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Posted:
And remember..... I'm female....
How do you bring shy guys out of their shell?
I'm too nervous that i'm leading people on, or that i'm imposing, or taht peopel hate me or whatever...
but i've found out later sometimes that guys were just shy and really liked me and wanted me to stay around...
a guy i'm interested in now is sort of shy.. he seems to not mind me and all... but i'm sort of nervous around him.. for reasons which i will disclose on pm if you want to know... but anyway he seems to enjoy my company but i'm shy about hitting on him or anything and he is shy in general so....
help?
And remember..... I'm female....
How do you bring shy guys out of their shell?
I'm too nervous that i'm leading people on, or that i'm imposing, or taht peopel hate me or whatever...
but i've found out later sometimes that guys were just shy and really liked me and wanted me to stay around...
a guy i'm interested in now is sort of shy.. he seems to not mind me and all... but i'm sort of nervous around him.. for reasons which i will disclose on pm if you want to know... but anyway he seems to enjoy my company but i'm shy about hitting on him or anything and he is shy in general so....
help?
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Posted:
I'm a shy guy so I'll speak from experience. (=
Hit on him and see his reaction. That'll usually help bring a guy "out of their shell" per sae...Or just be patient. Some people need time to be able to understand their feelings.
hope this helps
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I'm a shy guy so I'll speak from experience. (=
Hit on him and see his reaction. That'll usually help bring a guy "out of their shell" per sae...Or just be patient. Some people need time to be able to understand their feelings.
hope this helps
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Posted:
Ask him out. Don't hit on him per se or flirt blatantly (any more than you normally would) but ask him out to a quiet dinner, or something mutual that you have interest in but that is more quiet than a club so you can feel out the situation (or each other! )
Ask him out. Don't hit on him per se or flirt blatantly (any more than you normally would) but ask him out to a quiet dinner, or something mutual that you have interest in but that is more quiet than a club so you can feel out the situation (or each other! )
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Like Pele said... go for it... maybe you'd be happier with him... what do you have to lose...
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Like Pele said... go for it... maybe you'd be happier with him... what do you have to lose...
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Posted:
Well, Kyrian, we havent spoken in awhile actually, but here is my suggestion for you...
The thing about shy guys is that they are self-concious about something. This means that you have to initiate a lot of things. I dont think you should ask him out right away or actually hit on him. Go up to him and talk to him, get him comfortable around you in a way that you dont get caught up in the 'becoming too close to have a relationship' zone. After he starts feeling more comfortable, you can move in with the lovable Kyrian charms and then when he least expects it...BAM!!!! capture him...
I wish you the best of luck, and if you want to discuss this furthur or any other issue on your mind, you know where to reach me...
[ 05 June 2002, 13:26: Message edited by: Organized Kaos ]
Well, Kyrian, we havent spoken in awhile actually, but here is my suggestion for you...
The thing about shy guys is that they are self-concious about something. This means that you have to initiate a lot of things. I dont think you should ask him out right away or actually hit on him. Go up to him and talk to him, get him comfortable around you in a way that you dont get caught up in the 'becoming too close to have a relationship' zone. After he starts feeling more comfortable, you can move in with the lovable Kyrian charms and then when he least expects it...BAM!!!! capture him...
I wish you the best of luck, and if you want to discuss this furthur or any other issue on your mind, you know where to reach me...
[ 05 June 2002, 13:26: Message edited by: Organized Kaos ]
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shy people react similarly to everyone else...
most people only need half an excuse to run away (thinks about all the times I've been naked at Uni...) *AHEM*
being unthreatening makes everybody (especially yourself!) more comfy - ya know what I mean! plus sincere flattery goes a long way too. Obviously, He'll prefer to be with ya if he feels nice when yer around.
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shy people react similarly to everyone else...
most people only need half an excuse to run away (thinks about all the times I've been naked at Uni...) *AHEM*
being unthreatening makes everybody (especially yourself!) more comfy - ya know what I mean! plus sincere flattery goes a long way too. Obviously, He'll prefer to be with ya if he feels nice when yer around.
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man, i'm so shy (contrary to my alter ego here at HOP) the only way i get kisses is if a girl steps up and bonks me on the head and drags me off by my dreads to her cave...luckily i had ergonomic handles installed in the hair so things are pretty good for me right now in the draggin dept... i never did learnt how to "mack" and i figure every girl has been hit on a billion times, they ought to know how. plus i likes me the sexually assertive type so get up on it! watch his eyes light up like a baby doused in kero! oh crap...damn turret's syndrome...
man, i'm so shy (contrary to my alter ego here at HOP) the only way i get kisses is if a girl steps up and bonks me on the head and drags me off by my dreads to her cave...luckily i had ergonomic handles installed in the hair so things are pretty good for me right now in the draggin dept... i never did learnt how to "mack" and i figure every girl has been hit on a billion times, they ought to know how. plus i likes me the sexually assertive type so get up on it! watch his eyes light up like a baby doused in kero! oh crap...damn turret's syndrome...
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Me too...I'm horribly shy when it comes to the fairer sex. I think it sumwhat helps to flirt a little.. Like not too obvious...also..I don't care if this sounds like its from third grade or sumthing but...if you tell a mutual friend that u like him...that sort of helps. Because the friend will in turn tell the dude you like. So the guy is less shy because he has nothing to lose ya know..most times dudes r afraid of rejection...well thats my case...anywho...try that out it should do the charm..do not come out too strong though...it makes us think that we r just peices of meat lol...
Me too...I'm horribly shy when it comes to the fairer sex. I think it sumwhat helps to flirt a little.. Like not too obvious...also..I don't care if this sounds like its from third grade or sumthing but...if you tell a mutual friend that u like him...that sort of helps. Because the friend will in turn tell the dude you like. So the guy is less shy because he has nothing to lose ya know..most times dudes r afraid of rejection...well thats my case...anywho...try that out it should do the charm..do not come out too strong though...it makes us think that we r just peices of meat lol...
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Errmmm, what to suggest, just try and find a quiet moment to talk to them about it, lay down your cards on the table, tell it the way it is. Dont get really heavy or serious. explain the way you feel. That might work. I think. Well yeah err, thats enough advice from the middlest brother.
quote:Same here!
Originally posted by rockstarashi:
man, i'm so shy (contrary to my alter ego here at HOP) the only way i get kisses is if a girl steps up and bonks me on the head and drags me off by my dreads to her cave...
Errmmm, what to suggest, just try and find a quiet moment to talk to them about it, lay down your cards on the table, tell it the way it is. Dont get really heavy or serious. explain the way you feel. That might work. I think. Well yeah err, thats enough advice from the middlest brother.
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Is this guy seeing someone perchance?
Is this guy seeing someone perchance?
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Shyness? I mock thee, as much as I mock all named Montague!
alotta people who behave in a forward manner online are like totally shy sweets in real life. (It's a venting of a persona - so the HoP gathering is gunna be a real eye opener on what people are like outside of the matrix. clearly, what people are like online does not necessarily indicate the offline persona. Just to confuse the point, some people are freaks online and off - when i post the photos, just look at Arsn's clubbing shannigans)
again, I have to stress personal evolution..
everyone starts off shy - once you learn to let go, you'll look back and think "Watdafuk was worried about, seriously!! it so fun! imagine that, twins! me so lukky!"
An akward analogy is cold beach water. all yer mates + n some attractive sweeties are in the water, beckoning you in. what you feel socially is the same as what you feel when the water's too cold.
once you dunk in the water, you'll resurface thinking - sweet! now who do i dunk in next?!?
I like analogies.
[ 05 June 2002, 14:35: Message edited by: Bender_the_Offendër ]
Shyness? I mock thee, as much as I mock all named Montague!
alotta people who behave in a forward manner online are like totally shy sweets in real life. (It's a venting of a persona - so the HoP gathering is gunna be a real eye opener on what people are like outside of the matrix. clearly, what people are like online does not necessarily indicate the offline persona. Just to confuse the point, some people are freaks online and off - when i post the photos, just look at Arsn's clubbing shannigans)
again, I have to stress personal evolution..
everyone starts off shy - once you learn to let go, you'll look back and think "Watdafuk was worried about, seriously!! it so fun! imagine that, twins! me so lukky!"
An akward analogy is cold beach water. all yer mates + n some attractive sweeties are in the water, beckoning you in. what you feel socially is the same as what you feel when the water's too cold.
once you dunk in the water, you'll resurface thinking - sweet! now who do i dunk in next?!?
I like analogies.
[ 05 June 2002, 14:35: Message edited by: Bender_the_Offendër ]
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you like analorgies? sicko!
you like analorgies? sicko!
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Analogy is good but now is the digital revolution
Analogy is good but now is the digital revolution
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Posted:
Kyrian,
My advice? If you have a mutual friend, ask that mutual friend to set the two of you up.
Hell, grab a random stranger off the street and ask him to set the two of you up.
G'luck!
(Gosh, it's not me, is it???)
[ 05 June 2002, 17:23: Message edited by: MikeGinny ]
Kyrian,
My advice? If you have a mutual friend, ask that mutual friend to set the two of you up.
Hell, grab a random stranger off the street and ask him to set the two of you up.
G'luck!
(Gosh, it's not me, is it???)
[ 05 June 2002, 17:23: Message edited by: MikeGinny ]
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Posted:
How do you bring shy guys out of their shell? You don't rip them out.
You're already friends, so spend more time alone together, build up light physical contact into something more. It'll work out, but you might have to do some blatant hinting and leading. Men are crap at reading come-on signs, and if he's shy he'll be pathetic at it.
Good luck! Go grab the bull by the horn!
How do you bring shy guys out of their shell? You don't rip them out.
You're already friends, so spend more time alone together, build up light physical contact into something more. It'll work out, but you might have to do some blatant hinting and leading. Men are crap at reading come-on signs, and if he's shy he'll be pathetic at it.
Good luck! Go grab the bull by the horn!
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no he's not seeing neone.
i have a mutual friend who could help out, i'm sure. i hate doing it that way, but sometimes it's easier, no? we'll be hanging out this weekend, (me and the shy one) so i'll see how it all goes. thanks for the advice y'all
if you have any more i'm still listening.
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no he's not seeing neone.
i have a mutual friend who could help out, i'm sure. i hate doing it that way, but sometimes it's easier, no? we'll be hanging out this weekend, (me and the shy one) so i'll see how it all goes. thanks for the advice y'all
if you have any more i'm still listening.
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Mutual friend thing is a bit lame. May make shy boy even shyer as you're talking about him with other people.
My last long term girlfriend and I were friends for a couple of years, but we spent a year of that under sexual tension as we were both gagging for each other but both shy and afraid of rocking the friendship boat. We eventually got together when a load of us were really drunk and another girl I knew sat on my lap and kissed me, I mean really kissed me, for ages, in front of everyone! Original girl was not happy and got in a huge sulk for days! It was a wake-up call and when we talked about it we got together properly and lived happily ever after. For a couple of years. The girl who'd kissed me wasn't that happy tho, but she got over it once she'd joined a convent.
The moral of the story? Act now before you realise you've been turning down great sex for a whole year!
Mutual friend thing is a bit lame. May make shy boy even shyer as you're talking about him with other people.
My last long term girlfriend and I were friends for a couple of years, but we spent a year of that under sexual tension as we were both gagging for each other but both shy and afraid of rocking the friendship boat. We eventually got together when a load of us were really drunk and another girl I knew sat on my lap and kissed me, I mean really kissed me, for ages, in front of everyone! Original girl was not happy and got in a huge sulk for days! It was a wake-up call and when we talked about it we got together properly and lived happily ever after. For a couple of years. The girl who'd kissed me wasn't that happy tho, but she got over it once she'd joined a convent.
The moral of the story? Act now before you realise you've been turning down great sex for a whole year!
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i used to be a shy guy but i was always lonely. i became an ass hole and i had women out my ass.. funney how that works. of course one of my pet peves is women who can't take the first step? you wanted equality and all that shit right, well welcome to the lovely world of rejection. it sucks but it happens. i symathize with you, but imagine what all thease shy guy go through knowing that the girl will never aproach them.
i used to be a shy guy but i was always lonely. i became an ass hole and i had women out my ass.. funney how that works. of course one of my pet peves is women who can't take the first step? you wanted equality and all that shit right, well welcome to the lovely world of rejection. it sucks but it happens. i symathize with you, but imagine what all thease shy guy go through knowing that the girl will never aproach them.
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Dreamer
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ur talking to the girl who always makes the first move... taht's why i'm so nervous about leading people on and such...
oh and i'm being hit on by a good friend's ex now... as if life wern't alreayd complicated enough...
ur talking to the girl who always makes the first move... taht's why i'm so nervous about leading people on and such...
oh and i'm being hit on by a good friend's ex now... as if life wern't alreayd complicated enough...
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so are you just trying to draw him out of his shell in general, or develop some kind of relationship?
so are you just trying to draw him out of his shell in general, or develop some kind of relationship?
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AHHHHH!!!!!!
NO MUTUAL FRIENDS TO HOOK ANYONE UP!!!!! thats the worst thing in the world, and it brings lots of awkwardness before the time you to acutally hitt it off
Shyness...I remember I used to be that...until I woke up one morning and was like, girls are people, Im a person, people arent that scary, why am I so scared... and from then on I was known as Organized Kaos by all my fans and admirers forever forth and forever known as the supreme one of supreme prosperity and calcification of the human limbado of he epiglottis multiplied by the theory of plutonium, I am benevolent...
WTF was that?
hehe...Kyrian girl, dont be nervous around him just be Kyrian and do what your heart tells you, following your heart is the most important thing in the world...and you will be prosperous...
Im gonna go spew my bullshit made up words that dont fit into a sentence somewhere else...
Oh wait, I just saw man behind curtains comment, and I came back to say that being an asshole was also my first approach to non-shyness...It gets the girls, but makes you feel like shit...Im all about being a nice sweet guy now
and for the ladies. Why is it thatgirls like the assholes...you think you can actually change them??? Ive been ann asshole, It wont happen...
[ 06 June 2002, 09:27: Message edited by: Organized Kaos ]
AHHHHH!!!!!!
NO MUTUAL FRIENDS TO HOOK ANYONE UP!!!!! thats the worst thing in the world, and it brings lots of awkwardness before the time you to acutally hitt it off
Shyness...I remember I used to be that...until I woke up one morning and was like, girls are people, Im a person, people arent that scary, why am I so scared... and from then on I was known as Organized Kaos by all my fans and admirers forever forth and forever known as the supreme one of supreme prosperity and calcification of the human limbado of he epiglottis multiplied by the theory of plutonium, I am benevolent...
WTF was that?
hehe...Kyrian girl, dont be nervous around him just be Kyrian and do what your heart tells you, following your heart is the most important thing in the world...and you will be prosperous...
Im gonna go spew my bullshit made up words that dont fit into a sentence somewhere else...
Oh wait, I just saw man behind curtains comment, and I came back to say that being an asshole was also my first approach to non-shyness...It gets the girls, but makes you feel like shit...Im all about being a nice sweet guy now
and for the ladies. Why is it thatgirls like the assholes...you think you can actually change them??? Ive been ann asshole, It wont happen...
[ 06 June 2002, 09:27: Message edited by: Organized Kaos ]
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quote:Maybe I should try that....
if a girl steps up and bonks me on the head and drags me off by my dreads to her cave...
*:...one day all the fairy fridges will be aligned and my pixie world will be complete...:*
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funny thing is the girls taht like assholes arn't even trying to chaneg them most of the time....
*shakes head*
yes relationship. i don't know why i'm sweating about it. I'm nine out of ten fine in person (phone is slightly different). it's juts all this down time to think....
it'll all work out, or it won't, in which case *shrugs* i'll go console myself with a new toy or something... liek i need new toys... i'm already working on too much stuff in poi to relly learn nethin....
neways, thanks, and hopefully i won't become shy too... wish me luck
funny thing is the girls taht like assholes arn't even trying to chaneg them most of the time....
*shakes head*
yes relationship. i don't know why i'm sweating about it. I'm nine out of ten fine in person (phone is slightly different). it's juts all this down time to think....
it'll all work out, or it won't, in which case *shrugs* i'll go console myself with a new toy or something... liek i need new toys... i'm already working on too much stuff in poi to relly learn nethin....
neways, thanks, and hopefully i won't become shy too... wish me luck
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I'm for the hitting him option.
I'm for the hitting him option.
Meh
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heh nuthin' palpitates the heart like a concussion!!
heh nuthin' palpitates the heart like a concussion!!
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man at this point i just wear a crash helmet when i go out. course, in my line of work, i usu. have either chucks or whips in my sack -in case the girl is real cute, i can just hand one to her, take off the helmet, and bend forward(i'm tall)...
man at this point i just wear a crash helmet when i go out. course, in my line of work, i usu. have either chucks or whips in my sack -in case the girl is real cute, i can just hand one to her, take off the helmet, and bend forward(i'm tall)...
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in the esoteric model of the psyche, the explanation for physical reactions to emotions (eg butterflies in the stomach, a twitching in the lower back) is that the indulgence of these emotional egos cause a response in the physical world (the butterflies behind/just below the solar plexus is focused at the anxiety centre, the flinch in the lower back is centred at the instinctual centre.) with practice, familiarity with these responses will provide you with a truthful guage of what you truly feel when you're in the back of a volkswagon with your partner and Barry white's playing. there are about 5 centres, although the theory overlaps with the 10 chakras. 11 if you count master arashi's rectal insights.
Buddha's chicken be braised!
in the esoteric model of the psyche, the explanation for physical reactions to emotions (eg butterflies in the stomach, a twitching in the lower back) is that the indulgence of these emotional egos cause a response in the physical world (the butterflies behind/just below the solar plexus is focused at the anxiety centre, the flinch in the lower back is centred at the instinctual centre.) with practice, familiarity with these responses will provide you with a truthful guage of what you truly feel when you're in the back of a volkswagon with your partner and Barry white's playing. there are about 5 centres, although the theory overlaps with the 10 chakras. 11 if you count master arashi's rectal insights.
Buddha's chicken be braised!
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Originally posted by rockstarashi
Originally posted by rockstarashi
quote:I am sorry, I beleive u ar wrong. I personally have only been hit on about 10 times.
i figure every girl has been hit on a billion times, they ought to know how
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i know i'm alittle off topic here but my other post made me think about something. almost every chick flick i've ever been forced to watch has revolved around a "player guy" or "free spirit" being turned into a mushey sap by some cute little girl. and this makes my wonder if this programming is setting some broads up for falure. kind of like the whole cover girl model thing with the impossible body. just a thought.
i know i'm alittle off topic here but my other post made me think about something. almost every chick flick i've ever been forced to watch has revolved around a "player guy"
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Posted:
A good thought. Our current popular stories set both sides up for failure. Most are about falling for someone you don't really think is suited to you (that reluctant love thing). It is not a real romance unless you play this intricate dance of rejection, offence and making up. So it is no surprise that people get confused about where to draw the line.
I know guys who continue to fall for drop-dead gorgeous psycho women. The ones who are either bitches or are "cute & ditsy", & need protecting. In some extreme cases the woman really takes advantage of the situation, in most cases it is a 50/50 thing. They are both dependent on this movie scenario. They also have an expectation that unless it hurts it ain't for real.
Love is a struggle enough, with just the normal practicalities of life, without having to struggle to make your partner care about you and treat you well.
A good thought. Our current popular stories set both sides up for failure. Most are about falling for someone you don't really think is suited to you (that reluctant love thing). It is not a real romance unless you play this intricate dance of rejection, offence and making up. So it is no surprise that people get confused about where to draw the line.
I know guys who continue to fall for drop-dead gorgeous psycho women. The ones who are either bitches or are "cute & ditsy", & need protecting. In some extreme cases the woman really takes advantage of the situation, in most cases it is a 50/50 thing. They are both dependent on this movie scenario. They also have an expectation that unless it hurts it ain't for real.
Love is a struggle enough, with just the normal practicalities of life, without having to struggle to make your partner care about you and treat you well.
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Posted:
what?!? does this mean that Hollywood romance movies churn out harmful misconceptions? really??
thanks to the infidels in LA, my short haired female friends are labelled lesbians, guys that do gymnastics are 'playing for the other team', and man-animal relationships are taboo! hrmph! anything to further Britney's movie carreer i guess. you want romance movies done right? arthouse or foreign section - hollywood is a monoculture, and if you aren't wearing the right clothes, spending enough time with money and buying the right friends, you are nothing.
Hollywood romance (oxymoron!) also proffers the concept of happiness being the result of the fulfillment of a set number of goals; plot devices are sabotaging society! lasting happiness is a peace with yourself - when your loved one is around or not. as Bill Hicks would say "..no fucking middleman required!"
hollywood romantic movies should be seen like action movies - I go to the flick have a laugh an dun expect more than that. It's a bloody shame that Hollywood bought the rights to my favourite arhouse movie and repackaged it as 'City of Angels.'
how's that for off topic, hey?
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what?!? does this mean that Hollywood romance movies churn out harmful misconceptions? really??
thanks to the infidels in LA, my short haired female friends are labelled lesbians, guys that do gymnastics are 'playing for the other team', and man-animal relationships are taboo! hrmph! anything to further Britney's movie carreer i guess. you want romance movies done right? arthouse or foreign section - hollywood is a monoculture, and if you aren't wearing the right clothes, spending enough time with money and buying the right friends, you are nothing.
Hollywood romance (oxymoron!) also proffers the concept of happiness being the result of the fulfillment of a set number of goals; plot devices are sabotaging society! lasting happiness is a peace with yourself - when your loved one is around or not. as Bill Hicks would say "..no fucking middleman required!"
hollywood romantic movies should be seen like action movies - I go to the flick have a laugh an dun expect more than that. It's a bloody shame that Hollywood bought the rights to my favourite arhouse movie and repackaged it as 'City of Angels.'
how's that for off topic, hey?
hug a socialist 2day!
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