Forums > Social Discussion > Broken Hearts-rant away, I did.

"I want to know if you can see beauty even when it's not pretty, every day,and if you can source your own life from its presence.." - Oriah Mountain Dreamer

Hoppers are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.

I only get the idea that very often on here there's some people-bashing going on, usually "girl-power"-related. I've sketchily shared my experience with a man on here, and I've been pushed quite hard by other women to "name and shame" and publish his name and address so that other girls wouldn't fall for him... wtf??

It just seems that people are all too willing to jump in in the name of support and express their (valid) opinion without thinking how biased and hurtful it can be. Remember the whole affair with Froggy and her ex just because Skully was trying to help her by raising some money... it nearly degraded into a channel 5 talk show!

I'm all for giving support if people need it. But I think there's things that should go between friends, and things that should go public. I'd NEVER go into so much detail about a relationship, especially one I want to work again, on a forum, and if I were him, I'd be deeply hurt if I found out. And yes Jo, I'm aware that you probably didn't mean it exactly like you said it, but that's still NO way to talk about someone. And Medusa, the fact that it took my comment to make you say "he's not a wan-ker BUT..." on a forum and you didn't do it the first time you read it speaks for itself. If I read someone saying that about Sunbird, even if I was incredibly p!ssed off with him at that moment, I'd defend him before other people did.

Make him work hard if you want, it's not my business. I just had a problem with the style, but hey, this is the internet... just don't be surprised if your being extra-prickly now doesn't exactly ease his doubts

"vices are like genitals - most are ugly to behold, and yet we find that our own are dear to us."
(G.W. Dahlquist)

Owner of Dragosani's left half

Medusa, I think Birgit was referring to me.

Hoppers are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.

I've said more than once that I hope you'll work everything out. I do wish you all the best, really. It wasn't my intention to upset you, but apparently that wasn't clear enough for some... ah well. So much for speaking my mind... it's obviously not asked for in "discussion", maybe this should be moved to "chat" with the subtitle "please agree" (MILD SARCASM BUT NOT OF THE MALICIOUS KIND. END DISCLAIMER)



I also hope you went to London because you wanted it, and not just because he did... cause if you did I'm sure you'll be fine whatever happens Have a if you want one I didn't want to make you feel worse. I got the impression from your earlier posts that you'd been quite moody and a bit undecided recently, and maybe he didn't want to tell you about his own doubts to not make things worse... it's probably how I would've reacted in his place. I guess if I've made you feel worse than I must've hit a spot somewhere. But if you put something up for a "discussion" you should've been prepared to hear more than just your own opinion.



I don't agree with the type of talking I criticised about you in general, but I've not read old posts in this thread (I was actually interested in what had happened to you when I saw you'd posted, since I like reading your posts and was a bit concerned! I never even looked at it before for obvious reasons), so I don't know how other people talk about their exes, and frankly, I won't read back because it'll probably wind me up to no end.



If you think you're getting abuse from me I'm sorry, I can't find it anywhere. I'm just speaking my mind, and I did point out that I didn't mean it as a personal attack against you. It's a general thing. Like, quote Jo: "why are men so silly?" Dunno. Maybe because shows like sex and the city teach us that if a woman's undecided she's brave to face her feelings and work a way through, and if a man is he's weak? (Which is why half of them end up with their exes, and another one with a man who wouldn't stand up for her because of his religion... bless modern-day woman!!)



I know as many silly women as I know men, relationship-wise. But on here, there seems to be a stronger tendency of women to talk or even moan (NOT DIRECTED PERSONALLY. END DISCLAIMER) about their exes and other girls hitting in the same kerb no matter what than the other way round, and I don't have to like it. If a man posted "she's done this and that and now I'm playing hard to get", I'd bet my wages on at least 5 people telling him off and advising him to give her a second chance, and not everyone saying "she'll just do the same again in a few months, mate".



Anyways, I'll leave this "discussion" thread to everyone who's broken-hearted, wants to agree with something or wants to give hugs. If anyone wants to discuss this with me, or have a go at me, please use a pm, cause I won't be reading in here anymore and I don't want to take this thread even more off-topic than I've already done.



Apologies for disturbing the peace

"vices are like genitals - most are ugly to behold, and yet we find that our own are dear to us."
(G.W. Dahlquist)

Owner of Dragosani's left half

Medusa, feel free to cry on my shoulder hun

Hoppers are angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.

Ahh Medusa, lots of from me

I had a bad experience ages ago. I dated a guy for 8 months and I loved him. I dropped my friends and went against everyone to be with him, and all he could say to me after we broke up was "I don't know how I feel about you anymore". I found out a week later that he was seeing someone else.

I think your attitude is so right. I wish I couldv'e been like that when I noticed something wasn't right in the relationship. I became too clingy and as a result, made the situation worse.

I truly hope that everything will be sorted out soon

Much love

It may be your sole purpose in life to serve as a warning to others

Founder and Official leader of the Curby Clan

*Owner of Brenn*

Oh Medusa I'm so sorry to hear about all this. I hope what you're going through doesn't affect your time over in the U.K because I'm really looking forward to meeting you when I come over there. I hope you'll still be around.

Then I can give you hugs and we shall drink together to forget our sorrows!

Unfortunately that won't be until July.

Until then:



Cheer up hun!

.All things are beautiful if we take the time to look.