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Clique Infiltrator, Cunning Linguist and Master Debator
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Location: Edinburgh burgh burrrrrr, United Kingdom
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Along came feminism, bye bye went romance. Seriously!
What happened to the days of chivalry, when a man would sweep you off your feet? lay a cloak over a puddle before you, open doors for you or fight to the death for your honour and your heart?
Girl power is all very well (although a little too 1997) but when strong female attitudes arrived, romance began to die. Men have become scared to help out a lady in fear of offending her.
The world's gone too PC, and its ridiculous! It certainly explains why some people are so bloody rude and let me struggle one handed trying to get a buggy through a tiny shop door!
Along came feminism, bye bye went romance. Seriously!
What happened to the days of chivalry, when a man would sweep you off your feet? lay a cloak over a puddle before you, open doors for you or fight to the death for your honour and your heart?
Girl power is all very well (although a little too 1997) but when strong female attitudes arrived, romance began to die. Men have become scared to help out a lady in fear of offending her.
The world's gone too PC, and its ridiculous! It certainly explains why some people are so bloody rude and let me struggle one handed trying to get a buggy through a tiny shop door!
Always use "so's your face" and "only on Tuesdays" in as many conversations possible
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Posted:
noooo bummerfly is something entirely different, I'll let Jo explain since its her speciality, im a mere amateur in comparison,
*bows down to the bummerfly queen*
Motley
Edit: I'll also stop hijacking your thread with my mindless drivil, apologies
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noooo bummerfly is something entirely different, I'll let Jo explain since its her speciality, im a mere amateur in comparison,
*bows down to the bummerfly queen*
Motley
Edit: I'll also stop hijacking your thread with my mindless drivil, apologies
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Yes, I agree that romance is also about spontaneity. But that doesn't mean that you can't have a conversation that talks about the things you find romantic - "I like to get flowers now and then" "I really like to be spoilt & treated like a princess once in a while" "I expect a big fuss on my birthday".
You don't have to have that conversation every day, and maybe you only need to have it once.
What bugs me is when people say "he/she never brings me flowers or makes a fuss of me", when they have never shown or said that they would like that. Who knows, the persons previous partner could have freaked out completely at any such thing, and so they only know it as a bad thing.
Or they may just not be capable of it. In which case it is better to find out in that earlier conversation when they say "oh, flowers. I never understood what all the fuss is about flowers".
Written by: NephtysWritten by: Rozi
If you want romance, and want it in a certain form, say so. If the person you are requesting it from is not capable of or willing to give it, then find someone who is. But don't blame them for their philosophy/ability.
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nah, don't agree: this is true fro pretty much all other things in a relationship cut for length It doesn't work for romance though (for me, anyway): romance just doesn't mean much if it isn't spontaneous. cut for length
Yes, I agree that romance is also about spontaneity. But that doesn't mean that you can't have a conversation that talks about the things you find romantic - "I like to get flowers now and then" "I really like to be spoilt & treated like a princess once in a while" "I expect a big fuss on my birthday".
You don't have to have that conversation every day, and maybe you only need to have it once.
What bugs me is when people say "he/she never brings me flowers or makes a fuss of me", when they have never shown or said that they would like that. Who knows, the persons previous partner could have freaked out completely at any such thing, and so they only know it as a bad thing.
Or they may just not be capable of it. In which case it is better to find out in that earlier conversation when they say "oh, flowers. I never understood what all the fuss is about flowers".
It was a day for screaming at inanimate objects.
What this calls for is a special mix of psychology and extreme violence...
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*Trying desperately not to sound offensive*
So what? If he's not right, he's not right. The fact that you've known each other for a long time does not put any higher value on the relationship. Does it? I've known some girls for years and they're still evil.
This isn't a criticism, or an attack. I just want to know, if you've been together for three years then shouldn't you know what the other person wants/needs/expects and mutually work to give each other what you want?
I will take no offence if you tell me I know nothing about it and to shut up, right now.
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i have done, but the thing is we been together 3 long years.
*Trying desperately not to sound offensive*
So what? If he's not right, he's not right. The fact that you've known each other for a long time does not put any higher value on the relationship. Does it? I've known some girls for years and they're still evil.
This isn't a criticism, or an attack. I just want to know, if you've been together for three years then shouldn't you know what the other person wants/needs/expects and mutually work to give each other what you want?
I will take no offence if you tell me I know nothing about it and to shut up, right now.
After much consideration, I find that the view is worth the asphyxiation.
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Location: Edinburgh burgh burrrrrr, United Kingdom
Posted:
no offense taken matey
In jan 2005 he went teetotal, and its only the past year his true self has emerged.
no offense taken matey
In jan 2005 he went teetotal, and its only the past year his true self has emerged.
Always use "so's your face" and "only on Tuesdays" in as many conversations possible
Dreamer
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Location: York, England
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Location: York, England
Posted:
Its not how much you've put in, but how much you're going to get out of what you continue to put in. If you have sunk 2 million dollars into something, but its not going to be profitable, then you get out, rather than keep dumping in the money....
It is of course harder when you have contracts, harder still when honour is involved, but just keep thinking about that, about looking at everything "from this point forward"
Of course, most of us, myself included, still fail at these things!
As to romance, NYC said it the best and rozi's a good second, this should have been in discussion imo oh well I found it now! Altho I have a bitch of a time explaining to boys I don't like flowers enough so that they understand it
Oh well, could be worse
But not all romance is beset with domestic violence, and not all domestic violence had romance first. There are two brilliant examples of chivalry in my life which make me feel like amillion dollars (Altho neither of them are guys I've dated... funny that!) In one case the guy did in fact do things like opening and closing the car doors and altho I would have laughed in someone's face earlier if they'd told me I'd like that... well, I wouldn't recommend it to people who don't do it naturally but it was wonderful. The big trick with a lot of these things is if you have to try it often doesn't come out right. Indeed, be yourself... at the most base level.
And the other, A certain Sethis, does a wonderful job treating women as if they are (talented and nonetheless equal) ladies and altho I'm pretty sure not everyone appreciates it I surely do And he still manages to be honest and tell you when you're being stupid in his opinion. Which, I might note, does not always reflect reality
But on the other hand I dated someone who was the stereotyphical romantic descending into abusive nightmare, so, erm, be careful what you wish for indeed! I'm romantic in my own strange way, and have thus far met one (maybe two!) people who are the same....
Which I think just means, even for the more typhical people, you just have to keep looking for a good match
Blah Blah Blah. I
you guys for listening
Its not how much you've put in, but how much you're going to get out of what you continue to put in. If you have sunk 2 million dollars into something, but its not going to be profitable, then you get out, rather than keep dumping in the money....
It is of course harder when you have contracts, harder still when honour is involved, but just keep thinking about that, about looking at everything "from this point forward"
Of course, most of us, myself included, still fail at these things!
As to romance, NYC said it the best and rozi's a good second, this should have been in discussion imo oh well I found it now! Altho I have a bitch of a time explaining to boys I don't like flowers enough so that they understand it
Oh well, could be worse But not all romance is beset with domestic violence, and not all domestic violence had romance first. There are two brilliant examples of chivalry in my life which make me feel like amillion dollars (Altho neither of them are guys I've dated... funny that!) In one case the guy did in fact do things like opening and closing the car doors and altho I would have laughed in someone's face earlier if they'd told me I'd like that... well, I wouldn't recommend it to people who don't do it naturally but it was wonderful. The big trick with a lot of these things is if you have to try it often doesn't come out right. Indeed, be yourself... at the most base level.
And the other, A certain Sethis, does a wonderful job treating women as if they are (talented and nonetheless equal) ladies and altho I'm pretty sure not everyone appreciates it I surely do
And he still manages to be honest and tell you when you're being stupid in his opinion. Which, I might note, does not always reflect reality But on the other hand I dated someone who was the stereotyphical romantic descending into abusive nightmare, so, erm, be careful what you wish for indeed! I'm romantic in my own strange way, and have thus far met one (maybe two!) people who are the same....
Which I think just means, even for the more typhical people, you just have to keep looking for a good match
Blah Blah Blah. I
you guys for listening Keep your dream alive
Dreamin is still how the strong survive
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New Hampshire has a point....
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Now look what you've made me do...
But thanks
Now look what you've made me do...But thanks
After much consideration, I find that the view is worth the asphyxiation.
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Posted:
I read this in Coversations with God last night, and I thought it was rather apt:
"Two people join together in partnership hoping that the whole will be greater than the sum of the parts, only to find that it's less. They feel LESS than when they were single. Less capable, less able, less exciting, less attractive, less joyful, less content.
This is because they are LESS. They've given up most of who they are in order to be- and to stay- in their relationship."
Be yourselves
I read this in Coversations with God last night, and I thought it was rather apt:
"Two people join together in partnership hoping that the whole will be greater than the sum of the parts, only to find that it's less. They feel LESS than when they were single. Less capable, less able, less exciting, less attractive, less joyful, less content.
This is because they are LESS. They've given up most of who they are in order to be- and to stay- in their relationship."
Be yourselves
Hoppers are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.
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"Sex is like food. People spend lots of time thinking up exotic dishes with strange and exciting spices, but at the end of the day will sit down for a plate of bacon, egg and chips like everyone else"
-Terry Pratchett
And I'm not sure what that says 
"Sex is like food. People spend lots of time thinking up exotic dishes with strange and exciting spices, but at the end of the day will sit down for a plate of bacon, egg and chips like everyone else"
-Terry Pratchett
And I'm not sure what that says
After much consideration, I find that the view is worth the asphyxiation.
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Romance? I'm not such a fan of it...all for general politness, but holding a door open and pulling a chair out for me just because they're male? Pah, If my ass is capable of being plonked down on a seat, then my arm is capable of pulling out the chair that is going to be plonked on.
I'm not you're average girly (see sig) who likes flowers and all that smelly frilly bollucks, in fact I despise it, so I can't really comment as I don't like all that stuff - so I don't expect it.
My perfect date includes the sofa, cuppa tea, a smoke, and a good film
Big up girl power I suppose?
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Romance? I'm not such a fan of it...all for general politness, but holding a door open and pulling a chair out for me just because they're male? Pah, If my ass is capable of being plonked down on a seat, then my arm is capable of pulling out the chair that is going to be plonked on.
I'm not you're average girly (see sig) who likes flowers and all that smelly frilly bollucks, in fact I despise it, so I can't really comment as I don't like all that stuff - so I don't expect it.
My perfect date includes the sofa, cuppa tea, a smoke, and a good film
Big up girl power I suppose?
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If that's the case, get your coat, you've pulled...
Romance? What's That?
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Written by: *Aimée*
My perfect date includes the sofa, cuppa tea, a smoke, and a good film
If that's the case, get your coat, you've pulled...
Romance? What's That?
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Empty your mind. Be formless, Shapeless, like Water.
Put Water into a cup, it becomes the cup, put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, put water into a teapot, it becomes the teapot.
Water can flow, or it can Crash.
Be Water My Friend.
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