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roarfireSILVER Member
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Location: The countryside, Australia


Posted:
I'm really, really sorry to start another tattoo thread...but I thought this was slightly different to the other ones lying around.



I've been thinking for a while that I want to get another tattoo. I want to get a name tattooed somewhere. And before you all dig your claws in, it's not a name of a boyfriend or anything like that!



It's Christopher - my older brothers name.



To give you a little bit of background, to help you understand why I want to do this:



Chris is 20 years old (I'm 18) and he was born with Cerebral Palsy. He was a twin but unfortunately his brother died before he was born. He can't walk so he's wheelchair bound but thankfully he can talk, even if he gets a few words mixed up sometimes and he can't really register things as quickly as everyone else. He went to the same school as I did, he didn't need to go to a special school so we are extremely lucky.



Apparently some people with Cerebral Palsy have shorter life spans, I'm not sure about if Chris has a shortened life expectancy or not though...anyway I don't really want to go into that.



He is so hilarious and he brings a smile to my face whenever I'm around him. He brightens up everyones day and I have no hesitation about introducing him to friends when they first come over. Even though he has weak, crooked kind of fingers, there is no doubt he'll fight the spasms and stick out his hand to shake yours. I believe he leaves little footprints in everyones hearts, I think he's some sort of angel and I know others think it too. Sometimes when Mum or Dad aren't home I have to toilet him and feed him and stuff, but I don't mind smile



He loves his sport, he gets it from Dad, Dad was a very good sportperson back in his day and I'm sure if Chris was like the rest of us he would be off playing in the big football or cricket league! He watches sports videos all the time. He also loves his music. He knows pretty much every artist of the 70s-90s, the names of their songs and albums and even what year the albums were made! It's fascinating!





Anyway, I could talk heaps more about him but basically he's such a gift to our family and I love him dearly.



So I want to get Christopher tattooed on my right root, possibily left because Chris is left handed if I wanted to get even more sentimental about it all!



I was thinking my foot because it could symbolise things like: because he inspires me he is like 'every step that I take' etc or because he can't walk 'this way he can walk with me everywhere i go' etc. The issue with that is that apparently tattoos on your feet absolutely cain...but I don't know where else I could get it. I don't really want to get it on my shoulder or arm because people will see and think i'm a foolish little girl getting my boyfriends name tattooed or something!



So yeah, what are your thoughts on this? It would just be simple writing, I kind of want to have a little design but I wouldn't know what. I was thinking of the Spastic Society logo but that could change in years to come.



Sorry for the lengthy post!

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animatEdBRONZE Member
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Posted:
ok...

Um, I personally wouldn't go with a Name. But that's just me. Maybe his name in an ancient, or even Fantasy script would work... (I've seen Garthy's tattoo of his name in some form of elvish, that looks really cool) but a name tattooed on somebody to me, looks a bit tacky. Especially on your foot... people would think that you wanted a tattoo, and were trying to hide it or something... I dunno...

Maybe there's a picture or symbol that means something to you both? Something that to the untrained eye, looks cool, but inside, you know the true meaning?

Maybe even have Chris help you choose a new tattoo?

oh, and hug

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BirdGOLD Member
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Posted:
If I were you, if you're set on getting it done, I would suggest that you have his name printed along with a logo or something.

Personally, I think that just having a name tattooed looks tacky an I think you might regret it in a few years (even though it has great meaning for you).

Also, from a guy's perspective, it can be a little off-putting to see another guy's name tattooed on a girl, and they're not going to know the meaning behind it.

On the whole, you want someting that looks good on its own, and has the meaning for you and your brother as well.

I'm sure thats confuzed you further, sorry! hug

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AsenaGOLD Member
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Location: Shatfield, Hertfordshire, United Kingdom


Posted:
hug

first off, I love the idea of having one on your foot, lovely idea! hug

Second off, my sister works with children with cerebal palsy, so I have seen some nasty cases. I do know that the life expectancy is supposed to go down, but then, I have seen people who have said they wouldnt make it past 2 still living at the age of 23. Just shows they are strong willed! biggrin

So ye, lovely idea hug (sorry for aannother hug but ye)

BlayzeSILVER Member
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Posted:
You should talk to some tattoo artists, I know a lot of them around here won't tattoo certain body parts like feet because they fade so quicky and need to be touched up constantly. But if you can find someone to do it, go for it. As far as getting a name, I don't think it should mater if people think it looks tacky (no offence). If you're getting it because it means something to YOU, that's all that really matters.

My fiancee and I (as well as his brother and 2 of my best friends) all have the same African symbol tattoo, but it means something to all of us, and makes us feel close even when one of us is on the other side of the world. I wouldn't get a tattoo of his name, but thats personal preferance, and in your case, it's family. Your brother will always be your brother, no matter what.

So I say go for it! Find an artist who will do it (and does free touch-ups).

Good luck! Let us know what you decide!
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BethMiss Whippy
1,262 posts
Location: Cornwall & Oxford


Posted:
I agree with the others who've said about not getting a name. Although it has a great meaning for you it can seem tacky to others. If i were to get a name it would be in a different alphabet, Arabic is a beautifully written language so I would probably go for that.

Also, tattoos on feet REALLY REALLY hurt. I have a tattoos on each ankle, one is a dragon eating its own tail (sort of) and goes around my ankle with some of it right on the ankle bone itself, so incredibly painful but looks ace. If you are a bit squeamish and are liable to faint i would recommend not getting a tattoo on your foot or ankle, its far too painful and you cant put your shoes back on or walk without pain for a few days afterwards.

I love tattoos so i say go for it but be prepared for pain! smile

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thegreatBJWoman! Not gay Man!
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Location: Hull...ish


Posted:
i'd suggest your ancle instead... it still has the same symbolicness to it but it wont hurt as much and it'll be easier to look after and show people if you want to

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BethMiss Whippy
1,262 posts
Location: Cornwall & Oxford


Posted:
Tattoos on the ankle are not easier to look after. They can wear away a lot easier than ones on the top of the foot just by walking in shoes. I've had to have one of my mine touched up because of this.

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pricklyleafSILVER Member
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Location: Manchester, England (UK)


Posted:
I'd say don't worry about what others think. The only people who it should matter to are you and your brother. Who cares if some people think names are tacky, a lot of other people think all tattoos are tacky, others think all tattoos are cool, just different people, different likes and dislikes. None of these people are right or wrong. Personally I think it's a lovely idea, and if it would mean a lot to both you and your brother, then its a worthwhile one.

I wouldn't, personally go for the spastic society symbol though. Different situation, but my Mum is disabled, although she may live a normal lifespan, I won't want to remeber her for the fact she was disabled, but the fact she is a strong, caring, tolerant, wonderful person. Wow, its really weird talking about remebering her!

If you do go for a symbol, I would go for something that represents Chris's personality, so you celebrate his strengths, before you remember his physical disability, as he is not a disability, but a person, and I think its really important to think about that, I know if I was in his situation, and my sister was getting a tattoo, which, lets face it, you probably wouldn't be doing if the situation was different, i would want it to be something that could make me feel proud and happy, not something that would be a constant reminder of the fact I was disabled.

Anyway, like I say, this is just my opinion, and the only opinion that really matters is yours and your brothers. Don't worry about furture boyfreinds being put off by the name, as if it is going to be a serious relationship, you will get the oppertunity to explain it anyway, if he hasn't met your brother.

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Hanzveteran
1,328 posts
Location: Bendigo, Vic, Australia


Posted:
I'd say go for it.
I was having this conversation with a friend about her getting a tattoo for her little brother (who passed away as a baby). Dont worry about future boyfriends, if he is the right one, he will be so proud of you for getting it. Getting tattoos of family members is ALOT differant to getting ones of a boyfriend (or girl) he will ALWAYS be your brother, no matter what.
The idea is fantastic, but as others have said, I would talk to a tattoo artist to find out about foot tattoos. And talk to your brother, see if he has any suggestions

Patriarch917SILVER Member
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607 posts
Location: Nashville, Tennessee, USA


Posted:
I would go with a heart on the sole of the foot, to symbolize how he leaves those "footprints on the heart" that you mentioned.

Another option would be a footprint on your chest over your heart.

Either one should give you a good oportunity to explain it and give props to your brother.

JayKittyGOLD Member
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534 posts
Location: Central New Jersey, USA


Posted:
The left side of your body is sometimes said to be your spiritual side, having his name on the left would say something about how amazing his spirit is. I read that entire long post, he sounds like a really incredible person. Whatever kind of tattoo you choose and wherever you want to put it, it's still a really wonderful sentiment.

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gitaSILVER Member
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Posted:
i like it! biggrin hug

chicken has a tatt on her foot...you should ask her if it hurt much...

i also like the idea of maybe getting something in some kewl writing so its not just a name, but it looks really beautiful to match the lovely meaning behind it...

but then, i need sleep & i'm rambling... biggrin

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PyroWillGOLD Member
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Posted:
Hi Steph,

My advice first of all if your getting a tattoo that means somethign to you and you dont care if people see it or not then get it in a discreet place where you can cover it up so if on your foot make sure a sock can conceal it, both my tattoos are important to me and i got them for me not as a fashion icon which is why people rarely see them unless i have a top off.

Secondly maybe go around different ways of having the tattoo, as Ed said people can be off put by seeinga guys tat on them, often people will look then look away before you have a chance to say thats my brothers name etc, my mate whos dad passed away a while ago got his dads initials then a magic wand (his dad was a magician) and under that was the date he lived and died, maybe just Chris's initials and maybe a symbol that means a lot to both of you or reminds you of him?

Hope I've helped at all hug I bet your an ace sister

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PyroWillGOLD Member
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Location: Staines, United Kingdom


Posted:
oh yeh and i'll warn you the foot and the spine are the most painful places to have a tat done frown

An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind

Give a man a fish and he'll eat 4 a day hit a man with a brick and you can have all his fish and his wife

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BethMiss Whippy
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Location: Cornwall & Oxford


Posted:
Written by: Patriarch917


I would go with a heart on the sole of the foot, to symbolize how he leaves those "footprints on the heart" that you mentioned.
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Thats a nice sentiment but most reputable tattooists won't tattoo the sole of the foot. It's the *most* painful part of the body to tattoo. Forget the spine and ankle, i have tattoos on both, the sole of the foot is a totally different story. Think about it, tattooists have to make the skin taut, imagine how it would feel to stretch the skin on the sole of the foot and then have a needle dragged along it. no thanks. Don't get a tattoo on the sole of your foot, pain pain pain! and it'll wear away very easily.

Ankle is a good place for a tattoo, go for it there!

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Posted:
I think initials or a symbolic design would look better than a name. People will come to their own conclusions about a name unless you tell them about it.

My tattoo on my foot was the most pain i have ever been in. It was truely agonising. BUT the pain only lasts for a short time (I can't imagine you are going to be getting a big tattoo) and it doesn't hurt any more than a tat anywhere else on your body afterwards. Just a bit stingy and itchy.

BethMiss Whippy
1,262 posts
Location: Cornwall & Oxford


Posted:
Great thing about tattoos as opposed to piercings is piercings hurt for ages afterwards whereas tattoos stop hurting once the needle is off your skin, they're great! thats why they're sooo addictive biggrin

*runs off to plan her next tattoo*

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jeffhighGOLD Member
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Posted:
I have a 65mm diameter tattoo on the top of my foot. For me it is pretty visible as I go barefoot a lot.Got it in april this year.
I thought it was going to be really painful based on what some people had said but it was not too bad. sort of like being bitten by a small ant over and over for 50 minutes but with no pain after.
Did'nt wear shoes for a month after.
Jeff

animatEdBRONZE Member
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Location: Bristol UK


Posted:
Have you heard of/seen UV Tattos? or even White ink Tattoos?



They don't show up as much (the white one's are hardly noticeable) or, the uv ones can use ink that only shows up in UV light. Neat huh?



That way, if you don't want anyone to see it, they can't. biggrin



Hmmm... UV Tattoos... I want one of them now...



There was a thread I saw somewhere with some information, I'll dig it up...



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BethMiss Whippy
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Location: Cornwall & Oxford


Posted:
Mmmm UV tattoos..... i want one!

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PyroWillGOLD Member
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Location: Staines, United Kingdom


Posted:
Someone was telling me, possibly a hopper about their friend who has a tattoo of a scorpion but some of the joints and its armour and tail are UV so they glow amaizngly under uv, looks ace

An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind

Give a man a fish and he'll eat 4 a day hit a man with a brick and you can have all his fish and his wife

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PhaerieBRONZE Member
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Location: Melbourne, Australia


Posted:
Written by: PyroWill


oh yeh and i'll warn you the foot and the spine are the most painful places to have a tat done frown




nah spine is fine, over chest and ribs is heaps worse *nod*

i would say be especially careful with any kind of writing as a tattoo... as other people suggested, maybe get it in a script or something like that? or a design that incorporates his name?
but then again, the tattoo should be for you, not for what other people think. if getting his name done on you is what you feel is right then go for it. you should do it because it is what YOU want and what YOU feel you need. ultimately the decision is yours as you will have to live with it.

dont get me wrong, i think it is a beautiful idea, and can completely understand why you want to get it, just make sure you go with what your heart tells you.

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jc_firetricksBRONZE Member
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Posted:
I have my nipple done, but seriously no pain at all.
Not much comes close to getting knocked in the head by a spinning fire staff..... ... can u say "ouch" ?

tillymoomember
107 posts
Location: Brisbane


Posted:
maybe his name in his or your handwriting?
a friend of mine has his daughters name written in his handwriting over his heart and i thinks that's nice.

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_Aime_SILVER Member
Carpal \'Tunnel
4,172 posts
Location: Hastings, United Kingdom


Posted:
Right, searched and this is all I could find!

I'm off to get my first tattoo in *looks at clock* half an hour..

Thing is I'm going by myself! Argh! And im so nervous! And excited! And I really should eat something..but I don't eat when I'm nervous or worried...I'm just smoking like a chimney.. rolleyes ubblol



In need of hugs and support!
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_Aime_SILVER Member
Carpal \'Tunnel
4,172 posts
Location: Hastings, United Kingdom


Posted:
Right! I'm leaving! Can't hurt to be early..
Oh my lordy...
Pictures to follow this evening!

ValuraSILVER Member
Mumma Hen
6,391 posts
Location: Brisbane, Australia


Posted:
good luck aimee!



Steph, I have the whole top of my foor done in a kenji script with colourful flames all around it. Yeah it hurts but not that much. Maybe I have a high pain tolerance?

I reckon maybe get Chris' name done in Kenji script or chinese characters...that way its his name, but not in english so to speak.... so new boyfriends wont go..."Chris who?" and raise their eyebrows all suss like...



nothing suss! biggrin





my next tat is going to be on my toe... ubbrollsmile

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LahuKalennewbie
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Posted:
Yay Aimee! Can't wait for pix!

And to the people talking about UV tatts, I've been told they're not a good idea as the long-term effects of the UV ink haven't been tested enough...I don't know how much truth there is to that, it's just what I was told.

BlayzeSILVER Member
Doesn't play well with others...
187 posts
Location: CANADA


Posted:
I'm so jealous! I want more tattoos, but have to wait until June.
Hope everything went well!

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_Aime_SILVER Member
Carpal \'Tunnel
4,172 posts
Location: Hastings, United Kingdom


Posted:
Picture!

Another picture!



I love it biggrin

It's a tad off centre, which I'm pissed off about. But I've been told (and I'm hoping) that its hardly noticable.

And I got a discount because I didn't say 'ow' (lol)
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