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435 posts
Location: VIC, MELB, Australia
hey fellow poiers,
Havnt posted for awhile but heres the crappy situation i find myself in. I have recently left my home because the owners could no longer afford and so they had to sell it.
My mother has decided a pregnant girl who is hormonal is more trouble than her junked up son who is almost 30 and about to go to back to jail. So I have been unwelcomed there.
My father has just been married for the second time and has a spare house and wont be selling it for atlest another 6mths but has not offered for me to stay there while i get on my feet. And I am lucky to hear from him once every two weeks.
The father and the love of my life until the pregnancy began was invited up to QLD for a week for a friends birthday and know he has decided to stay up there and work and maybe come back.
My sister has been wonderful and has offered me a place to live but as we all know the friendships grow thin when you live with someone and I have already lost quite a few people i loved I do not want to lose any more over petty arguments.
I am not asking for anyones help but am trying to come to grips with the whole concept of the situation i find myself in and if anyone had any thoughts on the topic.
I will soon find a flat mate and go and live in a caravan park. The most i can say is this is not how i pictured it in my innocent days.
Flame
Almost burnt out but still going!
*In the car while Pink is playing on the radio*
Tristan aged 4 : "Mum is this Pink?"
Flame:"Yes mate this is Pink?"
Tristan:"Are you going to Pink?"
Flame:"Yes i am"
Tristan:"Cool well I'm going to BLUE" 
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6,978 posts
Location: Melbourne, Australia
oh dear this sounds dire - is there something melbourne based HomeOfPoiers can do?!
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Location: Brisbane, Australia
pm me if you need to talk and I can help you find somewhere to stay like emergency accomadation...
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old hand
1,107 posts
Location: In a test pit, Mackay, Australia
The darkest bit is just before dawn.
I truely wish there was something practical I could do for you. I don't want to patronise you with "chin up, everything will be fine" soundbites, but from 16000 miles away all I can say is that you've tapped into a source of great support here, we'll be here to listen every step of the way if you wish it.
There is a slight possibility that I am not actually right all of the time.
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Location: middle of Troon
yeah eera hit the nail there...
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Location: Calgary, Alberta Canada
Hang in there, and don't hesitate to call on the HoP'sters for a bit of moral support.
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addict
435 posts
Location: VIC, MELB, Australia
Thank you all for your lovely words. It is unbelieveable that this has happened and i would never have decided to keep the baby if i knew i was going to be abbandoned halfway through.
Eera you ar spot on and I really must stay positive cos i guess you never know when the winds of change are just around the corner.
Pregnancy has been more lonely than i ever thought it would be. I appreciate evryones support and its overwhelming that people who havnt even see me or really know me can be so compassionate, it amazes me that we have as many problems in the world as we do.
I will let you all know how im going and i get to find out if its a boy or a girl on monday so thats a real positive for me at the moment. I dont always get access to the net so please dont anybody worry if no one hears from me for awhile.
Thankyou all once again for even just listening to my conundrum.
Flame
Almost burnt out but still going
*In the car while Pink is playing on the radio*
Tristan aged 4 : "Mum is this Pink?"
Flame:"Yes mate this is Pink?"
Tristan:"Are you going to Pink?"
Flame:"Yes i am"
Tristan:"Cool well I'm going to BLUE"
Sweet talented nutter
2,615 posts
Location: Brisbane Oz, Australia
Im so sorry to hear that DROPBEAR HUGS.
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Location: Over There, United Kingdom
Like Eera mentioned keep positive, if not for your own sake, for your baby. Things can, and will change, if you remain positive. You are creating new life, and that is something really special.
Never pick up a duck in a dungeon...
940 posts
Eera did get it dead on. We can listen and care.. and that, we will do, and we'll be here for you when you need to talk about it. 
E pluribus unum, baby.
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Location: Stevenage
Like Eera and spanner say, I'm sure our ears are very bendy
Take care x
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Location: cambs england
just warmth flows from HoP to you and babes
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.:*distracted by shiny things*:.
3,777 posts
Location: brizvegas, Australia
keep smiling, beautiful! as everyone's said, it will be tough, but on the other side of the tough bits - you will have a gorgeous little baby to hold on to. he/she will love you unconditionally and become your world.
good luck
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addict
435 posts
Location: VIC, MELB, Australia
this is so hard and so unfair I had to go to hospitl yesterday cos i was having cramping, but everything is fine and bubs and i are doing well know it was just an infection. But I get out of hospital go to use my atm card and the bastard father had taken my last 100 dollars he then tells me that it was his money too??????????? I dont understand how people can be so callous it of course was not his money at all in fact he owes me half of the bills at our last place 250 dollars. I am so upset i have been crying my eyes out every night and now he does this to me. I had been doing really well and starting to get over him and come to terms with him not coming back and then he does this to me. Its just not right, how can someone be so callous????? I should of known he was going to do this he was never really compassionate to other people only when it suited him or didnt involve him. I am so sick of crying I had to borrow money from my sister and i have no idea of how i can pay her back. He has just set me back even more. I really hate him right now and am really close to saying you will have to fight me for custody to see ur son. And I got some good news its a BOY!!! but he reuined that for me I am so sad
I will get past this but god hurts right now. REALLY HURTS : 
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*In the car while Pink is playing on the radio*
Tristan aged 4 : "Mum is this Pink?"
Flame:"Yes mate this is Pink?"
Tristan:"Are you going to Pink?"
Flame:"Yes i am"
Tristan:"Cool well I'm going to BLUE"
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Location: London/ Surrey
all I can say is
that and new bank account, your name only.
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You are being beamed love direct from Cornwall.
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435 posts
Location: VIC, MELB, Australia
Hello HOP ers
Thank you all for your thoughts and support its been wonderful.
I had moved into my little unit but found it was little too much being that alone freaked out abit and so decided to move up with my sister for awhile. She has been fantastic.
I now have absolutly no contact with the father his mother my mother and all the people who were my support groups its become more lonlier than ever, but i have dropped into a good little routine here.
I get to play with my two year old nephew all day we go swimming together every day I am soo trying to see some postives.
Its so much harder when your the one thats been left rather than you being the left them coupled with pregnancy hormones. I am getting through but I would never wish this snese of loss on anyone. Its so conflicting I hate him so much but i love him so much its just so difficult to let go of somone who is just going to walk back in to my life three mths later.
Oh well I guess you deal with it. Take care all I shall endeavour to write again soon.
Bubs and I are well otherwise and have thought about the name Owen whats everyones thoughts???
Flames
*In the car while Pink is playing on the radio*
Tristan aged 4 : "Mum is this Pink?"
Flame:"Yes mate this is Pink?"
Tristan:"Are you going to Pink?"
Flame:"Yes i am"
Tristan:"Cool well I'm going to BLUE"
addict
435 posts
Location: VIC, MELB, Australia
P.S I took back my hundred dollars the other day!!!! I took him off all my acocunts but he never took me off his so I could of really shafted him taken his whole pay but instead I took what was owed was soo releaved to have some luck go my way
Flames
*In the car while Pink is playing on the radio*
Tristan aged 4 : "Mum is this Pink?"
Flame:"Yes mate this is Pink?"
Tristan:"Are you going to Pink?"
Flame:"Yes i am"
Tristan:"Cool well I'm going to BLUE"
old hand
1,107 posts
Location: In a test pit, Mackay, Australia
Owen is a wonderful name, though I'm a bit biased as one of my best mates is an Owen. It abbreviates to O brilliantly and makes me feel all warm thinking about it. Mungo and Wellington are quite good too, but it's your child.
Glad to hear things are improving for you.
Much love XXX
There is a slight possibility that I am not actually right all of the time.
60 posts
Location: Birmingham
all the best for the future sunshine
34 posts
Location: Nr London, UK
i hope things start to look up soon
What am i talking about, they will! you have a beautiful son on the way!
I don't know much about this (being single and childless) but i do know that your son will bring you so much joy that the father and his tricks won't make any difference to you anymore (my best friend's been through the same thing). Use the anmger you feel at the moment wisely, channel the energy into positive things.
I hope it all goes well for you
Here's more hugs from the UK
{{{HUGS}}}
addict
435 posts
Location: VIC, MELB, Australia
Hello everyone,
Its been a long time since ive wrote but i had to say Thank you all over again to the lovely people on here tha gave me such wonderful support. I've had my son and I named him Tristan Michael Luke. He is now 3 mths old and adorable as ever. I never thought it possible to love someone as much as i love him. I am no longer lonely and I am a proud single mum who lives with her son and manages all by herself. I never thought i would see the day of being able to live alone let alone raising a son, maintaining a household and studying for a degree. As for the father he was at the birth but has not had alot to do with Tristan, i honestly dont know why because he always professes how much he loves him but never spends more than two hours once a fortnight. Oh well i believe its his loss, he is missing something so beautiful. I just wanted to say thanks for all the support and I hope i can repay all the love shown me in my time of crisis. It might sound extreme but your replies to my msgs really helped me when i thought i had no one. Anyways hope everyone had a great chrsitmas and an awesome new year and happy poiing to all
Blessed Be and Sincere Regards
Flame and new bubba Tristan
*In the car while Pink is playing on the radio*
Tristan aged 4 : "Mum is this Pink?"
Flame:"Yes mate this is Pink?"
Tristan:"Are you going to Pink?"
Flame:"Yes i am"
Tristan:"Cool well I'm going to BLUE"
.:*distracted by shiny things*:.
3,777 posts
Location: brizvegas, Australia
congratulations!! a lil boy!!
do not meddle in the affairs of dragons, for you are crunchy and good to eat!
if at first you do succeed, try not to look too astonished!
smile! :grin: it confuses people!
Still wiggling
5,967 posts
Location: Belfast, Northern Ireland (UK)
Good luck and best wishes
Getting to the other side
15,417 posts
Location: South Wales
Im feeling all warm and fuzzy inside now.
You sounded so stressed and troubled in original post, but im glad to see its all come up smelling of roses.
grasshopper in training
124 posts
Location: Australia
me tooCongratulations to you honey... to the both of you
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Location: wild wiltshire
congratulations !
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love to you both
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yaaaaaay
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