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Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
Posted:
today i've found out that i'm a big joke.
what do you do when you find out your not loved by someone the way led you to think you was.
i've just cried all day.
i wont go into detail as i dont want to hurt someone by posting this but i just feel like a prat for opening my heart to some one.
any advice?
today i've found out that i'm a big joke.
what do you do when you find out your not loved by someone the way led you to think you was.
i've just cried all day.
i wont go into detail as i dont want to hurt someone by posting this but i just feel like a prat for opening my heart to some one.
any advice?
Shhhhhh! the boobies are trying to sleep.
owner and the property of noddy.
*i was a caterpilla last night 
* - libby_tuesday
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Pooh-Bah
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Location: Bristol, United Kingdom
Pooh-Bah
1,785 posts
Location: Bristol, United Kingdom
Posted:
goddess of all things slimey and an interchangeable insect!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
Posted:
thankyou by the way i have a really nice pic of you star
thankyou by the way i have a really nice pic of you star
Shhhhhh! the boobies are trying to sleep.
owner and the property of noddy.
*i was a caterpilla last night * - libby_tuesday
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Pooh-Bah
1,785 posts
Location: Bristol, United Kingdom
Pooh-Bah
1,785 posts
Location: Bristol, United Kingdom
Posted:
have you got a scanner to scan all your pics in so we can see them??
sorry i'm not great at the advice thing but i'll say a few things.
Don't feel silly for opening your heart to someone. Whatever you do, don't let it stop you from opening your heart to someone else one day.
Time is a great healer, which is a pain when all you want to do is stop hurting now, but it does get easier
have you got a scanner to scan all your pics in so we can see them??
sorry i'm not great at the advice thing but i'll say a few things.
Don't feel silly for opening your heart to someone. Whatever you do, don't let it stop you from opening your heart to someone else one day.
Time is a great healer, which is a pain when all you want to do is stop hurting now, but it does get easier
goddess of all things slimey and an interchangeable insect!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
Posted:
thanks hun. i really hope so
thanks hun. i really hope so
Shhhhhh! the boobies are trying to sleep.
owner and the property of noddy.
*i was a caterpilla last night * - libby_tuesday
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The Ministry of Manipulation
2,523 posts
Location: Bristol, United Kingdom
The Ministry of Manipulation
2,523 posts
Location: Bristol, United Kingdom
Posted:
Mooop.
:sympathy:
I don't have any advice, but I can tell you what Meenik did.
He wrote a book about it, I know cos I finished reading it last night.
Does that mean you need to change your signature?
Here, have a HOP **hug**
Smiles
Drew
Mooop.
:sympathy:
I don't have any advice, but I can tell you what Meenik did.
He wrote a book about it, I know cos I finished reading it last night.
Does that mean you need to change your signature?
Here, have a HOP **hug**
Smiles
Drew
goddess of all things slimey and an interchangeable insect!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
Posted:
oh know its not about the guy on my sig i just own him.
i could write a song i like doing that
thanks for the hug
oh know its not about the guy on my sig i just own him.
i could write a song i like doing that
thanks for the hug
Shhhhhh! the boobies are trying to sleep.
owner and the property of noddy.
*i was a caterpilla last night * - libby_tuesday
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veteran
1,247 posts
Location: lost, Canada
veteran
1,247 posts
Location: lost, Canada
Posted:
you are never wrong to open your heart, not ever... and love is rarely a joke, even though frequently funny!
I am sorry you are hurting, and big hug to you. But dont let it close you down, stay open. It is the harder choice, but worth it.
sending you a little love right now
~a
you are never wrong to open your heart, not ever... and love is rarely a joke, even though frequently funny!
I am sorry you are hurting, and big hug to you. But dont let it close you down, stay open. It is the harder choice, but worth it.
sending you a little love right now
~a
"God *was* my co-pilot, but then we crashed, and I had to eat him..."
goddess of all things slimey and an interchangeable insect!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
Posted:
thanks guys you've all been really understanding.
i'll try and keep my heart open
thanks guys you've all been really understanding.
i'll try and keep my heart open
Shhhhhh! the boobies are trying to sleep.
owner and the property of noddy.
*i was a caterpilla last night * - libby_tuesday
Stalking amidst the desert, carrying an oversized scalpel...
1,019 posts
Location: Huddersfield + Hull Uni... UK.
1,019 posts
Location: Huddersfield + Hull Uni... UK.
Posted:
People cannot be trusted.
People cannot be trusted.
Willy - is bad for your health...
Heaven doesn't want me, and Hell is afraid I'll take over
192 posts
Location: Wolverhampton
192 posts
Location: Wolverhampton
Posted:
You should never feel silly for being open and honest about how you feel - there are too few people willing to say what's really going on for them, and by not being honest you'll cause far more problems than telling people how things truly are.
Anyone who can't see the value of that doesn't deserve the gift you gave them.
*hugs*
sin
You should never feel silly for being open and honest about how you feel - there are too few people willing to say what's really going on for them, and by not being honest you'll cause far more problems than telling people how things truly are.
Anyone who can't see the value of that doesn't deserve the gift you gave them.
*hugs*
sin
"Abashed, the Devil stood and saw how awful Goodness is"
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Carpal \'Tunnel
4,172 posts
Location: Hastings, United Kingdom
Carpal \'Tunnel
4,172 posts
Location: Hastings, United Kingdom
Posted:
Things will always sort themselves out in the end. They always do. I promise.
Brodieman had a lovely signiture once upon a time..'from poo grows flowers'
xx
Things will always sort themselves out in the end. They always do. I promise.
Brodieman had a lovely signiture once upon a time..'from poo grows flowers'
xx
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...curiously lost
580 posts
Location: at my PC....obviously!, United Kingdom
...curiously lost
580 posts
Location: at my PC....obviously!, United Kingdom
Posted:
Awww big hugs Lauz 
Its a hard thing to deal with at the time but like the nice people already said, don't let it close you down to the rest of life's experiences!
Here's a little
for you
Awww big hugs Lauz
Its a hard thing to deal with at the time but like the nice people already said, don't let it close you down to the rest of life's experiences!
Here's a little
for you Nothing is easy.......until you can do it! 
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Pooh-Bah
1,848 posts
Location: Adelaide, SA, Australia
Pooh-Bah
1,848 posts
Location: Adelaide, SA, Australia
Posted:
hmmm i know how you feel hun, i seem to get that alot myself... though i usually realise i'm not liked in the way i thought when i turn up some place hoping to see the boy in question, and find him all over another girl... i'm starting to think it's a big joke being played on me by whichever force it is that guides the universe too... (perhaps it would help in my case to think i'm not that important?) but star's right, time is a great healer...
hmmm i know how you feel hun, i seem to get that alot myself... though i usually realise i'm not liked in the way i thought when i turn up some place hoping to see the boy in question, and find him all over another girl... i'm starting to think it's a big joke being played on me by whichever force it is that guides the universe too... (perhaps it would help in my case to think i'm not that important?) but star's right, time is a great healer...
"i am exotic, and must keep my arms down" - Rougie
"i don't understand what penises have to do with getting married" - Foxie
Penguin of Mass Destruction and Tricky Bugger to the court of Claire the Askew
643 posts
Location: Check behind you.
643 posts
Location: Check behind you.
Posted:
Really good on you for being honest in the first place. That's a really great thing to do even if the someone who you went for dosen't give back the sentiment. The rest here are dead right, don't get jaded, love's a wonderous thing allover. 
Empathy to you too, Fox. Unrequited love isn't fun for anyone, as many of my highschool experiences prove in nasty fashion. I'm happy now though, so plesant thoughts and sparkles to you all.
Really good on you for being honest in the first place. That's a really great thing to do even if the someone who you went for dosen't give back the sentiment. The rest here are dead right, don't get jaded, love's a wonderous thing allover.
Empathy to you too, Fox. Unrequited love isn't fun for anyone, as many of my highschool experiences prove in nasty fashion. I'm happy now though, so plesant thoughts and sparkles to you all.
Chucks nuns
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goddess of all things slimey and an interchangeable insect!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
Posted:
awwwwww thank you guys so much.
you've all been so nice and understanding and i feel heaps better knowing that i'm not alone and people do care.
all the advice you've gave is real helpful as well.
i love you guys so much.
soon i'll feel much better hopefully and you guys are helping me get there!!
awwwwww thank you guys so much.
you've all been so nice and understanding and i feel heaps better knowing that i'm not alone and people do care.
all the advice you've gave is real helpful as well.
i love you guys so much.
soon i'll feel much better hopefully and you guys are helping me get there!! Shhhhhh! the boobies are trying to sleep.
owner and the property of noddy.
*i was a caterpilla last night * - libby_tuesday
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Mistress of Pink...Multicoloured
6,140 posts
Location: Over There, United Kingdom
Mistress of Pink...Multicoloured
6,140 posts
Location: Over There, United Kingdom
Posted:
To make me feel better when i have been down, (which i have been a bit recently, which is neither here nor there) is to cry, write a long letter to someone who you feel is responsible (in this case - this fella) then do something that makes you feel good, like spinning, reading a book, watching a film... then in the morning you throw away the letter. I feel like it clears my head a little. Acts a little like those worry dolls, by writing it all down, you see more sense, and the pain/stress/depression ebb away a little.
Good luck with it all honey
To make me feel better when i have been down, (which i have been a bit recently, which is neither here nor there) is to cry, write a long letter to someone who you feel is responsible (in this case - this fella) then do something that makes you feel good, like spinning, reading a book, watching a film... then in the morning you throw away the letter. I feel like it clears my head a little. Acts a little like those worry dolls, by writing it all down, you see more sense, and the pain/stress/depression ebb away a little.
Good luck with it all honey
Never pick up a duck in a dungeon...
goddess of all things slimey and an interchangeable insect!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
Posted:
thanks hun
thanks hun
Shhhhhh! the boobies are trying to sleep.
owner and the property of noddy.
*i was a caterpilla last night * - libby_tuesday
Dreamer
4,308 posts
Location: York, England
4,308 posts
Location: York, England
Posted:
so true pink! good luck lauz....
so true pink! good luck lauz....
Keep your dream alive
Dreamin is still how the strong survive
Shalom VeAhavah
New Hampshire has a point....
goddess of all things slimey and an interchangeable insect!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
Posted:
like i said you guys are all great and everything being said has helped so much
like i said you guys are all great and everything being said has helped so much Shhhhhh! the boobies are trying to sleep.
owner and the property of noddy.
*i was a caterpilla last night * - libby_tuesday
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Carpal \'Tunnel
2,666 posts
Location: Preston, United Kingdom
Carpal \'Tunnel
2,666 posts
Location: Preston, United Kingdom
Posted:
Is hard isnt it lauz I just lost someone and its really painfull. You think you know someone and you think they have too love you as much as you love them too, the way they kiss you and hold you close and whisper in your ear how much your loved, but then one day out of the blue everything just stops and its like your in limbo. You dunno weather to keep trying and everything will hopefully go right and you will look back and laugh together, or move on and accept that you'll never get them back, but how can you do that?
You felt miserable and in pain when you didnt know for sure, surly you will feel worse when you know there isnt a chance anymore, you start to hate the person for putting you through this then you feel guilty about hateing them afterwards because you cant just throw away your feelings. My first experiance of love and this is how it turns out
It takes a long time for feelings to change but they do eventualy, there not better for me yet but I can see im at least starting to move on, its best to comfront the feelings and not try to hide from them or surpress them by keeping your day busy, because otherwise they will only hit you in bed at night and thats all you will be able to think about.and you wont even get any sleep an you'll be miserable.
Theres hope for everyone you just have to let yourslef feel the way you need to feel sometimes even if it hurts but its better to grit your teeth and ride it out otherwise you just pro-long it
Is hard isnt it lauz I just lost someone and its really painfull. You think you know someone and you think they have too love you as much as you love them too, the way they kiss you and hold you close and whisper in your ear how much your loved, but then one day out of the blue everything just stops and its like your in limbo. You dunno weather to keep trying and everything will hopefully go right and you will look back and laugh together, or move on and accept that you'll never get them back, but how can you do that?
You felt miserable and in pain when you didnt know for sure, surly you will feel worse when you know there isnt a chance anymore, you start to hate the person for putting you through this then you feel guilty about hateing them afterwards because you cant just throw away your feelings. My first experiance of love and this is how it turns out
It takes a long time for feelings to change but they do eventualy, there not better for me yet but I can see im at least starting to move on, its best to comfront the feelings and not try to hide from them or surpress them by keeping your day busy, because otherwise they will only hit you in bed at night and thats all you will be able to think about.and you wont even get any sleep an you'll be miserable.
Theres hope for everyone you just have to let yourslef feel the way you need to feel sometimes even if it hurts but its better to grit your teeth and ride it out otherwise you just pro-long it
Chief adviser to the Pharaoh, in one very snazzy mutli-coloured coat
'Time goes by so slowly for those who wait...' - Whatever Happend To Baby Madonna?
goddess of all things slimey and an interchangeable insect!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
Posted:
wow thats so true.
everything all those feelings and stuff.
unfortunately this isnt my first time. i vowed never to love again but i did and i ended up even more hurt than the first time.
it hurts so bad and he's pretty much all i think about all day everyday and as much as it hurts i still love him and want to be with him and if anything bad happened to him it would kill me inside. he's everything i ever wanted and more.
i just cant let go of him no matter how hard i try
wow thats so true.
everything all those feelings and stuff.
unfortunately this isnt my first time. i vowed never to love again but i did and i ended up even more hurt than the first time.
it hurts so bad and he's pretty much all i think about all day everyday and as much as it hurts i still love him and want to be with him and if anything bad happened to him it would kill me inside. he's everything i ever wanted and more.
i just cant let go of him no matter how hard i try
Shhhhhh! the boobies are trying to sleep.
owner and the property of noddy.
*i was a caterpilla last night * - libby_tuesday
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the 1337 poier
346 posts
Location: england
the 1337 poier
346 posts
Location: england
Posted:
uh oh and they smell
uh oh and they smell ive got a fuzzbox and im not afraid to use it
R.I.P. gayfest
goddess of all things slimey and an interchangeable insect!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
Posted:
but your a boy silly do you smell
but your a boy silly do you smell
Shhhhhh! the boobies are trying to sleep.
owner and the property of noddy.
*i was a caterpilla last night * - libby_tuesday
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I wear yellow on monday
551 posts
Location: Farnham Ahoy, United Kingdom
I wear yellow on monday
551 posts
Location: Farnham Ahoy, United Kingdom
Posted:
Dammit, not another broken heart!!!
Are poiers/twirlers just out to be abused an hurt? I cant believe how many HoPers have been left broken hearted in the past few months. Are we more targetable as easy-going caring folk?
It sucks!!!
Sorry to hear of your misfortune, Lauz,
(insert words of sympathy that wont make you feel any better)
Dammit, not another broken heart!!!
Are poiers/twirlers just out to be abused an hurt? I cant believe how many HoPers have been left broken hearted in the past few months. Are we more targetable as easy-going caring folk?
It sucks!!!
Sorry to hear of your misfortune, Lauz,
(insert words of sympathy that wont make you feel any better)
You'll find me on the dance floor
goddess of all things slimey and an interchangeable insect!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
Posted:
well maybe we are i've sorted most of the problem out now thankfully.
well maybe we are i've sorted most of the problem out now thankfully.
Shhhhhh! the boobies are trying to sleep.
owner and the property of noddy.
*i was a caterpilla last night * - libby_tuesday
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I wear yellow on monday
551 posts
Location: Farnham Ahoy, United Kingdom
I wear yellow on monday
551 posts
Location: Farnham Ahoy, United Kingdom
Posted:
good to hear it my lovely!!
hope it doesnt suck for too long
would you like to join me in having a rolley?
*passes baccy to lauz*
good to hear it my lovely!!
hope it doesnt suck for too long
would you like to join me in having a rolley?
*passes baccy to lauz*
You'll find me on the dance floor
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fluffy mess
197 posts
Location: Brighton, United Kingdom
fluffy mess
197 posts
Location: Brighton, United Kingdom
Posted:
Aww, I wrote this response ages ago, but got distracted by work...
I'll post it anyway...
many hugs for you honey.Dont let it take your sparkle away though. And yes, I believe many people know how you feel,I'm one of them,and all the previous posters are right, whatever you do, do not close yourself off for fear of further pain. This may sting a little to tell you, but you will get hurt again. Fact of life unfortunately. But do you learn from it and appreciate the good, or do you shrink back. First instinct is to shrink back,but please, dont do it, you have such a beautiful little heart that shines through your smile, and the real tragedy would be to deprive the world of that.
One thing to be aware of ,is that just because somebody doesnt love you the way you want them to, does not mean that they dont love you at all.You are still young and love, in all shapes and forms is what makes life worth living.
So "never frown, even when you are sad because you never know who may be falling inlove with your smile"
Keep smiling
Aww, I wrote this response ages ago, but got distracted by work...
I'll post it anyway...
many hugs for you honey.Dont let it take your sparkle away though. And yes, I believe many people know how you feel,I'm one of them,and all the previous posters are right, whatever you do, do not close yourself off for fear of further pain. This may sting a little to tell you, but you will get hurt again. Fact of life unfortunately. But do you learn from it and appreciate the good, or do you shrink back. First instinct is to shrink back,but please, dont do it, you have such a beautiful little heart that shines through your smile, and the real tragedy would be to deprive the world of that.
One thing to be aware of ,is that just because somebody doesnt love you the way you want them to, does not mean that they dont love you at all.You are still young and love, in all shapes and forms is what makes life worth living.
So "never frown, even when you are sad because you never know who may be falling inlove with your smile"
Keep smiling
"I want to know if you can see beauty even when it's not pretty, every day,and if you can source your own life from its presence.." - Oriah Mountain Dreamer
goddess of all things slimey and an interchangeable insect!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
2,443 posts
Location: nottingham - the land of opportunity lol!
Posted:
thanks blu, your such a great person and i hope i know you for years you make me smile
i will try
thanks blu, your such a great person and i hope i know you for years
you make me smile i will try
Shhhhhh! the boobies are trying to sleep.
owner and the property of noddy.
*i was a caterpilla last night * - libby_tuesday
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fluffy mess
197 posts
Location: Brighton, United Kingdom
fluffy mess
197 posts
Location: Brighton, United Kingdom
Posted:
"I want to know if you can see beauty even when it's not pretty, every day,and if you can source your own life from its presence.." - Oriah Mountain Dreamer
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I wear yellow on monday
551 posts
Location: Farnham Ahoy, United Kingdom
I wear yellow on monday
551 posts
Location: Farnham Ahoy, United Kingdom
Posted:
well, looks like i'll be smoking by myself then?! I cant even give the stuff away. *humph. takes drag, ahhhh*
well, looks like i'll be smoking by myself then?! I cant even give the stuff away. *humph. takes drag, ahhhh*
You'll find me on the dance floor
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