Jelloambiguous
646 posts
Location: Mpls, MN, USA


Posted:
I found this after going from link to link to yet another link and ending up at somebodies blog way off deep in cyber space. Thought it was very cool, hope people enjoy:)

Quote:

"...you wanna give me a shiner 'cause I look like this and I got a vagina? See, I'm familiar with this gender game, I've played this war many times before on this playground called my identity...I don't cut my nails 'cause I've got hammering to do; I'm pounding out my path as I cruise this gender landscape, as I peruse the choice between silence and violence...Matthew Shepard was bent, so you hung him to a fence, Brandon Teena was murdered as a liar for hiding his vagina, and I can't even sit in a restaurant without causing a stir: "Whaddya have sir? Whaddya have sir? Whaddya have sir?" I have a Vagina! Yes, I have a vagina and you can call me sir, 'cause I can't cure this visual disease of yours, but I don't give a damn about "Sir" or "Ma'am," so, in the "F" or "M" boxes they give, i forgive myself for not fitting in, blame the world for lack of clarity...I am too big for these boxes they give, too big for this Gender toyland built over soiled contradictions with Barbie bricks and Ken cornerstones, built over the skulls and bones of our Transgendered Ancestors. Danger: She-men working above. And beyond. You. Yes, we are Deconstruction Workers, we are exposing unfounded bedrocks that bed us to one sex, that wed us to one gender, we are overturning those stones, we are throwing them back, we are making revolution, a gender evolution, we are invoking strategy, we are revoking shame, and we are calling it...refusal to be named..."

"Are you a boy or a girl?"


No.


No, I am not.


You ask like it matters.


But there are three of you and one of me, and something tells me that your first reaction would be to kick my ass if I dared to threaten your perception of reality.




You stare, expecting an answer.


My heart skips four beats, resumes at four times its normal rate, but I hold your gaze, defiantly silent and wishing like hell I could just melt into the brick wall at my back.


Your buddies fidget.


You spit.


Turn.


Walk away.




well I think its cool anyways. I don't know how many people encounter or deal personally with gender issues, I myself have always been comfortable with my gender and society is as well, so I've been lucky. But through different relationships and works such as this I've developed a huge respect for people outside of the "norms".

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Fuzzy Dice.......................................


DuncGOLD Member
playing the days away
7,263 posts
Location: The Middle lands, United Kingdom


Posted:
Very interesting indeed. A talented writer!

But damn it Jello your Avater is making me wanna wiggle and dance about again!!

Wiggle wiggle...uh uh...hee...hee....wiggle wiggle

Let's relight this forum ubblove


MikeGinnyGOLD Member
HOP Mad Doctor
13,925 posts
Location: San Francisco, CA, USA


Posted:
As difficult as it is to be gay, I think being transgendered is much more difficult because, at least when you're gay, you don't look physically different. And because homosexuality is so much more common than transgenderedness, it's going to gain wide acceptance first.

I'm a man and I'm very comfortable as a man. In fact, I find that I have a very sort of conservative view of gender roles, particularly towards men. I expect men to behave in a masucline way (that doesn't mean belching and drinking beer and watching sports on TV, per se, but it has more to do with mannerisms). Conversely, I actually have this strange view where I find myself respecting women who are either more masculine or feminine. I see a masculine-acting woman as much less offensive to my sensibilities than a feminine-acting man.

I'm aware of this prejudice of mine and I am working on it, so please don't flame me for being honest. I'm not rationalizing or defending it. I work every day to challenge my notions of gender and masculinity and femininity, but it's going to be a long and slow process. I can't change overnight. All I can do is work towards my goal.

And, of course, I always treat everyone with respect.

-Mike

Certified Mad Doctor and HoP High Priest of Nutella



A buckuht n a hooze! -Valura


Jelloambiguous
646 posts
Location: Mpls, MN, USA


Posted:
haha, well I'm glad you enjoyed both.

I love the whole thing, though at this second this part is sticking out the most :

Quote:

I am too big for these boxes they give, too big for this Gender toyland built over soiled contradictions with Barbie bricks and Ken cornerstones, built over the skulls and bones of our Transgendered Ancestors.


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Fuzzy Dice.......................................


Jelloambiguous
646 posts
Location: Mpls, MN, USA


Posted:
I think we all have some feelings like that. Personally my attraction is somewhat based on that, feminine-acting man arn't the first guys I fall for, there's this difference between myself and them that creates a little barrier. Which is the root of the problem, people feel that they're different so they react in often a bad way. Myself, I could date a feminine-acting man, there is more to who you are than that so if things progressed I'd move beyond that outward expression of gender. I simply envision myself with another who shares simular traits and such.

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Fuzzy Dice.......................................


pounceSILVER Member
All the neurotic makings of America's lesser known sweetheart
9,831 posts
Location: body in Las Vegas, heart all around the world, USA


Posted:
yes i know that poem. i have a friend who performs it at slam poetry all the time. at the moment the author is eluding me, but once i remember i'll post it.

it's awesome live, you should hear it sometime.

I was always scared with my mother's obsession with the good scissors. It made me wonder if there were evil scissors lurking in the house somewhere.

Do not meddle in the affairs of dragons for you are crunchy and good with ketchup.

**giggles**


Tao StarPooh-Bah
1,662 posts
Location: Bristol


Posted:
that's such an inspired piece of writing. I wish i could write that passionately and convincingly.

you've got me all fired up now! mad

I had a dream that my friend had a
strong-bad pop up book,
it was the book of my dreams.


Jelloambiguous
646 posts
Location: Mpls, MN, USA


Posted:
Oh wow, cool, I posted a reply on the persons blog so maybe she'll tell me too.

It is very inspiring, I'd love to hear it live! And being fired up is good!

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Fuzzy Dice.......................................


pounceSILVER Member
All the neurotic makings of America's lesser known sweetheart
9,831 posts
Location: body in Las Vegas, heart all around the world, USA


Posted:
out of curiousity, who's blog is it? can you post the link. it'd be really funny if it was my friend's tongue

I was always scared with my mother's obsession with the good scissors. It made me wonder if there were evil scissors lurking in the house somewhere.

Do not meddle in the affairs of dragons for you are crunchy and good with ketchup.

**giggles**


Jelloambiguous
646 posts
Location: Mpls, MN, USA


Posted:
uhhh, shoot, I can't remember off hand, I was browsing through alot of pages. It was off a site called Oasis I believe...

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mcpPLATINUM Member
Flying Water Muppet
5,276 posts
Location: Edin-borrow., United Kingdom


Posted:
Wow, that's happened to me loads....

I'll have to remember that come back - 'No, no I'm not.'

brilliant. Thanks. beerchug

"the now legendary" - Kaskade
"the still legendary" - Kaskade

I spunked in my friend's aquarium and the fish ate it. I love all fish. Especially the pink ones. They are my bitches. - Anon.


bubblishisFalse Eyelash
346 posts
Location: New York City


Posted:
Cool poem. I bet it would be great live.

I've done makeup jobs with 2 women who are in different places in the transgender process. It's a lot. Change is always hard but this is change. And they were both so strong and so clear. Basically they just surrounded themselves with people who are down with it - sort of like a protective coating. It was really inspiring.

The makeup wasn't bad either. wink


All the freaky people make the beauty of the world.


Jelloambiguous
646 posts
Location: Mpls, MN, USA


Posted:
the person who wrote it is alix olson, at least the big part in quotes, the blog author added the end for herself.

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Fuzzy Dice.......................................


Jelloambiguous
646 posts
Location: Mpls, MN, USA


Posted:
woah, here's the whole thing:

[gender game]
co-written by amy neevel
©2001 Alix Olson.


You wanna give me a shiner
Cause I look like this
And I got a vagina?
See, I’m familiar with this Gender Game,
I’ve played this war many times before
On this playground called my identity
When puberty hit like dodge balls
And freeze-tagged as sissy-fagged
My best friend dissed me- common interests,
Different anatomy.

See, vagina meant quieter, caretaker, peacemaker.
Vagina meant keeping lips closed, keeping bodies posed.
Vagina was silent dolls and no action toys,
Vagina was punches when I played with the boys.
So I learned to take it in the stomach, I learned to Fight to make friends.

And as I learned to make that bullshit end,
Vagina became a slippery slide for my little finger
Vagina became a quiver that lingered,
Vagina became what I looked for, worked for, stood for,
I "Viva La Vagina’d all over the place!"
I revitalized Vagina’s grace, I discovered vagina’s taste.
I became a fine diner. Put my face in vagina after vagina.

And then I was faced with some other lipservice
Putting me in my place
That Vagina should not be liberator.
But dictator.
Of the shoes we wear. The hair we crop.
The palms we clasp. The way we walk.
The space we use. The threads we choose.
Well, I refuse to follow suit.
Cause I gotta confess, my straight jacket is a dress.
You know it used to be a crime
To wear clothes that didn’t scream
"Vagin-A!"
I wear these shoes so I can move with my own easy spirit.
I don’t shave my legs cause
It gets cold. Besides, my legs rebel
Against the bloody hell of
Shaved and sliced
And since when is my body hair something to judge?
Is furry a male privilege-
Or a patriarchal plot by gillette?
I don’t cut my nails cause I’ve got hammering to do.
I’m pounding out my path as I cruise this gender landscape,
As I peruse the choice between silence and
Violence.

Matthew Shepard was bent, so you hang him to a fence,
Brandon Teena was murdered as a liar for hiding his
Vagina. And I can’t even sit
In a restaurant without causing a stir:
"Whaddya have sir? Whaddya have sir? Whaddya have sir?"
I have a Vagina!

Yes, I’ve got a vagina and you can still call me sir,
Cause I can’t cure
This visual disease of yours.
But I don’t give a damn about "Sir" or "Ma’am".
So, in the "F" or "M" boxes they give,
I forgive myself for not fitting in
And blame the world for lack of clarity.
I deliberate.
Penis? I got one y’know. I write down "d" for dildo,
I write down "D" for
"Don’t know," I fill in "F" for
fi-fie-foe male!
Yes, I’m a giant Vagina!
And I am too big for these boxes they give,
Too real for this Gender Toyland
Built over soiled contradictions
With Barbie bricks and Ken cornerstones
Built over the skulls and bones of our Transgendered Ancestors.
Danger:
She-men working above. And beyond. You.

Yes, we are Deconstruction Workers.
We are exposing unfounded bedrocks
That bed us to one sex, that wed us to one gender.
We are overturning those stones,
We are throwing them back.
We are making revolution
A gender evolution.
We are invoking strategy, we are revoking shame.
And we are calling it. We are calling it
Refusal to be Named.

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Fuzzy Dice.......................................



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