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Posted:
Have you ever regretted saying, not saying something? Doing something, not doing something?
If the opportunity arose to go back and relive your life would you do it? I would, I certainly would.
There are so many choices and decisions that I would change, not that I'm going to go into them here.
Could you honestly say, on your dying day 'I've lived my life with no regrets'?
Everyone says to learn from your mistakes, accept them, life goes on etc.
I agree that you do learn from them, but me personally? I will never be able to accept them.
*sigh*
Have you ever regretted saying, not saying something? Doing something, not doing something?
If the opportunity arose to go back and relive your life would you do it? I would, I certainly would.
There are so many choices and decisions that I would change, not that I'm going to go into them here.
Could you honestly say, on your dying day 'I've lived my life with no regrets'?
Everyone says to learn from your mistakes, accept them, life goes on etc.
I agree that you do learn from them, but me personally? I will never be able to accept them.
*sigh*
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I have many regrets. More than I think I have successes.
Once again, as roar said above, i will not go into then here as I do not have the time. It may well take days, and would involve long an convoluted nonsense.
Nuff said....
I have many regrets. More than I think I have successes.
Once again, as roar said above, i will not go into then here as I do not have the time. It may well take days, and would involve long an convoluted nonsense.
Nuff said....
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Pooh-Bah
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i only regretted one thing in my life. It has haunted me for 6 years.
Other than that "no" cos without doing the things i have done i wouldn't have the life i have now. I believe that i only have the happy life i have now by making these decisions and whether or not i regretted them at the time they have led to here where i'm happy.
i only regretted one thing in my life. It has haunted me for 6 years.
Other than that "no" cos without doing the things i have done i wouldn't have the life i have now. I believe that i only have the happy life i have now by making these decisions and whether or not i regretted them at the time they have led to here where i'm happy.
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Posted:
I too have regretted a lot of decision I had made, but then on hindsight if those scenario is replayed I'd probably do the same stupid things anyway... just the way I am really.
I too have regretted a lot of decision I had made, but then on hindsight if those scenario is replayed I'd probably do the same stupid things anyway... just the way I am really.
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I have one that has affected my life and i still dream about it regularly now 2 years on, the choices we make
I have one that has affected my life and i still dream about it regularly now 2 years on, the choices we make
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the choices we make make us...so even though sometimes i wish i'd done things differently, theres no point in playing what ifs. regretting things won't change anything, and its easier to like yourself if you don't have them.
the choices we make make us...so even though sometimes i wish i'd done things differently, theres no point in playing what ifs. regretting things won't change anything, and its easier to like yourself if you don't have them.
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I like who i am now, and i've become that person through my choices.
however, i also have a massive, convoluted, possibly contradictory philosophy regarding choices, parallel universes and fate, but i'd best leave that for now.
I like who i am now, and i've become that person through my choices.
however, i also have a massive, convoluted, possibly contradictory philosophy regarding choices, parallel universes and fate, but i'd best leave that for now.
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Posted:
I think if you feel regret at any time it usually means you have some unfinished business.
I've done lots of stupid things in my life and made many bad choices. I don't regret them because, as many have said already, they got me to the place I'm at now and I like that place.
I've done things in the past that have hurt others and at the time I regretted them deeply but I went to the people and made my peace with them so the regret has gone. Sometimes it was myself I hurt but I worked through it and am at peace with myself too. Sometimes you do just have to say sorry to your inner self and move on.
Hanging onto guilt/regrets is very negative and will not help you grow as a person. No one is perfect. Everyone has made mistakes. Learning from them, making peace with them and then moving on, is how you grow.
I think if you feel regret at any time it usually means you have some unfinished business.
I've done lots of stupid things in my life and made many bad choices. I don't regret them because, as many have said already, they got me to the place I'm at now and I like that place.
I've done things in the past that have hurt others and at the time I regretted them deeply but I went to the people and made my peace with them so the regret has gone. Sometimes it was myself I hurt but I worked through it and am at peace with myself too. Sometimes you do just have to say sorry to your inner self and move on.
Hanging onto guilt/regrets is very negative and will not help you grow as a person. No one is perfect. Everyone has made mistakes. Learning from them, making peace with them and then moving on, is how you grow.
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Draco Iracundia
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Draco Iracundia
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Posted:
I've found people thinking about their regrets too much are living in the past and not the now, and don't enjoy the now like they should be.
Yeah i have regrets, and have thought about how it would be different if i hadn't said/done certain things, but having regrets makes you think of how not to repeat those mistakes.
I've found people thinking about their regrets too much are living in the past and not the now, and don't enjoy the now like they should be.
Yeah i have regrets, and have thought about how it would be different if i hadn't said/done certain things, but having regrets makes you think of how not to repeat those mistakes.
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comfortably numb
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Posted:
Nicely said people.
I'm trying to learn to accept them, I really am...but for some reason I'm finding it really hard because I'm so ashamed of myself and what I've done.
I do enjoy the present heaps. I love life I really do!
I know it's living in the past but I just can't help it.
Nicely said people.
I'm trying to learn to accept them, I really am...but for some reason I'm finding it really hard because I'm so ashamed of myself and what I've done.
I do enjoy the present heaps. I love life I really do!
I know it's living in the past but I just can't help it.
.All things are beautiful if we take the time to look.
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Steph hun, if you still feel ashamed it probably means you haven't come to terms with what you have done and forgiven yourself.
Try this.
Make a list of things you feel bad about having done. Look at each one and try and figure out why you did them. You may look and think..... geez was that really the reason I did that ?? Be open and honest with yourself. Once you can see why you did things you can learn from them how not to repeat the same mistakes.
If after doing this exercise you identify people you have hurt along the way, go and sit with them and calmly explain to them that you have thought long and hard about what you have done. Explain to them why you did it and how you have since learned from it. Ask them for their forgiveness and tell them that you understand if they don't feel they can give it. Be open with them and most times you will find they respond in a positive way.
The hardest part of the exercise is to then apologies to yourself for doing the things you have and giving yourself forgiveness. Once you do you will be free of the burden of regrets and able to move on a better person.
Good luck hun
Steph hun, if you still feel ashamed it probably means you haven't come to terms with what you have done and forgiven yourself.
Try this.
Make a list of things you feel bad about having done. Look at each one and try and figure out why you did them. You may look and think..... geez was that really the reason I did that ?? Be open and honest with yourself. Once you can see why you did things you can learn from them how not to repeat the same mistakes.
If after doing this exercise you identify people you have hurt along the way, go and sit with them and calmly explain to them that you have thought long and hard about what you have done. Explain to them why you did it and how you have since learned from it. Ask them for their forgiveness and tell them that you understand if they don't feel they can give it. Be open with them and most times you will find they respond in a positive way.
The hardest part of the exercise is to then apologies to yourself for doing the things you have and giving yourself forgiveness. Once you do you will be free of the burden of regrets and able to move on a better person.
Good luck hun
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comfortably numb
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Posted:
Thanks so much buddy
That's such good advice.
I would have no problem with going and talking to people...but the specific regrets that I have are things that I've done to myself. None of them involve hurting others.
But I have started writing the list and thinking about them...hopefull I will be able to accept them eventually.
Thanks again
Thanks so much buddy
That's such good advice.I would have no problem with going and talking to people...but the specific regrets that I have are things that I've done to myself. None of them involve hurting others.
But I have started writing the list and thinking about them...hopefull I will be able to accept them eventually.
Thanks again
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Posted:
Every decision I've made has lead me to being who I am now. Seeing as how I like who I am now I find it very hard to have any regrets. Decisions that seemed wrong at the time have had the desired effect and created the person I am. This is why I tend to deal with stuff well.
To be honest, if you asked, I'd have to say I have only one regret.
Every decision I've made has lead me to being who I am now. Seeing as how I like who I am now I find it very hard to have any regrets. Decisions that seemed wrong at the time have had the desired effect and created the person I am. This is why I tend to deal with stuff well.
To be honest, if you asked, I'd have to say I have only one regret.
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Sporadically Prodigal
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Posted:
Purification through fire.
Write down mistake/regret.
Consciously forgive yourself and reaffirm the love you have for yourself
Burn piece of paper, dissolving the negative weight of the regret, and bless it; ask Gaia to tranform it into good energy. Smile.
Purification through fire.
Write down mistake/regret.
Consciously forgive yourself and reaffirm the love you have for yourself
Burn piece of paper, dissolving the negative weight of the regret, and bless it; ask Gaia to tranform it into good energy. Smile.
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Scientist of Fortune
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Location: Edinburgh
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Posted:
Yup, I regret a fair few of my choices in life. I'm about to go do something I'll probably end up regreting as well
But to an extent that's just the way things go and you have to be true to who you are (sorry about the after-school-special splurg ) and just live your life. 
Yup, I regret a fair few of my choices in life. I'm about to go do something I'll probably end up regreting as well
But to an extent that's just the way things go and you have to be true to who you are (sorry about the after-school-special splurg ) and just live your life. According to Heisenberg's Uncertainty Principle of Quantum Dynamics, we may already be making love right now...
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Upon first thought I would say that there are a few things I would regret...i.e. Not saying what I know I should have said at certain times, or hurting someone's feelings....But I agree that the choices you make, in turn make you who you are. I am presently quite happy with just about everything in my life, and who I am. So I would have to say that no, I have no real regrets...
Upon first thought I would say that there are a few things I would regret...i.e. Not saying what I know I should have said at certain times, or hurting someone's feelings....But I agree that the choices you make, in turn make you who you are. I am presently quite happy with just about everything in my life, and who I am. So I would have to say that no, I have no real regrets...
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old hand
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Location: San Francisco, California, USA
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Location: San Francisco, California, USA
Posted:
Funny this thread should come up now, my partner just two nights ago was telling me how regret and remorse are the big things I need to let go of. On a serious level, the regrets I have are those situations in which I let my own insecurities or pigheadedness get in my way. But I did learn from those experiences. There's only one situation that I haven't fully let go of yet.
On a more frivolous level, sometimes when I go out for dinner, I'll order one thing and immediately wish I ordered something else. It's a bit compulsive really.
There's this saying (ascribed to some famous person I can't remember): I'd rather regret things I've done than things I haven't. At this point in my life, that holds true for me.
Funny this thread should come up now, my partner just two nights ago was telling me how regret and remorse are the big things I need to let go of. On a serious level, the regrets I have are those situations in which I let my own insecurities or pigheadedness get in my way. But I did learn from those experiences. There's only one situation that I haven't fully let go of yet.
On a more frivolous level, sometimes when I go out for dinner, I'll order one thing and immediately wish I ordered something else. It's a bit compulsive really.
There's this saying (ascribed to some famous person I can't remember): I'd rather regret things I've done than things I haven't. At this point in my life, that holds true for me.
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Location: Manchester
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Posted:
I texted somone today who i fell out with two years ago. She replied. Do i regret not doing it sooner? No, because I thought i might regret texting her altogether.
My biggest regret in life was realising that regrets are pointless, and you just have to accept what you've done. and then learn from it.
I texted somone today who i fell out with two years ago. She replied. Do i regret not doing it sooner? No, because I thought i might regret texting her altogether.
My biggest regret in life was realising that regrets are pointless, and you just have to accept what you've done. and then learn from it.
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Spinning my old staff after pracising with my new ones for a few months. the new ones are heavier so i lost it in the plane of the old'n and sliced my nose open quite nicely, probably going to scar, it was fair deep.
Spinning my old staff after pracising with my new ones for a few months. the new ones are heavier so i lost it in the plane of the old'n and sliced my nose open quite nicely, probably going to scar, it was fair deep.
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Are we there yet?
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Posted:
I don't beleive in regrets, what's the point?
You can't change the past, but you can shape your future.
Written by: Hexagonic
My biggest regret in life was realising that regrets are pointless, and you just have to accept what you've done. and then learn from it.
I don't beleive in regrets, what's the point?
You can't change the past, but you can shape your future.
Scientist of Fortune
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Location: Edinburgh
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Location: Edinburgh
Posted:
Easier said than felt unfortunately
Written by: AdeWritten by: Hexagonic
My biggest regret in life was realising that regrets are pointless, and you just have to accept what you've done. and then learn from it.
I don't beleive in regrets, what's the point?
You can't change the past, but you can shape your future.
Easier said than felt unfortunately
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Posted:
regrets?? yeah, i have plenty of those! too many to list, but most of them i've accepted as part of who i am & learnt from them...mostly i remember that there's sweet f.a. i can do about them & that helps me get over it!! 
regrets?? yeah, i have plenty of those!
too many to list, but most of them i've accepted as part of who i am & learnt from them...mostly i remember that there's sweet f.a. i can do about them & that helps me get over it!! do not meddle in the affairs of dragons, for you are crunchy and good to eat!
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Location: Auckland, New Zealand
Posted:
regrets are plenty for most people. Me - no exception. But most of the ones that have haunted me for a while have helped make me realise who I am. Others make you stronger. Then again, some just turn up in your mind when yopu least expect it and return to annoy you. My way of thinking is; S**t happens, get over it, move on with life. Works most of the time
regrets are plenty for most people. Me - no exception. But most of the ones that have haunted me for a while have helped make me realise who I am. Others make you stronger. Then again, some just turn up in your mind when yopu least expect it and return to annoy you. My way of thinking is; S**t happens, get over it, move on with life. Works most of the time
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Well in the face of that veritable cornicopia of philosophical wisdom i'm at a loss for words.
one thing to remember though, if you manage to live your life without regrets then you need to raise your expectations. its part of who we are and its what makes us work that much harder for a better future.
"Don't fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: "could have, might have, and should have."
edit-i dont know if that made sence, im really tired at the moment
EDITED_BY: Fathom (1121490993)
Well in the face of that veritable cornicopia of philosophical wisdom i'm at a loss for words.
one thing to remember though, if you manage to live your life without regrets then you need to raise your expectations. its part of who we are and its what makes us work that much harder for a better future.
"Don't fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: "could have, might have, and should have."
edit-i dont know if that made sence, im really tired at the moment
EDITED_BY: Fathom (1121490993)
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b...bal...lence?....
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that made peeeeeeeeeerfect sence
went together like oranges, plumbing pipe, an aerosole can and a bbq lighter!!
that made peeeeeeeeeerfect sence
went together like oranges, plumbing pipe, an aerosole can and a bbq lighter!!
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Posted:
I don't think of things that I do regret... Seems hard. (As in, looking at something, wondering if I regret it or not, and never figure out if it's a regret or not.) I tend to look at things I have done, and say "I would have regretted that if I didn't do it". I find I have a lot more things I don't regret than things that I do.
~ Bobo
I don't think of things that I do regret... Seems hard. (As in, looking at something, wondering if I regret it or not, and never figure out if it's a regret or not.) I tend to look at things I have done, and say "I would have regretted that if I didn't do it". I find I have a lot more things I don't regret than things that I do.
~ Bobo
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Posted:
I regret not asking out more boys in school
I also regret eating that tub of hagen daaz last night...
I regret not asking out more boys in school
I also regret eating that tub of hagen daaz last night...
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one should NEVER regret hagen daaz!!!
one should NEVER regret hagen daaz!!!
do not meddle in the affairs of dragons, for you are crunchy and good to eat!
if at first you do succeed, try not to look too astonished!
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Location: Durham, UK
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Location: Durham, UK
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To summarise: I hate what I've done and been through, but I love what it has made me.
To summarise: I hate what I've done and been through, but I love what it has made me.
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not telling this girl what i feel about her - the usual
not telling this girl what i feel about her - the usual
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