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chicazul
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Location: BC, Canada
Member Since: 4th Jul 2001
Total posts: 16
Posted:A week ago I went to my uncle's wedding. I was bored before the ceremony, and being prepared for this I simply pulled out my staff and practice poi to entertain myself. Yesterday my mother called to inform me that wedding guests had been asking the happy couple where they had "hired that entertainer for the wedding."This weekend I went to a party and (once again for self-amusement) my friend and I brought our practice poi and I my staff. After a bit of coaxing I ended up lighting up for two sets as our photographer host took reams of pictures. He thanked me profusely, talked me into the second set, and told me I was an excellent subject.Sounds like a good weekend--so what's my problem?The problem is, I'm a rank amatuer and I know it. I first picked up staff two months ago, and poi three weeks. I dropped the staff no less than half a dozen times while being photographed (mostly because I can't throw straight.) At the wedding, I'd barely mastered the weave. People still insist on tossing compliments my way.I feel like a fraud. Anyone with any knowledge of firespinning could pick me out as a beginner, yet I have opportunities to bask in attention like I'm some kind of spinning guru. My mid-range camera and substandard photographic skills do no justice to some truly excellent fire people I've met, yet I'm soon to see a collection of rather amazing photos of myself. It just feels so wrong getting all this recognition I don't really deserve.Does anyone else have difficulty accepting compliments?

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flash fire
flash fire

Sporadically Prodigal
Location: Sydney, NSW, Australia
Member Since: 25th Jan 2001
Total posts: 2758
Posted:lap it up I say!! good on you. So long as you're aware of where you're realistically at you should enjoy receiving compliments and take them to heart.It's great having people say nice stuff aboot ya!I don't get nearly as many compliments now as I did when I was first starting out...go figure.Perhaps you're not as bad as you think you are. Although you may not have the technicality down, you obviously have a good presence; something which the photographer picked up on and something which any audience can feed off.more power to you!(BTW - where in BC are you?)

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Pele
Pele

the henna lady
Location: WNY, USA
Member Since: 15th Dec 2000
Total posts: 6193
Posted:First of all, people who have been at this awhile concider themselves rank amatuers. I am one of them though I perform for a living.My audience doesn't know it. And out of a general audience you *might* get one twirler there who knows what you are doing. So what, they should be happy for you. Kudos to you. Yes, compliments can be humbling but they are also exciting. I think they add a little push to make you want to do better to live up to them, you know?I agree with Flash, eat it up. Take it where you can and run with it. Be gracious. Blush if you must. Keep practicing and next time you will wow them even more. Think of it this way, if they loved you this time, and you are a beginner, just wait til next time they see you!!!
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chicazul
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Location: BC, Canada
Member Since: 4th Jul 2001
Total posts: 16
Posted:I consider myself a joint resident of Kamloops and Vancouver. I live in Coquitlam, but go home frequently.
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I think the reason I get compliments is because most people have never seen anything of the sort. I'm not really *bad*, but I'm nothing spectacular.I have trouble accepting praise in general, but I find myself tempted to argue when people give me too much credit...I just wish i could show them what an expert looks like!


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flash fire
flash fire

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Location: Sydney, NSW, Australia
Member Since: 25th Jan 2001
Total posts: 2758
Posted:if you have trouble accepting praise, don't check your inbox!::flash ducks for cover::I lived in whistler for 2 years during which time I frequently performed for the hundreds of thousands of tourists. At the time, I could only do single staff and was totally self-taught (therefore had a fairly limited repetoir) however, they always loved it. I realised much later how 'bad' I really was, but I had massive audiences cheering and clapping for me!Like I said before - if the audience can feel your passion it doesn't matter if you're not the best.------------------"she dances in a ring of fire and throws off the challenge with a shrug"

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NYC_not_PK
NYC_not_PK

One Tyred Guy
Location: Camaiore, Lu, Italy
Member Since: 13th May 2001
Total posts: 203
Posted:Ha! That used to happen ALL the time when I'd swing dance at weddings with my girlfriend at the time. The problem was that the two of us used to dance at a studio with REAL dancers including Frankie Manning, one of the true originators of the art (great old black guy who can still cut a rug!) We did get pretty good but were no "real" dancers. Now at WEDDINGS, we'd bust out the lindy hops and charlestons and crazy jump turns and people thought we were gods. Mostly because everyone else was doing "step, together, step, together" that you did in 7th grade. In fact, we'd sometimes get FLOODED with people coming up to us afterwords, asking us the standard questions, and it would get awkward.I then decided that we were "THE BEST SWINGDANCERS IN THE WORLD AS LONG AS NO ONE ELSE IN THE ROOM KNOWS HOW!" Sadly, I have since forgotten most of my swing steps.But, I feel exactly the same way about poi. I'm still a newbie but knowing butterflies, weaves and such makes me.... "THE BEST FIRE TWIRLER IN THE WORLD AS LONG AS NO ONE ELSE IN THE ROOM KNOWS HOW!"And to you, chicazul, I hereby proclaim you... "THE BEST STAFF TWIRLER IN THE WORLD AS LONG AS NO ONE ELSE IN THE ROOM KNOWS HOW!"Enjoy the compliments. Some of them may be compliments to your skill. Some of them may be compliments to having the courage to try such an exciting art form.

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nomad
nomad

retired
Location: Paris, France
Member Since: 15th Jan 2001
Total posts: 356
Posted:Chicazul, I can relate. The first times I performed in front of people, (looking back) I can say that I sucked. People still liked it and it made me feel good. But I didn't feel like a fraud since I hadn't seen other people spin at that time.I think I improved a lot since I made my own poi a couple of months ago, because I actually like it and have been practising a lot more with it. I really "feel it" now. 2 weeks ago, I performed at a party and got my biggest audience. People from neighboring houses were also on their deck watching and everybody was cheering really loud. I ended up doing 3 or 4 sets, and I'm the kind who always think people will get bored after 1 or 2 because in the end "it's just circles of light". I got lots of compliments at the end. I mean LOTS. Of course, it helps that it was late and everybody was pretty buzzed. Anyway, I still don't know how to react to compliments. I have never been a performer and even though I enjoy getting a lot of attention when I spin fire, I don't know how to handle it. I don't know if I should smile, be proud, be humble, just say thank you or what. Another problem I have with that is I don't feel comfortable with that many people coming up to me after a performance because it takes me several minutes to get out of my "Poi mode" (can be very trance-like sometimes).

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RavingLunatic
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Member Since: 30th Jul 2001
Total posts: 286
Posted:eah I know what you mean nomad.. for me it's staff mode though..they come up and are like wow, that was awesome, and I just stare at them blankly and try to catch my breath..I can't even seem to relate to them, I forget that there are other people around.And I get uncomfortable too, when people compliment me.. I still consider myself an amateur, and always will, even though I've been doing this for 1 year and a bit obsessively now, and probably about 10 years passively.There is still a million tricks to learn, new moves, two staff progressions, maybe even juggling with three, flatspins, gymnastics, spinning tosses, multiple person tricks, all sorts of shit I aspire too.I love my staff. I made two more small ones 2 feet long. but now I think they are a bit short, maybe 3 feet would have been better.

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