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OK as my name suggests I am one of your number. I normally post here under a different screen name. I felt more comfortable posting this without anyone knowing who I am.
Right I've been feeling very confused lately and I kind of know why, but I donât know what to do about it. Ill tell you a storey:
Just over a month ago, I was out one Friday night and I found myself getting very friendly with a girl who I had talked to once before in passing but never really knew. Well we kissed and exchanged phone numbers and stuff, and I thought things were looking up. We met up a few times quite soon after that night, and got on really well with each other. But since I'm shy and she's shy, we never really talked about us as being together.
Once I asked her if we were together and she said shed like to be but it was awkward at the moment because of something to do with her ex boyfriend, I kind of accepted this and we went on meeting up and having good times. But then recently I've just been thinking about her a lot, I can't really think about anything else⊠Its bad, this started last Friday, when we met at a club and stuff, and then she had to leave, and I dunno, probably because I wasnât 100% myself at that point I came to bad conclusions about this. But anyway I phoned her after I left the club that night and basically said that I think I liked her a lot and I just wanted to know what she thought, she said again that she really liked me. And then on Monday we talked again, and this mysterious something to do with her ex boyfriend came up in conversation. I tried to get her to explain what it was all about, but I donât know she was just very reluctant to tell me so I didnât push the point to far. I donât think this can be good. She wants to keep on seeing me, we saw each other again yesterday and it was cool.
Just before I went away this weekend I got an email from here saying, could I please phone her when I get back.
I just really donât know what I can do⊠I want to make her mine, if that makes sense at all⊠partly I just wanted to post this here because I thought writing it all down would help clear my mind. But also this community has some very sensible people in it, so all of your opinions would probably be helpful.
OK as my name suggests I am one of your number. I normally post here under a different screen name. I felt more comfortable posting this without anyone knowing who I am.
Right I've been feeling very confused lately and I kind of know why, but I donât know what to do about it. Ill tell you a storey:
Just over a month ago, I was out one Friday night and I found myself getting very friendly with a girl who I had talked to once before in passing but never really knew. Well we kissed and exchanged phone numbers and stuff, and I thought things were looking up. We met up a few times quite soon after that night, and got on really well with each other. But since I'm shy and she's shy, we never really talked about us as being together.
Once I asked her if we were together and she said shed like to be but it was awkward at the moment because of something to do with her ex boyfriend, I kind of accepted this and we went on meeting up and having good times. But then recently I've just been thinking about her a lot, I can't really think about anything else⊠Its bad, this started last Friday, when we met at a club and stuff, and then she had to leave, and I dunno, probably because I wasnât 100% myself at that point I came to bad conclusions about this. But anyway I phoned her after I left the club that night and basically said that I think I liked her a lot and I just wanted to know what she thought, she said again that she really liked me. And then on Monday we talked again, and this mysterious something to do with her ex boyfriend came up in conversation. I tried to get her to explain what it was all about, but I donât know she was just very reluctant to tell me so I didnât push the point to far. I donât think this can be good. She wants to keep on seeing me, we saw each other again yesterday and it was cool.
Just before I went away this weekend I got an email from here saying, could I please phone her when I get back.
I just really donât know what I can do⊠I want to make her mine, if that makes sense at all⊠partly I just wanted to post this here because I thought writing it all down would help clear my mind. But also this community has some very sensible people in it, so all of your opinions would probably be helpful.
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woman crazy
fraggle eat doozer stick
woman crazy
fraggle eat doozer stick
dance your cares away
worries for another day
so let the music play
down in fragle rock
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Location: 8 days at Cloudbreak, 6 in Perth, Australia
Posted:
I've been that type of girl who just doesn't really know what she wants and has done pretty much something similar with another guy...
I agree totally with FNF it is all well and good chasing after someone who has issues but if the person doesn't want help (which by her letter has pretty much said that) then maybe it is best you let her go for now.
Tell her that you are there for her but you can not hang around waiting for her to make up her mind...when she has made up her mind then maybe she can come round if you haven't moved on in that time.
I feel for you.
I'm sorry you seem to be going through this and if you do decide to wait around for her I hope that it all works out in the end.
I've been that type of girl who just doesn't really know what she wants and has done pretty much something similar with another guy...
I agree totally with FNF it is all well and good chasing after someone who has issues but if the person doesn't want help (which by her letter has pretty much said that) then maybe it is best you let her go for now.
Tell her that you are there for her but you can not hang around waiting for her to make up her mind...when she has made up her mind then maybe she can come round if you haven't moved on in that time.
I feel for you.
I'm sorry you seem to be going through this and if you do decide to wait around for her I hope that it all works out in the end.
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Location: Suburbiton, Yoo-Kay, United Kingdom
Posted:
owch. in a lot of ways that sounds kinda like my first girlfriend who strung me along for a few weeks while on a break from her ex and then turning round, dumping me and apologising for being a bitch. except she didn't have drinking problems. and it was more complicatd than that. but i can still symapthise.
all i'd say is that it's probably best to bail out on the relationship but remain friends and try to help her through being there, not wanting her. as for yourself, don't worry because (i know it's cliche but) there's plenty of other fish in the sea, and all the time in the world. i seem to fall for a girl every 6 months (at least).... it took me a long time to sort out the mess i was in first time round but that's mainly because let it bring me down. whatever you do, don't turn to drink or drug yourself!
chin up and, oh.. and have a hug
owch. in a lot of ways that sounds kinda like my first girlfriend who strung me along for a few weeks while on a break from her ex and then turning round, dumping me and apologising for being a bitch. except she didn't have drinking problems. and it was more complicatd than that. but i can still symapthise.
all i'd say is that it's probably best to bail out on the relationship but remain friends and try to help her through being there, not wanting her. as for yourself, don't worry because (i know it's cliche but) there's plenty of other fish in the sea, and all the time in the world. i seem to fall for a girl every 6 months (at least).... it took me a long time to sort out the mess i was in first time round but that's mainly because let it bring me down. whatever you do, don't turn to drink or drug yourself!
chin up and, oh.. and have a hug
It is our fantasies that make us real. Without our fantasies we're just a blank monkey' - Terry Pratchett
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Location: Brum / Dorset / Fairy Land
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Location: Brum / Dorset / Fairy Land
Posted:
wooo look I think youshould take my advice cos lots of people agree with me
:0
I know this is a serious matter - I'm just kidding about. Please let us all know what's happening,
Take care man
wooo look I think youshould take my advice cos lots of people agree with me
:0I know this is a serious matter - I'm just kidding about. Please let us all know what's happening,
Take care man
Geologists do it in the dirt................ 
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Fool
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Location: Cornwall, UK
Fool
2,020 posts
Location: Cornwall, UK
Posted:
I'm not even gonna begin to explain my girl problems. They're all in my diary anyway.
Solidarity Reg.
I'm not even gonna begin to explain my girl problems. They're all in my diary anyway.
Solidarity Reg.
"I believe the cost of life is Death and we will all pay that in full. Everything else should be a gift. We paid the cover charge of life, we were born."
Bill Hicks, February 1988
feminine tiddly pom
505 posts
Location: cambs england
505 posts
Location: cambs england
Posted:
ive been that string along girl before, with and without the drink addmittedly, and far as my experiences go, i think confrontation, with the issues, about Exactly how you feel, all the worries and concerns and loves, should be done, together? and sober. give the impresion that although you still care, you're a human with heart renching feelings, and its not good for either of you.
you know theres a website full of people who will support and comfort you
and yeh, be thoughtful but not hesitant-you'll regret the unactioned events, not the action packed
ive been that string along girl before, with and without the drink addmittedly, and far as my experiences go, i think confrontation, with the issues, about Exactly how you feel, all the worries and concerns and loves, should be done, together? and sober. give the impresion that although you still care, you're a human with heart renching feelings, and its not good for either of you.
you know theres a website full of people who will support and comfort you
and yeh, be thoughtful but not hesitant-you'll regret the unactioned events, not the action packed
in state of metamorphosis
journeyman
60 posts
60 posts
Posted:
is that right miss griffin, maybe a touch of the ol hypocritical bug there my friend
is that right miss griffin, maybe a touch of the ol hypocritical bug there my friend
I took my harp ta party, but no body asked me to play, so I took harp home again
feminine tiddly pom
505 posts
Location: cambs england
505 posts
Location: cambs england
Posted:
well, you learn from your mistakes, pig, but im sure you know that too
well, you learn from your mistakes, pig, but im sure you know that too
in state of metamorphosis
journeyman
60 posts
60 posts
Posted:
lo hat tipd again miss griffin, nice burn
lo hat tipd again miss griffin, nice burn
I took my harp ta party, but no body asked me to play, so I took harp home again
feminine tiddly pom
505 posts
Location: cambs england
505 posts
Location: cambs england
Posted:
well, its all mine so hahahaha
(curses, i cant see it..oh crap)
anyhoo, hope it all goes well one
well, its all mine so hahahaha
(curses, i cant see it..oh crap)
anyhoo, hope it all goes well one
in state of metamorphosis
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Location: Staines, United Kingdom
HoP's Barman. Trapped aged 6 months
4,437 posts
Location: Staines, United Kingdom
Posted:
whats that saying, hell hath no fury like a women scorned?? just do what i do, if i get all
or 
over a woman, i just stick on the best comedy i can find in my collection if i got it, if u have it i recommend spaced!! an amazing comedy and will help you with your woes, if that fails just (if u have broadband) just download a few episodes of south park, that should raise your spirits and soon you'll be spinning without thinking 'maybe if i just drop it now it'll all be over'
good luck, and in the end dont worry it could be worse
whats that saying, hell hath no fury like a women scorned?? just do what i do, if i get all
or over a woman, i just stick on the best comedy i can find in my collection if i got it, if u have it i recommend spaced!! an amazing comedy and will help you with your woes, if that fails just (if u have broadband) just download a few episodes of south park, that should raise your spirits and soon you'll be spinning without thinking 'maybe if i just drop it now it'll all be over'good luck, and in the end dont worry it could be worse
An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind
Give a man a fish and he'll eat 4 a day hit a man with a brick and you can have all his fish and his wife
"Will's to pretty for prison" - Simian
stranger
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9 posts
Posted:
tahlloola the sheep
this is about a girl i know...
she said she missed me
(she still really liked me
she was sorry about what happened before)
when id given up hope
the result:
we are together (again?)
and again i ask questions
like, again?
last time i promised i wouldnt let this happen to me again
i am not a plaything
i feel
when im with her i am so happy
the smiles burst from me
except
last time i saw her she went to sleep for two hours
while i fiddled with her hair
when she is there and i am here
anxiety sets in
she never calls me and isnt answering her phone
is she ignoring me?
does she care weather im here or there?
most days i get the feeling
shed rather i was here with my feelings
and she there with her perfect life that i dont feel like i fit into
and i dont think i ever will
but still all i want to say to her is
i love you
tahlloola the sheep
this is about a girl i know...
she said she missed me
(she still really liked me
she was sorry about what happened before)
when id given up hope
the result:
we are together (again?)
and again i ask questions
like, again?
last time i promised i wouldnt let this happen to me again
i am not a plaything
i feel
when im with her i am so happy
the smiles burst from me
except
last time i saw her she went to sleep for two hours
while i fiddled with her hair
when she is there and i am here
anxiety sets in
she never calls me and isnt answering her phone
is she ignoring me?
does she care weather im here or there?
most days i get the feeling
shed rather i was here with my feelings
and she there with her perfect life that i dont feel like i fit into
and i dont think i ever will
but still all i want to say to her is
i love you
not a stranger
558 posts
Location: wales
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Location: wales
Posted:
That's so sweet, and so sad.
That's so sweet, and so sad.
Eat when you're hungry
Sleep where it's dry
No one is ever what they seem
Gabriel King - The Wild Road
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Location: Northampton,UK
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Location: Northampton,UK
Posted:
Ask your self if you could spend the rest of you life with her and if she could spend the rest of her life with you.
Then ask her the same (careful not to say it on one knee).
This should bring home if youâre wasting time in a dead end relationship or if you are going to grow with her and have a long term productive and healthy relationship.
I personally want you to keep seeing her but thatâs cos I like this soppy romantic stuff and want to believe in the âit was difficult but we got though it and now weâre really happyâ fairy tail crap. But realistically, you look like youâre in a doomed relationship. (sorry)
Ask your self if you could spend the rest of you life with her and if she could spend the rest of her life with you.
Then ask her the same (careful not to say it on one knee).
This should bring home if youâre wasting time in a dead end relationship or if you are going to grow with her and have a long term productive and healthy relationship.
I personally want you to keep seeing her but thatâs cos I like this soppy romantic stuff and want to believe in the âit was difficult but we got though it and now weâre really happyâ fairy tail crap. But realistically, you look like youâre in a doomed relationship. (sorry)
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