket of soapy frogs to a certain "seniour memeber" of the admin team for the confused surrealism that i found lurking in my PM collection when i came online this evening.
OK everyone go back to waiting for my next sulk, coming eventually to a public forum near you.
See?
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Will it build Goodwill and Better Friendships?
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ZORT!
3,045 posts
Location: Brisbane, Australia
ZORT!
3,045 posts
Location: Brisbane, Australia
Posted:
oh come on! HoP wouldnt be the same if we actually knew how to stop threads *coughreligioncoughvegetarianismcoughhomosexualitycoughhyperloopscoughetccough*
oh come on! HoP wouldnt be the same if we actually knew how to stop threads *coughreligioncoughvegetarianismcoughhomosexualitycoughhyperloopscoughetccough*
"Here kitty kitty...." - Schroedinger.
How do you change this thing???
1,903 posts
Location: Behind the couch...
1,903 posts
Location: Behind the couch...
Posted:
Here you go Den...
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Here you go Den...
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I can't hear you... I have a banana in my ear.
"You mean I'll have to use my brain?... but I use staff!!!" ~ ben-ja-men
GOLD Member
ZORT!
3,045 posts
Location: Brisbane, Australia
ZORT!
3,045 posts
Location: Brisbane, Australia
Posted:
is that blood or port?
is that blood or port?
"Here kitty kitty...." - Schroedinger.
SILVER Member
Mumma Hen
6,391 posts
Location: Brisbane, Australia
Mumma Hen
6,391 posts
Location: Brisbane, Australia
Posted:
sweetie its medicine for your cough
sweetie its medicine for your cough
TAJ "boat mummy." VALURA "yes sweetie you went on a boat, was daddy there with you?" TAJ "no, but monkey on boat" VALURA "well then sweetie, Daddy WAS there with you"
not a stranger
558 posts
Location: wales
558 posts
Location: wales
Posted:
Gees Linctus?
Gees Linctus?
Eat when you're hungry
Sleep where it's dry
No one is ever what they seem
Gabriel King - The Wild Road
GOLD Member
ZORT!
3,045 posts
Location: Brisbane, Australia
ZORT!
3,045 posts
Location: Brisbane, Australia
Posted:
huh?
huh?
"Here kitty kitty...." - Schroedinger.
GOLD Member
HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
Posted:
Apparently Dentrassi doesn't swallow...
Apparently Dentrassi doesn't swallow...
-Mike
Certified Mad Doctor and HoP High Priest of Nutella
A buckuht n a hooze! -Valura
SILVER Member
Tantamount to fatuity
15,967 posts
Location: Down the road, United Kingdom
Tantamount to fatuity
15,967 posts
Location: Down the road, United Kingdom
Posted:
And so another thread gets dragged down into the depths of depravity (with Doctor Michael Lightning at it's helm).....
And so another thread gets dragged down into the depths of depravity (with Doctor Michael Lightning at it's helm).....
Meh
BRONZE Member
the henna lady
6,193 posts
Location: WNY, USA
the henna lady
6,193 posts
Location: WNY, USA
Posted:
Actually I was thinking that Cantus can't leave until he sends me the painting he made for me two or three years ago, so it doesn't matter. He's tied to a chair till he agrees to give it to me! Stay or go at that point, it's not his choice.
But since he is staying, what divine torture shall we contrive of for him now?
Actually I was thinking that Cantus can't leave until he sends me the painting he made for me two or three years ago, so it doesn't matter. He's tied to a chair till he agrees to give it to me! Stay or go at that point, it's not his choice.
But since he is staying, what divine torture shall we contrive of for him now?
Pele
Higher, higher burning fire...making music like a choir
"Oooh look! A pub!" -exclaimed after recovering from a stupid fall
"And for the decadence of art, nothing beats a roaring fire." -TMK
have fur, will huggle
231 posts
Location: table in front of the pc.
231 posts
Location: table in front of the pc.
Posted:
Feed him lots of chocolate cake and let him have a nap whenever he wants to?
Feed him lots of chocolate cake and let him have a nap whenever he wants to?
I have my sidekick now. I think I call him Sidekick!!
"Lets get Jinky with it!"
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