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13,215 posts
Location: without class distinction, Australia
This morning, I was just sitting here, on the internet in a youth hostel in Sofia, Bulgaria, when I was chatting on msn to my ex boyfriend. Things were completely fine. no worries at all. completely and wonderfully friendly. Then he left and i asked to speak to his girlfriend, my ex-best friend (i think you may know the story). anyway, i then had the following conversation via e-mail:
"hi,
i thought it was time that i let u know something.
i have come to the decision that i cant have u being a part of my
life any more. not now, and not when u get back.
sorry that this would have seemed to come out of no where for you.
bye"
so i replied with:
"yes, that was very out of the blue. do i at least get to ask why? I
still have the happy text messages we parted with."
and she said:
"just need it to be this way"
I know you guys are going to say that if she is that kind of a person that I'm better off without her. But to receive an email completely out of the blue from her like that - what the hell! For those who know the story, if anything, it should be me severing it off with her! but no! just an email saying when i come back that she wont be there. that she wants me out of her life. i cant belive she did that! we were BEST FRIENDS until she ran off with her current boyfriend and my now ex boyfriend! and we had our fights, but the morning i left for romania - we made up! i deliberately kept the messages from her to have with me in romania to remember that even after the [censored] we went through, we stil love each other and our bond still existed!
to receive an email like that in a foreign country is a terrible downer.
any advice, or am i just beyond it?
i would have changed ***** to phallus, and claire to petey Petey
Rougie: but that's what I'm doing here
Arnwyn: what letting me adjust myself in your room?..don't you dare quote that on HoP...
Carpal \'Tunnel
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Location: Hampshire College, MA, USA
not a good idea to do anything friendship related over the internet, particularly not whilst in separate countries.
-James
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Insert Champagne Here
13,215 posts
Location: without class distinction, Australia
thats what i think! i would have though just not contacting me when i returned was the more likely way to do it!
i would have changed ***** to phallus, and claire to petey Petey
Rougie: but that's what I'm doing here
Arnwyn: what letting me adjust myself in your room?..don't you dare quote that on HoP...
798 posts
Location: Tas, Aus
that 
that is so horrible, what kind of person would do that? Quid Pro Quo
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Location: brizvegas, Australia
i'll still be here when you get back!
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old hand
863 posts
Location: Berlin, Germany
loosing a friend is hard and even harder if you dont really know why(especially after a lot of sh!t)..
.. maybe you should just leave it in this way right know and then you get back try to talk with her so that you have the possibility to understand her.. 
What is psychology?- Looking for a black cat in a dark room. What is psychoanalysis? Psychoanalysis is looking for a black cat in a dark room -- in which there is no cat -- but finding one anyway.
addict
435 posts
Location: VIC, MELB, Australia
ouch matey... hope things get better soon
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1,803 posts
Location: Wonderland igloo, Vic, Australia
Thats low, i cant imagine how you must feel...
She could ahve at least told you why.
Maybe she feels guilty?
You ahve us!!! All ovewr the world, though, and i dont think many of us would ditch you!!!!
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6,140 posts
Location: Over There, United Kingdom
Sorry to hear that honey.
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part of the lonely trio
137 posts
Location: Hastings, England
I don't know what happened before you left, but maybe she's still affected by it, and can't see your friendship returning back to exactly how it was before? Maybe she would rather break off the friendship altogether rather than not being able to have what you once had?
That may sound a bit random, so yeah.
sounds sucky xx smells like burning teenagers..
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1,799 posts
Location: aotearoa, New Zealand
20/20 in hindsight.. its only once the water has cooled down that we are able to enjoy it for what it really is, without getting our lipts burnt.
(if this analogy doesnt work, just let me know and i'll think up something else that'll make you nod your head vaguely and say uh-huh? in a questioning way)
and also:
those that know, dont say. those that say, dont know.
Carpal \'Tunnel
5,814 posts
Location: Perth, Australia
Maybe she actuually doesnt want you around the ex so he cant remember what he is missing.
Maybe she is mixed up in her head.
If she is important to you, when you get back look her up. Who knows by then she may have changed her mind again. If she breaks up with the dude I reckon she will need/want you back and it will be you thinking whether you want to be in her life
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Is it Fair to all concerned?
Will it build Goodwill and Better Friendships?
Will it be Beneficial to all concerned?
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