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i hate preaching. especially when i can't really talk because i'm a teen, and one who is 1.5 months under the legal drinking age, myself. however last night i went to a party for a while(friend of a friend).
there was 3 guys and 1 girl. the guys were the 15-ish mark, the girl was 13.
this 13 year old girl was smashed. her shorts were falling down exposing her g-string. it was so sad and i was so freaking worried about her. her boyfriend (whom she had been with for a week) was completely off his nut more than her...he greeted us at the door with "haha, i have a boner". i was insanely worried about this girl! i managed to catch her in the bathroom and have a bit of a chat to her, but it, of course, went in one ear and out the other. but i refused to leave until i knew she was ok.
i managed to get her to sleep in the parents bedroom. i know parents bedrooms are supposed to be no-go zones, but i felt that there are priorities in life! so i managed to get her to sleep in there. turned the light off and shut the door.
that was all good until the boyfriend decided it was time for him to go to sleep as well! and he stormed into the parents room saying "my girlfriends in there" and got into bed with her and wouldnt move. we just couldnt move him! so we had to leave them. but he was pretty passed out and she was half asleep so we dont think anything would have happened. the boyfriend just wasnt going to move, and by now there were other people, not just me trying to separate them.
sorry, i just had to rant. i dont know about any of the other females here, but i feel there is a girl thing where you look out for each other, even if it means putting a stranger at a party to bed. i just felt incredibly worried about that girl. and it was great that two of the guy friends i was with (i was the only girl at my party as well) fully supported me in my taking care of the girl.
i hope that girl doesnt wake up in the morning feeling anything worse than a hangover.
i hate preaching. especially when i can't really talk because i'm a teen, and one who is 1.5 months under the legal drinking age, myself. however last night i went to a party for a while(friend of a friend).
there was 3 guys and 1 girl. the guys were the 15-ish mark, the girl was 13.
this 13 year old girl was smashed. her shorts were falling down exposing her g-string. it was so sad and i was so freaking worried about her. her boyfriend (whom she had been with for a week) was completely off his nut more than her...he greeted us at the door with "haha, i have a boner". i was insanely worried about this girl! i managed to catch her in the bathroom and have a bit of a chat to her, but it, of course, went in one ear and out the other. but i refused to leave until i knew she was ok.
i managed to get her to sleep in the parents bedroom. i know parents bedrooms are supposed to be no-go zones, but i felt that there are priorities in life! so i managed to get her to sleep in there. turned the light off and shut the door.
that was all good until the boyfriend decided it was time for him to go to sleep as well! and he stormed into the parents room saying "my girlfriends in there" and got into bed with her and wouldnt move. we just couldnt move him! so we had to leave them. but he was pretty passed out and she was half asleep so we dont think anything would have happened. the boyfriend just wasnt going to move, and by now there were other people, not just me trying to separate them.
sorry, i just had to rant. i dont know about any of the other females here, but i feel there is a girl thing where you look out for each other, even if it means putting a stranger at a party to bed. i just felt incredibly worried about that girl. and it was great that two of the guy friends i was with (i was the only girl at my party as well) fully supported me in my taking care of the girl.
i hope that girl doesnt wake up in the morning feeling anything worse than a hangover.
i would have changed ***** to phallus, and claire to petey Petey
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Hey Rouge. Props to you for being so considerate and responsible. I know sometimes it's hard to be in that position cause sometimes you don't even know the peeps and sometimes they don't seem to want your input anyway. Way to hang in there. Lots of people would have just said it's no fun being sober around this crap and would have gotten tanked too. You have every right to go on a mad rant about it too. It can be stressful and you're pretty harmless in letting it out. I say thank you for making the world a better place in some small way and to you, also I say a very responsible cheers.
Hey Rouge. Props to you for being so considerate and responsible. I know sometimes it's hard to be in that position cause sometimes you don't even know the peeps and sometimes they don't seem to want your input anyway. Way to hang in there. Lots of people would have just said it's no fun being sober around this crap and would have gotten tanked too. You have every right to go on a mad rant about it too. It can be stressful and you're pretty harmless in letting it out. I say thank you for making the world a better place in some small way and to you, also I say a very responsible cheers.
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I'm very impressed!!!
I'm very impressed!!!
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I think you were very responsible... If only your peers were too!
I think you were very responsible... If only your peers were too!
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Posted:
I've got a patient right now with horrible cirrhosis of the liver from chronic alcoholism.
Started at age 13.
He's probably going to need a transplant.
The only thing it has to do with the post is the fact that he started drinking at that exact same age. It just jumped out at me.
I've got a patient right now with horrible cirrhosis of the liver from chronic alcoholism.
Started at age 13.
He's probably going to need a transplant.
The only thing it has to do with the post is the fact that he started drinking at that exact same age. It just jumped out at me.
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thanks, but while i'd love to take credit as a responsible person, i wont. i was drunk myself. just nowhere near that drunk. i was at the point where i was able to stop myself and act completely sober - even though i definately wasn't.
i'm not an angel and i unfortunately cant pose as one.
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Lots of people would have just said it's no fun being sober around this crap and would have gotten tanked too.
thanks, but while i'd love to take credit as a responsible person, i wont. i was drunk myself. just nowhere near that drunk. i was at the point where i was able to stop myself and act completely sober - even though i definately wasn't.
i'm not an angel and i unfortunately cant pose as one.
i would have changed ***** to phallus, and claire to petey Petey
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Look, at least you knew when to stop.
Frankly, as long as you learn a thing or two about moderation now, I'm happy.
Look, at least you knew when to stop.
Frankly, as long as you learn a thing or two about moderation now, I'm happy.
-Mike
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My parents have always let me drink, from teh age of about 11 like a glass of wine at dinner or something so that they knew when i got to my age now when i drink (like most teenagers do) i would be responsible and know when to stop and not get parraletic(sp?) I think I've said before that if I want friends over, they'll chip in a few quid each and my mum'll go out and buy a few beers and breezers so that we can drink responsibly in the house, get giggly drunk and have a laugh. She buys it for us so that we can drink responsibly inside, and not go out of a night time in this god forsaken town trying to get strange pervy men in duffle coats to buy it for us.
The worst I have ever been was in germany(that word pops up again!!) , i was on a natural high being away from home with my friends, and me being the eldest went to the kiosk and bought a stupid amount of alchohol for everybody and proceded to drink my self silly.
Then i puked behind a tree in front of my exchange student and had to cycle 2 miles home drunk which was really scary
im not proud of what i did 
as most people i know are like 'yeh i was soooo hammered that night, i cant remember what i did' and i now know where my limits are, i stop before i go too far. And i tend to lecture my friends aswell if i see them going a bit OTT.
You did good I would have done the same
EDITED_BY: x_aimee_x (1082924414)
My parents have always let me drink, from teh age of about 11 like a glass of wine at dinner or something so that they knew when i got to my age now when i drink (like most teenagers do) i would be responsible and know when to stop and not get parraletic(sp?) I think I've said before that if I want friends over, they'll chip in a few quid each and my mum'll go out and buy a few beers and breezers so that we can drink responsibly in the house, get giggly drunk and have a laugh. She buys it for us so that we can drink responsibly inside, and not go out of a night time in this god forsaken town trying to get strange pervy men in duffle coats to buy it for us.
The worst I have ever been was in germany(that word pops up again!!) , i was on a natural high being away from home with my friends, and me being the eldest went to the kiosk and bought a stupid amount of alchohol for everybody and proceded to drink my self silly.
Then i puked behind a tree in front of my exchange student and had to cycle 2 miles home drunk which was really scary
im not proud of what i did as most people i know are like 'yeh i was soooo hammered that night, i cant remember what i did' and i now know where my limits are, i stop before i go too far. And i tend to lecture my friends aswell if i see them going a bit OTT.You did good
I would have done the sameEDITED_BY: x_aimee_x (1082924414)
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My county has a really big problem with underage drinking and drug use. In New York State my county is ranked 1st in underage drinking problems next to New York City. I think its important for people to learn to drink in moderation. I am underage and i do drink often enough but i never get out of control or to the point of blacking out. Though i can't say the same for my friends. I have alot of friends that drink to get drunk and don't know their limits. It's sad. These are the people who drive drunk, get into fights, sleep with people they don't want to or even know, and are loud and obnoxious. They ruin everyone elses fun and are very annoying. It really gets on my nerves when people get sloppy drunk and can't take care of themselves. This also makes it hard for people that might not be 21 yet but drink occasionally to have a good time once in a while because the cops come down so hard on it now. It's important to learn to drink in moderation. In the long run it'll save yourself and others alot of trouble.
My county has a really big problem with underage drinking and drug use. In New York State my county is ranked 1st in underage drinking problems next to New York City. I think its important for people to learn to drink in moderation. I am underage and i do drink often enough but i never get out of control or to the point of blacking out. Though i can't say the same for my friends. I have alot of friends that drink to get drunk and don't know their limits. It's sad. These are the people who drive drunk, get into fights, sleep with people they don't want to or even know, and are loud and obnoxious. They ruin everyone elses fun and are very annoying. It really gets on my nerves when people get sloppy drunk and can't take care of themselves. This also makes it hard for people that might not be 21 yet but drink occasionally to have a good time once in a while because the cops come down so hard on it now. It's important to learn to drink in moderation. In the long run it'll save yourself and others alot of trouble.
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I think that one of the most difficult concepts for Americans to understand is that sometimes slacking off a little on a problem actually makes the problem improve and that cracking down on the problem often makes it worse.
You'd think that given all the examples we've had in history, we'd have learned this lesson. I mean, Prohibition and all...
I think that one of the most difficult concepts for Americans to understand is that sometimes slacking off a little on a problem actually makes the problem improve and that cracking down on the problem often makes it worse.
You'd think that given all the examples we've had in history, we'd have learned this lesson. I mean, Prohibition and all...
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Yup, what Lightning said
Yup, what Lightning said
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Drinking in moderation is definitly far better than the out of control/excessive drinking that is so common.
I do feel though that it's important to point out that a life without any alcohol is also an option.
To this day, in western society, there is still a tendency to assume that those who choose not to drink are either abstaining alcoholics or strange.
In our culture alcohol use is deeply embedded, young people are faced with alcohol promotion so deeply engrained that it's seen as almost an essential part of becoming an adult.
The option of not drinking is, unfortunately, still closely associated with sometimes extreme groups with agendas of their own- eg temperance, straight edge, religious organisations. It also tends to be associated with notions of morality, denial and fear.
I think the option of living a life without alcohol, not through grudging denial, but because alcohol is recognised as unnecessary to living a happy, fulfilled and sociable life; is in need of more promotion.
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My county has a really big problem with underage drinking and drug use. .............
........It's important to learn to drink in moderation.
Drinking in moderation is definitly far better than the out of control/excessive drinking that is so common.
I do feel though that it's important to point out that a life without any alcohol is also an option.
To this day, in western society, there is still a tendency to assume that those who choose not to drink are either abstaining alcoholics or strange.
In our culture alcohol use is deeply embedded, young people are faced with alcohol promotion so deeply engrained that it's seen as almost an essential part of becoming an adult.
The option of not drinking is, unfortunately, still closely associated with sometimes extreme groups with agendas of their own- eg temperance, straight edge, religious organisations. It also tends to be associated with notions of morality, denial and fear.
I think the option of living a life without alcohol, not through grudging denial, but because alcohol is recognised as unnecessary to living a happy, fulfilled and sociable life; is in need of more promotion.
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I know some people who don't drink because they don't like. My senior resident is a tiny little Asian woman. Now 95% of Asians lack the alcohol dehydrogenase gene that detoxifies one of the more toxic metabolic products of alcohol. And she's tiny.
So between the two, a single shot of hard liquor is enough to make her feel a bit ill.
Thus, she doesn't drink. She's no prude. In fact, I'd bet she'd be a screa...
Never mind. I'm not going to say that about my Senior resident. Talk about inappropriate...
I know some people who don't drink because they don't like. My senior resident is a tiny little Asian woman. Now 95% of Asians lack the alcohol dehydrogenase gene that detoxifies one of the more toxic metabolic products of alcohol. And she's tiny.
So between the two, a single shot of hard liquor is enough to make her feel a bit ill.
Thus, she doesn't drink. She's no prude. In fact, I'd bet she'd be a screa...
Never mind. I'm not going to say that about my Senior resident. Talk about inappropriate...
-Mike
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to you rouge. you rock. you took responsibility and compassion and that is by far the most important thing in my book. you made sure that girl was safe, and you seriously need to be commended on that. thank you so much for being such a wonderful person!
to you rouge. you rock. you took responsibility and compassion and that is by far the most important thing in my book. you made sure that girl was safe, and you seriously need to be commended on that. thank you so much for being such a wonderful person!
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Mmmm... little asian senior residents who are screa...
and now:
So I think the major problem that the States have with underage drinking is very much self made, as lightning implied. Maybe this applies in Australia as well, but I wouldn't know. I think when people learn to manage alcohol when they are young and in an open enviroment (such as in most of Europe), then you don't get the same examples of excess consumption as often. Sure there will always be some alcoholics no matter what, but the victorian attitude the USA has about minors and so many things winds up producing, in my opinion, a profound psychological reaction that is directly opossed to the law's desired result.
Supposedly the laws are there to protect children, but what it really does is deny them the ability to adjust to large sections of human behaviour while they are still young and adjust easily to such things, creating problems later in life that could have been easily avoided had the child been allowed the opportunity to gain some limited/guided experience earlier on. It also produces the seduction of the taboo, which is again counter productive to the desired ends.
If we want to have well adjusted children, then they should see all of the society they should be adjusting too, instead of trying to hide or deny parts of it from them. Clearly they do need to be protected from some things and the perverts that come along with those things, but we are doing them no favors by being over protective, because that's when things happen like 13 year old girls getting too drunk at a party because they have no idea how alcohol affects them until they are in the situation and have already drunk too much.
I do not blame the 13 year old girl or the overly horny 15 year old boys (that's just the way teenage boys are, nothing to be done about it short of sterilizing them) no matter how drunk they are. I blame society and the parents of these children who do not have the initiative to teach their children what they need to know. Basic parenting 101 should be about teaching your children about the real lessons in life that schools can't (which can only be expected to cover math and grammar and history and such things).
To expect a child to wait till they are 18 or 21 (depending on where they live) to try alcohol and then think they are going to use it responsibly thereafter is totally stupid and completely irresponsible, both on the part of the society and the parents. No one expects someone to magically know how to handle a car the moment they turn 16 (or 18 depending on where they live) without prior training, and alcohol can be just as dangerous when improperly used as a car can be.
Mmmm... little asian senior residents who are screa...
and now:
So I think the major problem that the States have with underage drinking is very much self made, as lightning implied. Maybe this applies in Australia as well, but I wouldn't know. I think when people learn to manage alcohol when they are young and in an open enviroment (such as in most of Europe), then you don't get the same examples of excess consumption as often. Sure there will always be some alcoholics no matter what, but the victorian attitude the USA has about minors and so many things winds up producing, in my opinion, a profound psychological reaction that is directly opossed to the law's desired result.
Supposedly the laws are there to protect children, but what it really does is deny them the ability to adjust to large sections of human behaviour while they are still young and adjust easily to such things, creating problems later in life that could have been easily avoided had the child been allowed the opportunity to gain some limited/guided experience earlier on. It also produces the seduction of the taboo, which is again counter productive to the desired ends.
If we want to have well adjusted children, then they should see all of the society they should be adjusting too, instead of trying to hide or deny parts of it from them. Clearly they do need to be protected from some things and the perverts that come along with those things, but we are doing them no favors by being over protective, because that's when things happen like 13 year old girls getting too drunk at a party because they have no idea how alcohol affects them until they are in the situation and have already drunk too much.
I do not blame the 13 year old girl or the overly horny 15 year old boys (that's just the way teenage boys are, nothing to be done about it short of sterilizing them) no matter how drunk they are. I blame society and the parents of these children who do not have the initiative to teach their children what they need to know. Basic parenting 101 should be about teaching your children about the real lessons in life that schools can't (which can only be expected to cover math and grammar and history and such things).
To expect a child to wait till they are 18 or 21 (depending on where they live) to try alcohol and then think they are going to use it responsibly thereafter is totally stupid and completely irresponsible, both on the part of the society and the parents. No one expects someone to magically know how to handle a car the moment they turn 16 (or 18 depending on where they live) without prior training, and alcohol can be just as dangerous when improperly used as a car can be.
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there really isn't anything wrong for someone in their later teens drinking, i've given up preaching to my friends a while ago. As long as the persons responsable and knows their own limit. My own personal opinion on drinking isn't the usual, as i myself find it kinda stupid as in it tastes like crap and makes you feel worse in the end, but thats just me, and i do have friends that drink and i don't mind.
Happy you helped that girl out. I have a sister who is 12 and im scared she'll be like that.
there really isn't anything wrong for someone in their later teens drinking, i've given up preaching to my friends a while ago. As long as the persons responsable and knows their own limit. My own personal opinion on drinking isn't the usual, as i myself find it kinda stupid as in it tastes like crap and makes you feel worse in the end, but thats just me, and i do have friends that drink and i don't mind.
Happy you helped that girl out. I have a sister who is 12 and im scared she'll be like that.
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Im going to go with vanize on this one.
Another point is that why is a person, on the day before their 18th/21st birthday too irresponsible to touch a single drop of anything slightly alcoholic, but a day later they can go get a couple of bottles of spirits and drink themselves into a coma/death? Its pure stupidity, i reckon.
Allowing children to drink, in moderation, from a younger age, is the way to go, i think. start off with a glass of wine with the parents, at the pub. learn moderation, the only way it can be taught.
Brilliant job maintaining the sobriety to be that responsible, Rouge.
Why the hell is a 13 year old wearing a g-string? whats the world coming to? lacy training bras?
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Im going to go with vanize on this one.
Another point is that why is a person, on the day before their 18th/21st birthday too irresponsible to touch a single drop of anything slightly alcoholic, but a day later they can go get a couple of bottles of spirits and drink themselves into a coma/death? Its pure stupidity, i reckon.
Allowing children to drink, in moderation, from a younger age, is the way to go, i think. start off with a glass of wine with the parents, at the pub. learn moderation, the only way it can be taught.
Brilliant job maintaining the sobriety to be that responsible, Rouge.
Why the hell is a 13 year old wearing a g-string? whats the world coming to? lacy training bras?
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Posted:
You bring up some good points Vanize.. though I must disagree with some.
I'll try to keep it short and sweet since I've discussed this to death in association with my Job. I'm a HS teacher in a very alcoholic suburban school.
I don't see kids drinking 'because it's illegal' and I don't see any positive impact of lowering the drinking age to 18 or 16 or 4. If the drinking age was lowered EVEN MORE kids would drink. It would be accessable to kids at an even younger age.
There are many other factors in American culture that foster teen drinking. Making it difficult for teens to get alcohol keeps them drunk 5 days a week rather than 7.
Most of the drunk teens that I encounter become drunk with alcohol that their parents buy for them. Parent's don't want to be the 'bad guy' (which is their friggin job) so they throw keg parties for their kids. Keep in mind that parents CAN allow children to have a beer or two in their own home. Just like most other countries.
Most teen alcoholism that I see comes down as a symptom of bad parenting. The kids that aren't drinking HEAVILY are usually the ones with strong, positve parental influences. A few very strong and mature kids (like some of the HoP kids above) are able to make up their own minds based on the experiences that they see which is admirable.
The excuses that parents give when buying their kids MASSIVE amounts of alcohol are stupid and a cop out from parenting. I don't think it's the law that makes kids want to drink, nor do I think changing the law alone would reduce teen alcoholism. I can't imagine having to teach a classroom of 16 year olds who were all legally drunk. At least now, with alcohol illegal, schools can parent during the day, since no one else seems to be.
I guess what I'm rambling on about is...
I feel that parents are doing such a poor job parenting that the government needs to step in and do their job for them... the only way that the government can actually do that is to ban alcohol from all children.
You bring up some good points Vanize.. though I must disagree with some.
I'll try to keep it short and sweet since I've discussed this to death in association with my Job. I'm a HS teacher in a very alcoholic suburban school.
I don't see kids drinking 'because it's illegal' and I don't see any positive impact of lowering the drinking age to 18 or 16 or 4. If the drinking age was lowered EVEN MORE kids would drink. It would be accessable to kids at an even younger age.
There are many other factors in American culture that foster teen drinking. Making it difficult for teens to get alcohol keeps them drunk 5 days a week rather than 7.
Most of the drunk teens that I encounter become drunk with alcohol that their parents buy for them. Parent's don't want to be the 'bad guy' (which is their friggin job) so they throw keg parties for their kids. Keep in mind that parents CAN allow children to have a beer or two in their own home. Just like most other countries.
Most teen alcoholism that I see comes down as a symptom of bad parenting. The kids that aren't drinking HEAVILY are usually the ones with strong, positve parental influences. A few very strong and mature kids (like some of the HoP kids above) are able to make up their own minds based on the experiences that they see which is admirable.
The excuses that parents give when buying their kids MASSIVE amounts of alcohol are stupid and a cop out from parenting. I don't think it's the law that makes kids want to drink, nor do I think changing the law alone would reduce teen alcoholism. I can't imagine having to teach a classroom of 16 year olds who were all legally drunk. At least now, with alcohol illegal, schools can parent during the day, since no one else seems to be.
I guess what I'm rambling on about is...
I feel that parents are doing such a poor job parenting that the government needs to step in and do their job for them... the only way that the government can actually do that is to ban alcohol from all children.
Well, shall we go?
Yes, let's go.
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I don't think there is any disagreement between our posts NYC, just a matter of what we emphasized being different. I totally agree that it is a matter of bad parenting, at least in specific cases. But I also think that there is an undue amount of pressure on parents from society in America that helps result in bad parenting in general (at least in this regard).
I don't propose lowering the drinking age really. Actually I think the main *real* reason for having a drinking age is so that people in their 20s and 30s don't have to put up with a bunch of teenagers in their bars.
But what I am talking about it the victorian attitude where a parent who shares alcohol with their children in an effort to introduce them responsibly to alcohol is viewed by other parents as being a 'bad influence' and other retarded attitudes like that. My sister got a lot of heat from parents of her daughters school mates because of this and it is just plain ridiculous. it is the children of those parents who are going to be the ones making/getting in trouble, because my sister's kids can handle themsleves very well (this I know and am confident of).
I don't think there is any disagreement between our posts NYC, just a matter of what we emphasized being different. I totally agree that it is a matter of bad parenting, at least in specific cases. But I also think that there is an undue amount of pressure on parents from society in America that helps result in bad parenting in general (at least in this regard).
I don't propose lowering the drinking age really. Actually I think the main *real* reason for having a drinking age is so that people in their 20s and 30s don't have to put up with a bunch of teenagers in their bars.
But what I am talking about it the victorian attitude where a parent who shares alcohol with their children in an effort to introduce them responsibly to alcohol is viewed by other parents as being a 'bad influence' and other retarded attitudes like that. My sister got a lot of heat from parents of her daughters school mates because of this and it is just plain ridiculous. it is the children of those parents who are going to be the ones making/getting in trouble, because my sister's kids can handle themsleves very well (this I know and am confident of).
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Posted:
I agree with what NYC and vanize have to say. I do think parents have a lot to do with whether or not their children know how to drink responsibly or are taught that drinking is not everything. NYC, even if the drinking age in the states did get lowered to 18 again, it could still be illegal for a child to show up to school drunk and disciplinary action should still be taken to avoid that situation.
The guy I am currently dating started going to AA meetings 3 years before he was legally able to drink. Can you say he started a tad early? He had a very supportive family, they just had no idea how bad his problem really was. They didn't buy the alcohol for him. He bought it himself. I've found that there is always (at least there used to be 10 years ago) someplace that is very willing to sell to minors. My brother used to have no problem buying kegs of beer himself while he was in high school. They bought them on a weekly basis and the "whacky iraqi" as they called him at the time was all too happy to take their money. I think it is people like that that should be on the lookout for a possible problem. I think that a lot of teens that buy liquour from a certain place on a very regular basis might possibly have a problem. The seller of that alcohol should be held responsible as well. Too bad most of the american business people are way too concerned with making a profit these days instead of the welfare of the people they are selling to.
I there some sort of class or skill set that parents could learn as far as how to teach their children to be more responsible about alcohol? Mine certainly didn't try. I just got lucky in that I was never really interested in the stuff after watching my father and his sad behavior. My brother was the opposite of me and loved the stuff in high school, but was a strong enough individual to not think it was the greatest gift out there.
Is there a way to give people the inner strength to know when is too much without having them drink to excess repeatedly? How do they avoid drowning their sorrows in booze? I think these are the things that should be focused on instead of saying alcohol is bad and setting an unrealistic drinking age.
I agree with what NYC and vanize have to say. I do think parents have a lot to do with whether or not their children know how to drink responsibly or are taught that drinking is not everything. NYC, even if the drinking age in the states did get lowered to 18 again, it could still be illegal for a child to show up to school drunk and disciplinary action should still be taken to avoid that situation.
The guy I am currently dating started going to AA meetings 3 years before he was legally able to drink. Can you say he started a tad early? He had a very supportive family, they just had no idea how bad his problem really was. They didn't buy the alcohol for him. He bought it himself. I've found that there is always (at least there used to be 10 years ago) someplace that is very willing to sell to minors. My brother used to have no problem buying kegs of beer himself while he was in high school. They bought them on a weekly basis and the "whacky iraqi" as they called him at the time was all too happy to take their money. I think it is people like that that should be on the lookout for a possible problem. I think that a lot of teens that buy liquour from a certain place on a very regular basis might possibly have a problem. The seller of that alcohol should be held responsible as well. Too bad most of the american business people are way too concerned with making a profit these days instead of the welfare of the people they are selling to.
I there some sort of class or skill set that parents could learn as far as how to teach their children to be more responsible about alcohol? Mine certainly didn't try. I just got lucky in that I was never really interested in the stuff after watching my father and his sad behavior. My brother was the opposite of me and loved the stuff in high school, but was a strong enough individual to not think it was the greatest gift out there.
Is there a way to give people the inner strength to know when is too much without having them drink to excess repeatedly? How do they avoid drowning their sorrows in booze? I think these are the things that should be focused on instead of saying alcohol is bad and setting an unrealistic drinking age.
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Posted:
Excellent job Rouge
Sorry, a little off topic, but how is it that in the US you are legally an adult at 18, yet you can't drink until you are 21?
Excellent job Rouge
Sorry, a little off topic, but how is it that in the US you are legally an adult at 18, yet you can't drink until you are 21?
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Posted:
they lowered the drinking age from 20 to 18 in new zealand a few years back.
the best comment i heard was by an old digger [WW2 veteran]. - he said
"if you can join the army and die for your country, yet somehow survive, you should be able to have a beer afterwards."
they lowered the drinking age from 20 to 18 in new zealand a few years back.
the best comment i heard was by an old digger [WW2 veteran]. - he said
"if you can join the army and die for your country, yet somehow survive, you should be able to have a beer afterwards."
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well done Rouge. I wish someone like you had of been around when I was thirteen... would have saved me so much pain.
you are an angel
well done Rouge. I wish someone like you had of been around when I was thirteen... would have saved me so much pain.
you are an angel
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I agree that the legality of it has nothing to do with it. It is all about American culture. Fact is that as long as Americans view alcohol as a vice, rather than simply as a part of life, American teenagers will want to do it.
If, on the other hand, alcohol were viewed as a part of life, as something that even young teenagers should be exposed to, teen drinking wouldn't be nearly the problem it is here. In most of Europe, parents start including wine with their childrens' meals when the kids are as young as 10 or 11. The servings are small, and most of the kids don't like it very much because it tastes bad. But it very quickly demystifies the entire thing.
My father gave me my first sip of gin when I was 3 or 4 and asked for a sip. I remember the day quite clearly. ICCCKKKKK!!! And right then and there, any mystique or allure of alcohol disappeared forever. Poof!
From that day forward, I was always welcome to any of the alcohol in the house, as long as I never left the house after drinking. But you bet that after my little experience with it, I never touched the stuff until I was 17 or 18.
Today, I have a very adult European attitude about alcohol in general. I enjoy a glass of wine or two with dinner now and again, but I never drink to get completely wasted.
In order to reduce teen drinking in the U.S., the false puritanism about alcohol has to disappear. If more parents stopped thinking that forbidding their kids from drinking was actually going to stop it and instead taught them about responsible drinking, far fewer kids would ever get into that trouble.
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I don't see kids drinking 'because it's illegal' and I don't see any positive impact of lowering the drinking age to 18 or 16 or 4. If the drinking age was lowered EVEN MORE kids would drink. It would be accessable to kids at an even younger age.
I agree that the legality of it has nothing to do with it. It is all about American culture. Fact is that as long as Americans view alcohol as a vice, rather than simply as a part of life, American teenagers will want to do it.
If, on the other hand, alcohol were viewed as a part of life, as something that even young teenagers should be exposed to, teen drinking wouldn't be nearly the problem it is here. In most of Europe, parents start including wine with their childrens' meals when the kids are as young as 10 or 11. The servings are small, and most of the kids don't like it very much because it tastes bad. But it very quickly demystifies the entire thing.
My father gave me my first sip of gin when I was 3 or 4 and asked for a sip. I remember the day quite clearly. ICCCKKKKK!!! And right then and there, any mystique or allure of alcohol disappeared forever. Poof!
From that day forward, I was always welcome to any of the alcohol in the house, as long as I never left the house after drinking. But you bet that after my little experience with it, I never touched the stuff until I was 17 or 18.
Today, I have a very adult European attitude about alcohol in general. I enjoy a glass of wine or two with dinner now and again, but I never drink to get completely wasted.
In order to reduce teen drinking in the U.S., the false puritanism about alcohol has to disappear. If more parents stopped thinking that forbidding their kids from drinking was actually going to stop it and instead taught them about responsible drinking, far fewer kids would ever get into that trouble.
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Posted:
Er, thats what i was talking about - limited amounts of alcohol, say one standard drink, starting at, say, 14-15(here, that is, where 18 is legal), 3 at 16, 4-5 at 17, and unlimited at 18.
And one thing about aussie laws is, that the licencee can actually get fined for provision of alcohol to a person under the age of 18.
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If, on the other hand, alcohol were viewed as a part of life, as something that even young teenagers should be exposed to, teen drinking wouldn't be nearly the problem it is here. In most of Europe, parents start including wine with their childrens' meals when the kids are as young as 10 or 11. The servings are small, and most of the kids don't like it very much because it tastes bad. But it very quickly demystifies the entire thing.
Er, thats what i was talking about - limited amounts of alcohol, say one standard drink, starting at, say, 14-15(here, that is, where 18 is legal), 3 at 16, 4-5 at 17, and unlimited at 18.
And one thing about aussie laws is, that the licencee can actually get fined for provision of alcohol to a person under the age of 18.
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Posted:
what lightning said was pretty much my point, just worded more sussinctly.
licensees can and do get fined in the states too for selling to minors, but generally they make more money selling to minors than they ever do by getting fined, so they just keep doing it unless they know they are being targeted by the cops for doing so.
what lightning said was pretty much my point, just worded more sussinctly.
licensees can and do get fined in the states too for selling to minors, but generally they make more money selling to minors than they ever do by getting fined, so they just keep doing it unless they know they are being targeted by the cops for doing so.
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Posted:
I was allowed to drink when i was younger just not all the time, only if i didn't get really drunk, and only when i told my mother where i would be who i was with etc. Eventually parents found out about this and the fact that i drink and i was considered a bad influence and still am to this day. Parents all around my town think of me as this horrible kid when their own children smoke copius amounts of pot daily, drink way more often then i do, and even smoke cigarettes which is worse then anything. These are the people who drive drunk and get into fights making it hard for people who can drink responsibly. It just makes me angry how parents wouldn't let their kids talk to me or hang out with me but when i finally meet the parents of these people they end up liking me cause instead of this drunk burnt out hippie that they picture me as they see a guy who graduated high school with honors, who has tons of strange yet fulfilling hobbies (poi and bass guitar) , and reads constantly. I almost always end up being liked in the end even though I was judged so poorly before they even knew who i was. Sometimes I just hate people.
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My sister got a lot of heat from parents of her daughters school mates because of this and it is just plain ridiculous. it is the children of those parents who are going to be the ones making/getting in trouble, because my sister's kids can handle themsleves very well (this I know and am confident of).
I was allowed to drink when i was younger just not all the time, only if i didn't get really drunk, and only when i told my mother where i would be who i was with etc. Eventually parents found out about this and the fact that i drink and i was considered a bad influence and still am to this day. Parents all around my town think of me as this horrible kid when their own children smoke copius amounts of pot daily, drink way more often then i do, and even smoke cigarettes which is worse then anything. These are the people who drive drunk and get into fights making it hard for people who can drink responsibly. It just makes me angry how parents wouldn't let their kids talk to me or hang out with me but when i finally meet the parents of these people they end up liking me cause instead of this drunk burnt out hippie that they picture me as they see a guy who graduated high school with honors, who has tons of strange yet fulfilling hobbies (poi and bass guitar
) , and reads constantly. I almost always end up being liked in the end even though I was judged so poorly before they even knew who i was. Sometimes I just hate people. Moderation is Key
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Im impressed how well you managed the situation .
Im impressed how well you managed the situation .
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Posted:
hey rovo - your story sounds like my Niece's which I refered to. She's one of the best people in the world, and I don't see how anyone could consider her a bad influence. People are strange.
so I was talking about this thread with some Berliners yesterday. Interesting in that they didn't really see where the problem was - they had no problem with a thirteen year old being drunk, and no problem with the fact that she might have sex. they seemed to be of the opinion that she probably knew what she was doing. then they told me that most girls probably lose their virginity around 13 or 14 anyway, which they didn't seem to have a problem with. did you know the age of conscent in austria (NOT australia) is 14?
I guess I'm a wee more conservative than Berliners are...
hey rovo - your story sounds like my Niece's which I refered to. She's one of the best people in the world, and I don't see how anyone could consider her a bad influence. People are strange.
so I was talking about this thread with some Berliners yesterday. Interesting in that they didn't really see where the problem was - they had no problem with a thirteen year old being drunk, and no problem with the fact that she might have sex. they seemed to be of the opinion that she probably knew what she was doing. then they told me that most girls probably lose their virginity around 13 or 14 anyway, which they didn't seem to have a problem with. did you know the age of conscent in austria (NOT australia) is 14?
I guess I'm a wee more conservative than Berliners are...
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Actually, the average age at first sex in Western Europe is about 14 or 15 I think. Which is about 2 years younger than in the U.S. Yet the teen pregnancy rate and STD rate in Western Europe is far lower.
Coincidence?
The U.S. has the highest drinking age in the world (not including countries that ban alcohol outright) and also among the toughest drug laws. The U.S. also has the highest per-capita damages per year due to alcohol and one of the highest rates of drug use in the world.
Coincidence?
Egg-->chicken-->egg--->chicken...
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so I was talking about this thread with some Berliners yesterday. Interesting in that they didn't really see where the problem was - they had no problem with a thirteen year old being drunk, and no problem with the fact that she might have sex. they seemed to be of the opinion that she probably knew what she was doing. then they told me that most girls probably lose their virginity around 13 or 14 anyway, which they didn't seem to have a problem with. did you know the age of conscent in austria (NOT australia) is 14?
I guess I'm a wee more conservative than Berliners are...
Actually, the average age at first sex in Western Europe is about 14 or 15 I think. Which is about 2 years younger than in the U.S. Yet the teen pregnancy rate and STD rate in Western Europe is far lower.
Coincidence?
The U.S. has the highest drinking age in the world (not including countries that ban alcohol outright) and also among the toughest drug laws. The U.S. also has the highest per-capita damages per year due to alcohol and one of the highest rates of drug use in the world.
Coincidence?
Egg-->chicken-->egg--->chicken...
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