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animatEdBRONZE Member
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Probably gonna get deleted but oh, well, here goes:



I underwent my first session of hypnotherapy last night because I have serious security issues concerning my better half. I can't stop feeling paranoid or jealous because every guy she meets, fancies her and has to tell her so, and offer her their love. It's even close friends of mine from uni that I trust, that I introduce to her that do it. These are the ones that piss me off the most. I always get scared that one day she'll get a better offer than I can give her, and she'll be off. I know that she thinks an awful lot of me, and that the chances of it happening are very very slim, but still I get worried. I don't want to lose the best thing that has ever happened to me. It's happened at least ten times since we've been together and it makes me so insecure that I try to push her away and hurt her before anything like that has a chance to happen to me. Thank the powers that be that I haven't managed to do it yet, and that she's so fantastic and strong that she sticks by me (god knows I don't deserve it after the way I've hurt her) But i just decided I'm getting sick of feeling so paranoid for no reason, and causing quite a bit of pain for the both of us.



Thankyou Georgina for being so amazing and having the patience for putting up with me. Words cannot express how wonderful I think you are.



I know she can't help being fantastic and beautiful, But why do other men not realise that when people are together, they are together and that's that? I wouldn't go trying to split people up because I had feelings for someone else's girlfriend. It's just not done. It's downright rude as well as makes me feel like complete sh!t.



Anyway...



My first session was last night. My mum's partner is a qualified hypnotherapist, So I get the treatment for free. It was the most amazing and yet freaky thing I have ever done!!



There I am, sitting in a chair, listening to him say things like 'your eyelids are getting heavy, and this is ok' and then he shows me a spot on his hand (proper David Blaine style) and before I know it, he's told me to close my eyes and that they're locked shut. I try to open them, but nothing. It's as if my entire body is paralysed, but I'm still in complete control of everything that is going on around me. He tells me to relax, and counts me down the 'stairs of relaxation', whereupon every step you go down, doubles your state of relaxation. By the time I get to the bottom, my body feels like a lead weight, and I feel so peaceful and calm.



He then took me on a 'trip to the cottage'. 'The Cottage' is an imaginary cottage in your head. you build up a picture of the most beautiful cottage you can imagine (mine was in Falmouth, for some reason) and the cottage is right on a cliff-edge. You walk into it and see that it's in a mess. there's crap lying everywhere, but this is no ordinary crap. What's lying around is all the emotions and experiences and indeed anything that you don't like about yourself, and you have to tidy up. I started off last night by ridding myself of quite a lot of jealousy that had built up in my mind, and a small bit of some other bad aspects of myself. I also managed to incorporate some of the urge to smoke in my rubbish. It felt so good. Once I had cleaned up a bit, I was told to 'tie a knot in the rubbish sack so that nothing could get out, take the sack to end of the picturesque garden, and throw it over the cliff'. Done. A weight off my shoulders.



Aftre that, he counted me out of the trance that I was in, saying 'when I get to the number five, you will be able to open your eyes'. 'one' he said. nothing. I tried to open my eyes early, but couldn't. 'Two'. same thing happened. 'three, four' again no response from me. 'Five' I opened my eyes and was wide awake, and still fully aware of what had been happening.



Does anyone else go through these emotions concerning their partners? Or am I just weird? How does everyone else deal with them? Can you give me any tips? Has anyone else broken up with people for reasons they later found out to be crap?

Empty your mind. Be formless, Shapeless, like Water.
Put Water into a cup, it becomes the cup, put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, put water into a teapot, it becomes the teapot.
Water can flow, or it can Crash.
Be Water My Friend.


animatEdBRONZE Member
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Posted:
Thursday 21st july until sunday/monday

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Put Water into a cup, it becomes the cup, put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, put water into a teapot, it becomes the teapot.
Water can flow, or it can Crash.
Be Water My Friend.


Gayle......!SILVER Member
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Posted:
21st to 25th July. Is Leeds any easier to get to?

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SkulduggeryGOLD Member
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Location: Wales


Posted:
21st til the 25 july

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NucleopoiBRONZE Member
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Location: Ilkeston, Derbyshire, England


Posted:
how long would the train be to london?

how much in cost in total?

NucleopoiBRONZE Member
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Location: Ilkeston, Derbyshire, England


Posted:
is there any difference in price?

they are all an hour away from me, york i know well.id go for there.

NucleopoiBRONZE Member
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Location: Ilkeston, Derbyshire, England


Posted:
is it a straight train from york to london and vice versa?

NucleopoiBRONZE Member
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Location: Ilkeston, Derbyshire, England


Posted:
sorry for multiple posting.....

the train is on the 20th then i guess?

do the trains all fit in ok with coming back from falmouth?

SkulduggeryGOLD Member
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I think we are talking Mega bus not trains hun..... I don't really have enough money to book train tickets, sorry. hug

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NucleopoiBRONZE Member
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Posted:
no i meant from york to london.lol

animatEdBRONZE Member
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Posted:
National Express from Ripon to london would take 5 hours and 40 minutes. leaving at 0840 in the morning. Cost would be 22 pounds. I got this covered if you want to do it.

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Put Water into a cup, it becomes the cup, put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, put water into a teapot, it becomes the teapot.
Water can flow, or it can Crash.
Be Water My Friend.


animatEdBRONZE Member
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Posted:
22 return that is returning on the monday at 1630 to arrive back in Ripon at 2200.

Empty your mind. Be formless, Shapeless, like Water.
Put Water into a cup, it becomes the cup, put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, put water into a teapot, it becomes the teapot.
Water can flow, or it can Crash.
Be Water My Friend.


SkulduggeryGOLD Member
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Posted:
york to london return, according to the trainline web site, is 52 if booked now.... as its a super advanced ticket.



The mega bus is way way cheaper. Mega bus site

Train tickets

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NucleopoiBRONZE Member
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Location: Ilkeston, Derbyshire, England


Posted:
i really dont know, i need to get meself sorted out here first.

i really dont think it is possible from my point of view.

when is the next falmouth?il come to that for definite as long as its not next summer cos il be away.

thank you to everyone for all this help,i do appreciate it all but i cant do it currently.

i hope you all understand including ed.

love you all, hope to see you soon at the next meet up.

hug hug hug hug hug

animatEdBRONZE Member
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Posted:
Oh well, My situation hasn't changed. I get all excited and again for no reason. Thanks anyway guys. You're all fantastic.

George, I do understand. even if I don't like it. Not your fault. hug
I still love you more than anything else in the world ubblove

Empty your mind. Be formless, Shapeless, like Water.
Put Water into a cup, it becomes the cup, put water into a bottle, it becomes the bottle, put water into a teapot, it becomes the teapot.
Water can flow, or it can Crash.
Be Water My Friend.


GothFrogetteBRONZE Member
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Posted:
frown hug i wanted to see you wear a cheer leader outfit.
hug i guess i had better get practicing my cj skills. *Goes up to desk picks up stage ball and puts it down again* hmmmm need more than that i guess biggrin

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SkulduggeryGOLD Member
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Posted:
If things you change your mind or things change making it easier for you to come don't be affraid to ask for some help to get there biggrin

Lifes got too many nasty things going on and we never know how long we have got so I say grab every chance of having fun as you can.

Hope to get to meet you soon hug

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NucleopoiBRONZE Member
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Location: Ilkeston, Derbyshire, England


Posted:
i WILL come to the next falmouth.

then it will be easier for me.

as long as i can get to london in any way then go down to falmouth with ed and durbs etc.....if thats possible?!?!

GothFrogetteBRONZE Member
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Posted:
skully's right and is the reason why i am going. and of cause i miss all my hopper buddies. lol.

but there is always next time i guess

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NucleopoiBRONZE Member
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Posted:
when is it likely to be?

SkulduggeryGOLD Member
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Posted:
I doubt there will be another one this year unless its a mini one like last year just before Christmas.... but who knows biggrin

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GothFrogetteBRONZE Member
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Posted:
yeah but i think it will more than likey be decided while either there or after. so if we make it a real good one we could well get another before the end of the year... although it will be bloody cold again

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NucleopoiBRONZE Member
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Location: Ilkeston, Derbyshire, England


Posted:
hey hey

thought id tell y'all that i have got a job,its part time 16 hours a week,but crap pay.

its something to go from i suppose.

GothFrogetteBRONZE Member
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Posted:
hug yeay

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NucleopoiBRONZE Member
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Location: Ilkeston, Derbyshire, England


Posted:
i wouldnt go that far lol
its shi**y
4.25 an hour lol
how poo

GothFrogetteBRONZE Member
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Posted:
whats it doing? hug

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NucleopoiBRONZE Member
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Location: Ilkeston, Derbyshire, England


Posted:
sales assistant in a poxy shop!!

_Clare_BRONZE Member
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Posted:
Well, at least today should put things in perspective

Well done on the job hug

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The Tea FairySILVER Member
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Posted:
Don't worry, I'm working for charity and get paid a poxy 3.80ph! I wouldn't mind seeing as is for a charity and all, except i'm beginning to think that the charity is corrupt and higher management are pocketing the money in bonuses unannounced.

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NucleopoiBRONZE Member
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Location: Ilkeston, Derbyshire, England


Posted:
lol it just gets better,

now they say they dont want me cos before they didnt realise it was only for 2 months as i was going back to uni.

im finding all this quite humerous now cos its so unbelievable.

Sir Nuggit 899 posts
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Posted:
Jellycopters are in mass production and going for a song biggrin

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