Men are from mars women are from venus etc

GIRL'S DIARY
Saturday 5 February 2005 .

Saw him in the evening and he was acting really strangely. I went shopping in the afternoon with the girls and I did turn up a bit late
so thought it might be that. The bar was really crowded and loud so I
suggested we go somewhere quieter to talk. He was still very subdued
and distracted so I suggested we go somewhere nice to eat. All through
dinner he just didn't seem himself; he hardly laughed, and didn't seem
to be paying any attention to me or to what I was saying. I just knew
that something was wrong.
He dropped me back home and I wondered if he was going to come in; he hesitated, but followed. I asked him again if there was something the
matter but he just half shook his head and turned the television on.
After about 10 minutes of silence, I said I was going upstairs to bed.
I put my arms around him and told him that I loved him deeply. He just
gave a sigh, and a sad sort of smile. He didn't follow me up, but later
he did, and I was surprised when we made love.
He still seemed distant and a bit cold, and I started to think that he
was going to leave me, and that he had found someone else. I cried
myself to sleep.


BLOKES DIARY

Saturday 5 February 2005

England lost to Wales. Gutted. Got a shag though!!

Hahaha! Love it!

So true , so true

The tradgedy is that that is entirely possible... and probably happens so much...

so brilliant....

doesn't quite follow my life, i tend to find more complicated guys. but like... *giggles* girls are well known for overanalyzing.. and guys for not communicating... yeah...

I reckon, there's something wrong with me.... I've always been the overanalyzing one! OMG! i'm becoming a girl!

or gay... thats even worse! check out gayfest, you'll fit in lovely!

Jokes, anyway, thats really funny!

thankyou, not that i'd see it as a bad thing to be gay. but i am most definitely a heterosexual male, just made obvious by what happened in my trousers when an incredibly hot performance artist spoke to me earlier!

you got attacked by a weasel? Dude, that sucks!

it hurt

i have actually just read 'he's just not that into you' by some writers from 'sex in the city', which i actually found really eye opening in terms of 'men are simple folk - there usually isn't much to read into his actions. if he doesn't call you, it means he doesn't want to go out with you'
i would heartily recomended it to any woman who has ever had a monologue along the lines of the one ben-ja-men wrote.

actually, i've been meaning to ask straight men about one of the things brought up in the book. the author says women shouldn't as men out first? what do you reckon? as a single female of 26 this seems very disempowering.

Tilly, as some unsolicited gay male advice: It depends on the situation. Does he seem like the kind of guy who would ask you out? Then let him. Be interested, talk to him, flirt with him...and if he doesn't ask, then oh well.

Is he shy? Then ask him. He may just not have the confidence.

LOL Benjamen


.... and in response to Tilly's thread-jacking (she started it, it's not my fault! or the mad doctor's!) - loads and loads of those books seem to say things along those lines, 'men need to hunt or else they lose interest' etc. - that kind of advice really annoys me. I have mainly female friends (i'm a girl too, btw), and they are constantly worrying out about this kind of thing: 'We only saw each other on Saturday, can i call him now it's monday, or will he freak out because I seem too eager and he'll think I want to get married next week and have eight kids by the end of the year!?"

Groan.

I don't see what the point is of reeling someone in by acting in a way that goes against your nature. You just end up in a relationship with a person who thinks you're someone else, i.e. less assertive, confident, and most importantly, not as much into them as you are!
As far as I can see, if a person doesn't go for who you really are to begin with, what chance does the relationship have of working?

(well.... to a degree... it is of course fine to let him think that your legs are naturally hairless and that your eyebrows are really that shape )

Tillymoo, I've had my guy friends tell me they like it when girls are more straight forward and make a move! I'm not exactly sure how credible the author of sex in the city is. but that's just me.

Quote Me: a blokes defense mechanism. If "I" don't know what I'm thinking, "SHE" can't.

why try to analyze a guy? come on why? you'll stress yourself out and push him away. by trying to anticipate. everybody's different. This psyco-babble-bullsh*t is a real no-brainer.

A man will act differently when alone with a girlfriend. the differences are usually subtle and no outsider can possibly understand the personal dynamics of a couple 100%

GO WITH THE FLOW PEOPLE please if it's good why try to understand why? it's like killing the goose that laid the golden egg.

Men are from Earth, women are from Earth. Deal with it.

Dunno who said it but it makes me smile

Men are great! But women are better...

" if he doesn't call you, it means he doesn't want to go out with you'" WTF!?

He may just have better things to do!
Just because he doesnt ring DOES NOT meant that he doesnt want to go out with her. He may not be able to afford it, he may have reasons he doesnt want to say, he may even feel uncomfortable talking on the phone in general.

Sorry, but im going through this whole, lack of communication and therein, understanding thing at the moment. Its making me feel uncomfortable and driving me mental.


But thats for a differnt thread.

*rturns thread to previous topic*

ben-ja-min - brilliant made me laugh

all of what they said.

as for my last man making me feel like [censored]? well he did, but not in a "your useless. go cook me some eggs" way. more of a "im a usless bum who spends all the money that i get from my mum on weed, and never to a think with you and always blow you off to do things with my mates" kind of way. he just took me for granted. and im sorry to say it but he did start to drag me down. it was like having a little Chihuahua constently nipping at my heel and pulling me back. and for all that, for a wee while there i thought i could almost love him.

as for the no calling thing... well one of my best mates meet a guy, dated him for a month or so... and then didnt hear back from him for 2 weeks. so she was guttered but didnt call him. in the end one someone got him to call her, and he said that he had been meaning to call him but got distracted. they have now been together for over 2years and are looking at buying a house. she was telling me about it the other day, and said that at the time she was really pissed and like WTF but now that she ones him is just like that. hel go to do something and then someone will call him, or do something and he completly forgets. hes the sweets guy in the world.

*again back to thread topic*

a man and a woman fall apart from eachother after making mindblowing love

woman thinking: "That was wonderfull! well i think it was wonderfull. maybe he doesnt think that was any good? why isnt he hugging me? maybe it wasnt any good! why doesnt he put his arm around me. oh my gosh he hates me! he cant even look at me. hes just stearing up at the roof! why doesnt he talk to me. why doesnt he cuddle me? he doesnt love me anymore! he wants to break up! hes going to leave me!"

Man stearing at the celing thinking: "i wonder how flys stick on the roof...?"

LOL how ture is that?
men i tell ya. they are simple minded creatures love em all the same tho

Have you guys ever thought that the guy might have issues about himself tilly.