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Spanner
Spanner

remembers when it was all fields round here
Location: in the works... somewhere...
Member Since: 27th Feb 2003
Total posts: 2790
Posted:In conversation with some HoP members, they've told me that, before I mentioned something in conversation with them which made it obvious I was female, they thought I was male.

Having been a member on HoP for 2 years, this has been said far more than I originally expected it to, even from people who have been here around the same length of time as me. I uploaded a photograph which actually shows my face close up into my gallery for the first time yesterday (a bit late I know redface ) and more people have now admitted that they previously thought I was male.

And I don't mind at all. On the contrary - I find it funny biggrin - I'm just curious about how people have come to that conclusion.

Without a photograph or many references to one's gender, I think we do tend to have a vague picture of what someone looks like from how they write online. But what is it about that which makes us think of that person as one gender, when there should be just as much chance of them being the other? Do you tend to think of someone as your own gender, or the opoosite, without these clues?

Has it happened to you? Are you also a female who has been mistaken for a male? I think I've only ever heard of those instances, but there must be some males who have been mistaken for females online.

confused


"I thought you are man, but
you are nice woman.

yay,

:R"

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JauntyJames
JauntyJames

Carpal \'Tunnel
Location: Hampshire College, MA, USA
Member Since: 22nd Dec 2004
Total posts: 3533
Posted:last night, i found out that two or three blokes were in fact full blown females! this inspired me to PM malcolm with the suggestion that he display gender beside posts along with location, post count, etc.

-James

"How do you know if you're happy or sad without a mask? Or angry? Or ready for dessert?"

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_khan_
_khan_

old hand
Location: San Francisco, California, USA
Member Since: 17th Nov 2004
Total posts: 768
Posted:it's pretty clear from my name i'm a boy, i think, though when i was little people used to think i was a girl all the time. i was a bit of a sissy tho. and i did like dolls more than footballs. i still like dolls more than footballs, but not more than fireballs!

if i used coleman's formula, i'd be khanman! which is kinda cool i guess but then no one would trust me ever.


taken out of context i must seem so strange
~ ani di franco

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MissEgyptology
MissEgyptology

officially expelled from BYU
Location: Southern California
Member Since: 21st Feb 2005
Total posts: 195
Posted:I hope everyone can figure out that I'm a girl, not a guy. It does say Miss on my name....

"So Miss, I think you win the prize... A mormon egyptologist in a firespinning chat room... that's gotta be a record of some kind"
-NYC

Thanks, NYC,but I quit mormonism now XD

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EpsilonKias
EpsilonKias

Note to self... Fur + Fire = Hurt.
Location: Bloomfield Indiana. USA
Member Since: 20th Feb 2005
Total posts: 107
Posted:I have never been mistaken as a girl online but offline I have been a few times cause of my long shaggy hair... But not recently due to the fact I let my goatee grow out a bit ^_^

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Spanner
Spanner

remembers when it was all fields round here
Location: in the works... somewhere...
Member Since: 27th Feb 2003
Total posts: 2790
Posted:Written by: fluffy napalm fairy


lol - when I used to post as Helium Dreamer





Hang on a minute - you were Helium Dreamer? cool



I always did wonder where that member had gotten to ubblol



Written by: Pigeon_Wigeon


spanner got to say... thought you were a bloke... in defence I used to have a friend called Spanner who was.. a bloke... but yeh





Yeah? Well, I thought you were a bloke too, until I saw your gallery photo. So there nana



biggrin



hug


"I thought you are man, but
you are nice woman.

yay,

:R"

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Hanz
Hanz

veteran
Location: Bendigo, Vic, Australia
Member Since: 7th Jun 2004
Total posts: 1328
Posted:I like the idea of having the gender next to location... would make things easier and wouldnt be as embarrassing for some of us.

Must say offline I havent been called a bloke in a few months smile

However, the other day when I was at Hoadley Hide we were talking to a female rover and apparently they failed a team on their stunt because they thought she was a guy... lol


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Spanner
Spanner

remembers when it was all fields round here
Location: in the works... somewhere...
Member Since: 27th Feb 2003
Total posts: 2790
Posted:Written by: Hanz

I like the idea of having the gender next to location... would make things easier and wouldnt be as embarrassing for some of us.



It would be nice to have the choice, but also to have the choice to opt out smile


"I thought you are man, but
you are nice woman.

yay,

:R"

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Hanz
Hanz

veteran
Location: Bendigo, Vic, Australia
Member Since: 7th Jun 2004
Total posts: 1328
Posted:like when u register to choose either: yes, display my gender, or no, dont display my gender type thing?

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ilsanya
ilsanya

manic over a fence
Location: Tas, Aus
Member Since: 14th Oct 2004
Total posts: 798
Posted:not a bad idea. i don't get mistaken online (i think) but i used to offline......it all started long, long ago...........

when i was little i got my hair cut off to be a guy in a play. when i went back to school everyone thought there was a new boy in the class! also used to get some weird looks going to girls toilets!
but then i grew my hair, got breasts and a waist and that kinda fixed that.


Quid Pro Quo
5|>00|\|5 /-\|^3 <00|!

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roarfire
roarfire

comfortably numb
Location: The countryside
Member Since: 8th Jul 2004
Total posts: 2676
Posted:Sorry ImmortalAngel, I have to say that I also thought you were female... redface

.All things are beautiful if we take the time to look.

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ImmortalAngel
Scientist!
Location: Waterloo, Ontario, Canada
Member Since: 19th Jan 2004
Total posts: 578
Posted:No worries Roar, I have been mistaken for a female more times in real life than I care to count smile

Educate your self in the Hazards of Fire Breathing <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> STAY SAFE! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/hug.gif" alt="" />

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Medusa
Medusa

veteran
Location: 8 days at Cloudbreak, 6 in Per...
Member Since: 25th Nov 2003
Total posts: 1433
Posted:I don't think anyone would mistake me for male in real life or on here...

But I have to admit that there have been a few people that I got confused with....I was also a victim to the ImmortalAngel is a female plague... ooooops

I sort of thought roarfire (in her old name) was a male ooooops again....then I checked her profile and realised my silly mistake.


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roarfire
roarfire

comfortably numb
Location: The countryside
Member Since: 8th Jul 2004
Total posts: 2676
Posted:Hehe, that's quite strange and funny. I always thought xabandonedx was a fairly feminine name. smile

.All things are beautiful if we take the time to look.

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Hanz
Hanz

veteran
Location: Bendigo, Vic, Australia
Member Since: 7th Jun 2004
Total posts: 1328
Posted:why did you mention that stuff about abandoned roarfire???

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roarfire
roarfire

comfortably numb
Location: The countryside
Member Since: 8th Jul 2004
Total posts: 2676
Posted:Written by: Medusa


I sort of thought roarfire (in her old name) was a male ooooops again....then I checked her profile and realised my silly mistake.



Because she was talking about roarfire in her old name which was xabandonedx.


.All things are beautiful if we take the time to look.

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ado-p
ado-p

Pirate Ninja
Location: Galway/Ireland
Member Since: 13th May 2004
Total posts: 3882
Posted:ubblol

tao star's a boy?!!!

i just bidded on him in the female auction

ubblol ubblol ubblol ubblol


Love is the law.

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fluffy napalm fairy
fluffy napalm fairy

Carpal \'Tunnel
Location: Brum / Dorset / Fairy Land
Member Since: 12th Dec 2001
Total posts: 3638
Posted:Spanner - yeps, that was me.......... biggrin HeliumDreamer......... Then it was Ros. Now I'm me.

ubbrollsmile


Geologists do it in the dirt................ spank

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Rouge Dragon
Rouge Dragon

Insert Champagne Here
Location: without class distinction
Member Since: 21st Jul 2003
Total posts: 13215
Posted:When people read my name incorrectly, they often think I'm a guy.

And in real life my friends usually call me one of the guys; [on one of those jumping castles with foam thingos] "I want to fight a girl!" "fight Beth!" "I said a GIRL!" that count?


i would have changed ***** to phallus, and claire to petey Petey

Rougie: but that's what I'm doing here
Arnwyn: what letting me adjust myself in your room?..don't you dare quote that on HoP...

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PyroWill
PyroWill

HoP's Barman. Trapped aged 6 months
Location: Staines
Member Since: 4th Aug 2004
Total posts: 4437
Posted:Written by: TheBovrilMonkey

I always used to think that Pyrowill was a girl.





I assume that by now you know!


An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind

Give a man a fish and he'll eat 4 a day hit a man with a brick and you can have all his fish and his wife

"Will's to pretty for prison" - Simian

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myco
myco


Location: melbourne, victoria, australia
Member Since: 2nd Nov 2004
Total posts: 2084
Posted:i was mistaken as a boy a few times when i first joined, cos the name sounds like it comes from the name mike i guess...

i thought spanner was a boy for ages, just cos spanners seem masculine, and the avatar looks like a boy to me...i also thought roarfire was a boy when she was xabandonedx, soon realised though.

tao star is a girl isn't she ado-p? according to her profile she is...?


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PyroWill
PyroWill

HoP's Barman. Trapped aged 6 months
Location: Staines
Member Since: 4th Aug 2004
Total posts: 4437
Posted:yes she is, and a very pretty one at that, i also thought spanner was a guy too

An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind

Give a man a fish and he'll eat 4 a day hit a man with a brick and you can have all his fish and his wife

"Will's to pretty for prison" - Simian

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roarfire
roarfire

comfortably numb
Location: The countryside
Member Since: 8th Jul 2004
Total posts: 2676
Posted:Written by: myco


i also thought roarfire was a boy when she was xabandonedx, soon realised though.







Yeah...I only found out the day I was going to Melbourne for the Alexandra Gardens that you were a girl! Sorry!


.All things are beautiful if we take the time to look.

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shen shui
shen shui

no excuses. no apologies.
Location: aotearoa
Member Since: 4th Jan 2005
Total posts: 1799
Posted:talking about the bird and bloke thing again...

i think that everybody has the potential to have an even balance of yin energy and yang energy wtihin them (yin being feminine and yang being masculine). generally, females "give off" more yin energy than yang, and vice-versa for males.. however, this is not always the case (and this is in no ways related to homosexuality (well, i guess there are ways they are related.. but i just wanted to stress that this is not what i'm referring to here)), and often there are males that simply "feel" like females to other people because of some basic energetic polarity concentrations... (and females who may give off more yang than yin energy..)..

smile


those that know, dont say. those that say, dont know.

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flid
flid

Carpal \'Tunnel
Location: Warwickshire
Member Since: 27th Aug 2002
Total posts: 3136
Posted:want chips with that?

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pricklyleaf
pricklyleaf

with added berries
Location: Manchester
Member Since: 7th Mar 2005
Total posts: 1365
Posted:opps, I thought pidegeon W was a boy and immortal A a girl. on IRC someone thought I was a boy. My real names fairly easy to work out from my screen name. I like the displaying of gender with avator idea a lot. The screen names can be so confusing sometimes! ooooops

Live like there is no tomorrow,
dance like nobody is watching
and hula hoop like wiggling will save the world.

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Doc Lightning
Doc Lightning

HOP Mad Doctor
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA
Member Since: 28th May 2001
Total posts: 13920
Posted:*looks down pants*

Well, it's been a while since my first year of med school, but I seem to remember that that dangly thing there (points a bit to the left) means I'm a bloke.

| <--like that ubblol


-Mike )'(
Certified Mad Doctor and HoP High Priest of Nutella

"A buckuht 'n a hooze!" -Valura

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Fine_Rabid_Dog
Internet Hate Machine
Location: They seek him here, they seek ...
Member Since: 26th May 2004
Total posts: 10530
Posted:Thats the 2nd naughty post you've made within a few days, lightning... bad boy spank

there was an obvious, childish comment floating around my head... something to do with scale... tongue


The existance of flamethrowers says that someone, somewhere, at sometime said "I need to set that thing on fire, but it's too far away."

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munkypunks
munkypunks

enthusiast, but not enthusiastic
Location: Los Angeles, California
Member Since: 21st Jan 2005
Total posts: 367
Posted:I haven't been here long, so I guess it's hard to tell, but I've been mistaken for a guy, both here and RL. Used to be a lot. Not so much in RL anymore, because I've started wearing more 'feminine' (read: tight) clothes. But I tend not to be very feminine personality-wise, so.... 'Xept here, I thought a heart avatar was an obvious 'girlie' giveaway. (but the c-cup bra doesn't seem to clue some people in, so why would a heart be more obvious...)

Several HoPpers have surprised me. Since I'm new and don't know you well enough, I won't say who. redface What I will admit to is that more often I mistake guys (I think they're female) than the other way around. And a few people I changed my mind about so often, I just went and checked.

I think it's cool that a lot of people don't seem to fit the assumptions we make about male and female. And that we learn to question those assumptions. When you don't know, you don't go into an interaction with preconceived notions, and it's more fun to interpret the 'clues.' smile


You can't fall off the floor, but sometimes you need a chair to reach the cookie jar.

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munkypunks
munkypunks

enthusiast, but not enthusiastic
Location: Los Angeles, California
Member Since: 21st Jan 2005
Total posts: 367
Posted:Written by: pricklyleaf

My real names fairly easy to work out from my screen name. I like the displaying of gender with avator idea a lot. The screen names can be so confusing sometimes! ooooops



Your name is Cactus? biggrin More confusing than you think.


You can't fall off the floor, but sometimes you need a chair to reach the cookie jar.

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polythene
veteran
Location: London/ Surrey
Member Since: 15th May 2003
Total posts: 1359
Posted:Rose, maybe...

The optimist claims that we are living in the best of all possible worlds.
The pessimist fears this is true.

Always make time to play in the snow.

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