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Rouge Dragon
Rouge Dragon

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Posted:This is the official post for the singles in opposition to the love post!

(im going to laugh so much is Vanize makes a singles topic at the same time! lol!)


i would have changed ***** to phallus, and claire to petey Petey

Rougie: but that's what I'm doing here
Arnwyn: what letting me adjust myself in your room?..don't you dare quote that on HoP...

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monserat
monserat

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Location: waaaay south of heaven
Member Since: 27th Apr 2006
Total posts: 737
Posted:I doubt it, sometimes it just goes that way. I haven't met anyone I wanted to be with for over a year. Admittedly I haven't been looking that hard but then I wasn't really looking when I met her, it just happened.

It is tough just waiting though and every now and then you do end up thinking "Is it me...?" Don't worry, it probably isn't! hug


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Pogo69
Pogo69

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Posted:awww, birgit... hug hug2 hug

we're all posting in a singles thread, instead of being somewhere where there might be a chance we could get out of the singles thread... good chance that makes most of us emotionally challenged, yes?

but ye... the "people I really want to be with" thing, is a real toughie... I've seen a lot of "can't find any decent (or words to that effect) prospects around here", type of posts, lately...

which brings me back to my earlier idea... "the International HoP exchange programme"!! it's genius, I tell you... all apart from the distinct lack of funding ideas... shrug


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Birgit
Birgit

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Location: Edinburgh
Member Since: 27th Jan 2005
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Posted:Let's hope smile

I've learned that it's no use going out with someone who you "just" fancy, it never works. There has to be some kind of spark to keep it working, but I haven't had that in 5 years or so! (God I'm sad!)


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Yakumo
Yakumo

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Posted:I've found really lovely people I feel I really click with in all the right ways, it's normally just some other buggers found them first wink <sigh>

erm, enough doom and gloom...


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Sambo_Flux
Sambo_Flux

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Posted:Awwww... . hug hug

Yeah, the spark is definitely needed. I was in a long term relationship for about 4 years, and there kinda wasn't any spark after the first year, we were both in it cause it was comfortable.

I've met a few people that I'd really like to be with, problem is I'm really shy and tend to keep to myself quite a lot... (hence the Silent Bob avatar wink) I generally only open up to people after I know them well enough, by which point I've usually fallen into the "Friend Zone" with the ladies. Also, no natural ability to flirt doesn't help frown

Pogo, the exchange program is truly genius!


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87wt2gxq7

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Posted: Written by: Yakumo


I've found really lovely people I feel I really click with in all the right ways, it's normally just some other buggers found them first wink <sigh>





 Written by: Sambo_Flux


generally only open up to people after I know them well enough, by which point I've usually fallen into the "Friend Zone" with the ladies. Also, no natural ability to flirt doesn't help frown





Gosh-darned mother-loving goat-fondling DITTO!

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Yakumo
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Posted:nail, head, kapow..

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Yakumo
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Posted:I meant sam's words, really not sure about the goat fondling thing there ctrl-v smile

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Neon_Shaolin
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Posted:I once had an analogy that finding true love is like flying though the emptiness of space trying to find a habitable planet to live on.



When you find a planet, is it gonna be cold, barren or warm and nurturing or would it suffocate you? If it will nurture you, do you work hard and form a symbiotic relationship with it and its ecosystem or do you suck it dry of everything it has to offer and move on?



In between planets, you just drift... and carry on going forward. Because that's all you can do...


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burningoftheclavey
burningoftheclavey

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Member Since: 22nd Jul 2005
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Posted:beautiful analogy neon.....but where do all the meteorites and black holes come in..??

wait... ubbidea black holes=singles thread, meteorites=turn downs from beautiful people.... or people already with other people etc etc the list goes on... frown

gotcha.. beerchug


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Birgit
Birgit

had her carpal tunnel surgery already thanks v much
Location: Edinburgh
Member Since: 27th Jan 2005
Total posts: 4145
Posted:Ah well, good to know I'm not alone then!

I tend to "click" with a lot of people, maybe I just don't really know what I'm looking for, or wanting incompatible qualities in one and the same person ubblol

grouphug


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87wt2gxq7

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Posted: Written by: Yakumo


I meant sam's words, really not sure about the goat fondling thing there ctrl-v smile



Deny it all you like, you knows you loves it! wink


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Yakumo
Yakumo

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Posted:dave...that's so very true... but also so very miserable frown

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poig
poig

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Posted:Just a small question... how do you find out for sure if someone's single? redface

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Sambo_Flux
Sambo_Flux

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Posted: Written by: me

I generally only open up to people after I know them well enough



Or to a random bunch of people on the internet, I've just realised wink
Aww hell, you're all lovely, even the ones I don't know! GROUP HUG grouphug


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Yakumo
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Posted:dark matter? just don't go there biggrin

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Neon_Shaolin
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Posted:hug It's only miserable if you let it be... Fill your time with hobbies whilst floating around on the spaceship. Imagine spinning, contact etc in zero gravity! Imagine all the alien worlds you could you visit, explore, exchange ideas, knowledge, technology before moving on...

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Sambo_Flux
Sambo_Flux

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Posted: Written by: poig

Just a small question... how do you find out for sure if someone's single? redface



Ask them? Or do you mean with out blatant and embarrasing "I fancy you" vibes? Cause I haven't figured that one out yet wink


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Yakumo
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Posted: Written by: poig


Just a small question... how do you find out for sure if someone's single? redface



find the right opportunity and just ask them somehow, humorously helps .. if they're interested they'd want you to know anyway.

really not easy if you've decided you really like them I know...


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poig
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Posted:Thanks biggrin

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Yakumo
Yakumo

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Posted:I realised as I read it again it's only miserable because of how I interpreted it biased by my feelings on my last relationship.. came back to think about posting that and saw you'd pretty covered it already smile

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Neon_Shaolin
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Posted:Yakumo, I've had the pleasure of meeting you and you are such a cute and lovely guy!!! hug

Surprised you haven't got a queue of girls lining up around the block for you!

Sambo: ditto PLUS You're a musician! Chicks dig Musicians! biggrin


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poig
poig

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Posted: Written by: Sambo_Flux


 Written by: poig

Just a small question... how do you find out for sure if someone's single? redface



Ask them? Or do you mean with out blatant and embarrasing "I fancy you" vibes? Cause I haven't figured that one out yet wink



Sorry, I didn't see your post redface
And no, I don't want the Vibes wink


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Sambo_Flux
Sambo_Flux

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Posted: Written by: Neon_Shaolin

Sambo: ditto PLUS You're a musician! Chicks dig Musicians! biggrin



Aww, shucks redface biggrin Thanks dude!

Maybe I should start carrying my guitar around and just rocking out when I see someone I like... Hell, if works for Tenacious D it should work for me? Right? biggrin


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Yakumo
Yakumo

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Posted:Even if I did have people lining up it doesn't solve the click factor (from both sides) smile

Or the shyness/embarasement problems (again from both sides often) if there was a spark smile



and being honest, someone's going to have to blow my mind to take it fully, finally off my ex.. it still gives a really bad aura and keeps most a mile away so I don't get to meet them in the first place to see.

There's been a few I thought might, and feel great around, but know they (or think they) fall into the 'not single dammit' category so won't be finding out if they'd ever reciprocate anyway.



It's a cruel thing about love, it can make you such a blithering idiot you're just not yourself around someone you're sure you should fit so well with, and then they perceive you as something far less, and when you try show them you share the same thoughts,feelings, think your just trying to appease them, that it's not really you.



That in itself though should just show that they're just not the one for you, but it's so hard..



Fortunately I've met some amazing people I love to bits, a not insignificant amount of them I saw in London not so long ago smile hug


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Brenn
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Posted: Written by: poig


Just a small question... how do you find out for sure if someone's single? redface



If they're seen with someone and they seem really intimiate, it's a sure-fire given that they're probably taken. However, if you seldom see them with other people then there's no real way of knowing.

The answer: Don't think about it and just assume they aren't. Without being too forward, start showing that you're interested. At that point, they'll probably tell you they're taken if they are: That's not something that should be difficult for them to do and you have no way of knowing until they say they are. Agonising too much about whether they're taken or not UNTIL you know is very detrimental.

In the very rare case however, they're taken, but they don't tell you....well they aren't worth being with in the first place because they are using, cheating bastards biggrin


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Pogo69
Pogo69

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Posted: Written by: Sambo_Flux


 Written by: me

I generally only open up to people after I know them well enough



Or to a random bunch of people on the internet, I`ve just realised wink




ubblol that`s one of the funniest things about this thread... all these people having a cry about how painfully shy they are, but the anonymity of the internet allows all to pour their hearts out to random strangers (yes, some of us know each other better than others, but write it here and it`s an open letter)...

as for the *spark*... I agree 100%... and would agree even more if it were feasible. I defy anyone to be able to define and/or describe exactly (or even vaguely) what makes that spark happen, because it is different for every person and for every pairing of people (more, if that`s the way you swing wink). it`s either there... or it`s not... sometimes, straight away biggrin, sometimes builds over time smile and sometimes... it goes away... frown

but without it... you`re really just treading water


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Yakumo
Yakumo

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Posted:it's a general internet thing though, you can take as looong as you like to form what you would like to say, and express it with any emotion you're attempting to express, without stuttering or tripping over your own tongue, panicking, or outright finding yourself physically unable to speak.

it can make you feel even like it's telepathic if your genuinely typing your thoughts rather than attempting to craft some kind of glamour or fallacy, which unlocks a freedom in communication many don't feel they have in real life.

it can make for beautiful things, or outright rambling bol****s smile


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Yakumo
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Posted:And the best friends in the world are the ones that you can speak as easily to as that in their presence!

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Lost83spy
Lost83spy

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Posted:The spark has definately got to be there, a relationship cannot exist without it. Its a painful lesson I've learnt in my experiences.

I cant stop thinking about what JonnyRok told me the other day, "Just remember, friends never break up with you". Its so true!

And I'm happy bcoz I made a new friend biggrin


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