Boys!

I had a decent if not sparkling day yesterday, and I get up this morning to do some work, and start talking to a friend..... right, he's gone insane... in the "head over heels" kind of way, so instead of working, i seem to be spending the day holding his hand.....

which would be fine, except.....

i'm really quite(edit:rather, to the brits) jealous..... and so i don't know what to do, because there's a mess of good chances it will all blow over and he really needs someone to talk to, but.... ow.

just.... ow.

ow indeed!

aw

dont worry, theres got to be light at the end of the tunnel

Yes, but its so hard to be a patient and good person when you're thinking

"what about me.....?"

.... and I still cant get any work done.

she's rejecting him (sort of) he's playing it by ear and acting all into me again.... he's a total sweetheart, everything i'd want, but this behaviour.....

I mean, its not like I have a hold on him, but its a bit confusing!

gaw.... doubts means get out, right, but can you get rid of everything you see over one incident that ...really that he didn't even want to tell me about because he didn't want to hurt me.....

I'm told that boys just do this, get into whats there when they have the oppurtunity.... this should prolly be moved to social discussion lol.... i don't think i have that power...... but is it true?

I dont understand this thread at all...but If im right in thinking you know a boy who is head over heels with a girl, but you like and want him instead?

Ok you gotta just hope it dosent work out because if you brake them up through sneaky ways (lol) itle come back to you. I broke up my ex and his bf lol, but it did come evantually round to bite me in the ass couse he left me without an explination....i guess i deserved it. But I had him for 7 months

No she changed gender in the womb

lol..... ok, thats really funny.

no, no, its far more complex than that ^_^

i'm not one to try and break people up, altho i've done it once or twice unintentionally.

but thats neither here nor there. i think there's just a lot of misunderstanding at the moment, but i was feeling a bit offed as he's quite aware how i feel about him and he (said & says) he feels similarly about me, just... yknow... he was babbling on and on and not thinking about it at all....

he did, eventually come to the conclusion thus was bad as well, but its left me more confused not less, especially as he has been writing the whole thing off because of distance constantly, so i'm like, well, you know is that an excuse or what?

I'll quit babbling now....

*goes into corner*

No, keep babbling (I want some company )

So, if I read this right:

Guy A is interested in another girl.
You like Guy A.
He likes you.
He knows this, but still insists on talking about how amazing this girl is.

If that is an accurate summary, then I'd say to avoid him a bit either until he cools down, or they break up (are they even together yet?). Mainly because your listening to him babble will only make you feel resentful and annoyed. He sounds like a bit of an emotional retard if he can't tell that talking about his GF would annoy you, even after you've both expressed interest in each other.

But, as always, I may not have the right fix on the situation (that's normal for me ) so if the situation isn't as described, please tell us. I don't want to give bad advice.

You have a pretty good fix on the situation. No, they're not together.

I don't think I can quite blame him for this one... he didn't want to tell me as he thought it would hurt me (yes, it does!) but he knew I appreciated honesty (yes, i do, yes, i'm glad he told me) but I think the incessant babbling and worrying and such proved to be a bit much.

That wasn't really intentional and he evetually kind of realized what he was doing and apologized, and he asked once or twice if he should quit talking about it, but in general i'd rather know whats going on, and as he hadn't anyone else to talk to... I mean, its really nice to stress *at* someone when you're going thru that phase of a relationship, and I was the one who was there for him... just...
Wound up being a bit hard on me! And thing is I just don't know what to think, i mean, are guys just like that a little, he really was looking at it from the unlikley to see me again in the next year certainly we won't live near each other any time soon pov, can't blame him there....

i'm babbling again... see if you can figure out what i'm on about cause i think i lost it somewhere again.... *looks for missing point*

Heh. Don't worry, I follow.

I guess that's better than I thought then. I thought he might be being a bit inconsiderate, but if he's apologised for it then it indicates that he pays attention. I think I might see why you like him, it's quite rare for a guy to have that kind of empathy.

Well done you for being there for him, even though it hurts you. You have a huge respect from me and probably lots of other people, for being brave enough to sacrifice a bit of your own happiness to help your friend.

You both seem to be behaving rationally, and maturely so well done

The only problem seems to be that he's sacrificing the present on the assumption of a future. Just because you are moving away, doesn't mean that he can abuse the friendship. It's like "I'm going to break up with her anyway, let's be as bitchy as I can" which just makes no sense. Emphasise that you should make the most of the time left, because you won't see him after that. See if you can get him to talk to some of his other friends as well, rather than him dumping it all on you (who is probably one of the most inconsiderate choices...).

I really hope that I'm helping a bit. If I'm not then... well... Good Luck anyway!