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1,591 posts
Location: Nova Scotia, Canada.

I made this thread just to help solidify my decision to stay drug&alcohol free from this point on.

I haven't really had to many bad things happen to me from drugs or alcohol, but I know that I am just the sort of person who I don't think will ever be able to use them the 'right' way. I am an extreamly addictive person and I just think I run way to much of a risk of my life going out of control. Im finding everything is more enjoyable when sobre anyways.

so yeah that's my thread. Now to think up a idea/design for a tattoo that represents this shift in my life.

AlfredAlfredSILVER Member
Altyd Brandend
149 posts
Location: Orange County, California, USA

Good luck with your "new life"...what r ur ideas for the tat?

Spinning makes my world go round

724 posts
Location: Rotherham, UK

A sensible decision, good luck in your future, well done .

Only when the last tree has died
and the last river has been poisoned
and the last fish has been caught
will we realise that we
cannot eat money.

Cree Indian, 1909

Captain HazzardCaptain HazzardBRONZE Member
Ninja (shhhh, don't tell)
420 posts
Location: Truro, UK

Well done Astar!
I made that same decision a few years ago and haven't looked back since.

apart from cigarettes, dang they're hard to beat!

I only wanted to be 16... and free

GnorGnorBRONZE Member
Carpal \'Tunnel
5,814 posts
Location: Perth, Australia

Well done Astar. Fabulous decision. And its your decision not anyone elses being forced onto you.

Is it the Truth?
Is it Fair to all concerned?
Will it build Goodwill and Better Friendships?
Will it be Beneficial to all concerned?

Im in a lonely battle with the world with a fish to match the chip on my shoulder. Gnu in Binnu in a cnu

Raphael96SILVER Member
old hand
899 posts
Location: New York City, USA

I walked that same road a bunch of years ago.

Its not an easy one, especially with most others around you NOT being on it, but it will get you to where you want to go.



NarrNarr(*) (*) .. for the gnor ;)
2,568 posts
Location: sitting on the step

good on ya mate!

on the tattoo thing i like the phoenix idea, but am gonna have a think will let you know if the old brain comes up with anything

she who sees from up high smiles

Patrick badger king: *they better hope there's never a jihad on stupidity*

192 posts
Location: oxford

indeed. congradulations, i used to smoke an eigth about every day or two for about 3 years, i've never drunk, or smoked cigerettes, but the weed was enough for me. stopped it totaly on the 11th march this year ... my birthday! you'll feel really shit for the next coule of weeks and you'll want it like mad... BUT DONT!!!!!!!

and seriously.. the money you save...... i've never bought so much random crap in all my life as i have over the last half year.. simply because now i can... dam you ebay....

[ 09. November 2003, 01:05: Message edited by: funkymonky ]

onewheeldaveonewheeldaveGOLD Member
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Location: sheffield, United Kingdom

Originally posted by funkymonky:'ll feel really shit for the next coule of weeks and you'll want it like mad... BUT DONT!!!!!!!


It doesn't have to be that way.

If you're solid in your decision and know in your heart that you're not depriving yourself of a good thing, but freeing yourself from a habit you don't want, then the next few weeks can be great.

So many people buy into the pervasive belief that you have to go through hell to escape from addictive substances; it doesn't have to be that way.

When you see others taking the drugs you used to take, don't torture yourself by feeling deprived; instead, realise that you're the one who should be envied because you not longer have the need that they do.

"You can't outrun Death forever.
But you can make the Bastard work for it."

"Last of The Lancers"
AFC 32

Educate your self in the Hazards of Fire Breathing STAY SAFE!

9,232 posts
Location: NYC, NY, USA

Good stuff homie,

I think that makes four of us... oh no wait, Ray's gone, three.

I applaud your decision solely because it seems to come from both your heart and mind. Not because it is the same as mine. Now you just gotta practice your "Na, I'm cool."

Then again, I've never encountered much peer pressure to use anything. But I'm wierd.

Well, shall we go?
Yes, let's go.
[They do not move.]

Pink...?Pink...?BRONZE Member
Mistress of Pink...Multicoloured
6,140 posts
Location: Over There, United Kingdom


I haven't smoked or taken drugs since last August

But i occasionally have a drink, never drunk.

Well done. I'm sure you'll stick with it and have a great time.

Never pick up a duck in a dungeon...

GidgGidgBRONZE Member
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8,506 posts
Location: Portland Oregon USA

It'll be tough (dont let anyone fool you), but you WILL feel better for it. And if you do get in a situation where you are tempted because of what is happening around you the best thing to do is leave. Remove yourself from the situation.

And remember that you dont have to do it alone. Were all here for you. Keep in touch.

Growing old is mandatory; growing up is NOT.
Proud member of the HoP DPS.
Sanity is a highly overrated state of mind.
I'm normal ... it's everyone else that's crazy.


RoziSILVER Member
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Location: Sydney, NSW, Australia

Originally posted by NYC:
Good stuff homie,

I think that makes four of us... oh no wait, ... three.
...Now you just gotta practice your "Na, I'm cool."

Then again, I've never encountered much peer pressure to use anything. But I'm wierd.

Who is the other person? Surely there must be more? Can I join the club? I am weird too. And I don't smoke or "smoke" or .... But I do

It was a day for screaming at inanimate objects.

What this calls for is a special mix of psychology and extreme violence...

1,591 posts
Location: Nova Scotia, Canada.

I avoided it for most of my life because I really had a gut feeling I just shouldn't trust myself with drugs/alcohol (really I consider cigarettes, drugs and alcohol all drugs)

This summer was just out of control insane. Got evicted for spinning fire in my apartments driveway/parking lot while a little drunk and stoned. That ontop of a couple of months worth of noise complaints nearly every night from either getting really drunk or stoned out of our minds made me realize it's just not getting me anywheres.

Even when I take anything after being clean, I just feel really off kilter and stuff. It seems my drug experiences are totally more off the wall and out there then almost anyone else ive met and compared it to. This is a sign to me that I have crazy sensitivity. Ive tried a handfull of soft drugs and they all do bad things to me that most people don't really experience.

And the more I do them the more it seems like im on the verge of completly loseing control. Ive faced loseing control to many times in my life without drugs. I certainly don't need new dependancys and problems associated with them complicating the balance ive found for myself.

20 posts
Location: USA, New York state

REALLY good choice... yeah, many of my friends are going completely clean. Myself, I've always been straight edge (nearly 17 and never been drunk, high, smoked, done anything, still a virgin, the whole chibbang) but I can imagine how it is. Well, I know this is gonna sound stupid, but I have a thing about sugar. It actually makes me high, so I guess I have been high. Not supposed to have too much at once anymore.

Oh, and not to be picky or anything, but it's "you and I" not "me and you"

Be Well, and keep it clean. You're taking better care of yourself that way.

1,591 posts
Location: Nova Scotia, Canada.

You and I is considered correctly mostly because it's polite by putting the word "you" first thus in a way putting more emphasis on "you"

With "me" first it puts more emphasis on "me"

Grammar is only a guidline

174 posts
Location: St. Paul, MN USA

Okay, so at first, I'm like wow, brave soul. Given that shit up. Congrats bro! But now after tonight....I'm going to have to join you. I'm still strugglin trying to type this but I need to say adios to my friend the drink. I don't know of I'm strong as you though. I think it would truely be a healthy decision though, me thinks...


Without further guilding the lily and with no more ado, I bid you farewell and sweet dreams...

The_Pirate_Dyke_BoyThe_Pirate_Dyke_BoyHOP Lord of the Pirate Admiralty
1,079 posts
Location: Canterbury, UK

astar has become straight edge, woe is me....

they generally get tats that are either a




X x X x X

Ship off the starboard! sound general quarters! noise and light discipline! man the cannons! GET ME THE RUM!

Master of the Free Hug Program

AdeSILVER Member
Are we there yet?
1,897 posts
Location: australia

yep, congratulations

x'ing up is quite a common tattoo for symbolising your journey on this path

EeraBRONZE Member
old hand
1,107 posts
Location: In a test pit, Mackay, Australia

Well done in your decision. One of the hardest things about going completely straight is getting other people to accept it; I've had people try and force drinks on me, even spiking my stuff which is downright insulting. It helps to tell them you've got liver mineralisation or something if they start to get insistant, it seems that not drinking because you don't want to isn't a good enough reason.

There is a slight possibility that I am not actually right all of the time.

36 posts
Location: Ontario, Canada

Alright, I'm in!
I've been meaning to quit drinking cause it's just affecting my life in bad ways.
So, sign me up. I'll be right there with all yar newly liberatees from the substances!
in terms of tats.. what i do is i just get images that i like/design. no matter what they are, they will always symbolize where you were in your life (i totally lucked out, too. got a tat of a womyn warrior wielding a double headed scythe a few months before i started spinning. wicked-ass symbolism righ there )
in terms of specific images, i'm drawing a blank. i'll get back to you on this one though.
best of luck on your quests, all!

1,591 posts
Location: Nova Scotia, Canada.

I don't have any tattoo's as ive never been able to come up with something I truely loved, untill awhile ago when I came up with an idea for a lie detector/alarm clock composition with the arms on the lie detector that create the graph being blades and have a tattoo of 3 bleeding cuts that eventually fade into scar tissue (which will be created via branding or really deep cuts which won't be stitched shut)

That tattoo means a lot to me and I think it's absolutly loaded with symbolism, although I will let other people guess at it, it's going on my back as soon as I have the design perfected and have the money.

for the tattoo to represent giving up substances im just going to think and think about it untill I find something I really like. I have all kinds of ideas right now but none of them really "click" in my head. But im mostly on the same level of divi with tattoo's. I don't want anything that's as blatant as a XXX or sXe tattoo just because I like subtleness in art.

BTW divi and cage defiantly need some praise for their decisions. Also if either of them "fall off the wagon" ill be hunting them down, I expect them to do the same to me

Also im not judgeing any of the wonderful druggies on this board. For some people it just seems to "work" and theres all kinds of people it's working for. I just think if anyone starts to feel that something in their life isn't working then they should listen to that voice, consider it and take action.

174 posts
Location: St. Paul, MN USA

All right Astar, I've got you back. Thanks.

.:~* cage *~:.

Without further guilding the lily and with no more ado, I bid you farewell and sweet dreams...

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