Home of Poi: Safety Woes

Alright, warning, bitchfest to ensue....
Why does it seem that everytime I get a safety that can perform on a Ren Faire stage and is good at being a safety they end up being jerks on the personal side.
But, on the flip side, if I get my friends to safety for me they either are crappy performers or are not interested in acting. Unfortunately for the performing I do at Ren I have to have a safety that can do interactive improv acting, sing and safety.
My other bitch is that they try to coat tail ride, and nothing irritates me more. For example, my "new" safety, who happens to be someone I had performed with in a non-fire capacity for a few years now, and I went out Friday night. She started talking to some guy and was telling him that she is a fire eater...right in front of me. He didn't believe her at all (he thought she was drunk) and I couldn't beieve it. Then when I was doing my spinning in the rain she was supposed to safety for me and just didn't feel like it, though she was already at the party it seems that her hitting on a friend of mine who is not interested in her was more important. I spun, Whipping Boy told her it looked cool and her comment was that she didn't miss much. I also have a big audition thing this coming weekend, which Whipping Boy and Prometheus...my two most heralded compatriots in the fire stuff...are going with me. She tried to talk Prom into skipping this audition to spend the weekend with her! Now I am pissed. It sucks too because as I said, I have known her for a few years and counted her as a friend, so this really hurts.

So my choices seem to be either train a friend to act and risk the show being a little uneven, or keep getting back stabbed by a performer who can hold their own?
I suppose I could try to regress this into business only and act like a boss but that doesn't really make a good raport when trying to work as a team onstage.
I am so frustrated!
Comments? Suggestions? Commentary?

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Pele
Higher, higher burning fire...making music like a choir...

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Pele
Higher, higher burning fire...making music like a choir
"Oooh look! A pub!" -exclaimed after recovering from a stupid fall
"And for the decadence of art, nothing beats a roaring fire." -TMK