PeleBRONZE Member
the henna lady
6,193 posts
Location: WNY, USA

Okay...I have to say this.

I am sooooooooooooo sick and tired of people saying "Men suck!" or "Women are aweful."

I'm sorry. It is a lame-ass statement that is a scapegoat for our reluctance to take responsibility for our own personal choices.

I have a few friends who use this as thier mantra. Two in particular are pretty much convincing a girl who was happily married that she is not any longer...and that is wrong.

One is a guy who will sit and look into my very girlie face and tell me how horrible women are and then whine about how he's still single. I wonder why. rolleyes

I've been beaten, very badly, by someone I loved very much. It wasn't his fault. I was the idiot for staying.
I've been told that "I'd be missed if I got fat." That I am "Fat, ugly and stupid."... all by men.
And you know what? Hating men got me nowhere but even more miserable with poor choices in mates.
I stayed.
I listened.
I believed.
I was the problem, not them. They were being themselves and who they were is not okay for my life. When I learned that I changed.

But being bitter and complaining about it all the time doesn't help and it sure doesn't help attract those who are loving, caring, intelligent, witty and wonderful into our lives...if anything that kind of loathing chases them right away, and they *should* run from anyone with an attitude like that. Hell, I wouldn't be with a man who thought women were all evil bitca's cause it wouldn't be worth my time to fight that mentality.

Awesome men and incredible women do exsist, and are single, and are as straight/gay as we want them to be.
But first we have to take responsibility for our own choices, quit complaining about what didn't work, learn and move on.

And worse, these people who complain incessently about it (why can't they just vent once and be done with it?) seem to bring down others around them. Wow. What a great friend a person is if s/he can't even let those around him/her be happy.

So the end it is a matter of stopping the stupid blame game. It wouldn't be his/her fault if s/he didn't have someone around who let them be horrible to. Nope. Shut up, move on and let other people be happy.
Not all men or women are evil, and continuously saying they are only makes a person sound like a disgruntled and bitter fool.

Higher, higher burning fire...making music like a choir
"Oooh look! A pub!" -exclaimed after recovering from a stupid fall
"And for the decadence of art, nothing beats a roaring fire." -TMK

mausBRONZE Member
Carpal \'Tunnel
4,191 posts
Location: Sihanoukville, cambodia

Written by: Doc Lightning

I don't trust anything that bleeds for three-four days and doesn't die.


i can't believe you got away with that for so many posts!
spanknaughty doc!

JauntyJamesSILVER Member
Carpal \'Tunnel
3,533 posts
Location: Hampshire College, MA, USA

I'm quite glad I'm still too young to know anybody that jaded about the opposite sex. I know a wide variety of terrible and wonderful people of both sexes. I scarcely see a difference, at least in personalities.


"How do you know if you're happy or sad without a mask? Or angry? Or ready for dessert?"

SethisBRONZE Member
1,762 posts
Location: York University, United Kingdom

Kyrian: No worries, anytime you mess up big time, I'll be right here to point out just how bad it was, and how many people were watching wink

(And I promise you can do the same to me biggrin )

Yeah, snapping at the wrong person (like your head of year) can really ruin your day... That's why I stay at home...

After much consideration, I find that the view is worth the asphyxiation.
I may disagree with what you have to say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.

4,308 posts
Location: York, England

Oh great, and you're going to see me dancing at clubs when i'm drunk. This can't end well......

Keep your dream alive
Dreamin is still how the strong survive

Shalom VeAhavah

New Hampshire has a point....