Itsgottab
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Location: NZ
Member Since: 7th Nov 2001
Total posts: 244
Posted:i would like to know the mind of 'Home of Poi'

if you are living with others and say you are in a bad mood do you sit in the louge/kitchen and let everyone know your in a mood, or do you go to your room or out until you are once again your normal self. how do you feel about others who bring their bad mood into the communal space?


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frostypaw
Great balls of fire
Location: Tunbridge Wells, Kent
Member Since: 28th Jul 2003
Total posts: 643
Posted:Depends somewhat doesn't it

We're all in this life together - maybe the group of friends can help. Indeed I wouldn't call someone my friend if they're not there for me when I'm down - had enough of 'fair weather friends'

But if they're just doing it to bring the others down so they don't feel so bad then that's not so good really issit.


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ben-ja-men
ben-ja-men

just lost .... evil init
Location: Adelaide
Member Since: 12th Jun 2003
Total posts: 2474
Posted:guess it depends on the individual and the type of bad mood, also how close you are with the ppl u live with, what stuff is going on with them etc.

what i mean is like with a bad break up its always nice to have human contact someone to listen to you etc. at the same time sometimes you need space and should go somewhere private.


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DeepSoulSheep
DeepSoulSheep

Carpal \'Tunnel
Location: Berlin
Member Since: 25th Sep 2002
Total posts: 2617
Posted:Agreed. Depends on the people and circumstances. Friends are there to slap you when your being stupid and pick up when you fall. So assuming they're good friends I'd only be dumping on them if I felt I need help and if I was being over-dramatic I'd expect a 'shut the fruitcake up and stop being so Stupid'

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Tarrie
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Location: Sheffield, Uk
Member Since: 10th Aug 2003
Total posts: 17
Posted:I live with four people, one of whom is my best friend, two are very good friends and one is more of an accqauintance. If I'm pissed off I go in the living room and we all bitch together, if it's something more serious or mardy than just a general bitch i go into becky (my best friend)'s room and she talks to me about it. Its always a different judgement call, but if my mates are angry/upset and want to vent, I'll always listen.. I do it to them enough....!

Tarrie. Lonely but never alone. Alive but dead inside. Violently happy.

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King Of Bongo
King Of Bongo

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Location: Berlin
Member Since: 25th Dec 2002
Total posts: 522
Posted:depends what/who the bad mood is about and how long it goes on for...

Your life is ending one minute at a time...
So live it.

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Spanner
Spanner

remembers when it was all fields round here
Location: in the works... somewhere...
Member Since: 27th Feb 2003
Total posts: 2790
Posted:I stick around, unless I'm in a tizzy with who I'm living with, in which case I take 5 minutes out then come back afresh

"I thought you are man, but
you are nice woman.

yay,

:R"

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Bird
Bird

now available in "advanced"
Location: Cornwall
Member Since: 25th Aug 2003
Total posts: 6086
Posted:I find the best thing to do when a bad mood attack occurs, is to go outside and spin, spin, spin until the mood is gone!

It works really well as it relaxes me and takes my mind far away from my troubles!


My state of mind is not yours to define!

There is a very fine line between "hobby" and "mental illness."

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shadow steppin
shadow steppin

official hop irken
Location: Tucson USA
Member Since: 12th Aug 2003
Total posts: 401
Posted:i choose to deal with my problems alone. i dont like anyone feeling sorry for me or bringing up issues. i dont like the attention. if im visably bothered i try to hide out. every once in a blue moon if somthing is really horrible i tell my very best friend just to get it off my chest. he usually says exactly what i want to hear.

In my hands I hold your smile and in my heart it runs so wild You are the one you are unique I'm so in love you make me weak And the reason that I feel is like a shadow from a light so if you have the chance to be with me be my shadow in the night

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Itsgottab
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Location: NZ
Member Since: 7th Nov 2001
Total posts: 244
Posted:i was meaning those silent types who mope, just letting you know they sad but putting out the vibe 'don't talk to me'

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Necrus
Necrus

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Location: Greece/Athens
Member Since: 17th Aug 2003
Total posts: 113
Posted:I do believe that the best person to solve my own problems is myself...I don't like pulling down the others when something bothers me or anything...

I hate it someone is under a situation and others' nerves...

Although oftenly bad mood seems to disappear when I talk with some friends,good friends,most of the times it gets back when I'm alone...So when I'm"dressed in black"I close up to myself and only...


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queen of wands
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Location: Melbourne
Member Since: 20th Oct 2002
Total posts: 127
Posted:Im not particularly close to the people I live with, I usually go to my room, put on a CD, have a cry, a spliff and perhaps phone up a friend or my mum if I feel like talking about it. It usually fixes my mood and Im back to my normal self the next day.

If the situaution is bad, I go back to my parents house in the country. Comfort food and the company of family and pets does wonders.


I'm not vegetarian, but currently I'm off my chops!

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Eera
old hand
Location: In a test pit, Mackay
Member Since: 29th May 2003
Total posts: 1107
Posted:I don't talk about my moods with anyone and kind of resent it when other people inflict their misery on me. In the words of the great Black Box Recorder: "life is unfair, kill yourself or get over it."

Unless it involves bitching about people I don't like, then I'm all ears.


There is a slight possibility that I am not actually right all of the time.

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Charles
Charles

Corporate Circus Arts Entertainer
Location: Auckland
Member Since: 27th Jun 2001
Total posts: 3989
Posted:If you are truly happy, then poeple can't inflict misery on you (within reason, not via kidnapping or turture).

You are completely responsible for your reaction to what other people do, so you are really inflicting misery on yourself by hating it when people unload near you...

But, that's just my opnion, of course...


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Carpal \'Tunnel
Location: .:*over the rainbow*:.
Member Since: 7th Apr 2002
Total posts: 3492
Posted:I live by myself so I can be in whatever mood I want and not bother anyone...

.:*even those funny dance in your living room in daggy pajamas where no one can see you kind of moods...hehe*:.

I tend to like to deal with things by myself...

But If I have something I need to say I'll probably say it...

I like sharing good moods with other people though... That feeling when your all smilie for no particular reason... It's nice to beable to share that with someone...


*:...one day all the fairy fridges will be aligned and my pixie world will be complete...:*

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King Of Bongo
King Of Bongo

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Location: Berlin
Member Since: 25th Dec 2002
Total posts: 522
Posted:just say no to mopers.
tell them to either spit it out or b****r off- it really gets on my nerves when people are just sullen- I mean, if they've got a reason, at least let them explain themselves (even if its just an "i'll deal with it on my own, just please give me some time" type thing), if they're just wallowing in their own melancholy, then NO, force them to get over it somehow.
fairly harsh, but i've found it helps one way or another (they go away and deal with it, or let you help them, either way its better than moping).


Your life is ending one minute at a time...
So live it.

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Kittytheravequeen
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Location: down the bottom of the garden,...
Member Since: 8th Oct 2002
Total posts: 285
Posted:ill be the first to admit ive got quite a nasty temper and i also agree with bongo so i just got for a walk or hang out in my room till the mood swing passes and my friends always know that if its something serious ill tell them once im calmer and can guarentee i wont bite their head off or attempt to stab them!!

i'll draw you a picture ill draw it with a twist ill draw it with a razorblade ill draw it on my wrist and if i do it right a red fountain will appear washing away my sorrow washing away my fear

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woodnymph
woodnymph

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Location: london,uk
Member Since: 14th Sep 2003
Total posts: 313
Posted:if u feel like talking but not feeling too positive u should be able to express yourself...it reallypisses me off when people don't want to hear it unless it's positive.Feelings are energy and change like the weather if allowed expression..

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frostypaw
Great balls of fire
Location: Tunbridge Wells, Kent
Member Since: 28th Jul 2003
Total posts: 643
Posted:hear hear

how would those people like it when they're feeling down if the world turned it's back on them.


I can SEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!

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poipixie
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Location: Brisvegas, Aus
Member Since: 31st Mar 2002
Total posts: 53
Posted:this is something that ive been thinking about a fair bit lately. eight of my good friends were in a really bad accident a few weeks ago, one of them died and my best friend is still in hospital. I always thought before this that i was the sort of person who talks about their emotions rather than bottling it up but this time i find myself just holding it in and trying to pretend it hasnt happened. I guess it depends on the circumstances, 3 weeks ago i wouldve said i hate mopers but now i realise that sometimes its just harder to move on than we realise.

--*SaM*--

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