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Location: Dartmouth, Nova Scotia, Canada
Has anyone on here developed a "Medium Distance Relationship" with anyone before?
I'm asking because I recently... recently being saturday the 24th started dating a girl who lives the Valley for any of you in nova scotia, I live in Halifax. Regardless of your experiences with it I'm not going to give up, because I think she's more then worth the wait, the drive, and the distance.
I suppose my real quesiton is really... how taxing is it on a relationship?
also keep in mind that our parents are totally for it, so they allow us to stay over at one another's place on the weekends after swim meets and things. Also she only lives an hour away if I drive a little over the speed limit. LoL ^.^
"By the pricking of my thumbs
Something wicked this way comes"
-Macbeth Act4 Scene1
Pirate Ninja
3,882 posts
Location: Galway/Ireland
an hour away!!! Thats next door by irish standards. sounds like your sweet on the lucky girl too. go for it and dont doubt yourself.
Love is the law.
42 posts
Location: Dartmouth, Nova Scotia, Canada
lol, she's hardly next door... I tried that one once... it didn't turn out very well at all
lmao ^_^;;
I don't doubt myself too terribly... just... I don't want anything to go wrong too soon cause that would suck a lot
"By the pricking of my thumbs
Something wicked this way comes"
-Macbeth Act4 Scene1
veteran
1,459 posts
Location: Dublin, Ireland
my last serious relationship began as a long distance relationship.
i was living in ireland, he was in the netherlands. it was never a strain, but neither of us were jealous or possessive types so it suited us quite well. we eventually got together, and although we're no longer with each other, it did last almost 10 years.
so yeh, i'd say go for it. if you want something bad enough it'll happen, that's my approach. an hour is nothing, it takes me an hour and a half to get home from work and that's only 5 miles away!
furthermore, isn't it better to have given it a shot, than regretting not even trying? go for it, just take things easy at the start.
carpe diem and all that jazz......
My mind not only wanders, it sometimes leaves completely
42 posts
Location: Dartmouth, Nova Scotia, Canada
lol, so it would seem
10 years... HOLY CRAP... man my longest relationship was... my longest relationship wasn't even a year lmao
thanks
"By the pricking of my thumbs
Something wicked this way comes"
-Macbeth Act4 Scene1
veteran
1,459 posts
Location: Dublin, Ireland
yeh, but i am probably just a teenie weenie bit older than you
My mind not only wanders, it sometimes leaves completely
42 posts
Location: Dartmouth, Nova Scotia, Canada
lol ya think? considering if you just broke up with him like today, I would have been 7 when you started dating that guy
lmao
"By the pricking of my thumbs
Something wicked this way comes"
-Macbeth Act4 Scene1
veteran
1,459 posts
Location: Dublin, Ireland
that makes me exactly twice your age
My mind not only wanders, it sometimes leaves completely
Keeper of the Spitfire
2,317 posts
Location: Calgary Canada
Ya, go for it!
An hour? An hour's nothing!
Spitfire and I spent our first 5 months being 4hrs drive (to and from airports) and a 10hr flight away from each other.
It was hard, but we worked through it, and actually spent quite a lot of time with each other.
It's only recently we've managed to live in the same place for a while... and the struggle's not over yet.
IMO it's more than worth it. If it works out for, that hour on the road will fade into insignificance.
And as faberge said- isn't it better to have given it a shot, than regretting not even trying?
Good luck with it.
Lets steal a spaceship and head for the sun, and shoot the stars with a lemonade ray gun.
Mand's Girl....and The Not So Shy One
2,723 posts
Location: Calgary, Alberta Canada
Indeed...an hour is NOTHING.
As Faberge said, and Mand requoted...isn't it better to give it a shot rather than be left wondering "what if?"
GO FOR IT. From what you've said....she's worth it....so take the plunge!
Solitude sometimes speaks to you, and you should listen.
Beach bum
162 posts
Location: Singapore
Hey! Like mentioned many times in this thread... at least you live in the same country... An hour's not that bad really (and goes pretty quickly when you're on the way to meet her *anticipation, don't ya love it!*)
A couple of really good friends of mine shuttled between two countries when they first started. Now they've decided to stay in one country. They've been together for six years now and still as in love as the day I introduced them to each other...
The distance may actually work to your advantage because then you make a conscious effort. Go for it! Good luck...
Experience is that marvelous thing that enables you to recognize a mistake when you make it again.
-Franklin P. Jones
veteran
1,389 posts
Location: Guelph, ON, Canada
My brother dated a girl from the Valley. Somewhere in Kings, I think. Did it work? No. It turned into a MSN relationship! BUT you have a car (big huge grey van, really) so you can see her more than my bro saw his girl. So, I don't think it'd turn out like my bro and his ex. Now they don't talk
lol!Oh, and you biatch, when are you not working at the same time I am not working? like I said before, we gotta got for another spin.
~ Bobo
PS... OH MAN!!! I jsut remembered how much room was in your van! I'll find you a matress, and truly make it a love shack! We can do that brake thing that makes it bounce, and put speakers on the outside, that blare "Love Shack" by the B-52s. Admit it, it would be bloody amazing!
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All the neurotic makings of America's lesser known sweetheart
9,831 posts
Location: body in Las Vegas, heart all around the world, USA
ya an hour is not bad at all. it can definately be done.
I was always scared with my mother's obsession with the good scissors. It made me wonder if there were evil scissors lurking in the house somewhere.
Do not meddle in the affairs of dragons for you are crunchy and good with ketchup.
**giggles**
Sweet talented nutter
2,615 posts
Location: Brisbane Oz, Australia
One hour is nothing . Why you even asking this question if you really like this girl ?.
that shrewd and knavish sprite
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A perth girl gone walkabout...
396 posts
Location: Back home in Perth WA, Australia
And why not make use of that hour by picking up some language cd's or something... if you are going to be in the car alot, learn a language while driving, or pick up some funky tunes and sing at the top of your lungs, or grab a book on cd - It doesn't have to be an hour wasted driving... could turn it into useful "me" time.
Good luck! Aint love grand!
*sigh*
I smile because i have no idea whats going on!!
HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
Mele has a great point. I had a clinic a half hour away that I had to drive to every morning, so I listened to symphonies.
And the iTunes music store has books on MP3 cheap.
Besides, you just said that she's worth the wait, the drive, and the distance. So what's the question again?
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-Mike
Certified Mad Doctor and HoP High Priest of Nutella
A buckuht n a hooze! -Valura
42 posts
Location: Dartmouth, Nova Scotia, Canada
I was more looking for your guys' experiences with distance relationships to see what I can learn from your experiences so I don't fail... not because I'm looking for a reason to run away lol ^.^ I probably could have worded the initial post a little bit better I suppose...
"By the pricking of my thumbs
Something wicked this way comes"
-Macbeth Act4 Scene1
Classically British
5,689 posts
Location: Epsom, Surrey, England
Guy here
Slightly different in that I was already going out with Mrs Durbs before I went to uni in Southampton (she was still in G'ford) which was also an hour away.
It was hard/weird at first, but we have these great things called telephones!
Also, you'll find the time you spend together is more special as it's just that much more effort to see them 6 years down the line - things are still going well - She's now at Oxford Uni and I'm in Guildford (about 1.5 hours away) and we're still solid as one of those really hard things made of stone.
Burner of Toast
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playing the days away
7,263 posts
Location: The Middle lands, United Kingdom
Me and GeorgeB lived 110 miles apart when we started seeing each other, it was kinda a jaunt but worth it. You don't notice after a while as it becomes a normal journey.
We travelled 3 hours by train each way most weekends for over a year before we moved in together, the hardest decision was which town to live in once we decided to be together permenantly!
Advice time....
.....alternate journeys, one weekend go there, the other let her come to you. It has to be a two way thing or you'll get pissed off and so probably will she. Every so often have a weekend off and make sure you spend it with your mates, they're just as important remember, yours and hers.
Occaisional posted items of effection are great, love letters, little presents etc. Not to often or you lose the element of surprise but do them.
Be realistic, if you can't afford to travel don't go. Save it for the next weekend.
Call her whenever you want to, don't worry about it being every day or anything, it's healthy to have time apart gathering thoughts and doing stuff, especially in the early stages. If you're truthful and honest she'll know it's not you ignoring her for two days it's just you living your life. Same vise-versa
Thats all for now, most important thing is be realistic through it all. Be honest with yourself and with her and all will be good, and remember, have lots of fun making up lost time between visits
Let's relight this forum 
1,262 posts
Location: Cornwall & Oxford
Frodo and I live about 150 odd miles away from each other so we'll see each other for a couple of days when hes in cornwall then have a week, maybe two apart. It does make the time we spend together more memorable and more special.
Telephones are wonderful things! Use them lots!
Aim high and you'll know your limits, aim low and you'll never know how high you could have climbed.
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2,216 posts
Location: Suburbiton, Yoo-Kay, United Kingdom
yeah, an hour's nothing man and it means you both get some space from each other which is often good to have until things get more serious...
It is our fantasies that make us real. Without our fantasies we're just a blank monkey' - Terry Pratchett
HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
Yeah, Bug has a good point. Don't forget your mates. After all, relationships come and go, but friends should always be there.
And dub? Your avatar is scaring me.
*runs and hides behind TeenWolf* -Mike
Certified Mad Doctor and HoP High Priest of Nutella
A buckuht n a hooze! -Valura
All the neurotic makings of America's lesser known sweetheart
9,831 posts
Location: body in Las Vegas, heart all around the world, USA
telephones, internet, telephones. they're important. the guy i'm kinda seeing now...he and i were together for a few years, and some of that was spent long distance (400 miles apart). now we're 800 miles apart, and rarely get to see each other at all. we talk every day, many times during the day when we can. and we sit online and play card games on yahoo or online pool. just so that we can spend time with each other. those little things are important when you can't see them every day.
I was always scared with my mother's obsession with the good scissors. It made me wonder if there were evil scissors lurking in the house somewhere.
Do not meddle in the affairs of dragons for you are crunchy and good with ketchup.
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veteran
1,389 posts
Location: Guelph, ON, Canada
Or, you could just steal her away in your van. God know's it's big enough. Did I mention your van is ungodly huge?
~ Bobo
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HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
Wow, look at the size of the van on that boy!
-Mike
Certified Mad Doctor and HoP High Priest of Nutella
A buckuht n a hooze! -Valura
veteran
1,389 posts
Location: Guelph, ON, Canada
No Lightning, you have *no* idea. There's a ECHO in the van, it's that big. No joke.
~ Bobo
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HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
All the better for... Right. Family board.
-Mike
Certified Mad Doctor and HoP High Priest of Nutella
A buckuht n a hooze! -Valura
42 posts
Location: Dartmouth, Nova Scotia, Canada
lmao, yeah... the van is pretty damn big, I set the speakers up the other day to fill it... that was a difficult task, but it echoed, and vibrated once I got the sub postitioned properly!
"By the pricking of my thumbs
Something wicked this way comes"
-Macbeth Act4 Scene1
slack rating - 9.5
2,216 posts
Location: Suburbiton, Yoo-Kay, United Kingdom
Written by: There is no 'e' in 'Lightning'
And dub? Your avatar is scaring me.
scary?
you mean you don't think he's cute? he's not dangerous anyway, he just likes chomping to da music... *chomp*
It is our fantasies that make us real. Without our fantasies we're just a blank monkey' - Terry Pratchett
HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
TW, I think that Bob Marley is good make-out music. Not too cheesy, but not too fast or hyper. Good rhythm. And it lends a nice, tropical feel to the whole thing. Just avoid "No woman no cry."
-Mike
Certified Mad Doctor and HoP High Priest of Nutella
A buckuht n a hooze! -Valura
HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
Dub, it's not that I don't think he's cute...I'm just afraid of what he might chomp!
-Mike
Certified Mad Doctor and HoP High Priest of Nutella
A buckuht n a hooze! -Valura
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