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Posted:This is the official post for the singles in opposition to the love post!
(im going to laugh so much is Vanize makes a singles topic at the same time! lol!)
(im going to laugh so much is Vanize makes a singles topic at the same time! lol!)
i would have changed ***** to phallus, and claire to petey Petey
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Posted:Sezzie,
Please stop me if I ramble... but this is something I have thought about myself.
We are all inside our own narrative of our lives; we are constructing the story about ourselves as we go - ie. who we are. If it is a story where currently we are currently single, then being single is a theme of the story. But the thing about stories is that you can't always tell whats going to happen around the corner... especially when you have a say on what happens.
Looking at other peoples life stories (esp through Hollywood) you have a more objective view of the themes and events in the story; you get to see the story unfold from the outside and you don't feel trapped by the themes.
So I guess I'm saying is that don't assume that being single will always be a theme of your life; because then it has the danger of become a self fulfilling assumption. And, further, change in one area of life percipitates changes in another.
Finally, I don't think that it is healthy to say that "I'll be happy if only I had such and such, or if I was with so and so" because that is making your happiness dependant on something you don't have control over; a dangerous business that will surely lead to tears. Happiness should be something you have innately and anything, such as being in a relationship, that makes you happier is a wonderful thing.
So, if you managed to get to the end of my post, when you move to London PM me and maybe we could hook up for a drink?
Please stop me if I ramble... but this is something I have thought about myself.
We are all inside our own narrative of our lives; we are constructing the story about ourselves as we go - ie. who we are. If it is a story where currently we are currently single, then being single is a theme of the story. But the thing about stories is that you can't always tell whats going to happen around the corner... especially when you have a say on what happens.
Looking at other peoples life stories (esp through Hollywood) you have a more objective view of the themes and events in the story; you get to see the story unfold from the outside and you don't feel trapped by the themes.
So I guess I'm saying is that don't assume that being single will always be a theme of your life; because then it has the danger of become a self fulfilling assumption. And, further, change in one area of life percipitates changes in another.
Finally, I don't think that it is healthy to say that "I'll be happy if only I had such and such, or if I was with so and so" because that is making your happiness dependant on something you don't have control over; a dangerous business that will surely lead to tears. Happiness should be something you have innately and anything, such as being in a relationship, that makes you happier is a wonderful thing.
So, if you managed to get to the end of my post, when you move to London PM me and maybe we could hook up for a drink?
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Posted:Hey Sezzie!
I'm happily single at the moment. I'm not planning to stay single for the rest of my life (but we never know what life brings...!). But right now, I feel that I wouldn't be able to commit to a relationship for various reasons, mostly time, and that having one would be bad for both people involved. I'm working a lot, doing a lot of stuff aside from work, and am planning to go travelling once my current project's finished, so for me right now I'm happier as a single than I would be with someone
Hopefully I'll find someone one day that I want to be with so much that I'll be happy in a relationship, and for long, but until then the occasional "awwww! I wish that could be me!" is only natural. I've realised though that for most people I know the "awwww! I wish that could be me!" was accompanied by a "well, not really, I wouldn't be happy with that and that and that"
takes away some of the jealousy.
I'm happily single at the moment. I'm not planning to stay single for the rest of my life (but we never know what life brings...!). But right now, I feel that I wouldn't be able to commit to a relationship for various reasons, mostly time, and that having one would be bad for both people involved. I'm working a lot, doing a lot of stuff aside from work, and am planning to go travelling once my current project's finished, so for me right now I'm happier as a single than I would be with someone
Hopefully I'll find someone one day that I want to be with so much that I'll be happy in a relationship, and for long, but until then the occasional "awwww! I wish that could be me!" is only natural. I've realised though that for most people I know the "awwww! I wish that could be me!" was accompanied by a "well, not really, I wouldn't be happy with that and that and that"
takes away some of the jealousy."vices are like genitals - most are ugly to behold, and yet we find that our own are dear to us."
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Posted: Written by: Sezzie
So I'm wondering is anyone really happy being a singleton?
I used to claim to be, but that was before I'd really had a proper relationship (I was a late starter) and because I didn't want anyone else to know that I cared!!
Now I just depress myself by watching films where fate always plays the right hand and everyone meets their soul mate and lives happily ever after!! Why oh why do I do that? I just watched my sister get married and I've never seen her look so happy! i just wonder sometimes whether that'll ever be me!!
Sorry just watched another sappy romantic film and am feeling unloved and unwanted!
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So I'm wondering is anyone really happy being a singleton?
I used to claim to be, but that was before I'd really had a proper relationship (I was a late starter) and because I didn't want anyone else to know that I cared!!
Now I just depress myself by watching films where fate always plays the right hand and everyone meets their soul mate and lives happily ever after!! Why oh why do I do that? I just watched my sister get married and I've never seen her look so happy! i just wonder sometimes whether that'll ever be me!!
Sorry just watched another sappy romantic film and am feeling unloved and unwanted!
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DeletePosted:Truly, my state of happiness/saddness has little to do with whether I am single or not...
I have been both profoundly elated and profoundly depressed- and the usual ranges in between- during the whole length of my marriage- over ten years. And I have experienced those things as a single, or more acurately dating, person too. No more or less, really.
I have been both profoundly elated and profoundly depressed- and the usual ranges in between- during the whole length of my marriage- over ten years. And I have experienced those things as a single, or more acurately dating, person too. No more or less, really.
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Posted: Written by: Sezzie
So I'm wondering is anyone really happy being a singleton?
I used to claim to be, but that was before I'd really had a proper relationship (I was a late starter) and because I didn't want anyone else to know that I cared!!
Now I just depress myself by watching films where fate always plays the right hand and everyone meets their soul mate and lives happily ever after!! Why oh why do I do that? I just watched my sister get married and I've never seen her look so happy! i just wonder sometimes whether that'll ever be me!!
Sorry just watched another sappy romantic film and am feeling unloved and unwanted!
*huge hugs*
For most of the time I'm usually happy despite my status, but when that gets challenged and I feel like there's a chance i could be with someone wonderful, I tend to despair... like I am a bit now
So I'm wondering is anyone really happy being a singleton?
I used to claim to be, but that was before I'd really had a proper relationship (I was a late starter) and because I didn't want anyone else to know that I cared!!
Now I just depress myself by watching films where fate always plays the right hand and everyone meets their soul mate and lives happily ever after!! Why oh why do I do that? I just watched my sister get married and I've never seen her look so happy! i just wonder sometimes whether that'll ever be me!!
Sorry just watched another sappy romantic film and am feeling unloved and unwanted!
*huge hugs*
For most of the time I'm usually happy despite my status, but when that gets challenged and I feel like there's a chance i could be with someone wonderful, I tend to despair... like I am a bit now
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Posted:I'm happily single until I find someone I like...then I HATE being single and bump this thread again to have a bitch about it! 
i would have changed ***** to phallus, and claire to petey Petey
Rougie: but that's what I'm doing here
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Posted: Written by: Rouge Dragon
I'm happily single until I find someone I like...then I HATE being single and bump this thread again to have a bitch about it!
*cue resounding ditto*
I'm happily single until I find someone I like...then I HATE being single and bump this thread again to have a bitch about it!
*cue resounding ditto*
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Posted:Now, if I had the chance to be with someone who can make me laugh and is silly and random enough to put up with me and has LOTS of time for me when I need it and can afford it, but leaves me alone when I need time for myself without complaining, who doesn't have to be rich but has enough money to go travelling for a weekend or so from time to time without it being a huge problem, and who happens to be agreeably-looking and fantastic in other respects... well! THEN I'd be annoyed to be single! Asking much? Then I can hardly complain I guess...
Asking much? Then I can hardly complain I guess..."vices are like genitals - most are ugly to behold, and yet we find that our own are dear to us."
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Posted:Matt - 
for the ramble. I liked your perspective!!
And for the hugs from others!! It made me smile!
Its funny how I get sometimes as I'm not one of those people who constantly needs a man. I'm independant - very!!!! and like my own company. Its just sometimes I get a bit "nobody loves me everyone hates me. Think I'll go and eat worms". The world view of finding the perfect partner just accerbates that sometimes.
But today I'm glad to say that I'm pretty darn happy!!! Just the way I am! And I'm looking forward to moving to London and meeting some fellow hoppers. I don't know too many people in the big smoke or about the best it has to offer so will definitely hold you to the drink offer Matt!!
for the ramble. I liked your perspective!! And for the hugs from others!! It made me smile!
Its funny how I get sometimes as I'm not one of those people who constantly needs a man. I'm independant - very!!!! and like my own company. Its just sometimes I get a bit "nobody loves me everyone hates me. Think I'll go and eat worms". The world view of finding the perfect partner just accerbates that sometimes.
But today I'm glad to say that I'm pretty darn happy!!! Just the way I am! And I'm looking forward to moving to London and meeting some fellow hoppers. I don't know too many people in the big smoke or about the best it has to offer so will definitely hold you to the drink offer Matt!!
Life moves pretty fast and if you don't stop and look around once in a while you just might miss it!
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Posted:I'm quite happy being single. Everytime a budding relationship looms...I tend to quash it quite quickly...not because I enjoy being single...but because I'm tired of wasting my time.
I have to protect myself from my notorious bad taste and miserable mistakes
I am happy in the knowledge that when I am ready, and the right person comes along, I'll know it. Luckily though, I have a vary close-nit group of friends around me, and live with three beautiful people who never allow me to feel lonely or unloved, so I'm not pushed into relationships for the wrong reasons.
I have to protect myself from my notorious bad taste and miserable mistakes
I am happy in the knowledge that when I am ready, and the right person comes along, I'll know it. Luckily though, I have a vary close-nit group of friends around me, and live with three beautiful people who never allow me to feel lonely or unloved, so I'm not pushed into relationships for the wrong reasons.
"I want to know if you can see beauty even when it's not pretty, every day,and if you can source your own life from its presence.." - Oriah Mountain Dreamer
Posted:Perhaps people have an innate need to pair up, do you think we can truly be happy as singles?
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Posted:of course we can (generically), midget... I\\\'m at my most happy right now, a year and a few months away from a 10 year relationship. and if I could get work to slow down (which is likely to happen soon - YAY!!) I don\\\'t reckon life could get much better.
that doesn\\\'t mean I\\\'m averse to being in a relationship; I\\\'m certainly in no hurry to make it happen, but my happiness is not contingent upon it.
it all sounds a bit cliche, but it\\\'s true... you CAN NOT be truly happy in a relationship, unless you can first be happy in and by yourself.
ARRRGGGHH... back at work and the stupid backslashes \\\\ are back!! it\\\'s going to make me stop using conjunctions...
that doesn\\\'t mean I\\\'m averse to being in a relationship; I\\\'m certainly in no hurry to make it happen, but my happiness is not contingent upon it.
it all sounds a bit cliche, but it\\\'s true... you CAN NOT be truly happy in a relationship, unless you can first be happy in and by yourself.
ARRRGGGHH... back at work and the stupid backslashes \\\\ are back!! it\\\'s going to make me stop using conjunctions...
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Posted:Do you put them in my thread mister pogo!! To you corrupt my title with you \\\\\\. Huh, did ya!!! 
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Posted:ye, I did ...
sorry, I did it for an accident... and I meant contractions, not conjunctions... stupid language stuff...
sorry, I did it for an accident... and I meant contractions, not conjunctions... stupid language stuff...
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Posted:I'm not sure about the being "truly happy" - I'm one of those people who's never quite 100% happy, but not in a horrible depressed kind of way. So I'd say it's possible to be AS happy with or without a relationship
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Posted:I think that theoretically, as humans we can be truly happy without being in a relationship. However because of the nature of society, we cannot in reality be truly happy single. however, i also don't know squat about psychology in this department. psychologically we do need love and compassion, therefore perhaps we are supposed to pair up. other animals do for life, so why not us.
rougie, gett out of here, you're talking crap cos you like the sound of english right now to remind you that you speak something that resembles it. blah blah blah. oh god you're talking to yourself.
rougie, gett out of here, you're talking crap cos you like the sound of english right now to remind you that you speak something that resembles it. blah blah blah. oh god you're talking to yourself.
i would have changed ***** to phallus, and claire to petey Petey
Rougie: but that's what I'm doing here
Arnwyn: what letting me adjust myself in your room?..don't you dare quote that on HoP...
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Posted: Written by: Rouge Dragon
I think that theoretically, as humans we can be truly happy without being in a relationship. However because of the nature of society, we cannot in reality be truly happy single. however, i also don't know squat about psychology in this department. psychologically we do need love and compassion, therefore perhaps we are supposed to pair up. other animals do for life, so why not us.
rougie, gett out of here, you're talking crap cos you like the sound of english right now to remind you that you speak something that resembles it. blah blah blah. oh god you're talking to yourself.
Yeah, get back to your assignments :P
I think that theoretically, as humans we can be truly happy without being in a relationship. However because of the nature of society, we cannot in reality be truly happy single. however, i also don't know squat about psychology in this department. psychologically we do need love and compassion, therefore perhaps we are supposed to pair up. other animals do for life, so why not us.
rougie, gett out of here, you're talking crap cos you like the sound of english right now to remind you that you speak something that resembles it. blah blah blah. oh god you're talking to yourself.
Yeah, get back to your assignments :P
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Posted:no idea what you're all talking about, but I also agree
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Posted:The nature of the heart is that it yearns for it's other...we can be happy on our own, but the heart always seems to draw us inexorably onward, no matter our intentions otherwise.
I never look for what's next...just know that you have to go with the natural flow of life...whatever happens...
Life and love are a journey...I say enjoy the trip!!!
I never look for what's next...just know that you have to go with the natural flow of life...whatever happens...
Life and love are a journey...I say enjoy the trip!!!
"Absence is to love what wind is to fire...it extinguishes the small, enkindles the great."
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Posted:Hei Dentrassi, I just saw your signature: not funny! O.k., in a certain way it is ...
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Posted:If I had a hammer, a hammer in the morning...
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Posted:I've only ever been in one relationship. I've been single for a long time. I don't have a problem with being single. Its the rare times that I find myself truly liking someone.. only for that not to be returned that sucks. But hey.. you get used to it.
All matter is energy condensed to a slow vibration. Life is but a dream and we are the imagination of ourselves.
DeletePosted:HG Been there too!!! Was kinda in love with the same guy for about 10 years - best mates and all that jazz! He now lives with his girlfriend.... But I'd rather be mates with him than nothing at all and i hate to admit it but his girlie is lovely!
Life moves pretty fast and if you don't stop and look around once in a while you just might miss it!
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Posted:I have just named my pillows.
My triangle pillow is called Rohan. And my normal pillow is called Archer.
So now when I'm upset I'm going to go to bed and snuggle Archer, or Rohan or Archer and Rohan!
I'm not a sad basket case at all. Nope, nope.
My triangle pillow is called Rohan. And my normal pillow is called Archer.
So now when I'm upset I'm going to go to bed and snuggle Archer, or Rohan or Archer and Rohan!
I'm not a sad basket case at all. Nope, nope.
i would have changed ***** to phallus, and claire to petey Petey
Rougie: but that's what I'm doing here
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Posted:I'm lonely.
i would have changed ***** to phallus, and claire to petey Petey
Rougie: but that's what I'm doing here
Arnwyn: what letting me adjust myself in your room?..don't you dare quote that on HoP...
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Posted:teehee... I have THREE pillows! And a big cuddly penguin 
I've posted this on my myspace blog already, but I think it's a wonderful song to make me think about what I'm really looking for
Rufus Wainwright - Want
I don't want to make it rain, I just want to make it simple
I don't want to see the light, I just want to see the flashlight
I don't want to know the answers to any of your questions
I don't want, no I really don't want to be John Lennon or Leonard Cohen
I just want to be my Dad with a slight sprinkling of my mother
And work at the family store, and take orders from the counter
I don't want to know the answers to any of your questions
I don't want, no I really don't want to be John Lithgow or Jane Curtin
But I'll settle for love
Yeah I'll settle for love
Before I reached the gate I realized I had packed my passport
Before security realizes I had one more bag left
I just want to know if something's coming for to get me
Tell me, will you make me sad or happy?
And will you settle for love?
Will you settle for love?
I've posted this on my myspace blog already, but I think it's a wonderful song to make me think about what I'm really looking for
Rufus Wainwright - Want
I don't want to make it rain, I just want to make it simple
I don't want to see the light, I just want to see the flashlight
I don't want to know the answers to any of your questions
I don't want, no I really don't want to be John Lennon or Leonard Cohen
I just want to be my Dad with a slight sprinkling of my mother
And work at the family store, and take orders from the counter
I don't want to know the answers to any of your questions
I don't want, no I really don't want to be John Lithgow or Jane Curtin
But I'll settle for love
Yeah I'll settle for love
Before I reached the gate I realized I had packed my passport
Before security realizes I had one more bag left
I just want to know if something's coming for to get me
Tell me, will you make me sad or happy?
And will you settle for love?
Will you settle for love?
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